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How do you cope and embrace change?

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Question - (23 September 2017) 5 Answers - (Newest, 23 September 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, *atnip writes:

How do you cope with change. More so change within the work place. I work in an office and have been here for many years . I do like my job and the company i work. Obviosly i know things change and people come and go. At the moment we have a good team in here and its going to be changing. They are moving people out and new people are coming in. In the past we had some not very nice people in the office and it was so nice to get a good team. I know this happens in the work place.

I am a little anxious about the changes coming and it made me think about how to cope better with changes in general. I know life changes without us realising. Why do we fear it so much.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (23 September 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntThis, too, will pass.

If it is not what you would wish for, remember nothing is permanent. If you love it, enjoy it while you can for it, too, will pass.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (23 September 2017):

Anonymous 123 agony auntYou have to learn to detach yourself. You have to realise that you are there at a professional level and not let external factors influence you. It's only normal to feel the way that you are, but for the sake of being realistic, try to not be so emotionally invested. Because as you said, people will keep coming and leaving but you have to carry on and the only way you can do that is by being practical and pragmatic about change.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2017):

I meant to say:

" I see that everyone performs their tasks and assignments timely and with proficiency."

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2017):

Anxiety comes from anticipation of a repeat of the worse case scenario; based upon past events that traumatized us.

That's if you always look at things from a negative or pessimistic point of view. You can't foresee the future; so the fear is unsubstantiated. Relax. Wait and see, react when you know what you're concerned about.

You don't get to choose your co-workers, they are more or less incidental.

So what can you do? You focus on doing your job, not the people you work with. Matters of personnel are handled and managed by supervisors, managers, Human Resources; and ultimately by the hierarchy of corporate executives, or the owner(s) of the business. It's not a social-gathering, it's your workplace. You keep the constant mindset that change is coming, and always will.

Businesses can only survive if they evolve and change. They have to keep-up with the times. They have to roll with the economy, and they have to have the right work-force to maintain solvency and profit. It's about the bottom-line; not who likes whom.

It is a desirable work-environment to have nice people around you. You sometimes have to build bridges and prove yourself to gain respect from co-workers. As life and the world goes; bad or unfriendly people are always around us.

I run an office. I know there are cliques and pecking orders; that's just the way life goes. That's social order; and how people relate in groups and social settings.

I enforce company policy and maintain order. I see that all workers treat each other with respect, and behave according to the guidelines of our ethics-manual; and in compliance with the company code of conduct. That's what they pay me to do. I see that everyone performs there tasks and assignments timely and with proficiency. It's getting the job done.

If you feel mistreated or your rights are violated by a co-worker; take it to your supervisor or HR. Suffer in silence or get another job; if you're afraid to speak-up.

Poor and sloppy management means chaos and disruption among the employees. If your company doesn't set the stage for order; then people feel intimidated or unhappy. Morale of the employees is as important as your customers. Companies that don't realize this fail. They don't make money, and they have a revolving-door of employees. In fact, they lose money. Gaps in staff and loss of employees slows productivity and kills profit. If you work for a business like this; you'll always be on pins and needles. Maybe YOU need a change!

You should just decide to adjust to whatever comes your way. You've worked long enough to know you either adapt, or you move on. Maintaining a positive and professional attitude keeps your mind in the right place. The point of your being on the job is productivity, not socializing. Too much emphasis on your co-workers and not enough on your job will keep you squirming when changes occurs.

Be prepared. You've lasted this long. You can look back at the past; and you'll realize that you did it before; and you can do it again.

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A male reader, Denizen United Kingdom +, writes (23 September 2017):

Denizen agony auntYou ask, 'Why do we fear it so much?' Well we don't. We accept it. We make room for it. We adapt. We look for the positives. And we don't look back.

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