I told her how her behaviour had affected me so she left with another guy
Q. My ex's solution to everything while we were together was to always storm out in the middle of a discussion. Or snap and break up with me about just about anything, and then leave me standing there wondering what the hell had just happened. So many ...
A. 30 August 2014: You were with someone so crazy that you became crazy yourself. Fortunately there is a cure: forget all about her and pretend this never happened. Learn a lesson while you're at it. Don't stay with someone who doesn't make you happy or who makes you ... (read in full...)
Could he like me? Or would he just use me?
Q. Hi So I liked someone for three years in college and never had to courage to tell him. But I'm pretty sure he knew and didn't act on it. Which is fine, I mean if he doesn't feel the same way. It took me a long time to get oer this passive rej...
A. 30 August 2014: It wouldn't surprise me if he was horny and thought you'd be willing to sleep with him with only a small amount of effort on his part. Otherwise,turning up out of nowhere doesn't make a lot of sense.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't look at other girls...lying?
Q. Basically, my boyfriend lies about looking at other girls. I've always known that men, even in a committed relationship, look at other women. Obviously I know some do it more than others and for some there's just glance. My boyfriend claims he ...
A. 27 August 2014: This is the biggest non issue I've ever heard of. He has eyes and they function properly. So he looks at women, men, cats and dogs. Don't get upset about what you imagine he's imagining. ... (read in full...)
Expecting a baby with Bf. Looking for accomodation. Bf suggested adding a female room-mate. I said no. Was I wrong to say no to his idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I are currently apartment hunting. We are expecting a child in a few months and have been looking for a 2 bedroom apartment with little luck. The other day he messaged me telling me that one of his female coworkers was looking ...
A. 27 August 2014: You are overthinking things and you made the right decision. There's no reason to have roommates, that's asking for trouble.... (read in full...)
She said she's not into sex but now seems to want a relationship. What should I do?
Q. I have known this woman for 20 years. We are now both divorced. We've been dating basically just to get out of the house and we enjoy each others company. The first date we went out on, she stated she's not into sex out of no where. I thought gee I ...
A. 26 August 2014: She just wanted to throw it out there, sort of like "btw, I have herpes." You didn't leave so maybe she feels like you're okay with it.
And even if she does have sex with you, it's not going to last. I'd just be honest,tell her you enjoy her frie... (read in full...)
I go on a weekend away and come home to a boyfriend with what looks like a love bite on his neck
Q. Hi everyone! I'm just wanting your opinion on whether I'm being naive here! Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years, I've never had a reason to not trust him! This weekend I went away with my friends for bank holiday and he went out ...
A. 26 August 2014: If he offered to call him right then and there then it's likely he's telling the truth. If he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him then you should give him the benefit of the doubt.... (read in full...)
A drunken night of kissing and cuddling meant nothing to my friend! How do I respond back to him?
Q. Hi everyone, i hope you can help!! I'll try and make this as short as i can! Ive been friends with this guy since school (like when we were from about 10) and a year ago we reconnected as friends and even though he was at uni out of london, whene...
A. 26 August 2014: A drunk hook up is a drunk hook up. The only issue is that you expected something to come from it. It's too bad nothing did but there was never a guarantee it would.... (read in full...)
What is best in giving oral sex to a man?
Q. I hope that my question is appropriate to be posted. I edited it and re submitted it but i don't understand why it is being said that i am asking a new question. I am again asking the same question. My question concerns giving oral sex to a man. I ...
A. 25 August 2014: Your friends read too much Cosmo. Watch some pornographic and see if the women only concentrate on the head. Even if it's the most sensitive spit you can over do it so you need to spread the stimulation out. Plus it's boring to only do one thing.... (read in full...)
How do I know if this girl had sex before me?
Q. hello, I have a girlfriend. last month i had sex with her,this was my first time.after did the sex lot of confusion created. according to my girl friend she was also first time but during sex i seen her membrane had already broken and vagina is lo...
A. 25 August 2014: If it was a big deal why didn't you wait for marriage? You have to take her word for it or not, but her vagina won't tell the whole story.... (read in full...)
.I don't understand why I should be faithful and invest in a relationship that has unstable future plans
Q. I have been dating this man for a year and a half and I need a solution to a problem. We are in a long distance relationship an hour and a half drive away.I live in a big city and he lives in a small town. I am willing to relocate to another big ...
A. 25 August 2014: I don't understand the connection between your problem and being faithful...
Cheating will get you sex, not a family. Since he is unwilling to compromise find a man in your city who will. There are plenty who'd be willing I'm sure.
Unfortu... (read in full...)
