Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?
Q. I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but ...
A. 2 June 2014: No he won't be disappointed... But as others have pointed out if he is, is that the kind of guy you want to be with anyways? ... (read in full...)
Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?
Q. I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but ...
A. 2 June 2014: I can't be sure unless you send me a picture.
Honestly though, I have preferences, just like he does or anyone else for that matter. I like black hair but I don't shun women with lighter hair.
The truth is, the majority of guys are just ha... (read in full...)
Now I'm just a friend because it took me so long to get the courage to tell her I like her
Q. Dear agony aunt, ive known this girl for around a year now and a few months ago she started taking an interest in me. While I was dying to reciprocate the feeling, it took me a while to pluck up the courage and tell her I like her. But now it's as ...
A. 2 June 2014: What do you do? Learn from your mistake and don't let it happen again.
If you don't make a move soon enough women will often lose interest. It's better to risk rejection too soon than too late. ... (read in full...)
Am I to blame? My job's on the line.
Q. Hello guys and girls. So my question I will keep brief. Just need opinions really. I am the director of a public relations company. We have this new brand for a big well established company (they've put it out as side project) the new brand we...
A. 2 June 2014: I don't blame anyone (your client, boss, or you) for being upset. It could be the product or maybe you aren't the right agency for the product.
Either way "who's to blame" is hard to know and hard to be concerned with as it just doesn't matter i... (read in full...)
Should the bestman go to wedding if his girlfriend is banned?
Q. should my boyfriend who is bestman go to his bestfriend wedding ? i am his girlfriend of 20months i had an unforeseen fallout with the bride tobe and now she and her groom have banded me from the wedding. it was a petty disagrement about a party ...
A. 2 June 2014: The right thing to do here is to not be selfish and put your bf in a position to have to make that choice. Sorry to be harsh but it's such an obvious answer.
Let him go without making him feel guilty, you can be happy knowing that 3 out of 4 peo... (read in full...)
I know she has no interest in the activity, so why did she join my group?
Q. When my ex girlfriend and I were together, I could never get her to participate in any of the activities I enjoyed. Now that she's single again, she's deliberately joined one of the groups in which she knows I'm active with. An activity she has ...
A. 1 June 2014: Lots of good answers here. I'd like to add that she may just be a bitch! I had an ex who was mad at me (for God only knows what since I never did anything to her).
She would have done this just to bug me. ... (read in full...)
Would it be bad to tell my girlfriend I want to spend time with my friends?
Q. Is it bad to tell girlfriend I want to go meet some friends for an hour or two. Once she comes to my house she doesn't leave till weekend finishes. I can't get rid of her because she doesn't see me all week. Sounds bad but I'm a guy I like to do ...
A. 1 June 2014: Of course it's not bad. Tell her that you'd love to see her more, but sometimes you need to do your own thing on the weekend.
If you don't learn to express your wants and needs you're going to get walked all over. ... (read in full...)
How do I confront my boyfriend about pictures and files I've found?
Q. Dear Cupid, I having problems trusting my boyfriend who I've been dating for 6 months. He's my first boyfriend and he says he loves me deeply but I find it hard to believe him because of some of the things I have discovered on his phone ...
A. 1 June 2014: You're having a hard time trusting him because he's not trustworthy. If the only thing keeping him from having sex with someone else is you standing next to him, is that really the guy you want to be with?
You can't "talk about it". It's a charac... (read in full...)
Co-worker found out I have a crush on him
Q. So I have a little problem. For about 6/7 months, I have had a crush on a co-worker, and now he knows. So it was my birthday today, and we were all at work. I was given a card from all my co-workers and waited until the end of the day to read it....
A. 1 June 2014: I don't think it's reason enough to be mortified, you're not in kindergarten. The guy observed you and your crush flirting and made a joke about it. I'm guessing if you were flirting with him he already knew.
Instead of being embarras... (read in full...)
Will I just be another notch on his bedpost?
