Sly nasty Rude obnoxious co-worker who is friends with boss at the top. What's the best way to endure and survive this sneaky bully?
Q. Please, please give me some advice as I'm at the end of my tether!! Last year at work I had the misfortune of sitting next to a really rude, snappy and belittling colleague.. At first we got on ok but as the months went past her attitude towards...
A. 20 December 2012: Surely your work has a policy on bullying in the workplace? If you're not sure, ask someone who may know where it is! Your manager has a duty to ensure that all employees feel safe, happy and secure in their jobs. your manager is within breach of ... (read in full...)
My B/f slept with my best friend while we were broken up and I cant get this out of my head
Q. So, I'm engaged to a guy I have dated previously for about a year... We were so much alike we fought all the time, nothing serious, just bickering. I was, and still am, very much in love with him! Problem is, I found out when we recently got back ...
A. 11 December 2012: He slept with your best friend!!! That is the worst betrayal. My ex talked me into bed, i confided in a friend, turned out that friend had feelings for him and ended up in a relationship a few days later!!!! Still makes me feel a bit sick, but i ... (read in full...)
Is my ex still interested and want me back?
Q. I broke things off with my boyfriend because I just wanted to some space and time to heal (I had a rough year/stress). And he said that if should I be ready for a relationship, I can look him up. I finally texted him after a month of not texting, ...
A. 11 December 2012: As much as i think i am awesome, i am not a mind reader! Neither is anyone else. We don't know this guy like you do, only you will know deep down how he potentially feels about you.
Reading through it, it just seems a friendly conversa... (read in full...)
I trust HIM, not HER!
Q. One more question before I go. There is a girl who texts my boyfriend relentlessly. She's my age or younger and is a compulsive flirt. I also know of her because she coerced my friend's ex-boyfriend to run away with her while he was still dating...
A. 11 December 2012: Ask him to reply to the texts saying that he has a girlfriend and is happy, and ask her to stop sending messages to him. May take a few attempts, but aslong as you guys work on it together, he'll know that you trust him. Don't go behind his back and ... (read in full...)
I have been divorced for three years and I'm very frustrated because I cannot find a boyfriend.
Q. I have been divorced for three years and i am very frustrated because i cannot find a boyfriend. It is making me feel depressed and undesireable. i am a very shy person so i do not have many friends and i never go out..that is just my personality. a ...
A. 30 November 2012: If eharmony isn't working out, try another dating site. Maybe you should lower your standards slightly aswell, you never know who you could get talking to. Have you tried singles nights or speed dating? Sounds cliche i know, but if you don't meet a ... (read in full...)
In a complicated physical relationship with my Professor. I love him but he doesn't love me. Any solutions or advise?
Q. I am 20 years old and recently I got a physical relationship with my professor who is about 16 years older than me. I can't prevent myself when he comes closer or touches or kisses me. He is very serious about study and concerned about the careers ...
A. 18 November 2012: So you're a student, and he's teaching one of your classes?? If so, then this isn't good. Teaching staff should not be in a relationship with their student! You need to break this off, before he gets in trouble...... (read in full...)
Why? Why does she go all shy after we make out?
Q. Hey You all. So there's this girl. She's really cute and she's liked me ever since we met she loves my eyes they are hazel and she loves them. After we met we later stopped talking and i barely saw her anymore, but now all of a sudden i found her ag...
A. 17 November 2012: It may be something as simple as that she's never had a boyfriend or you're the first person she's ever made out with. It's clear that she likes you if she's telling people that you're going out.
So why not go for it? See if you can get her on h... (read in full...)
Dated for about a year and we have not shared "I Love You"s
Q. We are both 20 years old in college, and have been in long term (2 yrs lasting) relationships in the past. In a month will be our 1 year anniversary and we have not said I love yous or anything. Everything is still kept really light between us. Is ...
