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writes:im going out with this guy for 3 months now, i love him but he is obsessed with football ! its his whole life.. he plays matches every week and in every match he gets badly injured and has collapsed twice before. its very serious! this is really hard on me seeing him get hurt all the time is their any way i can just deal with it ? also i feel like i am always second best to football...any ideas how i can just get over it ! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (30 March 2008):
 Hi,
chill ok? He is into football like a lot of boys, and be real here dude, he is not getting seriously injured all the time is he? You just don't like seeing him going hard into tackles and falling over as you worry he will get hurt.
If you are not into football as much, maybe you should hang out with a boy with more common interests than you.
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (30 March 2008):
 Whenever someone has a passion, trying to stop them is not a good idea. He's young and probably dreams of becoming a football star! Just tell him to be more careful and show him you care, but if you like him, you're going to have to accept football as a part of him.
When you're young, it is natural for your life to take a back seat, so try not to worry. When he's older and being in love becomes more intense, he'll learn to balance things. But for now he's enjoying his life.
If you find it all so difficult, maybe he's not the boy for you!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Maybe this passion will fade away in time or maybe he will name his daughter as his favourite football team. You're very young and you'll see in time how priorities can change. If you're worried about his health explain to him in a mild way, not controlling or imposing. For now I advise that you be understanding and if you can't see the beauty of his interest you can direct the conversations to other (common) matters of interest. At young age one tends to exaggerate and there is much to grow and develop and discover one's true interests... Best of luck in this... journey!
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