Need to let go of my friend and move on but sometimes I miss her
Q. My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I ...
A. 2 November 2011: The only way to move on is to concentrate on your schoolwork and try and make some new friends. But its going to take time. You're not just going to be able to stop thinking about it all until you actually leave school and get away from this horrid ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want to lose my best friend over this...
Q. Okay so first off let me start by saying that my best friend has been dating her boyfriend for almost 4 years.. and they live together. So a few weeks ago her and this junior were flirting and stuff and they ended up having a thing.. her boyfriend ...
A. 29 October 2011: Is she really your best friend if she's not even giving you the chance to be happy and do your own thing????
Erm......NO!! She doesn't own you, you can spend time with whoever you want, without her approval!!!... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel like I'm never going to have a girlfriend!
Q. I'm very nice, mature, really sweet, really cool, smart, funny, strong, and tough. I have the confidence to ask out a girl. Do you think I'm likable to girls? I never had a girlfriend before and sometimes I feel like need one. I always wanted to...
A. 28 October 2011: Stop fretting, you have the rest of your life to have a girlfriend! Focus on school for now...
:)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother is tagging along to our outings and now I don't want him for my 18th birthday party. How can I ask him not to come without sounding rude?
Q. Here's what happened the first time: My boyfriend was invited by me to my grandmother's halloween party for the family, so he can meet my family. So a few days before the party, he asked if his brother can tag along. He said he had to watch his brot...
A. 28 October 2011: Does the brother not have any friends of his own???... (read in full...)
First time sex...what can I do so that it wont hurt?
Q. I'm a vigin and me and my partner want to have sex I'm scared that it might hurt from other girls I've heard it hurts I need to know what I can do so it won't hurt . ...
A. 28 October 2011: First time will only hurt if you are not relaxed and your partner doesn't take things slowly.
I'll be honest with you, the first time will probably hurt, but you need to communicate with your partner at all times! Make sure there is plenty o... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 23 October 2011: I'll admit, i have said time and time again 'it's about personality etc etc' but truthfully, it is about looks. There has to be a physical attraction for a relationship to be real. If there is no attraction, then the couple would be better off just ... (read in full...)
Guys do you do this? Girls do you endure this?
Q. My boyfriend says he loves me and isn't looking for anyone else. I commented today about how lame skankygirl pirate costumes are. He said he hopes they're around for a long time. I'm insecure by nature and the thought of him looking at other...
A. 23 October 2011: Why not get one of these pirate outfits and dress up for your bf? Maybe afterwards whenever he thinks about those outfits, he'll picture you wearing it ;) will be a nice treat for him too!... (read in full...)
I don't want sex to hurt
Q. I have a sex question?well like a 2 years ago I had a boyfriend that took my virginity half we tryed having sex but when he was putting it in he only put it halfway in it poped but we didnt do it cause I jumped out I guess it hurt me cause I wasnt ...
A. 23 October 2011: Sex will hurt the first few times, regardless of how wet you are, so be prepared to feel some discomfort. Make sure that your boyfriend takes things really slowly, and wears a condom!
In time, sex will begin to feel good, once your body is used ... (read in full...)
Is everyone capable of finding love?
Q. Do you believe anyone and everyone is capable of finding love if they put in effort to do so? Thanks for answering :)...
A. 23 October 2011: I think everyone is capable of finding love somehow, whether they go out and look for it, or it kinda falls into your lap.
Firstly, all these adverts for dating sites make it sound like love is just around the corner. Well i signed up to one and ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your ex turns everyone against you?
Q. I ran into my ex mutual friends with my ex today. It's the first time I've seen them in over a year. They didn't even Acknowledge me at all. It was weird. I can't believe I used to be friends with these people, let alone close friends. My ex dumped ...
A. 23 October 2011: Just shows you how immature they really are. They haven't got the balls to even acknowledge you, you should be glad that they aren't a part of your life anymore!
Good riddance to bad rubbish i say!! As the other poster says, make some new friends ... (read in full...)
I want to be fair. Do I yell at them or talk to the school counselor on monday?
Q. Is this normal, or have they crossed the line? I write this while my tears are still as fresh as the memories itself.. Yesterday, I was told "if you keep talking back, you wont have computer priveledges tomorrow" I wasn't talking back...
A. 23 October 2011: This does sound like emotional abuse, do you walk on eggshells around your mum and stepdad??
Also, if he has physically grabbed you and pulled you out of a chair, then this can be classed as physical abuse even though there are no lasting marks on... (read in full...)
Girl at school told me it's just a phase. It's not. What can I do about my love for my possibly gay PE teacher?
Q. Im 15 and i love my pe teacher but he never seems to notice me, my friend caught me staring at him in the cafateria and i had to spill my guts and she just told me its a phase and i'll get over it. but i know its not and i really want him both in a...