A. 17 November 2012: Only you know when you are ready to say 'i love you' to someone. Do you love him? If you do then maybe you're both scared that the other one won't say it back if the other says it (if that makes sense!)
Maybe sit down with him and talk about it... (read in full...)
My ex owes me money! Is it worth trying to get it back?
Q. Grrrrr, i can't believe I am yet again posting about my ex... He owes me money for a car that i sold back to him before the summer (at his request might i add) I have sent him a couple of reminder emails, but just get fobbed off each time, last ...
A. 15 November 2012: I have him blocked on facebook (seeing as his girlfriend used to be a close friend of mine anyway) because i needed to move on from him. I don't particularly want to unblock him either. The only way i can contact him is via email (depending if his ... (read in full...)
Should I date the new guy, or wait and see what happens with my ex?
Q. So i met this guy me and him started talking and i really like him he asked me out. I havent gave him a answer yet because im still hung over my off/on ex guy ..boyfriend i dont know where me and him stand with each other but anyway i feel li...
A. 10 September 2012: I think you need some alone time, i'm in a similar situation to you, only i'm now dating the new guy. My ex has got back with his girlfriend so there's no chance of anything happening again, but i still have strong feelings for him.
Probl... (read in full...)
My husband and his family do not believe I was a virgin because I didn't bleed after our first night together. Why did I not bleed?
Q. Hola I am from Mexico . Please forgive my English it is second language to me. I am originally from Mexico but live here in the united states. I am 21 years old and recently got married . I was a virgin when I married . I didn't bleed . My husband ...
A. 26 August 2012: Maybe his penis wasn't big enough to make you bleed?... (read in full...)
How do you deal with pubic hair growing back?
Q. For people who have sex regularly, how do you deal with the growing back of shaved pubic hair? It loses the smoothness after only 1-2 days, so doesn't it get uncomfortable for your partner with the stubble? Shaving the stubble creates hell for me. ...
A. 21 August 2012: Couple of options, either you let it grow and get it waxed (lasts longer in theory) or you continue to shave or even use creams. Be careful about using creams around your bikini line, as the skin is very sensitive there.... (read in full...)
2 years and I am still in love with my ex. I'm afraid its still going to be this way in 20 years!
Q. It has been 2 years and I still haven't gotten over my ex-girlfriend. I have done everything in the book to get rid of these feelings. I've been exercising, deleted her number and everything that reminded me of her. I dont check her Facebook...
A. 19 August 2012: How long were you with her for? If it was a number of years, then it may take longer to fully get over her. You're doing everything right so far, keep at it!... (read in full...)
Do I show my friend the proof that her boyfriend is cheating on her or not?
Q. I am in a bit of a hard situation here. I have a male friend, and I recently found out that he is on a swinger site, and is meeting random people for sex. Now what he does is his business and normally I couldn't care less, except he has a ...
A. 1 August 2012: I would tell her. Chicks before dicks and all that!!! If it was happening to me, i would want to know...
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
I understand he wont leave his girlfriend but I can't not have him around!
Q. Confused by his behaviour My story is concerning someone I knew years ago who I had a short fling with. We then went our separate ways for about 15 years and then found each other on facebook again 3 years ago. To start with it was great to ...
A. 11 July 2012: simple answer, he can't have it both ways, either you'll fall for him hard, or she'll find out and demand he choose you or her.
Don't let him have his cake and eat it too, leave him to his gf and go and find yourself a man that you don't have to ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure who my baby's father is.
Q. I am 20 years old and just had my first child. She was born March 27 2012 . Problem is is I don't know who her father is. I had sex May 30 2011 with my ex boyfriend e and on June 29 2011 with my current boyfriend. I remember the doctors giving me an ...
A. 9 July 2012: Wow, can't believe i actually had to do math then!!! Seems as though that your current boyfriend is most likely the father. You say you had sex with your ex, then had a period. So it's unlikely that your ex is the father.
The only way to know for... (read in full...)
