Ex is making me upset, do I tell the new boyfriend?
Q. This is a really difficult one for me. My ex who was horrible to me (read my previous question to understand) is causing me to feel upset - not because I miss him, care about him or anything like that. But because yet again, I've asked him to col...
A. 19 September 2011: I think you should tell your new man what's going on, he can help to support you emotionally as your ex is upsetting you. Your new man only wants to help you, and you can ask him not to involve himself in the matter, tell him that you are giving ... (read in full...)
Have you ever done something against your parents' will?
Q. Hey there! I am totally dissatisifed with my life (place where I live, job...) and would like to change it. I'd love to move abroad (my bf lives there already) and start a new life there. Problem is my dad went all psycho and angry on me when I told ...
A. 19 September 2011: Life is too short not to grab opportunities, so go for it!!! Your dad seems very possessive of you, but you're 30, not 13!!
You could really make something of yourself, maybe consider some new career opportunities. Make the most of it and start li... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with him if he likes this other girl more!
Q. not sure how to start but I felt like writing, it helps me a lot. I will appreciate any advice you can give me. Thank you. What has happened: recently about 2 months ago, I started noticing cheating clues from my boyfriend. Strange texts, c...
A. 17 September 2011: I think you have a right to know what's going on, and you need to give him the chance to be honest with you. Don't let it get into a huge arguement, just talk like adults. Just because there was one time that he didn't get a movie for you or cook ... (read in full...)
Is wanting to cuddle a sign of neediness?
Q. Well, I'm dating again after a long sabbatical, and I've found a girl I really like. However, I'm finding it hard to be affectionate. I'm worried that it may be too much to soon. After our fourth date she came over the next night to hang out. We sat ...
A. 17 June 2011: I don't think wanting a cuddle is a sign of neediness at all. Personally, i love a guy who will sit and cuddle me to death, i'd rather spend the whole night cuddling than go see a film or go out for dinner.
In alot of ways, it is a manly instinct... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me over this?
Q. So my boyfriend of 3 months and i, were hanging out this evening. Everything was going good, until he went through my phone. (yea UH OH) I wasn't really paying attention though, but then he saw a picture......and asked me who it was. Of course i was ...
A. 17 June 2011: Sounds like ur bf is 'the jealous type' and this jealousy will only increase and get worse...
But don't EVER let him tell you who you can and can't talk to hun.
As for him breaking up with you over this, i don't know if he will or not. So if yo... (read in full...)
How can I tell my Mum that I want to remain friends with an ex-bf--whom she hates?
Q. I have quite a delicate matter that i need to tell my mum about and just want some advice on how to go about it. Well, as those who have read my posts before, my ex and i have massive history together. Mum doesn't like him at all (mainly because ...
A. 15 June 2011: Thanks for all your advice guys, the topic actually came about last night, before this question had been approved and actually posted.
I explained my reasons for being back in touch with him and said that i was in no way going to be romantic... (read in full...)
I didn't see my colleague on her birthday, but I will, later in the week. Would it be wrong to give her a birthday card?
Q. I work with a girl who's birthday was a few days ago. I didn't see her on her birthday, but will later in the week. Would it be wrong to give her a birthday card? She's around 7 years younger than me (I'm 27). Whilst I don't really have a cr...
A. 13 June 2011: By all means, send her a card. Just write in it 'better late than never!'
I think she would appreciate it none the less.... (read in full...)
Feeling very guilty for cheating on my girlfriend....should I tell her?
Q. I cant stop this terrible feeling of guilt after cheating on my girlfriend recently. I want to tell her but im scared if i do i will lose her. She means the world to me and im gutted ive now ruined everything after a stupid one night stand. Ive lied ...
A. 13 June 2011: If you tell her the truth, you are likely to lose her, but can you stand to face the guilt and keep lying to her??
Put yourself in her shoes, would you want to know the truth or not? You never know, she may forgive you in the end if you did tell... (read in full...)
We aren't together but my ex gets jealous
Q. Making a terribly long story short... I'm still in love with my ex. We are taking an indefinite break because he is working on some personal issues right now which I completely understand. What I don't get is... we agreed we aren't 'together...
