It seems like our relationship was a big lie!
Q. First, let me start by saying the past week with my boyfriend has been great. He's been affectionate and talking about marriage, which itself isn't new, and spending all his time with me at my house aside from work. We'll call him D Then out of n...
A. 6 October 2017: Even if you had set him up, which I don't think you did, he still went for it. And not just once!
You cannot trust this man. Get yourself free. Make it quick and sharp like pulling a sticking plaster off.
It is common for people to be angry wh... (read in full...)
Is my married boss hoping I will ask her out. ?
Q. Hi this only happens at work lm a guy and really like 2 women 1 is married and find it hard to ask her out for a coffee and chat l feel she's still interested but she wants me to approach her and ask her out l don't think it will happen also cause ...
A. 6 October 2017: If you have ever - ever looked at this site before you should have realised that the overwhelming opinion of the aunts is to keep work and romance separate. It rarely ends well. Coupled with that you are contemplating, not only chatting up your bos... (read in full...)
I don't trust my husband and he thinks I am cheating!
Q. Are I met my husband 5 years ago back when I was in high school it's been tough throught out these years... I have 2 kids of my own and he has 2 of his own ever since we got engaged and moved in we've been working a lot his baby mommas call him all ...
A. 5 October 2017: This doesn't sound like a happy partnership. It is filled with mistrust and a lot of babies depending on their parents for a good upbringing. You have probably already gone through all the options in your head. Are you afraid that if you left him... (read in full...)
Help me fix this situation with my sister
Q. I have a serious issue with my younger sister. I recently left a violent and abusive relationship and rented a flat I really wanted after three months of hell going through turmoil and alcohol. Anyway, as the flat has 2 bedrooms, I asked my siste...
A. 3 October 2017: You have several options and they are clear. You can move again and get somewhere to live you can afford by yourself. Or you can tell your sister to leave and find a new flatmate.
Finally, and most difficult you can explain to your sister what is u... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with his employees and it's annoying me!
Q. I've been exclusive with this guy for the last few weeks, its going OK but I get really jealous when he flirts with his employees (he runs a v popular Indian restaurant and has a lot of really pretty Indian girls working there). He moans at me...
A. 1 October 2017: You say: "Should I call it quits bc ngl this is making me disgusted and I deserve better".
Well I say I think you are right. For one thing, if he runs a restaurant, he will be working when everyone else is having time off - you for example. It is g... (read in full...)
Does my close friend have a crush on me?
Q. I have a very good boy friend,and I am single. Our friendship is very confusing because we always flirt with each other.But these day,I begin to notice some change about him. For example,last Saturday we went shopping together.As we passed by the...
A. 1 October 2017: Then just carry on as you are. You will probably get a better sense of your feelings if he makes a move on you. ... (read in full...)
Does my close friend have a crush on me?
Q. I have a very good boy friend,and I am single. Our friendship is very confusing because we always flirt with each other.But these day,I begin to notice some change about him. For example,last Saturday we went shopping together.As we passed by the...
A. 1 October 2017: Certainly he has feeling for you - or so it seems. I know some people get married very young but personally I feel it is a bit soon for you.
Why don't you ask him some time," What do you feel about getting engaged?"
See what his reaction is. At l... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to make new friends?
Q. Recently people have been complaining to me that it is difficult to make friends in the city I currently live in and that most people are either superficial or out for themselves. I agree that busy people with busy lives just dont have time for new ...
A. 30 September 2017: The key is to get out there and join different things. Build a social life. Take an evening class; join a reading group at your library; join a choir; volunteer for a charity. Pick a couple of things outside your normal interests to broaden your ... (read in full...)
How to forget about your ex
Q. Hi me and my ex boyfriend resently break up two months ago we were together from last year January we were on and off .. we broke up four times because people told him things I never said about him and he was believing them he block me on everything ...
