Damn boys!
Q. damn boys! i love this guy. he doest love me back but he flirts, now he saying we should have sex. what should i do? im in love with him and i realy want to. ...
A. 10 October 2010: What's the rush to have sex nowadays?? I was just 17 when i lost my virginity! None of my friends ever teased me about it, I lost my mine to someone who I loved, and they loved me too.
This guy sounds like a player, out to get as much sex as possi... (read in full...)
Essay for scholarship, can I write it in First Person?
Q. Hey! :) Alright this is pretty basic. I'm writing an essay for a scholarship that I'm applying to. I need to know is it okay to write it in First Person? The topic of the essay is basically What is your greatest hurdle in life and how did you ...
A. 10 October 2010: I think First Person would be very appropriate as the essay is about your biggest hurdle in life.
Maybe you could set the scene using Second Person (he/she and his/her) then follow on from that in First.
Thing about the hardest thing you ever h... (read in full...)
Do I look fat in this?
Q. I am about 132 and 5'7 3/4". My husband keeps saying that I am fat. Are there any circumstances under which, or cultures in which this would be considered fat? Are there any guys here that consider this proportion too fat for their taste?...
A. 9 October 2010: Turn round and say to him these exact words when he next calls you fat...
"Yeah, I may be fat... But you're ugly, and I can diet!"
Should take him down a few pegs, if all else fails the small penis comments should hurt the most :)... (read in full...)
How to create a fear of loss in your ex/ does it backfire?
Q. I've read the ebook of Matt Hudson "Get him back forever". He writes how to get your ex back by making them jealous via facebook (pictures out partying with friends,writing with other guys, having "massive fun") I know they should think that ...
A. 9 October 2010: I think that trying to make your ex jealous is about the worst thing you can do when trying to get back with him, because yes, it could backfire. They basically end up resenting you and think that they meant nothing to you because you have just gone ... (read in full...)
He slept with a girl while we were broken up, is that cheating?
Q. I'm so confused with the situation I am in now with my boyfriend. I broke up with him in May because I felt that he was way too overprotective with me..that it always lead to arguments. He kept asking to come back and I always said to give it some ...
A. 9 October 2010: No, it's not considered cheating because you weren't together at the time.
These girls may simply have been rebounds and after them he realises how much he still loves you. However, i know how hard it is when you hear something that you don't wa... (read in full...)
How can I be happy and single?
Q. All advice would be much appreciated! I'm 16 and have never had a boyfriend, and I think I need to work on myself for now as I keep having crushes and it's distracting me from school. So what do single people do in order to make themselves happy...
A. 9 October 2010: Oh my god, there's alsorts you can do to keep yourself occupied. I'm thinking movie nights with the girls, sleepovers, shopping trips, going and getting nair and nails done, or even doing them yourselves. Of course, throwing yourself into your ... (read in full...)
My life is a mess and I feel trapped! HELP!
Q. I'm 17, and I just can't DO this anymore. I don't know. I'm so bored, alone. Trapped in my city and I hate it so much. The only thing keeping me going is the promise of going to Univerisy next year, but that's stressing me out and I don't know. I'm ...
A. 8 October 2010: Well at least you have Uni to look forward to, you'll meet so many new people whilst there. In the meantime, get yourself out and about, even if it's only a walk round the park or maybe some retail therapy (always works for me)
There's nothing ... (read in full...)
Oral sex question for the ladies... workin' on technique!
Q. So, I have a short goatee... not 5 o clock shadow just a tad bit longer that can create a nice maybe sandpaper feel lol.... do ladies like this if im goin' down on one? Like if I rub my trimmed beard against their clitorus? I'm workin on technique ...
A. 7 October 2010: Having some facial hair can be a turn on for some women, creating a tickling sensation, but you need to be very careful that it doesn't irritate the sensitive skin and cause a rash!!!
Try it out and see if she likes it, but don't just use your goa... (read in full...)