Q. [Mod note: could you please ask the question you'd like the aunts to answer? Your last comment said you need to be so desperate to be with a man like this so why are you even considering such thing with him? Thanks.] Hi dear agony aunts. Thanks f...
A. 31 May 2014: It seems like you know better than anyone what the situation is and what you think is the right thing for you to do.
I have no problem with fwb relationships, but you're openly admitting that you do have a problem with it. So don't do it; you ... (read in full...)
I'm done with dating and want no more to do with women!
Q. I don't even know when to begin...it's like every time I try I somehow get used. My troubles started four girls ago and yet somehow I haven't learned my lesson. Let me tell you about myself; I'm twenty-three, college graduate, and living at home. I ...
A. 31 May 2014: Maybe you got used, but to say you're overreacting would be an understatement. Figuring out women takes a long time for some people, and some people just have bad luck.
I honestly believe you need counseling. Thinking all women are vile and swea... (read in full...)
I'm telling the truth now, how do I get him to accept that and have faith in me again?
Q. I admit to lying quite as lot to my boyfriend about being on some internet sites. That was a few months ago now. Since I stopped going to these sites, he has now stopped believing me. We break up every week, get back together and have a real loving ...
A. 31 May 2014: You caused the lack of trust and now you either have to let time heal his wounds or leave. You can't substantially quicken it.
It may help to ask him how you can prove to him that you're not cheating. Tell him he's putting you on trial but he n... (read in full...)
Broke up with my cheating boyfriend and now I am pregnant, help!
Q. I have just found out that i am pregnant and i am absolutely devastated. My ex put me through hell for the past 2 1/2 years with constant lies, cheating and disrespect. He has alot of issue with porn addiction gambling etc and is involved in crim...
A. 31 May 2014: Yes why not adopt? Pregnancy is not the easiest thing in the world but at least you can feel good about giving the baby a loving home instead of getting an abortion or raising the child in questionable circumstances.
Also, I'm neither pro or a... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my erections when I'm with her in person!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with an amazing and extremely attractive woman. We have spent a number of weeks together in person now in the real world, and I would definitely say we understand each other very well and are very comfortable with ...
A. 30 May 2014: You're nervous. It happened to me I the beginning too. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: I agree that this limbo is now way to live. I know you wanted this year to "fix" things, but it's clear that she is not interested in that right now, and being close to you is pushing her away.
All hope is not lost however. Being truly separate... (read in full...)
My question is why some lasses follow you around when you give up on them? Give her a second chance or will that lead to heartbreak?
Q. Hi I was sort of knowing a girl and dating her but I felt she was a bit cold and distant so I thought she's not interested and moved on! To tell you further, I actually liked her a lot and it was sort of heartbreaking to move on! Surely it took s...
A. 29 May 2014: I've found that when people are rejected their self esteem demands them to try and change your mind so that they feel accepted again. As soon as you accept her she'll lose interest. ... (read in full...)
I found out he has another girlfriend but he wont admit it!
Q. Me an my boyfriend have been toghter 16mnts an I recently found out he's been seeing another women.Although he still tries to hide her she makes herself well known around da neighborhood DAT they are toghter my problem is he will not admitt it an ...
A. 29 May 2014: I don't see what there is to be confused about... He's cheating on you, he won't admit it, when she's around he pretends he doesn't know you because he doesn't want to bother her.
Who cares if he says he loves you. Is this how you want to be tr... (read in full...)
Did I over react when I dumped him?
Q. My boyfriend - I guess now ex boyfriend - is in his late 40s. We were dating a year and a half - exclusive for a year and 3 months. Over that time, I brought up the future several times. I want marriage and a kid and am ready to start nesting. He ...
A. 29 May 2014: You're definitely with the wrong person. So, forcing him to be what you want is only going to make you and him miserable. You have to accept that he just isn't who you want him to be.
Now, go find yourself a guy who is better for you so that you... (read in full...)
How can I say I'm sorry?
