It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 31 August 2017: I do appreciate the statement from jls022. I appreciate it for its honesty and because it finally approaches the OP's question: "Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?"
You mention: "low drive; trying and fail... (read in full...)
Why would a man still hang onto his girlfriend even if he is cheating with other women?
Q. If a guy is cheating on his girlfriend, why would he not leave her? He obviously is not the right man for her. So, why not just leave her, let her find a better man for her, instead of hang onto her knowing he is hurting her? Clearly a rel...
A. 31 August 2017: There is another long running question/answer string, Question ID: 334473, which you might want to look at.
Essentially the dialogue falls between women not feeling they are getting the love and tenderness they want, and men feeling the women no l... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 31 August 2017: Sorry but I have to return to you detractors. Can you not see what you are doing? You are saying listen to us or you won't get good or regular sex anymore.
You make sex like a commodity that won't be available to men if they aren't behaving in a ce... (read in full...)
I can't get over a guy I dated for a month?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I still have feelings for an ex that I was only with for one month and it's really troubling me. He wasn't my first boyfriend, and it wasn't my longest relationship, but I've never felt this way before. We had a lovely ...
A. 31 August 2017: Was he your first big love? We all have a special place for our first. The heartbreak is bitter sweet. You are going to mope about for a while but you will move on.
I suppose circumstances dictate whether you ever get together again. Don't worr... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 30 August 2017: Well Anonymous 123 the answer to the question directed at me is, 'Yes', unequivocally. But we aren't talking about me.
What I was trying to direct your attention to, on behalf of the OP, was the change in attitude towards how women engage in sex ... (read in full...)
It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 30 August 2017: I think the women who have posted here are in denial. A little more honesty would be welcome.
As Len Deighton wrote in London Match: "The tragedy of marriage is that while all women marry thinking that their man will change, all men marry beli... (read in full...)
He let the mother of his child stay over. Is something going on?
Q. This is new to me, my boyfriend allowed his baby mama to sleep in his house while i was working away. He told me she is going to bring their 2years baby girl to the house and he was going to take them out, that was it and he stopped communication. ...
A. 30 August 2017: First of all not, 'Baby Mama'. You are an adult so speak like one.
Second, I have to ask, do you trust him? There are things you write which could swing it either way.
Going to a party could just be to reunite with old friends, but where was the ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Or is he just generally outgoing and flirty?
Q. There is a guy in my friendship circle, met 3 months ago I'm pretty sure he likes me but then again I am also seriously doubting as well. I have such an intense crush on him. Signs that make me think he does are: He "accidentally" t...
A. 30 August 2017: No, this one is just a close friend. If he were serious he would probably behave differently. Just relax. If he wants to take you out he will ask you. Men are quite direct. We don't do hints.... (read in full...)
I feel angry because my boyfriend liked his ex's pic on facebook
Q. Should I be bothered that I've noticed my boyfriend has liked a picture of his ex on Facebook. She is 30 years old so 13 years younger than me and when I saw he had liked her with a 30th birthday balloon in feel angry and upset...
A. 26 August 2017: You can feel angry and uspset but I'm not sure where it gets you. You can of course always express your feelings in a non-abusive way and see if he understands your displeasure. You will know how to proceed from there.
BUT don't get heated abou... (read in full...)
I need help to try and rebuild relationships with my partner's family which I've ruined because of my anxiety and depression
Q. I need help to try and rebuild relationships with my partners family and also stop hating myself for my past. I struggled a bit with anxiety and depression shortly after I got together with my bf of 5 years. This made building relationships wi...
A. 25 August 2017: If you can't say it out loud then write a card or send a small gift. It is OK to explain about your illness. People are very understanding once they know the reason.
And, if you haven't sought professional help yet then do so. You can't fix your... (read in full...)
Have I wasted my life just waiting?
Q. Hi all. I'm 26 female, educated but unemployed. I'm in search of job since last 3 years but I haven't been successful in it yet. I live in small city and I have lots of issues with my mom who is single parent. All my friends in my city moved away ...
A. 25 August 2017: It doesn't matter about the past. It is just that, past. You can however start changing things right now. Step outside your comfort zone. Take little risks. Don't take stupid risks but consider how bad could it be if you fail.
Often not so bad: a jo... (read in full...)
How do I bring some excitement into my dull and boring life?
Q. How do I get over getting lost and bored all the time? I'm 18 and about to go out to university and I just feel so bored with my life. I have no source of excitement except going to university and my life's just becoming really routine: get up,...