My ex-gf birthday in 3 days - ignore or not ignore ?
Q. Short Summary (who didn't read my threads before) - my x-gf (for 4 months) went to vacation to her country, after 6 week I came to airport to meet her, and discovered that she came back with her X (they were together 3 years and separated 8 months...
A. 7 October 2010: If i were you i would just send her a short message, something along the lines of...
"Happy Birthday hun, hope you have a lovely day"
Something simple, which just shows that you remembered and made the effort to send a short message.... (read in full...)
Heartbroken but still in love... please help me!
Q. dear cupid, ive been with my girlfriend for a year and 2 months. but the last few days have become chaotic. i found out she was cheating on me for 6 months while we've been dating. since i found out yesterday ive been throwing up and crying until...
A. 7 October 2010: You need to take some time to think whether ornot you can trust her again. If she managed to hide it from you for 6 months, who's to say she couldn't do it again?
Think about what you need right now. You say you still love her, and that's fair eno... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my mum about my period!
Q. Help. This is really weird and I don't know why I'm doing this but anyway. I'm 13 and I just started my period this afternoon. I have already had a "slight leakage" or watever so technically this is my second period. And my mum got me a box of pads ...
A. 4 October 2010: You should really talk to your mum, you never know, one day she may not be around for you anymore.
My mum and i were never that close, until dad died and my brother moved to Australia. Now we talk about everything!
If all else fails, talk to y... (read in full...)
I want to leave for all the wrong reasons
Q. Hi there. I am a 47 year old gay man in a gay relationship for the past 17 years. Ever since I was young I knew I was gay and built my life around being gay. However in recent years I found myself being attracted to the opposite sex and to follow ...
A. 27 September 2010: Would you rather stay in an unhappy relationship, effectively cheating on your parnter over and over again with your neighbour? I mean, he would probably be more upset to find out that you were cheating.
If you really love your partner, you shou... (read in full...)
How do you trust a cheater?
Q. How long does it take to get over and trust the person you are with if they cheated on you? My bf told me he cheated in the first and second month of our relationship. I told him things arnt gonna get better over night even though he wants it to. ...
A. 27 September 2010: You can only get over this when he starts proving to you that you can actually trust him again!!!! That he's not gonna do it again!!!
If he can't manage this, or you don't feel like you can ever trust him again, then there is no relation... (read in full...)
Help me plan a wonderful surprise party for my girlfriend!
Q. Hello people I want some help here. 23rd september was my girlfriend's birthday. I had planned a surprise party for her in which I had called our friends. When I was arranging, one of our friend's boyfriend spoiled the arrangement by telling ...
A. 26 September 2010: Arrange for all your friends to meet at a restaurant, and just tell her that to make her feel better for the surprise party being ruined, that you will take her out for a romantic dinner. Tell her to go and get her hair and nails done, the just turn ... (read in full...)
Thought I had a cyst ...
Q. Ok so the other day (2 days ago I think) I found a lump in my vagina, and it didn't hurt or anything when I touched it or pressed it, I don't know how long I had it, but it really scared me, it wasn't like attached though, like it moved up a little, ...
A. 26 September 2010: The only way to stop worrying is to go and see your doctor (whic you still need to organise) The doctor should be able to answer any questions you have.... (read in full...)
Body proportion?
Q. Hey guys, what's crackin? Here's a ridiculous one for you all, and I'd hate to be a cliche but...: I feel like my boobs are too small sometimes. Some days I'm thinking, "oh, they're an alright size." And other days, I'm thinking, "oh... Where'd t...
A. 25 September 2010: 32-C isn't necessarily small, i'm only a 32-B!!!!!
Quick fix for me if my boobs looks small, buy clothes with horizontal stripes. Stripes make your boobs look bigger and your tummy look flatter instantly!!!... (read in full...)
Should I stay single and try getting over my ex first or should I go for it?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, i really need your help on this one... There's a guy (lets call him Adam) who i used to go out with years ago when i did a performing arts course at college. We ended up breaking up because we were both so young. I didn't ...
