Is this something I can fix by correcting a few actions in our relationship? Do I give her space and trust that she will end up with me? What do I do?

A male age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My gf of 1.5 years recently told me that she likes a guy from work as as more than friends but is unsure about what to do. She said she loves me and she doesn't love him because it is too early to tell. She said she recognizes that it is unfair to me but still wishes to hangout with the guy to see what happens. She said she does not see herself ending up with him for work reasons and stuff. She cited the fact that there are a few qualities about me that she doesn't know if she wants to deal with the rest of her life, and that this guy has endearing qualities but she hasn't known him long enough to judge anything by it. She said she wants a break so she can figure out what she truly wants, but I don't do breaks because I don't think I could get over the wondering what she did while we were on one part. She said she plans on still hanging out with him to get to know him better and proceeded to tell me it's a phase and that if she had to gues she would end up with me. I think the more they hangout the more she will like him because it's hard to see negatives in someone at first. I really want to stay with her because I know she wouldn't cheat on me while they are hanging out, and she still wants to hangout with me. Is this something I can fix by correcting a few actions in our relationship? Do I give her space and trust that she will end up with me? What do I do?

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