Q. I had been with a guy for a few months, friends before that for a long time. When we were friends he was seeing someone else and during their break up he came to me to vent and talk over. We became close. We fell out and had not been speakin...
A. 29 May 2014: Other than expressing your sorrow what are you trying to accomplish? If the two of you are finished what reason do you have to do anything else other than honestly express your sorrow by telling him you're truly sorry. For what I'm not even really ... (read in full...)
How can I have a conversation with him about this without being arrested for a domestic dispute?
Q. After 25 years of marriage I have come to realize my husband is a liar...about big and small things. I do not trust him at all, and I find it difficult to believe anything he tells me, even if it's about the weather!! I want to confront him abo...
A. 29 May 2014: What good will a conversation do? You've been married 25 years to this guy, you already know the answer to that.
That leaves you with two choices for happiness.
Stop "invading his privacy" and accept the fact that you won't always know wher... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my addiction!
Q. Am 25 yrs women with no child and I need help. I'm confused ever since the is this lesbian used to give me attention and loving I start have bad addiction of musterbating each and every time when am alone I use my spare time on bedroom and ...
A. 29 May 2014: It's pretty normal to go through a "constant masturbation" phase. It's not good that it's hurting your sex life, but that may have more to do with you wanting to explore your sexuality.
If I was you I'd talk to your boyfriend and ask him what he'... (read in full...)
My ex gets bored seeing his son and lets him down
Q. I try and try to encourage a relationship with my ex-boyfriend and our son, but every time he lets us both down. If he isn't drunk or high, he would rather be with his mates or just being a total waste of space. I'm passed the point of anger, ...
A. 28 May 2014: It's time to stop expecting anything from him so you can stop being disappointed, but don't limit visitation, it'll hurt all of you. Just tell your son the truth (without being biased). If your ex loves your child, make sure that's very clear when ... (read in full...)
Should I introduce this married woman to my wife?
Q. I am married. I met this woman some time back. She seems to be very interested in me. She is married. We used to share lot of sms and our own photos. Recently I told her that she is looking good and if we were not married then I would have asked for ...
A. 28 May 2014: Wow. What a a terrible idea. Of course you don't introduce your crush to your wife FOR NO REASON!
If I was you I'd stop talking to her. What you've done is only slightly inappropriate for a married man, but if you don't quit now it's very lik... (read in full...)
Starting to like a guy I'm dating, but I think hes still looking for others?
Q. Ive known this guy for a couple of months now. We met on T--r (a new dating app), and i wasnt sure about it, but my friend recommended it to me, help me get out more and meet and date new people. Now I've met this guy, and we're suuposed to be ...
A. 28 May 2014: You aren't in a committed relationship so he's not doing anything wrong. You do have the right to request that he dates you and only you, but he has the right to be scared away because of it.
Also, it's not a competition. Just be yourself... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing the girl AND watching her love someone else?
Q. Well, after a year of being with her as great friends, I finally confessed my feeling. She didn't feel the same. The friendship didn't last. Only a week after our friendship ended, I see her with another guy at school. They both are always in each ...
A. 28 May 2014: You should remember that you can't lose what you never had. This girl was a friend who you had a crush on, not a girl who broke your heart.
Also, you may feel bad about being rejected, but you weren't rejected because there's something wrong wi... (read in full...)
I'm scared to be a single mum with 2 kids at 20, but I don't think I love my fiance anymore. What can I do?
Q. I'm in a very tricky dilemma. I don't think I love my fiance anymore. Me and my fiance have been together for over 2 years now and have a daughter together and I'm pregnant again. Although we are constantly arguing, we don't get along anymore, I ...
A. 28 May 2014: I don't blame you for being scared, but there's only three options here. Stay with your fiancé for the rest of your life; leave him now and be a single mom, or wait until you feel it'd be easier at some point in the future and risk missing out on ... (read in full...)
My LDR can see prettier women in porn, so why bother taking it to the next level?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and we have not yet been sexual in person . Next time we meet we will take it to the next level but in the meantime we enjoy that online but I'm worried about how I can possibly keep my bf interested when he ...