A. 30 September 2017: PrincessT it is you who are disrespecting the aunts who log on to help you.
You say: "I do know punctutation! I'm an adult and secondly I don't have a boyfriend me and the person are just talking we taking things slow we doing the (?)
talking s... (read in full...)
How to forget about your ex
Q. Hi me and my ex boyfriend resently break up two months ago we were together from last year January we were on and off .. we broke up four times because people told him things I never said about him and he was believing them he block me on everything ...
A. 29 September 2017: Firstly, have you ever heard of punctuation? If you want serious answers have some respect for the people who will be reading your post.
Regarding your break-up, it has only been two months. It took me four years to get over one relationship. It d... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this planned weekend getaway? I've decided I don't trust him!
Q. Hi i was seeing soneone 2 yrs ago and he started seeing someone else. He denied it and lied left right and centre then he got her pregnant. During all this time he hasnt let go of me. I told him i was not prepared to be a bit on rhe side. Now they ...
A. 28 September 2017: Tell him you have changed your mind - which is the truth. You don't have to give a reason. Say you have realised he isn't really what you are looking for.
You are a bit of a dope being so kind to him after he hurt you. It looks like he was tryi... (read in full...)
How do you cope and embrace change?
Q. How do you cope with change. More so change within the work place. I work in an office and have been here for many years . I do like my job and the company i work. Obviosly i know things change and people come and go. At the moment we have a good ...
A. 23 September 2017: You ask, 'Why do we fear it so much?' Well we don't. We accept it. We make room for it. We adapt. We look for the positives. And we don't look back.... (read in full...)
I dated one guy, then his cousin and am now going back to the first man because his cousin was a cheater and a liar
Q. Im a 25 year old female. I was dating A from 2006-2009 , then communication got lost between me and him , so in 2012 i got close to B which resulted in me dating with B. A and B are cousins. I stayed with B for a period of 1 month and i discovered...
A. 23 September 2017: It's your life. You make the decisions. The reasons you left A will still be there for you to deal with now you have gone back to him. It can also get awkward with family so you need to watch out for added conflict.... (read in full...)
I found some unsettling texts between my boyfriend and our mutual friend. should I be worried?
Q. We have been hanging round with another couple for about a year now. My boyfriend is a very outgoing, flirtatious person naturally but something has been bothering me. Our two friends, Michelle and Danny, well Danny does not have a mobile so ...
A. 23 September 2017: Yes there is a little too much flirting going on. Handle it by openly mocking them in front of others. They will know then they have been spotted and need to reel it in.
Nevertheless still keep a weather eye on the two of them afterwards, and tell... (read in full...)
Difficult LDR, I feel I'm becoming close to my ex. Should I isolate myself from all girls so I don't find myself slipping?
Q. Greetings Agony Aunts and Uncles, To give you a bit of background Im in a LDR with mg GF for about a month now and the separation is killing us. We met in college and our both living near our families in different states. Unless one of us is willi...
A. 23 September 2017: Ignoring your questions altogether, I have to ask you, what do you think is going to happen if neither of you is prepared to move?
Think about it.
If there is no plan to be together then what..? Your choice is to part company amicably or make a p... (read in full...)
I am unhappy at home, and flirting with my ex boyfriend
Q. I am married for nearly 4 years and lived together for 5 years . Since having my son last year , everything has changed . We both very good with looking after our son but My partner seems to be on the phone so much , which has been locked fo...
A. 22 September 2017: It is a difficult situation for you. I can imagine the conflict you feel. Have I understood this correctly - your husband is in the country pending a visa application being approved? So the reason he will be allowed to stay is because he has fami... (read in full...)
Is this something I can fix by correcting a few actions in our relationship? Do I give her space and trust that she will end up with me? What do I do?
Q. My gf of 1.5 years recently told me that she likes a guy from work as as more than friends but is unsure about what to do. She said she loves me and she doesn't love him because it is too early to tell. She said she recognizes that it is unfair to ...