How can a gay guy feel comfortable around straight guys?
Q. I'm a gay male that acts masculine. Not everyone knows I'm gay but I'm afraid to be around other guys. I feel much better being around women. When I get around guys I feel like I don't fit in. I fill like a alien. I don't act feminine at all but ...
A. 6 July 2012: This needs building up gradually. When you meet friends, have a couple of girls and a guy in the group. This way it's not as intimidating for you. Make an effort to get to know the guy a little (nothing to elaborate, just chat about a common ... (read in full...)
Is this banter or should I be worried? And doesn't she see that the picture she uses of her and my boyfriend makes her look silly?
Q. Dear all. I'm currently been with my bf for 7 months and things are going well. I've noticed though that on Facebook the same girl a work friends keeps posting on his wall and even posted a pic of them two sitting together we her leaning ...
A. 3 July 2012: Unfortunately we're not mind readers, best thing to do is just talk to your man about it, get the facts then go from there.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My father yells at me all the time and I can't deal with it
Q. my dad says i'm stupid. he yells all the time. i have no one to talk to about this. he has always yelled, even if there wasn't a reason. i cry all the time and feel like no one cares anymore. i can't get away form him. i can't talk to a councilor, i ...
A. 3 July 2012: Why can't you talk to a counselor?? Is there a teacher at school who you trust??? What about the principal??? There are people out there who will listen, be brave and reach out. No-one is going to tell you off for it or think you stupid.
Good ... (read in full...)
He is so selfish during sex I was nearly crying!
Q. I need help! My boyfriend is so selfish in the bedroom, we acctually end up arguing. He is my first sexual partner, I always do everything for him. We normally start kissing then go straight to having sex, and sometimes he goes so deep it hurts my ...
A. 1 July 2012: You tell him he's a selfish asshole and dump him on the spot!!!!
A relationship is about give and take, not just in the bedroom either!! Don't stand for it, you shouldn't have to do things you don't want to for empty promises...have some self res... (read in full...)
I miss having him as my boyfriend. How can I move forward?
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday. I know it won't sound like much but he really was my bestfriend beforehand and I don't know what to do now. I've gone through the break-up maturely and we've spoken on the phone and everything is fine, and ...
A. 9 June 2012: Give yourself chance to miss him, don't bottle things up. Talk to your friends and ask them to keep you company when you're feeling down. In time things will get easier.
Keep yourself busy too, throw yourself into your schoolwork. You'll get ther... (read in full...)
He is everything I could want in a boyfriend but he is a terrible kisser
Q. I really like this guy, he is everything I could want in a boyfriend but he is a terrible kisser. I just can't enjoy it but I am physically attracted to him and i really like being in his company. It's just...really wet and sloppy and his lips ...
A. 6 May 2012: Why not seductively say "This is how i like to kiss" then do it your way. I was in this situation once, the guy i was with just used to shove his tongue down my throat, but after i showed him how i liked to be kissed, he never went back!... (read in full...)
My friend is dating my ex. I want to hate her but I miss her!
Q. A couple of months back, one of my friends decided she wanted to be with my ex boyfriend as she had strong feelings for him (which i knew nothing about until it was too late) He and I had only just decided that we weren't going to stay in touch an...
A. 4 May 2012: The car is going soon anyway, just need to get the new one checked, then get money for it... (read in full...)
My friend is dating my ex. I want to hate her but I miss her!
Q. A couple of months back, one of my friends decided she wanted to be with my ex boyfriend as she had strong feelings for him (which i knew nothing about until it was too late) He and I had only just decided that we weren't going to stay in touch an...
A. 4 May 2012: Well, there are some disturbing developments!!! I hope this makes sense!!
He has been in touch again saying that he misses me and how he never learns that things just aren't ok without me around. I've done my best to ignore things like these or... (read in full...)
It gets too sensitive and I have to stop, help!