A. 25 August 2017: Essentially your life is going to change completely when you go to uni', providing you aren't still living at home with your parents.
The three or four years is great growing up time and every young person should have it. It used to be the arme... (read in full...)
Worried life is passing me by
Q. So I've been doing a lot of reading lately, romance novels to be exact, and the cheesy one not the erotic kind. And after contemplating the choices I've made and the life I currently lived, and I feel empty. So I've recently finished college, and ...
A. 24 August 2017: Jeez! You do sound a sad sack. Know that whatever you do it will still be you.
Lots of people have boring jobs but that doesn't mean their lives are boring. They use their jobs to fund the way they spend the rest of their time.
However, for you,... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?
Q. Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...
A. 24 August 2017: You have received sound advice from all the Aunts. Now it is up to you. Are you going to get a grip on your life before it all slips away, or are you going to keep doing as you are told?
I say enough is enough!... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in supporting my husband financially?
Q. Am I being unreasonable in that my husband is from a different country and I help him out financially. I plan to go back to his country shortly teaching English and we are due to meet in Turkey beforehand to have a holiday. He wants us to be i...
A. 23 August 2017: I do think he is acting like petulant child threatening to destroy his passport if he can't get his way. Perhaps you should think twice about going back to his country.
Things may be very different for you there and you may not enjoy the rights and ... (read in full...)
Dealing with my son's father?
Q. My son's father never wanted to know anything about his son when I tried to reach out to him when our son was born. Now at 2 months he finally responded to my texts and his mom actually was the one to speak to me. She has been kind this whole time ...
A. 21 August 2017: It seems like the mother is the one you have to talk to in this. She is acting as a go-between. So be it.
He should not be making deductions from your maintenance for his gifts. That is plainly wrong.
I agree with you that he doesn't seem that int... (read in full...)
My ex wants to chat again. Is he just trying to keep all of his options open?
Q. I was seeing this guy three years ago and the relationship was very rocky. Eventually we split, he met someone else but we stayed in contact. We spoke last month and admitted there was still something between us. He says his relationship is ending ...
A. 21 August 2017: Could be. Who knows? But, and it is a big one, if the relationship was turbulent before isn't it going to be more of the same? You split up for a reason. Take the lesson and move on is my advice.... (read in full...)
She didn't like my solo comment to a girl online and now she won't speak to me
Q. Been seeing this girl a month , I like her she is the good girl sweet type.. It took her forever to have sex with me.. she hasent had sex in 4 years had an abusive ex .. long story short I was on Facebook chatting up another girl I wasn't hiding it ...
A. 21 August 2017: At your age you should understand a bit more about women. It may all have been perfectly innocent in your mind but can't you see how it looks?
When you are in a relationship you cannot behave in the same way as you might when you are single. Take... (read in full...)
I've been snooping and finding messages my boyfriend has sent to people on Craigslist
Q. Hi everyone My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2 years dating for 3. This summer we moved to a new town for his work. He really hated the job but had to do it to move up. One week, our sex life was amazing, he was tired but came h...
A. 20 August 2017: I think, snooping aside, your relationship has problems. He is curious and unsatisfied. This doesn't bode well for the future. To me it looks as if things are going one way. Now you will always be keeping an eye on him. It's obviously up to you ... (read in full...)
Do couples have to be united on everything?
Q. Do couples have to be united on everything? my boyfriend is frustrated because he feels like people treat him as less than. When I first met him, I saw that he was the butt of peoples jokes. That was 10 years ago. We've been together for 5 y...
A. 20 August 2017: You could go to a relationship counsellor and ask him if your partner will go with you. In UK we have Relate. If he won't attend with you then go on your own. You will get support and be able to examine your feelings honestly. It will put everything ... (read in full...)
She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?
Q. Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...
A. 20 August 2017: Didn't Paul Simon write a song about this? Anyway I think if you make it quick and to the point it is probably best. Don't be hurtful. If you want to add a white lie about not being over your previous partner that might help her to not think it was ... (read in full...)
Am I too sensitive or he just rude?
Q. Would you be upset at your BF for ignoring a "Thinking of you" text you sent to him? I can see he opened it but he didn't respond. About an hour later, I saw he was on Facebook for 45 min til 11 p.m. While he was on FB I sent him a heart on ...
A. 18 August 2017: Your need for affection is crying out. It comes across as abnormal, but perhaps you crave it because you haven't been getting the love and affection over the last four years that you need.
I'm not sure how you can fix that to be honest. Has your... (read in full...)
My friends have changed toward me
Q. I don't what is wrong with me lately. Or am i just being depressed or just over thinking? I've been friends with these group of girls for over 5 years. We used to always hang out and spend time together. But this year, they completely chang...