A. 12 June 2011: It's one of those 'if i can't have you, no-one can!!' situations.
He broke it off, but clearly doesn't want you to move on either. He has no right to be jealous, even if you were talking to anyone else!
Next time he tries to accuse, don't be... (read in full...)
I asked a girl out and now she has told everyone at school I'm a lesbian!
Q. yesterday , i asked this girl out, im a girl too and im lesbian shes bi or something, i asked her in private and she was like maybe, no then now its maybe. im not openly gay yet and only my frends know. but today everyone found out,because the girl...
A. 10 June 2011: You are your own person and no-one can change this. You will need to seek support at school, there are numerous policies and procedures in places to tackle bullying issues and to help pupils like you face things like this!
You need to speak to... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to get him to talk to me again because I really miss his company?
Q. This boy used to like me but he stopped talking to me because me and his friend are sort of enemy's and if he talks to me he feels like he's betraying him. I've always kinda of liked him but today he got dared to hug me and I know he didn't do it ...
A. 10 June 2011: If he's choosing his friend over you because his friend say that he's not allowed to talk to you, then he's definately not worth your time or company.
How immature is his friend? I mean, no-one should EVER tell anyone who they can and can't ta... (read in full...)
Why in the world would anyone break off a relationship, then start calling over and over and want to meet to talk?
Q. pretty sure my girlfriend (or ex now as of today) of two years, met someone else. she called me and broke things off this afternoon saying that she loves me a ton but just doesn't know if we could ever work because we constantly fight. and that she ...
A. 10 June 2011: Maybe she calling because the conclusion you have come to (about her having met someone else) just isn't true...
She may just need to explain to you exactly whats going on. But it your choice whether or not you give her that chance. If you don'... (read in full...)
Any advice for getting rid of stretch marks?
Q. Hi there! Well last August I had an accident, in which I fell off my horse at full gallop and landed on my back. I didn't break anything, but my lower back and hips, and upper thighs were all scraped and bruised, and all swelled up. Almost a year ...
A. 10 June 2011: Have you tried doing some research online for home remedies? I was going to suggest bio-oil, but you have already tried that!
There must be something online that you can try, maybe join some pregnancy forums, some of the women on there should h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is smoking weed everyday....Help!
Q. Ok so I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, I could not ever picture my life without him but for the past couple months/weeks he has been smoking weed/grass near enough every single day.. Every time he talks to me (texting) or even when ...
A. 8 June 2011: You make him choose, you, or weed...
If he chooses you, then he has to ditch the weed, simple as, or you WILL leave!!
Stop letting him walk all over you, grow a pair and sort this out...... (read in full...)
I don't want to be depressed on holiday when I see my friend's figures in bikinis!
Q. I'm going on holiday in two weeks with my best friends, but it's just hit me how amazing they're bodies are compared to mine. One of them is 6ft and she has a great figure that many guys love and girls are jealous of. In fact it's intimidatin...
A. 7 June 2011: Go and buy some tankinis instead. They cover your tummy, but you can always tuck it up when you're lying on the beach!
Try not to worry too much, tell your friends that you are worried, they will help you out because they're your best friends ... (read in full...)
What does it mean.......?
Q. My boyfriend was talking to me on the phone the other night and he told me something.....I have no idea what it means and I dont wanna ask my parents, and then have them all mad and asked where I heard it from. My boyfriend told me he wants to eat m...
A. 7 June 2011: Ew, if it actually does mean that he wants to go down on you, then that is a VILE way of expressing it!!!
Pft, the youth of today are utterly disgusting sometimes!!!... (read in full...)
Are they my friends if they ignore me? I feel they push me away. But they make a fuss over this other girl.
Q. Today wasn't exactly wonderful for me. My birthday is coming up this week, I'm so excited, and my one friend's birthday is the day after mine, so our friends said that they were going to throw a party for both of us, which was great because I have...