Q. Hi everyone this is the problem everytime I have sex or use a vibrator I cannot orgasm I get really close to it but I just get to sensitive and I have to stop what can I do to get past this so I do have an orgasm thank you ...
A. 3 May 2012: you can get like a paste which sort of numbs the clitoris slightly, this is so women can last longer, but might help with it becoming too sensitive at point of climax.
Have a look online, see what you can find. Try Ann Summers aswell.
Good lu... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and my parents control my life
Q. Hi,mine is going to be a pretty long story so please be patient and kind enouf to read it I am 23 years old,and in my final year of med school,throughout my life I have been controlled by my parents,not that they hit me or anything they give me ...
A. 30 April 2012: You either carry on like this, or you kick, scream and fight for your right to make your own choices!!!... (read in full...)
What is a 'normal' vagina?
Q. Hello, I'm an 18 year old female and just have a curiosity about what is "normal" about the vagina. Is white creamy discharge normal? What about a smell that seems somewhat strong? I have this discharge everyday. Not a large quantity of it, but it ...
A. 30 April 2012: We have a TV show called 'Embarrassing Bodies' where people go to the doctors with embarrassing problems. They tend to do features on certain things such as STI's and moles.
They did something on Vaginal discharge and what's normal...
http://... (read in full...)
Can't move on and it's painful...
Q. Hello, Thank you so much for reading my email Ill try to be short. My ex and I dated for about 1.5 years, the last half year was mostly on/off and we were both immature and I myself made a lot of mistakes (as I am learning now). To make...
A. 25 April 2012: These situations are tough, and most will insist that you don't contact him at all when you fly home. I'm in a similar situation, i'm trying to get over my ex of a bout 5 years. You guys dated for a year and a half and he was your first, this is ... (read in full...)
I want to please him but I find anal really painful!
Q. My bf that I've been with for years wants to try something new .. Hmm .. Hes been asking me to let him put it in my butt .. But I don't like it ! It's painfully and I want to please him , but at the same time I feel like he should be more ...
A. 25 April 2012: You don't have to do anything you don't want to! Forget about wanting to please him!! Why should you bother making him happy if he's not even considering your feelings!!!... (read in full...)
I want a job in the arts, office work doesn't agree with me! Any tips?
Q. I left high school with a double a level in art and design but now I'm looking for a job art is laughed at. I've been to connections and the job centre and told them that my first choice of job would be belly dance as I've done it for over 5 years ...
A. 25 April 2012: Why not become a belly dance teacher?? I'd love to have a go, but there is no-one in our area that does it!!... (read in full...)
What are the confidentiality rules in U.K. schools?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting ...
A. 22 April 2012: You can ask to speak to your tutor in confidence, but your tutor can't promise to not say anything to anyone else. She will only talk to the necessary people, she won't go blabbing it to everyone.
This is actually quite a serious issue and i'm ... (read in full...)
I know my man is going to meet this woman tomorrow. I am going to confront them
Q. The man I have loved for the past 10 years is once again cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover last year , funny enough about the same time of year. Since he has promised not to see her or meet her. Last weekend I picked up his an...
A. 22 April 2012: You're not mad. I think you should follow him and confront them both. Then you can move on with your life and be happy. He's cheated before, said it wouldn't happen again, whats to stop him doing it again and again and again??? Nothing. Tell him ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has started gambling again - should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months roughly. We are very happy together and I love him a lot, and I hope to be with him in the long-term. However, a few months ago, he told me he used to have a gambling problem - in his first year of un...
A. 20 April 2012: Gambling is a massive problem nowadays, purely because firstly, you can pretty much bet on just about anything these days and secondly, you can bet in shops, online and via mobile phone now. It's insane!!
I work for a big name bookies and we have ... (read in full...)
Should I say happy birthday to my ex?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We had a long distance relationship and dated for about 2 months, but we've been friends for almost 2 years. The break up was weird and about a week ago we had a huge fight (I broke the no ...