A. 23 October 2011: Two words... RAGING HORMONES!
You can't make your teacher fall in love with you, you can't make anyone fall in love with you. You'll look back on this in years to come and think "What the hell was I thinking???"... (read in full...)
Need to let go of my friend and move on but sometimes I miss her
Q. My ex bestfriend sarah and I got into a big fight at the end of the school year. I brought a girl named Leasette that she didnt like to the lunch table because Leasette was to scared to sit at the table because of her and was sitting by herself . I ...
A. 21 October 2011: Wait, your 'best friend' fell out with you because you tried to make friends with and include someone else????
GOOD RIDDANCE!! Clearly she's immature, insecure, has abandonment issues and in general is a two faced bitch. Be glad she doesn't ... (read in full...)
My husband thinks I'm too thin! Is he concerned about me or has his love just gone?
Q. Hi. My husband is complaining that i am too thin. Of course my body has generally been small, but it has never been an issue in our relationship.recently i hav lost some weight. I am confused. Is he concerned about me or his love has jus gone? Do ...
A. 20 October 2011: I think he's just concerned for your health more than anything. There are a few ways to gain weight, the most important being eating 3 meals a day, with the right amount of foods aswell, you can look up about balanced diets on the internet. You can ... (read in full...)
How can I keep other girls away from me ?
Q. yo, I've been having problems with girls eyeing me and asking me out. i keep telling them I'm with some one already. how can i keep them from asking me out when I'm already with someone?...
A. 16 October 2011: I still think you should go with the sandwich board idea :)... (read in full...)
How can I keep other girls away from me ?
Q. yo, I've been having problems with girls eyeing me and asking me out. i keep telling them I'm with some one already. how can i keep them from asking me out when I'm already with someone?...
A. 16 October 2011: Wear a sandwich board (a-board) at ALL times with 'Don't ask me out, I have a girlfriend' written on it.
That should do it!... (read in full...)
My friends think I'm a slut, I'm just trying to get over him
Q. It's been a year since, i guss you could call it a fling ended. For the first 6 months I couldn't really talk to any guys let alone flirt, now it seems i can't stop flirting, but i'm not at all attracted or want anything to happen between the guys i ...
A. 16 October 2011: Tell them to stop calling you a slut, if they're true friends they'll realise how much it's upsetting you and should stop. As for going round kissing guys, i would try and stop doing that.
Why would you not want 'said asshole' (as you put it) to s... (read in full...)
Any ideas for freak show costume?
Q. I apologize for wasting evryone's time. I have a [hip hop] dance recital coming up. Our song is "Freak Show" so we must dress, well, freaky. The colors are black, silver, and white, I plan on wearing my black hip hop sneakers and am have no ideas...
A. 13 October 2011: Why not go for a sexy, freaky zombie ballerina type outfit?
white/black leotard and tutu, opposite colour leg warmers on leg and arms, heavy dark make-up (black smoky eyes and silver glitter lips) with silver accessories for body and hair.
... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my sister about what she saw?
Q. My sister is small and she dosen't know anything about sex. My mom went on a trip from her office and I have to look after my sis. My boyfriend came to my house. My sis don't tell anything about him to my mom because he is very friendly with my sis ...
A. 8 October 2011: What exactly did she see you do??
First rule... DON'T GET UP TO NO GOOD WHILST YOUR LITTLE SISTER IS IN THE HOUSE TOO!!!!!! I mean, what if she had wandered into the kitchen instead, picked up something out of the cupboard and ate/drank it, some... (read in full...)
She contacts me all the time. I ignore her. I am heartbroken. How do I move on? How do I forget her?
Q. I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized the...
A. 8 October 2011: Change your phone number!
Simples! :)... (read in full...)
Why did my last guy refuse to give me another chance? I know I cheated. What should I do?
Q. Since as long as I can think back I have cheated on every guy I dated. I had been with my soul mate now for 9 years. For 2 years I did resist cheating except for the first 6 months. We was about to set a date to marry when he found out I was sex ...
A. 6 October 2011: How can you 'sex text' a guy as a joke??? Doesn't make sense to me...
You admit, you're a cheater, always have been, you have even cheated on the guy you describe as your 'soul mate'.
Your question asks "What should I do?" First things fir... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me or is he being nice to me ?
Q. Okay so i need to clarification. I have this theater teacher and he is in this play and i'm part of the running crew. Hes always telling me i'm going a good job but he adds complement in or he'll tell me personally for example . Your doing a great ...
A. 6 October 2011: I think he's just being nice...
However, if it makes you feel uncomfortable at all, then you need to say to this teacher that you are not happy with the things he says and does. If it continues, then you need to talk to the head/pri... (read in full...)