A. 18 August 2017: Things change as you approach adulthood. You get jobs. You meet new people. Probably you move into sexual relationships. You can't expect your childhood friends from when you were 13 plus to still be into the same things as you. You all shared ... (read in full...)
Am I too sensitive or he just rude?
Q. Would you be upset at your BF for ignoring a "Thinking of you" text you sent to him? I can see he opened it but he didn't respond. About an hour later, I saw he was on Facebook for 45 min til 11 p.m. While he was on FB I sent him a heart on ...
A. 18 August 2017: This one incident is too little to give a valid opinion. We don't know if it is a one-off, what the circumstances were or how your relationship is in general.
And what about you? Are you over sensitive? Are you jealous? As much as you would like... (read in full...)
How best to take time from busy office for interviews?
Q. My company consists of 7 people including my manager. We are a small company but work exclusively for a major client. One of my colleagues recently left the company and the work has been redistributed to us. It's short term manageable but not ...
A. 18 August 2017: If they are short staffed they won't fire you unless you do something really bad. Over in UK we have Skype interviews sometimes which can save a lot of travel time. Perhaps that could be an option, particularly if your new potential boss understa... (read in full...)
Why can he have an orgasm now?
Q. been with my bf 21 yrs.he has never had orgasim from oral,we broke up 7 months ago now were trying to work on getting back together,when i give him oral now he does have orgasims why not before please help me understand....
A. 18 August 2017: Dear lady, does it matter? Are you looking for a stick with which to beat him? Why not accept that your time apart has helped improve your sex life and enjoy being together again.
There could be an infinite number of reasons why he is now clim... (read in full...)
Married but falling for someone across the world
Q. I'm married with 3 children. A few weeks ago, I met a wonderful man in a pub in Edinburgh. He's Australian and was on a cricket tour. We instantly connected and got on do well I found myself being attracted to him. We shared a kiss at the end of the ...
A. 16 August 2017: I do like Nora B's answer. Your marriage needs a bit of sparkle in order to put some fun back in to the bedroom and other aspects of your married life too.
Make this a project for you both and leave Mr Impossible on the other side of the plan... (read in full...)
How do I curb his frantic sex?
Q. I currently started dating this new guy and everything is going great only problem is that he is insatiable. We have only been on two dates and we have spent both nights together however the first night we just made out and I spent the night th...
A. 16 August 2017: Honeypie is right. You have just given in to whatever he wanted. Try using that little word, 'No'.
The other thing that crosses my mind is that he may not have sexual contact for some time so he has a lot of catching up to do. That won't last. This... (read in full...)
Help me end my loneliness
Q. Has anyone else ever felt completely alone? I feel like my friends are drifting away from me. I also feel like I will never find someone who will actually treat me the way I deserve. I guess my question is have you ever felt alone? And what did you ...
A. 16 August 2017: I may have said it before but being alone isn't the same as being lonely. If you are comfortable with who you are and how you fill your time you won't be lonely.
Do you have interests? Do you pursue them, or do you wait to be invited? When you are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is waiting after a fight for me to says its all my fault. I'm not going to do that again.
Q. Hey all, My partner of five years and I had a fight two days ago and we haven't spoken since and I miss her a lot. Usually I am always the one that goes running back and gets us to make up but I'm just tired of her never making that effort. ...
A. 15 August 2017: Judging by what you tell us I don't think you are overeating. She sounds like someone I wouldn't want to know. Ca n you stand to let her go?
She is trying to exercise her dominant position over you. It's not a partnership. It sounds like it is movi... (read in full...)
I found out that one of his closest friends was also a past sex partner!
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend who I have been dating since the end of 2015. In the beginning few months of our relationship, he told me that he was still friends with this girl whom he had dated and had sex with. I was pretty cool with it because ...
A. 15 August 2017: You need to relax on this. He has been honest and open. It is possible just to be friends with ex partners. He may have interests in common with her that he doesn't with you. I'm pretty sure they won't have spent much time talking about you.
Y... (read in full...)
Should I back off being friends with him?
Q. I'm a member of a sports club and have been for a while now. We meet a couple of times a week and it's great fun. About a year and a half ago I became friends with a guy in the group. We share a similar sense of humour and background. This has led ...
A. 15 August 2017: It is a question of degree, and only you can tell what is and is not appropriate. If you feel it is becoming uncomfortably close then, of course, back off. As people in your group are assuming you are together then it does sound as if your ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriends stuff is still a his place!
