We clearly want different things out of life!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up last year after months of arguing about what we wanted from our relationship. I wanted commitment, a family one day, our own home, whereas he wanted to stay living separately and just carry on taking things slowly. We had ...
A. 10 June 2014: You're talking about the future as if it's the present. If you want a kid now then have a kid. If you don't then wear protection. Having a kid now and later can be two very different things for people.
When I was your age I had a girlfrie... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sleeps on the couch all the time!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been on and off for 3 years and officially dating for a year and a half. We just moved in together into a house with a few friends. We share a room and he's been sleeping on the couch in the livingroom for nights in a row and ...
A. 10 June 2014: If expressing your needs makes you feel like you're smothering him that's part of the problem. Tell him. Plain and simple. Nothing you said here should be a problem for someone who cares about you and your happiness (actually I'd leave out the part ... (read in full...)
My lesbian girlfriend of 4 years had unprotected sex with a guy
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for four years (since she was 17 and I was 18). We have been through a lot together and it's been a rocky relationship to say the least. Her family is extremely religious but they have started to come around, ...
A. 10 June 2014: I can't tell you what her motivation was. What I really think is the issue is your willingness to stay in such a volatile relationship, and with a cheater no less.
Is this what you think you deserve? I'd this what you think is normal? It doesn't ... (read in full...)
Would it be right for me to break up with my boyfriend of 7 months?
Q. Would it be right for me if i broke up with my bf of 7 months? I dont knw but i am so confused. I love him so much, no doubt, and he is the reason why i am not double dating, but im really getting hurt. The worst aspect is dat he doesnt trust me, ...
A. 10 June 2014: Him being quiet doesn't automatically mean there was a girl there. He could have just not answered the phone in the first place. So I think you both have trust issues.
I don't know what to help you with here, but you could just call him if you w... (read in full...)
Starting life from scratch at age 28! How do I start?
Q. What do you do if you realize you have to start from scratch at the age of 28. I got abused in my childhood and sadly I let it affect me my whole life by playing the victim mentality- always feeling sorry for myself and basically just coming off ...
A. 10 June 2014: You only start life from scratch when you're born. You've had 28 years to become the person you are today. You may not think that's a whole lot, but it's what everyone else has. Besides, many people are still screwing around at 28.
I'd start by... (read in full...)
Do I throw away all the good things I have with him for some facebook/google searches?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much. I've been with him near two years with plenty of commitment on his part. But my heart is breaking because he can't let go of his ex girlfriend from four years ago. I know that everyone says - don't be second choice...
A. 9 June 2014: If this has just started happening I'd chalk it up to curiosity. If this has been going on forever then he may still have a thing for her. Then again if it's not frequent it still could be curiosity.
I've looked up my exes on FB but have absolute... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that he doesn't make much effort to see me.
Q. I’ve been dating this guy for about 2 months. We actually met at a Starbucks – I was working and he walked up to me and we started talking. At first, he seemed really interesting – he kept talking to me even after I gave him attitude for bothering ...
A. 9 June 2014: Sooo... Why don't you ask him? If he says this is all he can offer you than you probably should look elsewhere. ... (read in full...)
What did this kiss mean? And what is my next move?
Q. Hi, after our 7th date together, my date kissed me, before we parted ways and although it was our first kiss shared, he decided to French kiss me and i was not expecting that, although i did enjoy our kiss very much. It was a little arkw...
A. 9 June 2014: I'll keep this simple: you are overthinking things.
There is no "thanking someone for the French kiss I'm really attracted to you" etiquette. Just do what feels natural and this guy will know the real you. ... (read in full...)
Is there any way of getting my ex back?
Q. It's been awhile since I have came to you guys for help. My boyfriend and I of 1 year and 3 months broke up today he said he didn't want the relationship anymore and stuff. He told me the reason he broke up with me is because last summer I cheated ...
A. 8 June 2014: It's hard to say if it's too late or not but he does have some pretty good reason to leave for good. There's no guaranteed way to get someone back, but there are things that will definitely not work:
Begging
Harassing
Fighting
Stalking
Be... (read in full...)
Boyfriend slept with my ex's sister before we met and kept it secret for 2 years. Am I right to be upset?
Q. I live with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. I am 38, he is 41. I have a young daughter and he has 2 young daughters, both from previous relationships. He wanted to marry me and we loved being a blended family together. We have been arguing alot though ...
A. 8 June 2014: The manner in which he told you is the only problem I see. I don't understand why you are so freaked out by this. Did you think he was a virgin?
I also think it's weird for you to expect them to have mentioned it to you. Those kinds of details ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend slept with my ex's sister before we met and kept it secret for 2 years. Am I right to be upset?