A. 28 May 2014: I can't imagine why women keep comparing themselves to porn stars and comparing sex to watching porn.
Does your bf know what you look like and is he okay with it?
If so, you have nothing to worry about. He can't stick his penis into a por... (read in full...)
My fiancé wants to postpone the wedding?
Q. My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost three years now and we have planned our wedding for about a year now. Our wedding is coming up in July and last week she told me she wants to postpone it because she is scared and she clams to not be ...
A. 28 May 2014: Knowing so little about you guys and your situation makes it difficult to give well informed advice, but my guess is that you just aren't right for each other. 3 years now she still can't follow through?
Have you ever considered that she may be p... (read in full...)
I am fit and petite but I have no boobs. He's a boob man. Is there any chance that he'll consider me attractive?
Q. Would you find a woman with a squatting bum, defined stomach/ faint abs and slight thigh gap attractive, even if she was basically flat chested? I only ask because I'm going to a pool party with the guy i'm dating this weekend and I don't want him...
A. 27 May 2014: If he doesn't like you with small boobs, forget about him; he's the wrong guy for you. There are countless guys who would love to have a girl with your physique.
I started losing my hair in my mid twenties and it was pretty upsetting. I'd wond... (read in full...)
They are all vain, shallow and racist. Will I be alone for ever?
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old gay guy who's never been in a relationship. And I feel really terrible about it. I hate feeling lonely and depressed all the time. But I feel like I'll be alone forever. I know it seems like it should be but the gay community ...
A. 26 May 2014: I have a few gay friends who have complained that the gay community is not great for dating if you are a normal guy... Even in a very gay friendly city here like Seattle. They said it's very fetishised (I don't know the terms) and image obsessed.
... (read in full...)
Why would they be interested in me?
Q. Two childhood sweethearts. . Looked me up after twenty years.. One grade school kept in touch more than the other from Jr high.. they have children and our grandparents. .and from different states .. I finally have a four old daughter and am not ...
A. 26 May 2014: They found themselves single and it's easier to rekindle an old flame than start a new one. ... (read in full...)
Whose move next?
Q. A man I like, whom I met several months ago and have bumped into a couple of times asked for my number when we randomly saw each other one evening a few weeks ago. I had a missed call 2 weeks ago and I sent a text back to say I saw the missed call ...
A. 26 May 2014: I wouldn't worry too much about rules, I'd start pursuing what I want. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been texting a much younger man
Q. Here is a the concern two weeks ago I found out that girl I have been dating for five years and living with four and a half was texting a younger man. I found this out one night awhile she was sleeping with phone still in her hand. The text were ...
A. 26 May 2014: You have two choices. You caught her at the beginning of an affair. Had you not found out, there's a very real chance it could have escalated. You need to either figure out and fix the problem or decide that it's time to move on because you're not ... (read in full...)
Is it my mood swings or is my husband not interested in me anymore?
Q. Hello. I been been with my husband for 5 years and married for over a year. When we got married and had a baby we stayed at my mums till we found a place since 5 months ago but he never likes to stay there and he prefers to stay at my mum which ...
A. 26 May 2014: Instead of staying with you he stays with your mom? That's wierd... Can you think of any good reason he'd be staying with your mom? Is your mom single? Maybe their together? I know that may sound ridiculous but it's an idea.
For some guys, no... (read in full...)
He was so eager to see me. Then we had sex. Is he now fobbing me off? If yes, then why?
Q. I want an honest opinion, please don't judge me. I met a guy on a night out a month ago in a different city. We talked every single day via messaging/phone calls ect. a significant amount. We agreed on a date for him to come and see me at my pla...
A. 26 May 2014: Everyone is always so quick to say "oh he obviously used you for sex and you should learn your lesson because you got what you deserved!"
Well, he said he had a ton of work to do, so let's assume he's busy until you have more reason to suspect ... (read in full...)