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost a couple months. He was w/his ex for a long time and still has her stuff tho its been awhile since they broke up. Her stuff is still there and I want it gone, I don't want her to have any hold on him. He has ...
A. 9 August 2017: Well, I suppose if she doesn't come and collect her goods after being asked then she can be charged for storage if you want to look at legalities.
However, closer to home, you do seem to come across as being implacable over this. Remember not ever... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriends stuff is still a his place!
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost a couple months. He was w/his ex for a long time and still has her stuff tho its been awhile since they broke up. Her stuff is still there and I want it gone, I don't want her to have any hold on him. He has ...
A. 9 August 2017: I've looked but I can't see a question in here. You have stated you feelings quite clearly so now you have to decide what you are going to do about the situation to bring a successful resolution. Suggestions? 1. Take some boxes around to your boy... (read in full...)
I am in love with my brother's best friend
Q. Ok so I really need advice!!!! My brother has been best friends with this one guy for like ever. His friend M. Has known me his entire life and I never thought of him as anything else but like a second brother. But my brother and his friend drifted ...
A. 8 August 2017: The answer is to move on. If he can't make up his mind about you then the thing to do is date someone else. Did he say you were the girl he was going to marry? Well he needs to get a move one to make that wish come true.
I think if you were to be m... (read in full...)
Why do I want attention all the time from men?
Q. Why do I always enjoy attention from men I can't have? I am a single good looking girl (I'm not trying to be vain but just to paint a picture) and unfortunately I have not had luck in finding a loyal honest man- I have honest though that at work I ...
A. 7 August 2017: Men aren't as stupid as you might think. We know a butterfly when we see one. When you stop acting like a butterfly perhaps a discerning man will take you seriously. That takes a little bit more honesty on your part and the willingness to be ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband of 4 months look at me with disgust?
Q. My husband doesn't tell me I'm beautiful anymore. He yells at me. Demands things. And the hugest thing is he looks at me with disgust. The only person that matters the most to me. Seems to be overwhelmed with disgust whenever he sees me. I ...
A. 6 August 2017: The reality of marriage has hit him. He thought he wanted it, or maybe he felt pressured into it, but now it looks a long way to the finishing line and he hates it.
I think the next time he is unpleasant to you just ask him if he would like it to b... (read in full...)
I need to rephraze the question to my boyfriend
Q. Me and my ex got back in contact September last year we split as he started too work away more then me finding out he met someone else and had a kid with her. Long story cut short he has split with this girl and we have started hitting things o...
A. 5 August 2017: This isn't a question you ask out loud. You know whether someone loves you by the way they treat you. Actions speak louder than words don't they say.
Why do you think he keeps coming to see you? Is it because of your cooking? Is it because he like... (read in full...)
Our family holiday has upset partner's ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I are taking his son, (6) from a previous relationship on holiday with us in September, along with our son (19 months). My sister, brother in law and two nephews (3 and 4) will be there too. I thought everything was good between ...
A. 5 August 2017: One can only imagine, but my guess is that she resents the fact that her ex' now has another (happier) life with you and that, significantly, she is excluded from this holiday with your family.
The only bargaining tool she has, and a means to hurt... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a good guy but I don't know if I am wasting my time
Q. My boyfriend dated a French girl for 2 years and was very open about it. They went on vacations, posted affectionate pictures online and lived in as well. They broke up amicably and remain friends. My boyfriend and I started on a rough note. I wa...
A. 3 August 2017: It sounds to me as if you are scaring the poor guy to death. You seem to be coming on too strong too early. Just chill and let things take their course. No-one makes a long-term commitment at the start. You take a day at a time and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes out with a male friend who makes her feel uncomfortable being too touchy
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months was recently on a night out without me present. She has a few guy friends that I know about that she's been friends with for a few years along with her girl friends and they were all out. One of her guy friends was too ...
A. 3 August 2017: You need to clear this up with her. Ask her if there was a reason she lunched with this man after expressing a distaste for his behaviour. You might also ask if if it is OK for you to take another female to lunch. Personally I don't see any harm in ... (read in full...)
Wife pushed for my promotion and now we're both miserable
Q. I work in a science/technology/research field and I like my job. I have been at the same organization for over 20 years with increasing leadership roles. My last was leading a team of engineers performing tasks I enjoyed. Salary was very good, ho...
A. 3 August 2017: Time to change jobs. Use an outplacement company to help you find what you really want to do next.
And stop working such long hours. It is essential that you, and your company, to get the work-life balance correct. You will be more effective when... (read in full...)
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