Q. I live with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. I am 38, he is 41. I have a young daughter and he has 2 young daughters, both from previous relationships. He wanted to marry me and we loved being a blended family together. We have been arguing alot though ...
A. 8 June 2014: The manner in which he told you is the only problem I see. I don't understand why you are so freaked out by this. Did you think he was a virgin?
I also think it's weird for you to expect them to have mentioned it to you. Those kinds of details ... (read in full...)
I don't think the ex has a right to question our financial decisions
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. My boyfriend has a child with ex wife. Whenever we spend money on ourselves he gets questioned why money was spent on us, and who paid. Recently we went away for a short holiday. His son (13) phoned and asked why he spent money ...
A. 8 June 2014: You're right... (read in full...)
When and how are you supposed to know when the end to a relationship is coming?
Q. I wonder , now my ex girlfriend, I thought every thing was going fantastic, then one day in the park she said it was over, out of the blue. So what am asking, when and how are you supposed to know, when it is coming, I treated her good, her ex beat ...
A. 7 June 2014: The signs vary, and some may not be them wanting out but just the normal progression of a relationship.
Pulling away is a good one. Too many arguments. No, or only a little bit of sex.
What you need to know is that this girl is dysfunctional... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend says oral sex doesn't turn her on. Is she bored or seeing someone else?
Q. Hello, Am 27 years old, am in a 7 months relationship , distance deny us sometimes but we talk over the phone . Most times when we see each other, we do have sex and also perform oral sex together. Recently she told me she doesn't really get arou...
A. 7 June 2014: It has nothing to do with cheating. She either isn't into oral in general, or she doesn't like how you do it. Maybe you're to rough and she is too sensitive? Work with her to see if there's anything you can do differently.
I have usually been com... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got drunk and his friends called his ex to come get him, not me!
Q. I'm so angry right now that I feel like I could burst! My boyfriend of 10 months spent the night at his ex wife's house after a drunken night out with pals, and even though I believe him when he says nothing happened, mainly because when he is THAT ...
A. 7 June 2014: I think you have a decent reason to be upset, but in the end what good is that?
His friends called her, not him. He didn't tell you because he knew you'd get mad. He doesn't understand why you're so mad because he doesn't think he did anything... (read in full...)
I fell in love with her, but she won't talk to me now.
Q. I fell in love with her, but she won't talk to me now. I have trust issues, insecurities, and low-self esteem. But all of it suddenly disappeared when I met this girl. This girl (Let's call her Jessica) and I are in high school where I'm a juni...
A. 6 June 2014: What do you do now? Forget about her. She doesn't want to be your friend or your boyfriend. She doesn't care about apologies, clarifications, or anything of the sort.
I'm being blunt with you because you need it. Don't feel too bad, you don't re... (read in full...)
He didn't call when he said he would and his phone was off ...
Q. Soo my boyfriend is on Holliday with his friends. We have a really good relationship and hasnt done anything in the past to make me doubt him at all, its my own insecurities. I have ben abused with past boyfriends and cheated on a lot. He does is ...
A. 6 June 2014: This isn't evidence of cheating and he is a big boy that can take care of himself so it's not evidence that he's hurt either. While it can make people anxious to not hear from people when they say they'll call, it happens for perfectly legitimate ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 5 months ignores me and doesn't talk anymore
Q. i've been dating my boyfriend for 5mnths now and i love him.he has changed a lot he hardly talks to me and ignores me.when i ask hm whats wrong he doesn't talk.how do i make things work between us?...
A. 6 June 2014: After only five months if you're having problems then it's probably not a relationship destined for long term status.
The exception would be if he has a chemical imbalance.... (read in full...)
After 7 years together how much does the average couple have sex?
Q. Hi there I am just about to move in with my boyfriend of 7 years. I just wonder really how often on average couples who have been together this long have sex? We hardly do anymore. Maybe once or twice a month at the moment. Half the time I ca...
A. 6 June 2014: My wife and I have been together 7 years and have sex once a week or so. Up until a year ago is was more but we've both been busier and it's becoming a little routine, something I'd like to work on as we used to have such an amazing sex life. Kids ... (read in full...)
Should I give this woman more support even though I know we will never be together?
Q. I'm wondering what I should do here. I am middle aged man who has been divorced for around 1.5 years after a long term marriage. I still care about my ex-wife though who basically decided she wanted to move to Florida and not be married any longer ...
A. 6 June 2014: I agree with the other two answers, but with the type of person she is, it's a slippery slope to being taken advantage of, so be careful.