A. 25 September 2010: Another thing i forgot to mention is that for the past few months whilst i have been hung up on my ex, i was actually trying to win him back in the process. This is why i always refused to meet Adam, coz i didn't want it to look bad as Dave knows ... (read in full...)
He doesn't deserve to be a father so what do I do? Have it aborted or what?
Q. I am nine weeks pregnant, almost ten. I am engaged to my boyfriend. I was not planning on getting pregnant and never thought having kids was something i had to do. I found i was pregnant and told my finace and he was so happy and exited. I was not. ...
A. 23 September 2010: You need to sit down and talk this through with your boyfriend. You seem very sure that he is never going to change and it wouldn't be fair to bring an innocent child into the world where his/her father is on drugs! On the other hand, this could be ... (read in full...)
Have I done something wrong, it always seems to be just me!
Q. Do i keep doing something wrong? One of my mates seems to have this problem with me but he never says it. He barely speaks to me, sometimes he will, like ask me the odd thing or how im doing but theres no effort to strike up a conversation, he wont ...
A. 22 September 2010: There's only one way to fix this hun... You need to have it out with him. To me is seems as though you have done nothing wrong, and it's not fair that he should alienate you from the rest of your friends.
Get him alone if you can, and just tel... (read in full...)
Does it matter what girls look like when sucking?
Q. Question for guys (though ladies can offer their answers too!) I desperately want to give the guy I'm seeing really great head. But I'm incredibly insecure at times - not just as most girls are, it's a little deeper than that apparently- and ...
A. 22 September 2010: As you're doing it, look up into his eyes. He'll LOVE it!!! Also, whilst you have him in your mouth, moan and hum a little, the vibrations from your vocal chords will 'tickle his fancy' for sure!!!
Good luck, and enjoy!... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with any man anymore, not short or long term, just never.
Q. I am reading all the posts here and get kind of jealous, that people go through all these strong emotions. I don't understand whats happening with me lately, but i don't want to be with any man anymore, not short or long term, just never. ...
A. 22 September 2010: To be honest, it's absolutely fine if you don't want to be with a man right now. You are your own person and don't need a man to survive in this world.
I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you just like to feel respected and apprecia... (read in full...)
My lover's husband found out about us and beat her. What do I do?
Q. i m in relationship with my friends wife, i had feelings for her but never told because she is my friends wife. after the gap of about 1 year i used to visit their house. their i saw that my friends behaviour with his wife was so rude and he ...
A. 21 September 2010: Yes, she should leave him!! No man is allowed to beat his wife FULL STOP!!
She needs to get her child, her things, and leave as soon as possible!... (read in full...)
.Why would he want to hurt me when he's the one who dumped me twice?
Q. Me and my ex have had a very weird sort of relationship for the past 5 years. I went out with him and he dumped me for another girl (5 years ago), we didnt speak for a couple of years then he split up with her and we sort of got back together. Then ...
A. 21 September 2010: Ha ha, sad sad boys!!!! I really hope you laughed long and loud at him. If you didn't, make sure you do next time you see him.
I have no idea what's going on in his head, but you really don't need the hassle from it. Let him get on with whatever... (read in full...)
How can I tell this player I don't want to be his bit of fun?
Q. I've been fooling around with a guy (kissing and some oral) he doesn't want a relationship just fun, I have always known this, and i don't normally do this sort of thing but i do like him, he wants us to have sex and I really like him but I am ...
A. 21 September 2010: At least you have your head screwed on enough to see that this guy is a player!! He sounds like a right creep and you're probably not the only girl he likes to 'have some fun with' so tell him straight, you're not interested anymore.
Go and find... (read in full...)
Do I leave him alone and cut him out of my life or do I pursue this "friendship"???