A. 20 September 2017: Sorry - let her go. When they say they want a break to figure things out, it's a no-hoper. Please save ourself the pain.
And anyway what arrogance for her to think she has a choice - that it is in her domain to pick and choose.
Have some self res... (read in full...)
How do I get this woman out of my life without hurting feelings or jeopardising the other relationship with the mutual friend?
Q. I was on here a year or two back about a friend I have had for a while who was always putting me down, trying to be smart and reminding me in her jokey way of any 'blunders' I may have made in years gone by. She is friends with another mutual f...
A. 20 September 2017: I don't understand why you are still keeping company with this woman. When the aunts advised you to cut her out, that means cut her out. You can explain to your friend that you find the other woman a bit much and you would rather not go out with ... (read in full...)
Huge crush on the guy who works in the same building but I don't think he even knows that I exist!
Q. Hello, there is a guy that works in a same building with me and I have a huge crush on me. When ever I see him I feel Goosebumps and I smile alone like a crazy women. Problem is I haven't even said a word to him and probably he hasn't even notice my ...
A. 20 September 2017: Create a reason for him to speak to you. Drop something and see if he will pick it up for you. Something corny like that. In the love game you can't be too obvious.... (read in full...)
Something is holding me back from having sex with my boyfriend
Q. I keep stopping myself from having sex with my boyfriend. I'm still a virgin and my boyfriend knows this. The last two times we have spent the night together, he has tried to initiate sex which I have no problem with. I feel i want to have sex...
A. 18 September 2017: Perhaps you could help prepare yourself so that there isn't so much physical trauma when he and you decide to make love.
Don't make this a big thing in your mind though. When you feel relaxed and ready things will progress normally as they alwa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene!
Q. My girlfriend has poor dental hygiene. Her teeth are yellowish and her breath smells bad.I love her but everytime I wish to express it with a kiss I hold back. How do I bring this up with her?...
A. 18 September 2017: You say:'Darling you really must see a dental hygienist'. ... (read in full...)
I'm not as turned on by my IRL girlfriend as I was with the LDR!
Q. I've recently started dating a girl from my work who is the sweet, caring, interesting, real girlfriend material. Before her I was casually seeing a girl I met online, it was nothing serious, just dating and a lot of sex really. Now here's my ...
A. 18 September 2017: I would be interested to hear what you think the reason might be. You know the situation. the dialogue, the promise and fascination, so much better than we.
We can, after all, only guess. Perhaps it's just pheromones, or lack of them?... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but am looking elsewhere
Q. My situation.. I met my boyfriend a year ago while while I was living overseas, he is from that country. We ended up getting into a relationship quite fast. Our parents met each other and everything was great. A week later or so, he had to g...
A. 17 September 2017: Sounds as if you are not ready to settle down. Best end your current relationship asap. No-one wants to be the other party in a one-sided relationship. You now need to be cruel to be kind.... (read in full...)
I want to get over crushing on my teacher!
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 y/o female student and I have this burning question within me for a year already, and I don't exactly know where to get my answers so I thought I'd give this platform a try. Anyway, I have a HUGE crush on a same-gender female teacher ...
A. 15 September 2017: Haven't you asked this question before. If not it has cropped up many times. The answer is to direct your attention elsewhere: hobbies, exercise, sport and never forget the cold showers. Looked up previous questions like yours in our vaults.... (read in full...)
My step daughter is making my life hell!
Q. My step daughter is making my life hell. I'm a nurse on a trauma unit and I work nights. My job is stressful enough without coming home to a battle every day. My husband is far from perfect but his main flaw is his unwillingness to discipline his ...
A. 15 September 2017: If he called you repulsive and meant it then I would definitely leave. What is the point of staying? Get your own place to live TODAY!
You could perform a quid pro pro on the brat. but what would be the point? You would perhaps start an esca... (read in full...)
How do I encourage my girlfriend to deal with her depression?
