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How can I get talking to him again without seeming too flirty and desperate?

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Question - (31 March 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 April 2008)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Recently I met this real charming guy, he seems like a nice guy and I want to know him better, when he tries talking to me I kinda avoid him, I don't know why I do that.. now he has stopped trying, how can I get talking to this guy again without seeming too flirty and desperate?

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (1 April 2008):

Collaroy agony auntHi there,

well you have some damage control to do. You see as a guy it is really hard to work up the courage to talk to a girl as you think if she is not interested in you she will tell everyone that you hit on her and then you have to suffer the embarrasment.

Now the fact that you were interested but still ignored him means the ball is in your court.

I wouldnt worry about being flirty, in fact I can see that as the only way you can catch this guy . You have rejected him already so you are going to have to make it obvious that you like him otherwise he simply will not ask you out. You've rejected him already, he won't want to be rejected again.

You are just going to have to ask him out yourself, if you are not prepared to do this then you need to ask yourself why you pushed him away. This is not the old days where the chivalrous male courts the young maiden until she succumbs to his charms, its the 21st century, if you have rejected his advances chances are he's already moved onto someone else.

In your position I would simply ask him out for a coffee, something not too serious but serious enough to show him that you want to get to know him.

Good luck, but it's up to you now!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008):

well if you see him all the time ask him something like I like your shirt or something else about him and when he answer just take it from there good luck!

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