No strings attached sex with coworker - could this progress into more?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I need to understand how men's mind work... There's this guy at work I go out with sometimes. We both made it clear that we don't want to be in a relationship and that "it's just sex, no strings attached". I know mys...
A. 25 May 2014: Of course guys fall I'm love with women they're having sex with. Just search the archives here and you'll find plenty of situations where guys fell in love with their fwb.
It's probably less common then with women, but it absolutely is a possibil... (read in full...)
He cheated and I can't move past it
Q. It's been over 3 years since my partner cheated on me and I can't move on from it. It sounds silly but I can be having a good time with him and it will crop up in my mind It always comes back to that and I throw it in his face all the time. He did...
A. 23 May 2014: My opinion is that a one time mistake can be just that. But if someone cheated multiple times then there's a problem.
Maybe they're insecure, selfish, lack judgement, a nymohomaniac, they're not attracted to you (unlikely), you don't have sex... (read in full...)
I cant stand my girlfriend anymore but hate breaking up when she's at such a bad place in her life
Q. *First off, just for clarification purposes, I am a female, 21 years old, and I'm in a relationship with another girl. When I first met my girlfriend, it felt like something straight out of the movies. We were very much in love with each other ...
A. 23 May 2014: You've tried to help her, I'm sure, but she needs to want to help herself. If you stay she'll do her best to drag you down to her level.
Plus, when someone abuses you, you have to leave. It's unfortunate that things are going this way for her ... (read in full...)
I have no idea what I've been doing wrong in all my relationships with men, they never want to define the relationship with and never wanna move forward.
Q. Today the guy im seeing and I decided to go our separate ways. We had been seeing each other 6 months and I decided to ask the defining questions "when do you wanna meet my friends, come for a drink Saturday";"my mother really wants to meet you, how ...
A. 22 May 2014: Everyone is trying to be helpful but I think trying to say that you should have a serious relationship and meet his family, etc before having sex is a little old fashioned. While it may be fine advice for the right person, it doesn't apply to most ... (read in full...)
Did I get played? Should I tell my husband?
Q. i am a married 37 year old woman. my story is complicated. first of all i married my high school sweetheart 12 years after we graduated. we had two different life styles. he was a drug user. i only drank. he got off drugs with my help. we married ...
A. 21 May 2014: Your question here is all wrong. Who cares whether or not you tell your husband. You married the wrong guy and need to get a divorce. ... (read in full...)
My child's Grandmother is trying to take my son!
Q. My son's biological father, we'll call him "Cord", his mother "Jackie" is trying to get visitation with my son. Cord is deceased, he got drunk on Father's day, never called to see my son or ever acknowledged that my son was his, and he fell off of a ...
A. 21 May 2014: It's not for you to decide if she's fit to see your son, she has a legal right. I also believe it's the right thing to do.
I'd definitely require supervised visits. So if you want to avoid court, offer her supervised visits under the conditio... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I would have been there for her verbally, but obviously intimacy with you at this point is not on her wish list, so you should avoid it. Right now it's more likely to push her away then bring her back.
If it's appropriate again you will probably... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I think at this stage your judgment is probably clouded, so it's hard to say if there was anything going on. I know that when things were rough between my wife and I every time her phone twitched I got paranoid.
One thing you need to realize ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 10 May 2014: That situation is both good and bad. At least being away from each other could give her time to miss and appreciate you. Without a little space she may start resenting you. So I'd definitely give her room.
My wife and I went through a similar ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 1 May 2014: I wouldn't start wondering about cheating. So many people keep their phones close by at all times. It's only a sign of cheating when you're looking for that kind of thing. And going out with her friends on Wednesday sounds reasonable for a woman who ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 26 April 2014: The more you try to force things at this point, the more likely it is she'll never want to hear from you again. Be a man and go along with the separation 110%.
Enjoy your freedom. There's a possibility that seeing this will cause her to second g... (read in full...)
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