Q. I think my girlfriend is depressed, I've been dating her for 8 months now and she doesn't have any close female friends and she's incredibly lonely. Most of the time she'll only leave the house to go to classes and she misses quite a few, she has ...
A. 15 September 2017: It's good that you are concerned for her. The trouble is that it isn't anything you can fix. You should encourage her to see her GP. I mean, it can't do her any harm can it? That's one argument you might use.
Personally I would not recommend she ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend is a bad communicator.
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 7 months. We started out as friends and had known each other for about 4 years, and then began dating. We started out dating close proximity, but then due to work and school, were forced to become long distance. We ...
A. 11 September 2017: You could try not communicating with him so much and see what happens.
It is hard to keep a relationship alive purely on texts, letters etc. Be sure you have something to say when you do reach him.... (read in full...)
Angry about my parents divorce.
Q. Long story short, when I was 6 my mom cheated on my Dad with a married man that has 2 kids older than me. Less than a year they both left their spouses for each other. When I grew up my step siblings ignored me like I don't exist. My step dad son ...
A. 10 September 2017: You may never want to forgive. However you don't have to let it affect the rest of your life. You don't have to carry this around with you anymore if you don't want to.
Accept that you cannot change what has happened. But your life is yours to live... (read in full...)
I have weird feelings towards my teacher and wonder if he likes me
Q. Hi? Im 15 yrs old and I have this weird feeling towards my male teacher. I can say that we are close because his not just my subject teacher but also my trainor in dancing .I admit Im a little attracted to him . I just want to know if he has this ...
A. 8 September 2017: No he doesn't like you. He keeps wondering why you are looking at him like that. If you make any untoward moves on him it could cost him his job, get him arrested and get you thrown out of school. Find someone in your peer group to have a crush on ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't trust me then I can't stay
Q. OK, so i have fucked up..... Multiple times and i obviously haven't learnt my lesson else i wouldn't be in this situation to begin with. Some history: I'm a single mom of a beautiful boy (Almost 3 years old). I left his father as i was no longer ...
A. 7 September 2017: He sounds like a control freak, and you are letting him do this because of some retrospective guilt you feel. You need to reclaim yourself.
Even if you were married there are things that remain private to you. There are things you don't have to s... (read in full...)
My co-worker is trying to paint me as a bully!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles. I work with this girl who is trying to paint me as a Bully. We don't always see eye to eye. She says I pick on her when I have to tell her she is doing something wrong. I don't like being that person. Its because I have a...
A. 6 September 2017: It doesn't sound like your job to correct her. Let her fall on her face. The boss can then take the right action. I understand that you have the company's best interests at heart but some people just can't be told.
So, stop interfering with her work... (read in full...)
Advice please on handling these locals glaring at me!
Q. Hello, this might seem like a silly problem. I am 44 years old and while i can be fiery i have calmed down a lot as i have got older. When i was younger i was very different as a person, fiery and i thought nothing of having casual partners. I ha...
A. 6 September 2017: Sorry but you can only control what you can control. You can't stop anyone looking at you in a public place or even glaring at you. All you can do is control your part. You can take yourself away or decline to react.
I fail to understand what the ... (read in full...)
She suggested a holiday but then didn't raise the topic. She finally said it was too expensive, is this a sign of problems ahead?
Q. My girlfriend suggested we go away a few months ago on a specific date. Since then, shes never raised it - but I have on numerous occasions, offering to book things, asking if she was still interested, or even not wanting to go, and all the time she ...
A. 6 September 2017: Perhaps the test would be to say that you want, need, and deserve a holiday and, if she isn't going to come with you, does she mind your going without her?
I think her reply might tell you something about the state of your relationship.... (read in full...)
"More than best friends"
Q. Hi, i really need some advice About 2 years ago, I met this guy thru a my best friend. The 3 of us became best friends but he liked me and I never seen him like that. Until 8 months ago I saw him more of a friend. The first move was made by him,...