She contacts me all the time. I ignore her. I am heartbroken. How do I move on? How do I forget her?
Q. I Just recently broke up with the love of my life. We broke up about a month ago. I cant stop thinking about her. I want to so badly. I broke her heart and i want to forget her. I cant. I thought maybe I can get her back, But i realized the...
A. 6 October 2011: You really want to forget her? First of all, she needs to know that she can't text you everyday. That's the first step, she needs to give you some space.
Second thing is to keep busy, yes, things will remind you of her, but in time you'll begin to... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel good -- is there something I can do to fix it?
Q. Ok so im 18 i have been sexually active since i was 15 but sex has never once felt good. I have never had an orgasm from penetration. Its kinda like im not feeling anything at all when im having sex. when I was younger i did what i think every child ...
A. 6 October 2011: I really wish you the best of luck in finding out why you can't seem to feel anything. I hope your bf will be understanding and supportive of you.
If you do manage to find some answers, then let us know. There could be someone else on here who... (read in full...)
Why do I keep making mistakes due to inattention to detail? How can I do things differently?
Q. I keep messing up in my relationship with my boyfriend. It's over little things like not remembering things that he said he told me and forgetting too tell him thing too. It has put a serious dent in our relationship. Like tonight we got in to a fi...
A. 5 October 2011: I've been through this before. It's not your fault that you forget things sometimes, you're only human! Maybe invest in a communal notepad that you can use to leave him messages. When something is in your head, just scribble it down, at least then ... (read in full...)
I kissed another guy and I have a boyfriend I love alot, I've made a mistake, help!
Q. so me and my boyfriend eric have been going out for about a month and he's kinda been a bad boyfriend and he doesn't hold my hand and walk me to my classes he's not used to doing any of that stuff, and i always cry over him. ppl always tell me he's ...
A. 5 October 2011: Wait a minute, you've been with this Eric guy for a month... and you love him??? It's taken me the best part of 6 months to tell my past boyfriends that 'i love them' it just doesn't happen that quickly!!!
First of all, when you first confront... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl to accept my proposal?
Q. I'm 3rd year Electronics engineering student,I like a girl and I had been proposed her 1 year ago but she says that we are good friends.I have special feelings for her I still love her.What should be done which help to get my answer? ...
A. 5 October 2011: Did you actually ask her to marry you? Or just to be your girlfriend? Either way, if she said no, then you have to respect her decision. Be happy with the fact that she is your good friend, you can't force her to have the same feelings that you have ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel good -- is there something I can do to fix it?
Q. Ok so im 18 i have been sexually active since i was 15 but sex has never once felt good. I have never had an orgasm from penetration. Its kinda like im not feeling anything at all when im having sex. when I was younger i did what i think every child ...
A. 5 October 2011: Hmmmm, maybe you should go and see your doctor then, just to make sure that everything is ok down there. I seriously doubt that what you did as a kid would make you numb down there.
Have you tried a vibrator? might be worth a go (and your hand won... (read in full...)
Any make-up and style tips for me?
Q. I'm a pretty nerdy person. I have never had a boyfriend and I would like to change that. Most guys I like are out going and "crazy" but I'm pretty shy unless around friends. When I'm around my friends, I'm crazy, random, and fun. But with strangers ...
A. 4 October 2011: Look at celebrities that you admire. Not expecting you to be able to afford the things that they have, but take some inspiration from them, their hair styles and make up ideas. There's lots of stuff on the web about creating your own style, the ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel good -- is there something I can do to fix it?
Q. Ok so im 18 i have been sexually active since i was 15 but sex has never once felt good. I have never had an orgasm from penetration. Its kinda like im not feeling anything at all when im having sex. when I was younger i did what i think every child ...
A. 4 October 2011: Everybody makes the mistake thinking that sex is ALL about penetration... well it's not!!
I'm like you, i have never had and orgasm through penetration alone, and this is completely normal so don't panic! The clitoris is the most sensenti... (read in full...)
Just Wondering, how much does the average wedding cost?
Q. Hey Aunts! I was just wondering how much weddings cost these days, the whole church, reception, flowers, dress etcetc. On average? I'm from England so preferably '£' please, but I'll figure it out in dollars or other :P Thank you!!...
A. 3 October 2011: it depends on what sort of things you want...
Big church, small church, local pub function room or stately home for reception, colour and size of flowers, dress and accessories.
If you really want to know, do some research on it, find ranges ... (read in full...)
I'm only 15, if nothing's happened with a guy yet, will it ever?
Q. im 15 and i have not had any interact with a boy. ive never been kissed, or had a boyfriend or had sex. i get attention quite a bit from older men. but im worried that if i havent manged to do anything so far it will neverhappen. like i keep ...
A. 3 October 2011: I didn't have my first kiss until i was about 15, and lost my virginity when i was 17 to a very special persn who i had in my life at that time.