I am constantly being used by guys!
Q. Hi there, For some reason, I'm constantly being used by guys. It all started when my boyfriend had slept with me then cheated on me with another girl. Ever since then, I've had no self confidence and doubt myself a lot. I thought it was time for...
A. 24 August 2014: Well what do you expect from a teenage LDR? Instead of feeling used, learn a lesson about reality. He likes you, I see no reason to doubt that. But how is he realistically going to move to where you are at his age?
Btw, the first guy cheated ... (read in full...)
Does my longtime friend suddenly want an affair with me?
Q. A former female co worker and I have remained friends after she quit her job. She's married I'm divorced. I have been invited to their house a few times over the years and her husband is a nice guy. When I meet this woman for lunch it's been nothing ...
A. 24 August 2014: Yep. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are not speaking .... AGAIN!
Q. Well my girlfriend and I arn't speaking again. She literally makes me feel nuts with how double standard she is. We were talking about how you can fall in love with two people, she claims she would be okay if I cheated on her and fell for someone...
A. 24 August 2014: Oh man, what a disaster.
I'm not going to bother telling you all the ways this girl is terrible because you just got done telling me. But, I am going to ask you a simple question: Are you happy? If not, what are you with this crazy woman? D... (read in full...)
Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new?
Q. I got a question, i'm a gay guy and I love straight men, especially buff or frat guys. I can't get enough of them. Why are some straight guys so scared to try something new? ...
A. 27 July 2014: This has got to be the most obvious answer to anyone who puts an ounce of thought into it. ... (read in full...)
She took my virginity and now she's all cold?
Q. So... Sort of a long story. I'm a 19 year old male and up until recently had been a virgin. Wanted to lose it to someone I care about. Well, I've been falling for this girl for a while, she knew the situation and was falling for me, but had a lo...
A. 21 July 2014: Well, don't take it personally, but she was attracted to you and probably had imagined that sex with you was going to be great and a wonderful experience. The fact that it was kind of (predictably) a wreck has probably made her less attracted to ... (read in full...)
Should I give it time to develop? I feel confused about my Online long distance friend. I really like her.
Q. Hi everyone Sorry, new to this site so not exactly sure how it works but I'll just ask away. Well basically I'm in a sort of confusing position with this girl who is my best friend. She's from Taiwan and we've been talking (online) for at ...
A. 19 July 2014: It wouldn't surprise me if it was the distance that made her not interested. What would be the point of a relationship with someone so far away? ... (read in full...)
Why are some younger guys physically attracted to older women?
Q. When you write that question on google, you get a lot of answers such: having their life together, being more self-assured, more open sexually, etc etc, but I was wondering how some younger men find bodies with signs of aging attractive, what do ...
A. 19 July 2014: As youwish said, men's attractions aren't always reflected in popular media. You'd think guys only liked skinny women if that was the case.
I do think your concern is valid though, he may not find you as attractive in ten years. That's just a q... (read in full...)
People hurt me all the time? How do I prevent this?
Q. I have a problem of loving certain people too much (or should i say im blessed) but soon or later get hurt. Usually people i consider my close friends, guys that could be my potential boyfriend, some elderly people who inspire me or even my family ...
A. 16 July 2014: It sounds like your problems aren't only about other people. I think you'd really benefit from counseling services, that's the only advice I can give you. You have a victim mentality, and until that changes you'll always have these problems. ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like one of the girls I've invited to a sleepover. What should I do?
Q. So I want to have a sleepover with four friends (5including me) but my parents do not approve of one of my friends and say they don't want me to invite her. The problem is, not knowing my parents would object to her staying round, I told her my ...
A. 15 July 2014: Did your friend do anything to deserve it? Is this just because of her appearance?
If she actually did something that they have an issue with, then I think you need to be honest with your friend and tell her that your parents "feel uncomfor... (read in full...)
My wife of 20 years invites a man to stay the night at our home? Is this weird?
Q. Hi, Is it strange that my wife of 20 years invites another man to stay the night at our house? She apparently arranged this visit several weeks back, but didn't let me know about the plans, ask for my opinion, nor tell me until a few days bef...
A. 15 July 2014: If there isn't something wierd about that then you're wierd! ... (read in full...)
Want to be exclusive but wondering if it's too early?
Q. So I met this girl online a few months ago and we got on really well and have texted every day and spoken most days. We've met up twice and I really like her and she likes me a lot too. Most recently she stayed the night and had a great time (we ...
A. 14 July 2014: Why haven't you seen each other more? Is this an LDR? If it is, then I'm imagining that it'd be okay to be exclusive. If she's local, or within a few hours driving distance, I'm gonna say she's probably not ready to be exclusive for some reason. ... (read in full...)