A. 6 June 2011: Personally i think you should give them a damn good talking to!!! How bloody rude of them!!
If they don't seem that bothered by what you have to say, then go and find some new friends...... (read in full...)
What if I've ruined my life?
Q. I can accept an honest answer, but it takes a lot of courage to write this question because I realize how painful an answer I don't want to hear could be and how painful the truth could be. I am a teacher and I absolutely love it, but there are ti...
A. 6 June 2011: Your life is what you make of it...end of!!
If you want to go and be a musician, then go and be a musician, you have teaching experience, could you not teach music on some level???
Every girl at some stage turns around and says they want to be ... (read in full...)
Which girl should my friend marry?
Q. My friend asked me to advise him to settle with one girl. He has two girl friends,One loves him so much, she calls him every minute, even check on him at home any time and help his family at times to cook or washes his closes. The other girl fri...
A. 6 June 2011: chigirl - great answer!! Made me laugh!!... (read in full...)
Could you give me some ideas on how to pay him back, "nicely?"
Q. My sister was dating a guy some time ago. One night-out I, my best friend, and my sis were chilling in the bar. My sister's boyfriend came together with his friend. So I and he started to chat. We had a party-relations- it means we were meeting, ...
A. 5 June 2011: Erm, tell everyone that you 'tried' to have sex, but he was too small or couldn't get it up...
That'll shut him up!!!
Haha, i don't do 'nicely' :)... (read in full...)
Help with the dating game
Q. There is this guy, and we both like each other. We're in the new throws of dating, still it's all very new and mysterious. Here's my problem- I tend to give my heart away fast. Im never ouvertly clingy, but I tend to fall really fast and unconsio...
A. 5 June 2011: This is not about playing games. If you play games he WILL get bored of you very quickly.
I have this same problem, i tend to fall very quickly and easily for guys, it's just the way i am. It sounds like he's into you already, the most importan... (read in full...)
All my b/f wants to do is take naps and have sex!
Q. I feel like my boyfriend takes me for granted and has gotten way too comfortable in the relationship. All he mostly wants to do nowadays is to take naps with me or have sex (nap and sex usually go hand in hand). I've tried many times to suggest ...
A. 5 June 2011: You need to talk to him about this! It's nice that he likes to feel close to you when you take a nap together, but tell him that there's more to life than sleep and sex!!
Explain that whilst you do like snuggling up to him, that you have needs to... (read in full...)
The pill and gaining weight?
Q. Hi, I've been thinking carefully about going on the Pill for a while now and think it's the right thing to do. My only worry is that it'll make me gain weight (vanity I know!) What have your experiences with the Pill been like? I really don't want ...
A. 5 June 2011: I've been on the same pill for 10 years now, i don't remember gaining any weight from taking it either. I really like my pill actually, i easily remember to take it (this is a problem for some) and i get regular periods, so regular that i can time ... (read in full...)
Anyone ever had their husband leave for another woman and then return?
Q. Has anyone out there ever had their husband leave them for another woman, and then return? My husband left me for another woman and i have moved forward and am looking forward to a great future with my kids. I just wanted to know if anyone had this ...
A. 5 June 2011: Not husband, but boyfriend... (correction - EX boyfriend) and he did this on 3 separate occassions. The 4th time it happened, he stayed with her.
Pleb, glad to be shot of him now!!!... (read in full...)
Can this be resolved?
Q. Hi, I apologise that this long, so thankyou in advance if you read it all. Right, my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 7 months now, and recently things have been going downhill, as he suddenly came out with something I wasn't ...
A. 3 June 2011: Well what you have already suggested seems like a good start. As for answering the question 'Do you think this can be resolved?' I guess only time will tell...... (read in full...)
Too tight to have sex and the doctor is no help!
Q. Look this might sound stupid but I really need help. I have been trying to have sex for three years. I have a long term partner, everything is good. I am just very very tight! At first I couldnt even get my OWN finger in, let alone a penis, but now ...
A. 3 June 2011: Hmmmm, maybe you just need to try and relax more during foreplay. Does it get to a point where your partner gets down there and you start worrying if his penis (or fingers) will fit this time round?? If so, you may not be aware that you are ... (read in full...)