A. 17 April 2012: I don't see anything wrong with just wishing someone a happy birthday!
I do it every year with my ex because as you said OP, we were close once, just not anymore. He does the same for me aswell. It's just nice to wish someone a happy birthday... (read in full...)
An old friend is dating my ex who I still have feelings for, what should I do?
Q. My old friend, who now I don't really talk to or anything has started dating my ex-boyfriend, who dumped me. still have feelings for him even though he's over me. She knows how I feel about him, but she's dating him anyway. I feel really angr...
A. 16 April 2012: I'm in a similar situation, a friend of mine chose her chance to be happy, over our friendship. All you can do is move on and leave them to it. Don't speak to either of them and find another distraction, whether it be spending time with your ... (read in full...)
New committed guy in the pic but I am missing an ex who is obviously bad for me... please help!
Q. I’m sorry that this is of essay length but I’m really very unhappy and need advice desperately. I was involved in a very intense and passionate but turbulent relationship with a man whom I could never quite understand. He had three long relat...
A. 29 March 2012: Don't go back to R, if you do you'll have to lose J from your life and when things between you and R turn sour, J WON'T be there for you.
You said it yourself, you and R fought like cats and dogs, there was verbal abuse and even violent behaviou... (read in full...)
My ex said he'd fall in love with me again but then cut all contact
Q. Why would he do that? I'm so hurt:(? I got back with my ex after a year split. He said he didn't want a relationship. A year later I was still sad and missed him everyday. Here got in contact again and got back together. He told me things...
A. 28 March 2012: I feel your pain, i've been here before many many times.
It's time to move on hun, if you don't he'll just keep on letting you down like my ex did. It's hard, i'm currently doing it, but it can be done. Sometimes i still think about him, but over... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend? She's not treated right at home or by her boyfriend
Q. My friend is lately having a lot of troubles in her life, and I feel like she might not be able to handle them on her own. Her parents verbally and physically abuse her. Her mom calls her fat (which she's not), and a whore, and has said that sh...
A. 26 March 2012: Hmmmm, tough situation. I admire you for wanting to help her so much, but she probably doesn't see it as a problem because she doesn't want to face facts.
It might take her a while to realise that she is infact being abused and all you can do i... (read in full...)
Should I just move on from lying boyfriend and not become cold hearted?
Q. I just found out through fb tht my bf is a lieing dog. And what ive come to find out is tht while I was sticking around wanting his attention and holdin on to his broken promises tht I shouldve been left all the times I was ready to walk away but he ...
A. 22 March 2012: Oh wow, this sounds exactly the same as me and my ex. My advice, bin him and find a distraction to keep your mind off of him. You are worth soooo much more than his lies and manipulation because that's all it is.
Time to move on, plenty of fish ... (read in full...)
How can I keep a serious relationship with one guy?
Q. I really need help as concerning to my problem which have been trying to overcome,but to no avail and it goes like these: i am 19 years old and i have not been in a serious relationship with a guy before due to the fact that i hate visiting people ...
A. 20 March 2012: You are only 19, there is plenty of time for you to find real love with someone!!!
Everyone makes mistakes like jumping from relationship to relationship, it's how we grow and learn. Try not to worry too much, when the right guy comes along, y... (read in full...)
Can you feel when something has happened to your soulmate, even if you don`t know them yet?
Q. This morning/night I woke up at like 3:30 am for no reason whatsoever and just instinctively knew that something had happened to, dare I say, my soulmate. I know this sounds crazy and everything, and no, I wasn`t drunk or high (I know there will be ...
A. 19 March 2012: Not so long ago (I'm talking a couple of weeks here) I woke up very abruptly at 5am with a sense of dread. I couldn't get back to sleep at all so put a film on. At 6am i had a text from my ex saying that at 5am a stolen truck had hit his car and had ... (read in full...)
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