Also, it's not your job to be responsible for her, so if you really don't want to then don't.
If she ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew she had done nude modeling? Would that change your outlook towards her? And would you be able to see her as being more than a sex object?
Q. I have been modeling for an online swimwear site. I was approached by a porn site for nude modeling... The money they offered was amazing! I told them I would NEVER do photos with a man or another woman... Guys: Would you date a girl if you knew...
A. 6 June 2014: I wouldn't care but everyone is different. Be confident in your choices and don't apologize when you don't do anything wrong. If a guy doesn't like it find another one. You are a nude model after all, it shouldn't be too hard. ... (read in full...)
He says on his profile he wants to date 1 woman but he asked Me for FWB-FB and he is seeing others???
Q. On the dating site he said he was looking to date ONE woman 1 on 1 now he asked me if I " was "cool being F**ck Buddies"! I'm really attracted to him and think we could be together well if he let's me in-should I agree and see if things develop ...
A. 5 June 2014: Why do you insist on denying what this is? You're someone to kill time with. THAT'S IT. If you start asking him for more the same thing will happen again.
Either relax and enjoy the sex and casualness of what you have or find someone else who... (read in full...)
Did she lie about being pregnant / having an abortion?
Q. I hooked up with this girl 9 weeks ago, we're both teenagers, she told me she loved me after knowing me for only a day. she became annoying and shes a psycho so I blocked her number for 2 weeks. After we had sex she asked me "what if I wasnt really ...
A. 5 June 2014: First of all, you're an idiot. Bluntness is required here. This chick is having random sex with guys she meets on the internet and you're having unprotected sex and cumming inside of her??? I know you didn't know about the other guys, but that's the ... (read in full...)
How do you know if it's going to be just FWBs or lead to something else? I want to avoid being used!
Q. This is a general question which I'm sure will have varied opinions but I'm asking because of situations I've been in which I just don't know how I could have prevented. I'm going to use the classic girl / boy situation because it seems the most ...
A. 5 June 2014: You can feel free to ask a guy what he's looking for early on. Many will tell you the truth and St the same time it's a chance for you to tell them what you're looking for.
If you're on different pages from the beginning, it can save you time and... (read in full...)
He looks his ex up less and less, will the hurt fade from him eventually?
Q. I know that my boyfriend loves me and wants to be with only me, however he was very hurt when him and his ex girlfriend broke up nearly four years ago. We have been together a year and a half and live together with plans to marry next year. He ...
A. 4 June 2014: I think four years is more than long enough to get over someone.
It also sounds to me like you're trying very hard to convince yourself that this doesn't mean anything and the only issue here is your jealousy. I disagree. I think that he's not... (read in full...)
A row after dating for 7 weeks and he's backed off. Should I leave it?
Q. Myself and the guy I'm dating had our first argument last week. (We've only been together seven weeks), it wasn't so much an argument but a disagreement over his behavior. He got all defensive, as well as going on the offensive to the point wer...
A. 4 June 2014: Maybe he thought the same thing (if this is how she reacts I don't know if I like her).
You also say he's clearly ignoring you but that he's busy in school. It's likely that the timing for your fight was bad maybe he's too busy to worry about an... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's constant lies?
Q. My husband and I have been together for four years, married for two. Everything is great in our relationship about 99% of the time, but his constant little white lies are causing huge arguments and it's really starting to rip us apart. His lies ...
A. 4 June 2014: Some people are just chronic liars. It's a defense mechanism learned as a child that sometimes goes away but often doesn't.
I'm guessing there are professionals trained to deal with it. Maybe you could talk to him and tell him that you're n... (read in full...)
Friend with benefits has an ex visiting from overseas and told me not to contact him or visit him while she's here! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing and sleeping with a man for just over 9 months now. Just out of the blue, he told me his ex from the USA is coming over to stay with him for a month. First he said it was without warning, and then his story changed, saying it was ...
A. 4 June 2014: Do you understand what a friends with benefits relationship is? Aka a "fuck buddy"? You'd have a reason to be upset if he had committed to you but he didn't, end of story. ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my own opinions about my new manager, or believe what the secretary says about her?
Q. I recently started a new job (office work). The manager is nice at a glance. She is a bit picky and micromanages but what manager doesn't? Anyway there is a secretary working here and from day 1 she has tried to misguide my opinion about my mana...
A. 4 June 2014: What if the Secretary is the crazy one? And based on what you say that sounds like the more likely option. ... (read in full...)
How do I Make him stop flirting and cheating?
Q. We have been married for 16yrs, with two children, our youngest is 16. From 2005 my husband has been cheating on me. In 2010 we almost got divorced but he apologised and vowed to stop and seek counselling but that didn't happen. We have been to ...