My friend has an over controlling boyfriend and I don't get to see her anymore!
Q. My friend, she knows we all love her, she knows we care for her, but her boyfriend wont let her talk to any of her friends. She used to call all her friends hun, sweetie, etc. But he told her that if she calls them that he'll break up with her. She...
A. 3 June 2011: This is a tough one. Explain to her that she is still young and there are plenty more chance for her to have a boyfriend who will love and respect her. This guy sounds like a right jerk!!
No-one has the right to tell her who she can and can't ta... (read in full...)
Break up after 3.5 years, how does he just move on like that?
Q. my ex and i broke up after three in a half years.it was a very unhealthy relationship and i knew he wouldnt change with the overcontrolling jealousy didnt trust and so on...he was my first everything meaning i never gave him a reason to act like ...
A. 31 May 2011: I have just been through this exact same thing myself. Yes it hurts, but in time you will find someone who won't be jealous, controlling and untrustworthy.
Things may seem bleak now, but they will get better :) x... (read in full...)
How do I tell my dad I"m dating?
Q. Ok so i'm dating this guy and he's really sweet but i don't know how to tell my dad about him. I'm only 13 and my dad is kinda overprotective. I really want to tell my dad but my dad's the kind of guy who only looks at the bad things that could ...
A. 29 May 2011: You can't control how your dad will react to something like this. You just have to tell him straight that you're dating someone.
He'll probably be mad and just see the things that could go wrong, but tell him that if you have his support on this,... (read in full...)
Do you think he is using me?
Q. Hi I'm a 23 yr old woman iv been with my boyfriend for almost 3months he never calls me unless I ring him,he hardly texts too. Three weeks ago I tried ringin him contiously as he did not pick up my calls and rhe next mornin he dumped me. When I m...
A. 27 May 2011: Do i think he is using you?? This isn't the question you should be asking... Do i think that he is an arrogant, controlling, total waste of time? YES YES YES!!!
He says you need to have an abortion and then he'll be with you, do you seriousl... (read in full...)
I really like both these guys. My ex is now ignoring me. I need some clarity please? What should I do?
Q. I really like this guy. I will call him Y. And I really like my my ex, who im still in love with. I will call him X So X and i broke up in june last year...8 months later after a different girlfriend, he came back begging for me to take him back tha...
A. 26 May 2011: Wow, i have just been through this exact same situation!!
Here's how mine panned out, I binned off X for good because he decided to stay with the girl who cheated on him with 2 other guys, so i just left him to get on with it!!
And now i hav... (read in full...)
Partner has walked out on me but is coming back to talk tonight, how do I make sure he gives us another try and doesn't leave for good?
Q. hi everyone i am really upset my partner of three years has walked out on me. he says the spark from our relationship has gone and he doesn't love me anymore. we have a five month daughter who is recovering from meningitis, i had a difficult preg...
A. 18 May 2011: Have you been offered the chance to talk through the loss of the twin? You have gone through and still are going through tough times right now, and i think it would do well to start talking about it and come to term with it as well. I agree with t... (read in full...)
Should I meet this guy at a hotel?
Q. Should I meet at hotel? Hi, Any advice is really appreciated! Im just out of my only relationship 3 1/2 years and have never really 'dated'. Well i met someone when i was away down the country a few weeks ago, we kissed and me and my frien...
A. 16 May 2011: By all means, if you would like to meet him, then meet him, but you are right to be careful about where he stays, just ask him if he could book a hotel room, and give him some information about local hotels and prices. Plenty of time to organise it ... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know that I have moved on?
Q. I was in a relationship for 5 years right out of high school. During the realtionship he lied and cheated multiple times and I stayed because I was young and stupid. I mean I took him back after everytime he cheated.... so dumb I even had 2 ...
A. 16 May 2011: You owe your ex nothing really. Why do you even still speak to your ex on a daily basis anyway? You know he treated you like crap, you know he won't change, so just tell him that you have now met someone nice and that you hope he finds someone nice ... (read in full...)