Chatting online for a month and he wants me to pay his phone bill so we can talk
Q. I met this guy in a dating website about a month ago and he asked me to pay his phone bill. It makes me a little uncomfortable because I don't know if he is using me. He says he likes me a lot and has plans to come visit me in 3 weeks (lives 7 hours ...
A. 11 July 2014: Either the beginning of a scam or he's a total loser. Have more respect for yourself! ... (read in full...)
Is my husband mentally abusing me?
Q. Ok I don't know where to start if am honest in 21 years old and have a 2 month old baby. I've been with my husband 3 years and married for one. I am occasionally told from family I need to leave him as I'm getting abused. I have lost all my ...
A. 11 July 2014: There's absolutely no reason to stay with him. None. He is an abusive piece of crap and you're miserable. If you stay with him it will not only affect you, but your child as well.
You need to arrange shelter with your family then have people c... (read in full...)
Is it possible to gain back trust once it's lost? What if the person is a repeat "white liar"?
Q. I will keep this question as simple as possible. Is it possible to gain trust back once it's lost? How? Has anyone ever dated/married someone who told numerous "white lies" but never cheated or lied about something extreme? And lastly, if ...
A. 10 July 2014: White lies are a defense mechanism from childhood. Some people never stop telling them. It doesn't mean they'll go out and cheat on you, it just means they lie as a gut reaction. ... (read in full...)
Her ex crush is moving into or 8 person apartment!
Q. Hey guys, I havent been on here in a while, but I figured it was a good time to ask a question that has been bugging me for a while. First, a little history: In August, I moved into my apartment (duplex, 4 people per side). I met my neigh...
A. 10 July 2014: And if she cheats? You'll find out she's not the right person for you and move on. If the relationship is to last for a long time then something like this won't prevent it.
It's probable that she still finds him attractive... If a nice looking ... (read in full...)
Guys, would you initiate/maintain physical contact with a girl you aren't interested in?
Q. I am not sure what to make of my crush's physical signals. Guys, would you initiate/maintain physical contact with a girl you aren't interested in? This guy I like is sort of a friend of a friend, so I know him, and we've gotten to know each oth...
A. 10 July 2014: I don't see the point in over thinking it. This is the 2010's, it's okay for you to ask him out on a date and make the first move. He may just be timid. Or, he doesn't like you. But that's for him to decide, not you. Rejection isn't the end of the ... (read in full...)
He only put the tip in. Am I still a virgin?
Q. I don't know if I'm a virgin or not.. Help? I was with him and he kept fingering me and tryed to make it easier for him to get it in.. Well, when he tryed to put it in It definitely hurt. He told me he only got the tip.in and that's all.. But I ...
A. 9 July 2014: I don't think it really matters unless you wanted to wait until marriage. If you did want to wait you probably would have had a hard time anyways. Just because you're not a virgin doesn't mean you can't still wait. A technical definition is not ... (read in full...)
Is any man excited by an average looking female body after watching porn?
Q. I am concerned that my bfs constant access to a never ending stream of physically perfect women in porn to look at and masturbate to is causing him to get bored with my appearance. He simply doesn't seem excited by the sight of me anymore yet if h...
A. 9 July 2014: I prefer real looking women. There are plenty of those in porn, so I avoid the fake barbies on the occasion that I do watch porn.
However, some guys like that look. Maybe he is one of them, but it's more likely that he appreciates variatio... (read in full...)
His lack of response and removal of profile probably suggests no desire on his part. Should I still contact him on facebook?
Q. So, I found this cute guy on okcupid. I messaged him, he messaged back, with clear enthusiasm. We wrote back and forth for three weeks, sometimes essay-grade responses, from his part and mine. I am on vacation abroad, due back in October. He knew ...
A. 9 July 2014: It sounds like he met someone else. No point in contacting him. ... (read in full...)
Love triangle or 3 broken hearts?
Q. My fiancee and I have been having threesome's and I have been letting him sleep with other women. I don't really have a problem as long as I am involved... he doesn't feel comfortable letting me sleep with other men which is annoying and stressful ...
A. 8 July 2014: Jesus, you need to stop being afraid and speak up. ... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: I agree with him however it's your house and regarding the sleeping arrangements, you should have been clear to them about what time you need to go to sleep by if they have a problem with that offer them the living room to sleep in.
If you're t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend not going to my graduation but going with his friends. What does this say?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend flr ober a year. Were quite serious and are currently living together and saving for a new home. Were very much in love and generally get along great. The thing is its my masters graduation this week. I got 3 tickets, o...