Q. This is kinda long so bear with me guys... I'm a gay man and I've been in a fantastic relationship with my partner for over a year and a half and he decides he wants to end it all of a sudden because of a lack of physical feelings after a month lo...
A. 21 September 2010: As much as it hurts to hear, only he can change his ways. At the moment he's refusing to admit that there is a problem here, and until he takes the first step to actually admitting it, then there is nothing you can do about it i'm afraid...
You c... (read in full...)
Should I just be content with what the ex and I have?
Q. Well my ex contacted me recently she wanted to be friends we have been talking for almost 2 months now and i still love her and out of the whole year that we havent talked i love her the same i was wondering should i try to get her back..tell her ...
A. 21 September 2010: Are you truly prepared to trust her 100%??? To not doubt her unless she actually gives you reason to? If you are then tell her how you feel, if not, let her find a man who will...... (read in full...)
Spicing things up for some birthday sex!!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with the same man for 20 years, and I am still horny for this man. I am 44 years old, and he is 52. I want to spice up the relationship because our sex life has gone down. I know that our age difference may play a big roll...
A. 20 September 2010: As dirtball said, there are lots of options to consider. Roleplay is a good one to try, also some light S&M like tying him up and/or blindfolding him.
Try taking pics/video of yourself wearing your sexiest underwear and send them to him on his b... (read in full...)
Should I muck around with my pills?
Q. Hey, I recently started taking an oral contraceptive pill and I'm coming to the end of my 21 day course of them. The problem is that, because I managed to lose two of my pills (down the sink - clumsy, I know)I'm finishing my pill two days earlier...
A. 20 September 2010: erm, check the information leaflet that you get with your pills. If you can't find what you're looking for, why not give NHS Direct a call? You can find their number online.
As far as i'm aware you can just carry straight on with your next 21 ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? Or is my mom selfish for jumping into a relationship?
Q. My mom was married when she was 20, and was with the man for 12 years until he cheated on her. I've never heard much about him until almost a year ago now. and I'm almost 19. she had started talking to him in October of last year, and went to visit...
A. 20 September 2010: I don't think you are being selfish at all, i have had a similar problem to yours, but i talked to my mum about it and she listened.
You have to keep talking to her about how you feel. Ask her to at least show you some respect by turning her phon... (read in full...)
My ex is mad because I told his girlfriend the truth
Q. My ex boyfriend and i have been talking hanging out and trying to get back together again. We met up one night even though we hadnt talked for a year and started kissing and walking on the beach after that he said he was going to break up with hi...
A. 20 September 2010: It's a possibility he might try and run back to you. Well done for taking the first step and changing your number. If he comes crawling back and you are tempted, think about all those times he lied about you and other girls. Remember how much of a ... (read in full...)
Sex dilemma!!!
Q. Hello everyone, posted yesterday about an issue with my girlfriend. Now I got another question about sex in relationships. Is it normal that I want sex once a day if the possibility is there? Is it uncomfortable for the woman in the relationship if ...
A. 20 September 2010: If she has self esteem issues then you need to be spending time complementing her. I'm not saying that you don't do this already. Take her shopping for a new dress to wear to dinner that night, then shower her with compliments all night when she ... (read in full...)
Should I just be content with what the ex and I have?
Q. Well my ex contacted me recently she wanted to be friends we have been talking for almost 2 months now and i still love her and out of the whole year that we havent talked i love her the same i was wondering should i try to get her back..tell her ...
A. 20 September 2010: I don't think you should have to suffer no. Then again you do run the risk of pushing her away further if you spill all to her too quickly. Maybe arrange to have coffe, or lunch somewhere. Get properly talking to her again, see how she reacts to it, ... (read in full...)
Sex dilemma!!!
Q. Hello everyone, posted yesterday about an issue with my girlfriend. Now I got another question about sex in relationships. Is it normal that I want sex once a day if the possibility is there? Is it uncomfortable for the woman in the relationship if ...