A. 4 June 2014: You have two choices: accept that he is the way he is and that he won't change, and hopefully figure out how to be content with that, or divorce him.
Actually there is a third option I forgot about. Stay with him and keep hoping he'll change (... (read in full...)
Is this long distance relationship worth sticking with?
Q. I'm in a LDR I see my boyfriend 20-25 days in a year, I'm feeling like he doesn't care too much anymore. It's all about his work, where he wants to leave and I'm expected to be happy with that. Is it worth being in a relationship like that? ...
A. 4 June 2014: What is the point of this relationship? What's the plan to end the LDR status? If you don't have one then it's not worth it. Period. ... (read in full...)
Am I being a gold digger?
Q. I am in a struggle. I met a nice guy last August and we have been dating ever since. Prior to that I was in a long relationship with a man from the US. He is starting to put a bit of pressure on me to take the relationship to the next level and I ...
A. 4 June 2014: He works 68 hours a week. That's insane, and if you're going to work that much you better be paid well. In my opinion raising a family and enjoying life requires time to do so (money doesn't hurt).
I imagine he doesn't have a lot of energy t... (read in full...)
Should I just skip going to his country now after his response?
Q. What would you do in this situation? I met this cute guy on my last trip last year to a foreign country. I was by myself and I went to this bar. He owns it. We started talking and he offered to show me around. Was very sweet, but we never were...
A. 4 June 2014: It's hard to know, but if you'd go to his country either way then you should still go. Don't make him being there a major factor, then you won't be disappointed if it doesn't happen.
Also, you could probably still pull off a trip to the mountain... (read in full...)
Help me sort out my crushes!
Q. I like this boy and he likes me back but we have decided just to be friends so we don't ruin our friendship. The thing is I kinda want more than that but I'd not know how to tell him!! Then he has this mate who is like a brother to me who I use to ...
A. 4 June 2014: I think that you should look elsewhere. Both of these guys seem to be more interested in friendship than anything romantic. ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I can't imagine myself with anyone but her
Q. Recently my girlfriend of 2 years and I have split up. This is all because of me. I was a jerk to her and didn't appreciate what I had and of course now I realize and of course I want her back.Now I'm only 17 and a junior in high school but I feel ...
A. 4 June 2014: Been there too; and while it sucks and you probably feel like it'll never get better, it will.
Plus, you've hopefully learned a lesson. Think of a relationship as a fire. If you don't feed it with the proper fuel it'll go out. If you give it ... (read in full...)
Is a tumor an STD?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend of four years found out from a doctor over three weeks ago that she has a tumor in her ear. We were devastated by the news but we're doing the best we can to cope with it. She's already scheduled for a surgery. While sitting ...
A. 2 June 2014: Just don't have sex with her ear and you'll be fine. ... (read in full...)
Telling my best friend that I have feelings for her?
Q. Hello there, I have this best friend of 5 years whom i had a crush on at the start of our friendship but we had a talk about it and decided just to be friends. i was able to get over her and became best friends (i even dated someone else at ...
A. 2 June 2014: This is the definition of a rhetorical question. You know that there is literally zero reason to tell her you like her. NONE.
There is absolutely no scenario where this will result in the two of you beginning a satisfactory relationship. NONE.
... (read in full...)
Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?
Q. I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but ...
A. 2 June 2014: No he won't be disappointed... But as others have pointed out if he is, is that the kind of guy you want to be with anyways? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't seem interested in the pregnancy and he's been talking to his ex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 months. We dated for nearly a year back when we were in highschool (9th grade) before he moved. We lost contact for about 5 years. Well I am now 19 weeks pregnant with his child. This will be my first...
A. 2 June 2014: I'm sorry you're stressing out so much, but for the sake of the baby you have to try and figure out how to relax.
One thing to remember (almost every guy I know can vouch for this), is that pregnant women can be a little... nuts. So what seems li... (read in full...)
How / Where do I begin asking questions about his past?
Q. I am a school teacher that recently moved to China for employment, and have a boyfriend living in the USA that is ten years older than I am. We have been dating for one year, and he has a lot of baggage. He has two children from his marriage and ...
A. 2 June 2014: Instead of simply satisfying your curiosity, what do you hope to achieve by asking him for personal relationship details? ... (read in full...)
Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?
Q. I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but ...
A. 2 June 2014: I can't be sure unless you send me a picture.
Honestly though, I have preferences, just like he does or anyone else for that matter. I like black hair but I don't shun women with lighter hair.
The truth is, the majority of guys are just ha... (read in full...)
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