Your first times should be very special and they should make you smile when you think about them, if... (read in full...)
I thought having a boyfriend meant I didn't need friends!
Q. Hi all, I'm 27 and I have a really big problem with my mood. I didn't stay in contact with my school friends when I went to uni. I went to an inner city comp and most of them went on to get pregnant at a young age whereas I went on to become ...
A. 2 October 2011: There is always stuff to do out there, it's just a case of looking for it! What sort of things would you like to do? Dance? Zumba? My mum went on a website where other females around her age were looking for friends aswell, but for the life of me I ... (read in full...)
Am I being used for money, sex, and transportation or am I seriously being paranoid and over-reactive?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost five months. At first everything was great he announced us being together on Facebook and all that. But one day he suddenly set his status to single. I didn't make a big deal out of it because I ...
A. 2 October 2011: Hmmm, whatever it is, it sounds dodgy as hell! Run away... very fast!!!... (read in full...)
I can't sleep!
Q. why am i not sleeping? im 21years old and married with a 21month old son. Since wednesday iv not been sleeping properly, i think iv had 3hours sleep since wednesday, i am so fustrated! im so tired yet i cant sleep. yesterday i was so tired but i ke...
A. 1 October 2011: Go and see your doctor ASAP!! They can refer you to a sleep clinic, where they monitor your brain activity throughout the night.
If you're feeling sick and dizzy because of it, then you need to take action NOW! Otherwise something seriousl... (read in full...)
I've had a thing for him for a year, but I'm not good enough!
Q. Hey, Okay, I've had a thing with this guy for a year and a half, he still was in love with his ex so we decided to wait. Finally, he asked me to be his girlfriend again, I said no be because he was going to college soon. Also, I'm not good enough f...
A. 1 October 2011: Dude, no-one is NEVER not good enough for anything!!! FACT!!! This is a massive confidence issue and it isn't gonna be a quick fix... You need to forget about blokes in general and do a bit of confidence building. Firstly, you need to discover... (read in full...)
Is masturbating a sin?
Q. I am a Christian (Catholic) girl and I have recently started masturbating myself, and I read lots of articles that says that masturbation is a sin. Is it true? Did God really prohibits it? P.S I am not using any toys or such....
A. 28 September 2011: An excellent answer from So_Very_Confused! Made me laugh!!!... (read in full...)
Does anal sex change your butt?
Q. What happens if you have anal sex? Does your butt get bigger?...
A. 25 September 2011: Oh my god, are you serious??? What the hell do you lot do in sex ed classes???
No lovey, anal sex does not make your butt bigger. Do some research on anal sex to find out about it's downfalls and it's benefits.... (read in full...)
I sexted another girl. my girlfriend dumped me but says she will always love me. I don't understand these mixed signals
Q. I dont understand my break up at all. My girlfriend broke up with me because I screwed up. I was drunk and went on my computer and facebook sexted a girl I wasnt supposed to talk to at all. I wasnt aloud to talk to this girl so I didnt. I wasnt ...
A. 25 September 2011: Wow, she sounds really insecure, you say her past is full of cheaters and she seems very paranoid, to the point of telling you that you can't talk to some people. Facebook destroys lives and relationships everyday, it's not good tbh.
When she says... (read in full...)
How can I stop these affecting me and most of all how can I beat him at his own games without speaking to him directly?
Q. An ex bf of mine who is a real nasty piece of work has recently taken to playing small mind games while I'm at college. It's nothing massive but just small things. He's taken to deliberately walking past me and is constantly in and around places I ...
A. 19 September 2011: Oh revenge is sweet!!! Rope a male friend into going everywhere with you and holding your hand, that ought to stop him in his tracks!!!
I like the idea of telling as many people as possible that he's stalking you due to mental issues ha ha!!
... (read in full...)
He says he's only staying until their child goes off to university
Q. The man I love has married his cousin. He says he is only staying with her until their child leaves home for university. Once she has left home he says we can then start to make plans for our future and tell our respective partners, with the ...
A. 19 September 2011: 8 words...
'The longer you wait, the harder it gets'
Why should you put yourself through the emotional torture of watching him be with someone else??? I've been in this position and it didn't go in my favour. I remember saying to myself afterw... (read in full...)
Ex is making me upset, do I tell the new boyfriend?
Q. This is a really difficult one for me. My ex who was horrible to me (read my previous question to understand) is causing me to feel upset - not because I miss him, care about him or anything like that. But because yet again, I've asked him to col...
A. 19 September 2011: I think you should tell your new man what's going on, he can help to support you emotionally as your ex is upsetting you. Your new man only wants to help you, and you can ask him not to involve himself in the matter, tell him that you are giving ... (read in full...)
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