New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

How do I materialise this online association?

Tagged as: Online dating<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (4 September 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 September 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have been using online dating and started talking to this guy 3 months ago. We quite quickly got to messaging each other everyday. He has a really busy job and when I kept suggesting meeting up he would say he is working late so can't meet and at week ends he was always busy with other things.

He deleted his dating profile a few weeks after we started messaging and said to me he was new to online dating and wasn't sure about it and that i was the only girl he was looking to meet up with. Eventually after 3 months of chatting we managed to meet for a coffee and the connection we had online was there when we met face to face over an hour and half.

We continued messaging after our date but then since he hasn't made any effort to set up another date and still uses the busy at work excuse. He keeps telling me how he's only seeing me and he really likes me but doesn't make an effort to see me which makes it hard for me to believe what he's saying. I don't want a message buddy or to have to wait another 3 months to see him again.

I really like him and want to progress things. I don't know how to tell him this without coming off too strong or pushy?

View related questions: at work

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 September 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntMaybe he is only just meeting with you, but if he was interested in something serious he would make more off an effort to arrange a second date! Why don't you set up a date? Show him that you are interested? I think sometimes women forget men need reassure as well sometimes.

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (4 September 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntHe is happy keeping you as a messaging buddy. He is either not that into you, not ready to date properly (has be perhaps recently split up with someone?) or he still has a partner and is just putting out feelers.

In your shoes I would be perfectly honest and tell him YOU are looking for more than a text buddy. Tell him you get the impression that is all he wants and that, if he really wanted more, he would have made more of an effort. See what he says and take it from there.

I suspect you will need to let him go and find someone who wants a relationship on a similar level to what YOU are looking for.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (4 September 2017):

Honeypie agony auntI agree if he REALLY liked you he would make a bigger effort to spend time with you and get to know you.

I would just tell him that you wish him well and that you had hoped more would have come of the meeting each other but that you respect he has other priorities, but so do you.

Then you CUT the contact and move on.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (4 September 2017):

I think you should throw this one back in the sea. He probably just isn't that into you like Denizen says. Guys who are really serious about someone MAKE the time.

And even if he is genuinely really busy - you want to date somebody that you can actually spend time with. So you and he are incompatible in terms of what you want out of a relationship.

May as well cut your losses now.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (4 September 2017):

Denizen agony auntHe isn't that interested in you no matter what he says online. He is stringing you along. He may be lying to you too about your being the only one.

If I were you I would be too busy to see him and keep looking for something better. You deserve someone who puts you before everything else.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "How do I materialise this online association?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.031289900001866!