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Should I take a minute of joy, for an hour of heartache?

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Question - (2 November 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 10 November 2010)
A age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm falling love with a woman that's not going to near me in a few months. I can't stop myself from having feelings for her. When she's asleep in my arms my world is her. When she's not near, all I think about is her, everything else has the volume turned down. As long as she's around I want her with me. When she goes away, I'll probably die a little inside.

Is it alright to continue with this, just enjoying one day at a time, or should I cut it off now?

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A female reader, largentsgirl89 United States +, writes (10 November 2010):

largentsgirl89 agony auntEnjoy it one day at a time!!! Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I hope she knows what she means to you. Those are memories that you can look back on and your heart will smile.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010):

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I have my own life, and she has hers, but the connection we share is scary it's so intimate. She has her heart set on leaving for her career. I don't know how she feels about me, but when She falls asleep in my arms, tells me her dreams, crys over the terrible things she carries, and kisses me like the world is falling apart, I'm inclined to think she cares for me. I want her to be happy more than anything. If that means that i have to suffer when she goes, then so be it. But while she's here I want to take her out, plan goofy little surprises for her, run my fingers through her hair, hold her tight, and share in deep conversation. I know it's short sighted, and she asked me to, I'd follow her to the gates of hell.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010):

Me and my boyfriend will meet each other again after 5 months away. And we're probably living in two other sides of the world. We chat mostly everyday, sometimes waking up or goodnight sms, sometimes talking on the phone. As long as both of you try to make it work. I know long distance relationship rarely works out. a 5-month away is okay for once. But next you'll have to sit down and talk to her about the future settling down.

Hope it works on you two. Good luck!

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (3 November 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntInside, you do not wish to cut off all contact and doing so would simply kill you faster would it not? Just enjoy every day you have with her and just tell her how much it would hurt you to not have her near.

Would she not consider staying with you? Whatever the problem, if there is real love here, you two will always have a drive that forces one to the other. Distance is of little consequence if you two can still talk to each other over the phone or through the internet. Why does she have to go anyway?

I hope that helps.

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A female reader, Denise32 United States +, writes (3 November 2010):

Denise32 agony auntAre you talking about a long-distance relationship??

Or is this woman somehow unavailable - i.e, is she married?]

Your question isn't very clear......

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010):

there's nothing wrong thinking about someone who you like, thats what happens. whats wrong about it is that you are making your every minute revolved around her, in a way idolizing her. its nice to have someone but you need a life of your own because if she leaves you, you need to be able to move on. have fun, go out, enjoy every single thing around you besides her.

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A female reader, fi_the_tree United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2010):

fi_the_tree agony auntI feel your pain, i would spend one second being happy with the man i'm in love with even if it meant spending weeks feeling lonely and miserable afterwards without him.

We can't help how we feel though. I hope this woman knows just how much she means to you. If it were me, i would probably hold hope, wait for them until they told me not to. But that's just me... i say follow your heart... because that's what i'm doing.

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