A. 4 September 2017: No don't text him. Block him. You made a mistake about him. You made yourself available but to be frank you weren't the one he wanted to spend the rest f his life with.
Let it go. You gave it a try and it might have worked but in the end no harm... (read in full...)
Why won't he be honest?
Q. Why wont he tell me the truth? Me and my ex split in 2013 both are choice. He moved to the north of the midlands. Anyway last yr he got bk in contact with me and since we have met a few times and he's been on weekends away with me and my little on...
A. 4 September 2017: Do you really love this piece of work that much? You split - probably for good reasons - and now you have let him back in your life and it is screwing your head up.
He is being secretive, probably lying, unfaithful, and you give him your prec... (read in full...)
How do I materialise this online association?
Q. I have been using online dating and started talking to this guy 3 months ago. We quite quickly got to messaging each other everyday. He has a really busy job and when I kept suggesting meeting up he would say he is working late so can't meet and at ...
A. 4 September 2017: He isn't that interested in you no matter what he says online. He is stringing you along. He may be lying to you too about your being the only one.
If I were you I would be too busy to see him and keep looking for something better. You deserve some... (read in full...)
Family interfering in my romantic life
Q. I had completed my bachelor's and currently working in MNC. I am in relationship for about 5 years. This guy A is of my age 22. He is not yet settle. Still looking for better job. Even I am not happy with my job too. Now the problem is my parents ...
A. 4 September 2017: I think you need to get a few things straight in your mind. You have been in a relationship with this man for five years, longer than some marriages last. He has a lot of money.
And yet... And yet he isn't ready to settle because... Because he is l... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so weak towards men?
Q. How can I stop being so weak towards men? I come from I guess an abusive(verbally) broken home where whatever I did was not good enough or was always compared to someoene else. 28 years later I suffer from very low self worth/esteem- on...
A. 4 September 2017: You describe yourself as: "on the outside I'm this perfect modeled/beautiful girl". That doesn't sound like someone who has a problem with self worth. In your position I might say of myself I'm not too bad looking. But perfect, modelled/beautiful? ... (read in full...)
My wife of 30 years just confessed that she was not a virgin
Q. my wife of 30 years confessed that she was not a virgin when we were married. I was not a virgin when we met and if she had told me before we were married I would have been fine with it. My problem is she made such a big deal of telling me she was ...
A. 2 September 2017: Are you sure she isn't lying now? Perhaps she was a virgin but for some reason she is telling you the opposite now.
You are taking this very seriously and she must have known the news would affect you.
I think you need to dig a bit deeper on this.... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 31 August 2017: I do appreciate the statement from jls022. I appreciate it for its honesty and because it finally approaches the OP's question: "Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?"
You mention: "low drive; trying and fail... (read in full...)
Why would a man still hang onto his girlfriend even if he is cheating with other women?
Q. If a guy is cheating on his girlfriend, why would he not leave her? He obviously is not the right man for her. So, why not just leave her, let her find a better man for her, instead of hang onto her knowing he is hurting her? Clearly a rel...
A. 31 August 2017: There is another long running question/answer string, Question ID: 334473, which you might want to look at.
Essentially the dialogue falls between women not feeling they are getting the love and tenderness they want, and men feeling the women no l... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 31 August 2017: Sorry but I have to return to you detractors. Can you not see what you are doing? You are saying listen to us or you won't get good or regular sex anymore.
You make sex like a commodity that won't be available to men if they aren't behaving in a ce... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 30 August 2017: Well Anonymous 123 the answer to the question directed at me is, 'Yes', unequivocally. But we aren't talking about me.
What I was trying to direct your attention to, on behalf of the OP, was the change in attitude towards how women engage in sex ... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 30 August 2017: I think the women who have posted here are in denial. A little more honesty would be welcome.
As Len Deighton wrote in London Match: "The tragedy of marriage is that while all women marry thinking that their man will change, all men marry beli... (read in full...)
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