Can I have some ideas on how to stand up to him please? he bosses me around all the time. Everything is his way.
Q. Is it normal when you are in a relationship for the guy to make all the decisions? If we want to choose a video it ends up not being we. It becomes him. I wanted to watch film that his sister said was really cool about a fashion designer called coco ...
A. 13 May 2011: You quite categorically tell him that you want salad for your dinner. If he kicks up a fuss, tell him to grow up as you can have whatever (and whoever) you want. If he still kicks up a fuss, leave him to spit his dummy out and don't rise to his ... (read in full...)
How long can you go without sex?
Q. Hey guys I just got out of an emotinally abusive relationship(5yrs long) my ex was would be like "oh ur fat" or "oh i need a break" or oh put makeup on. Mind you i'm 25yrs old and weight 120 and 5'3. (but to make story short, i cried cried cried, ...
A. 27 April 2011: You're not taking too long no, you have got out of a very disturbing situation and i think it's going to take you a long time to be able to fully trust a man again.
Taking things slowly is the best thing you can do for yourself right now. Not ever... (read in full...)
How can I make my hair thicker again?
Q. dear agony aunts...... i really badly need your help....i am loosing my hair drastically.... my hair use to br really thick before....but its being months now that it went so badly... if it goes like this i feel im surely gonna be bald soon ... im ...
A. 22 April 2011: GO AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR!!! Don't use your hair dryer as much, or your straighteners. I'll say it again... GO AND SEE YOUR DOCTOR TO CHECK IT'S NOTHING SERIOUS!!!... (read in full...)
How can I make my hair thicker again?
Q. dear agony aunts...... i really badly need your help....i am loosing my hair drastically.... my hair use to br really thick before....but its being months now that it went so badly... if it goes like this i feel im surely gonna be bald soon ... im ...
A. 21 April 2011: First of all, you should go and see a doctor, make sure it's not a medical issue, like alepicia or something. Your doctor might be able to give you some advice on how to make your hair grow back if there is nothing medically wrong with you either.... (read in full...)
I want this creep to stop lurking around my social circle... What should I do?
Q. Last week my boyfriend was at a party with his friends. At this party for some reason was a 29 year old man. This was a party hosted for teenagers by teenagers. This man had added a few of my friends on Facebook and he seemed to only interact with ...
A. 21 April 2011: You need to tell all of your female friends of your concerns about this man. He shouldn't be hanging around with 15-16 year olds full stop. It's inappropriate. If any of them experience any inappropriate activity from him, then they should call the ... (read in full...)
Could I possibly be the mystery girl he likes?
Q. im 18 female and hes 19 male. So over the last 5 months me and this guy grew close very very quickly. we're best friends but i also have really strong feelings for him, and well i dont know if im the 'mystery girl' he likes. ive had a few indica...
A. 16 April 2011: Wow, as much as we would all love to be mind readers... we aren't.
If you want to know the truth then you have to just ask him if you are the 'mystery girl' or not...... (read in full...)
What do I do about a bf who doesn't listen to me, respect me or do anything I want to do?
Q. I have a bf--i think....well, we have been fighting heaps and he has been treating me like crap, doesn't do anything i ask. Anything i do he rejects...... I have done everything for him. Hell, i gave him a threesome with another chick....he doesn't ...
A. 14 April 2011: Well if you want to be walked all over then that's fine. I was in a similar situation not to long ago, i was with a total loser, but it took me a long time to realise how bad it was and i broke away. To be honest i've never felt better hun!!!
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What do I do about a bf who doesn't listen to me, respect me or do anything I want to do?
Q. I have a bf--i think....well, we have been fighting heaps and he has been treating me like crap, doesn't do anything i ask. Anything i do he rejects...... I have done everything for him. Hell, i gave him a threesome with another chick....he doesn't ...
A. 12 April 2011: You walk away from him, right now!!!
He clearly doesn't respect you and you could do so much better hun, truly!! Tell him what a waste of space he is and tell him you're gone for good.... (read in full...)
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