A. 20 September 2010: 20-30 mins of sex could become uncomfortable for either partner. It's normal for someone to want sex everyday. Maybe you should focus more on foreplay rather than actual sex. Foreplay prepares the body for sex (making the womans vagina wet and ... (read in full...)
Why do I love someone who treats me so badly?
Q. i got myself into a relationship when i was 17, i am now 20 and im still not over this. It is only the last month i ended it for good.it has been a rollicoaster of emotions from day one. the boy i fell for was not your average guy. He was known to ...
A. 20 September 2010: Women tend to be drawn to men who appear as though they need help. You said you thought he had mental health issues. It's your maternal instinct kicking in (and it's said that every girl likes a bad boy!)
The truth is that you can't change s... (read in full...)
She takes advantage of me, but I can't let her go. help please!
Q. im sorry for the bad grammar but im kind of in a hurry to get this posted and im sorry its long but its kind of a story and if u do end up reading all of it and try to help me i would really appreciate it i really need some advice because im strug...
A. 20 September 2010: I think you truly are a wonderful guy to care about this particular girl so much. I had a friend once who was forever getting into trouble, and although i got into loads of trouble because of her, her parents were grateful that i stuck around and ... (read in full...)
Grandma dilemma!
Q. Hi everyone, I have a big problem. My mom is going out with friends on saturday. And I have to go to my grandmas all night. Earlier on Saturday I am going to hang out with my dad then he drops me off at my grandma's house. But the problem is that my ...
A. 19 September 2010: You need to talk to your mum about this. Tell her how worried you are about how your Grandma will react after your dad drops you off. Do you have a friend you can stay with instead?... (read in full...)
I wish I was with her please help
Q. MOD NOTE: OP's own title. Hi I've got a not really a problem but just a spot of bother on my mind the thing is I've started college for my second year and over the summer I had these developing feelings for a girl and as soon as I accepted them I to...
A. 19 September 2010: Can you not invite the girl you have feelings for to go out with you and the two others girls aswell? Or maybe when the two girls ask you to go out again, just say 'thanks, but i've already got plans' and spend some time with the girl you have ... (read in full...)
What is this guy playing at???
Q. hey guys, im 15 years old and VERY confused. There's this guy, lets call him bob. He's the kind of guy who likes to always have a girl there to hug and kiss, he dates, but he usually just likes to go around and make out with girls. well i te...
A. 19 September 2010: He's got 'PLAYA' written all over him!!!! 2 words hun.... STAY AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
My ex is mad because I told his girlfriend the truth
Q. My ex boyfriend and i have been talking hanging out and trying to get back together again. We met up one night even though we hadnt talked for a year and started kissing and walking on the beach after that he said he was going to break up with hi...
A. 19 September 2010: Good on you for being honest, but she was right, it wasn't your place to spill everything.
Now you need to think about if you really actually want to be with him. He was in effect cheating on her with you (when you kissed on the beach). What's t... (read in full...)
He says we are just friends but friends don't do these kinds of things!
Q. Hi, a guy friend of mine who i don't really see much as he lives a few hours away, has, for the past few months been flirting with me. He has a gf whom he's been with for about 10 months, i know guys flirt, but he's asked me to send him pics of ...
A. 19 September 2010: No, you're not over reacting. Just shows how much this guy actually values his girlfriend!! Tell him straight up that you won't be sending him anymore pictures and talking about sex. He's just trying to have his cake and eat it.
He shouldn'... (read in full...)
It bothers him if I hang out with my friends, but he hangs with his
Q. Lately i have been feeling like i am more "Go with the flow" when it comes to my boyfriend doing the things he wants to do. I feel that i am restricted to doing only the things he feels is alright for me to do. Since i was little i'd always been ...
A. 19 September 2010: You're right, it's not fair. Ask him why he soesn't like you hanging out with your friends. My feeling is that either he doesn't trust you around other guys, or he doesn't trust other guys around you. Either way, he needs to know that you would ... (read in full...)
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