A. 8 July 2014: It means graduations are incredibly boring and he doesn't want to sit through it. Yes it's a little selfish, but don't read too much into it. ... (read in full...)
How do I get the approval of my girlfriend's family and friends?
Q. Three years ago I started dating an amazing girls named Jessica. We had a great relationship, she was sweet, fun no always up for an adventure. You can say I have always flirted with danger, I live for excitement but I needed up getting mixed up ...
A. 2 July 2014: You're just going to have to prove them wrong. Baking cookies won't get you out of this. ... (read in full...)
My wife flirts with guys. Which type of flirting is more of a threat to our relationship? A stranger or an ex?
Q. I know this is a weird topic, but bear with me here. Over the years I have caught my wife flirting with strangers. I would not say it happens often, but maybe once every couple of years. I don't think anything has come of these momentary obses...
A. 1 July 2014: They would both upset me. If I was you if have an open minded, non confrontational conversation about what drives her to do this. In my opinion if something isn't fixed she'll eventually take it to the next level.
In her defense I've spoken t... (read in full...)
I am primarily attracted to men who don't seem to find me attractive and it hurts. I'm well educated, articulate and curvy. What do I need to consider or do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'd really value your thoughts and advice on my situation. First I'll give a bit of background to give you a better picture. I'm a 24 year old black girl from London and I am primarily (but not exclusively) attracted to white ...
A. 28 June 2014: I think that one of the problems is that you don't know when a white guy will find you attractive and a white guy may not know when you'll find him attractive. It's always assumed that people of the same race could possibly be attracted to each ... (read in full...)
My current guy is great, but I don't feel the sparks like I did with my ex
Q. I am in a relationship with someone who is great and loving to me. We have been together for a year and a half now. Long before meeting him, I met someone when at college. I was smitten with him (he was just a year older), and I had strong feelings. ...
A. 27 June 2014: Many people feel like they love the people they have to chase. What it really is is desperation. I know that sounds harsh but it's usually the truth. You were desperate for his love. You didn't feel sparks, you craved his approval. Similar feeling ... (read in full...)
He hasn't responded since sex in the stairwell
Q. I recently rekindled with this guy I met once several years ago. I ran into him at a party and there was definite chemistry and the night ended with a sexual encounter in the stairwell. We agreed to meet up later that week. I sent him a text the ...
A. 27 June 2014: Grrrrr, it really bugs me when people rudely criticize other people for having casual sex by saying "he got what he wants so he'll never contact you again."
This is total bullshit. Do guys want sex once and then never want it again? Is that how... (read in full...)
Married with kids but think I'm still in love with my ex!
Q. Fifteen years ago I met this guy at work. We were both in our mid 20’s. We dated for two years and towards the end of those two years I got pregnant. The relationship was already starting to crumble. I ended up not having the baby and hated myself ...
A. 27 June 2014: So an ex smooth talked you and you conveniently forgot your past... Doesn't exactly sound like the makings for a healthy new relationship.
I think the right thing to do here is to put an honest effort into your marriage. You may have made a m... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas on how to fix this broken feeling that my wife has? Is there anything beyond talk therapy that might work?
Q. My wife and I have been married for six years. We have one child (a toddler) together. About a year ago, my wife stated that she was questioning whether or not she wanted to continue our marriage. I was in absolute shock. She stated she had been ...
A. 27 June 2014: Is it possible that she suffers from depression? Maybe she needs to be seen for that specifically. My wife began having doubts about our marriage a couple of years ago. Long story short she went on a mild antidepressant and things have been great ... (read in full...)
I caught my boyfriend on dating website with profile. He denies it. Do I tell him to take a hike?
Q. Hello So my bf of 3yrs was caught on a dating site. My friend happened to ne on the same site and alerted me. I confronted him and he had some lame excuse for being on it. I asked if he had met anyone off of there, and he said no of course. He sa...
A. 26 June 2014: In his defense some of those dating sights require you to make a profile in order to view other people's profiles. I was curious about what kind of people were on dating sites in my area and created a fake profile to look.
I had absolute... (read in full...)
I called off the wedding. But how do I get past the guilt if I leave him?
Q. I was until recently, engaged to be married. I called off the wedding because my fiancé yells a lot, is very stressed (life choices, poor planning, disorganization, plus regular stresses of job, kids, etc.), blames me and others for everything, ...
A. 26 June 2014: A little bit of guilt is natural, but certainly better than being miserable for your marriage. Just dump him for God sakes. Just hearing about him is annoying I can't imagine being with someone like that. ... (read in full...)
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