My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: I agree that this limbo is now way to live. I know you wanted this year to "fix" things, but it's clear that she is not interested in that right now, and being close to you is pushing her away.
All hope is not lost however. Being truly separate... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I would have been there for her verbally, but obviously intimacy with you at this point is not on her wish list, so you should avoid it. Right now it's more likely to push her away then bring her back.
If it's appropriate again you will probably... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I think at this stage your judgment is probably clouded, so it's hard to say if there was anything going on. I know that when things were rough between my wife and I every time her phone twitched I got paranoid.
One thing you need to realize ... (read in full...)
I can't connect emotionally.
Q. Hey everyone, I have started dating again after a small break and here I am stumbling again on my biggest problem: creating an emotional connection. Emotional connection is necessary in order to escalate things. Yet, I am unable to push things f...
A. 12 May 2014: You can only have so much small talk. Maybe you need to do things that don't center around "topical conversation", that way you won't feel the fear of running out of topics.
Do something together that creates new conversation, like a hike, a ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted he saved an inappropriate picture of his daughter's friend!
Q. Hi There, Agh, I am actually a embarrassed to write about this. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to any of my friend about it in the last 3 days. I have this habit of going through my boyfriend's email, phone, etc. It's a bad habit, I ...
A. 12 May 2014: I didn't excuse anything, I'm simply stating that her age doesn't make her invisible. It's just reality and we can pretend it's not if that makes you more comfortable.
I also believe that knowing her age should have prevented him from staring,... (read in full...)
How can I stop my bf messing me around?
Q. Dear all.please advise.My bf of three years .has a nasty habit of messing me around .e.g I ask him what he is doing later on this evening.He says he doesn't know.I text him a bit later saying I thought he might like to come over.He texts back saying ...
A. 12 May 2014: Good luck, you made the right decision. It will get easier with time. If you haven't let him know that you don't want to have anything to do with him any more, you should. Tell him that you're going to block his phone number, etc and do it. That way ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted he saved an inappropriate picture of his daughter's friend!
Q. Hi There, Agh, I am actually a embarrassed to write about this. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to any of my friend about it in the last 3 days. I have this habit of going through my boyfriend's email, phone, etc. It's a bad habit, I ...
A. 12 May 2014: Let me tell you all a little secret that guys don't want to get out:
When a female has the body of a woman, you still visualize them as a woman even if they're underage. In no way does it mean we want to sleep with them.
It hasn't been long... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted he saved an inappropriate picture of his daughter's friend!
Q. Hi There, Agh, I am actually a embarrassed to write about this. I couldn't even bring myself to talk to any of my friend about it in the last 3 days. I have this habit of going through my boyfriend's email, phone, etc. It's a bad habit, I ...
A. 12 May 2014: No your behavior us not normal, and you know it, so stop.
I think you have an accusatory mind, so that you literally are looking for reasons to get upset with your boyfriend. Literally!
What you found is a picture he'd taken before that he o... (read in full...)
I can't connect emotionally.
Q. Hey everyone, I have started dating again after a small break and here I am stumbling again on my biggest problem: creating an emotional connection. Emotional connection is necessary in order to escalate things. Yet, I am unable to push things f...
A. 12 May 2014: Maybe the problem is with your perception of the situation and not the situation itself.
For example you said, "There is something missing, even I feel it. The conversation is going nowhere, flirting seems inappropriate as it does not match th... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 11 May 2014: Thanks for the update ... (read in full...)
I told her I couldn't be with her anymore because she is married and she didn't take it well!
Q. Hi everyone, I have been dating a married woman who is in a same-sex marriage. We have only been dating for a month and a half and I have already fallen for her. We have done a lot of stuff together and she has never treated me as her mistress. ...
A. 11 May 2014: This woman is a mean cheater who will never fully give herself to you. You're wasting your time with her. ... (read in full...)
Can you lose weight in the vagina area?!
Q. I have a vagina question! So, in the last couple of years (since I've been with my current BF), I've noticed that my labia looks different. They seem a bit longer - for want of a better word... I have lost about 8 kilos or so in that time. Is it po...
A. 11 May 2014: You're fine. ... (read in full...)
Will he grow out of his stubbornness? Or is this just something I'll have to get used to?
Q. Hi everybody. Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, but we recently had a 'break' from the relationship. We've been together since we were 17 years old and everybody always used to say that we would be the couple that would be ch...
A. 11 May 2014: He definitely won't grow out of it, but he could learn to deal with it in a more mature manner by seeing a behavioral therapist (I think that's what they're called).
You sound just like me and he sounds just like my wife. No matter how much rea... (read in full...)
How can I stop my bf messing me around?
Q. Dear all.please advise.My bf of three years .has a nasty habit of messing me around .e.g I ask him what he is doing later on this evening.He says he doesn't know.I text him a bit later saying I thought he might like to come over.He texts back saying ...
A. 11 May 2014: Either dump him or be miserable, it's your choice but it seems pretty obvious to me. There are plenty of guys out there.
When being with someone is worse than not being with them it's time to go. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my bf messing me around?
Q. Dear all.please advise.My bf of three years .has a nasty habit of messing me around .e.g I ask him what he is doing later on this evening.He says he doesn't know.I text him a bit later saying I thought he might like to come over.He texts back saying ...
A. 10 May 2014: You need a new boyfriend. You talked about it, he didn't care, what more can be said? He's not the right guy for you. ... (read in full...)
I accidentally sent my step-mom a sex message intended for my girlfriend!
Q. Okay. . .I know some of you will be tempted to think this a prank message and OH BOY I REALLY wish it was at the moment. My girlfriend and I got into "the mood" and decided to send sex messages and pics to each other. We were really getting i...
A. 10 May 2014: At least she didn't respond that she always knew you wanted her. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 10 May 2014: That situation is both good and bad. At least being away from each other could give her time to miss and appreciate you. Without a little space she may start resenting you. So I'd definitely give her room.
My wife and I went through a similar ... (read in full...)
I ruined my second chance.
Q. so cupid, Recently, my boyfriend and I broke up for the second time. things that happened: In the past, I have cheated, and I paid for my actions, I was devastated. so that led to this girl in my class who's in his class, and she's been feeding ...
A. 10 May 2014: The best thing you can do is move on. Maybe he'll change his mind and start talking to you later. But if you pester him you'll only push him further away.
The side benefit is that if he doesn't come back, at least you're on your way to moving o... (read in full...)
Why would a girl date me when she isnt over her ex?
Q. I have met a girl online and we are going on a date tomorrow i know I shouldn't but I have been looking at her online activity and I saw her boyfriend had broken up with her 1 month ago. I was looking more into it and she put online just hours ago ...
A. 10 May 2014: Honestly, I'd be very weary of this since it sounds like she's open to him coming back. So unless she seems amazing you may want to pass.
The "why" is definitely to either help get over him. For some people, they just can't be alone either. ... (read in full...)
How important is the look of "it"?
Q. Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...
A. 10 May 2014: I don't really understand what you mean either, but unless there's some completely abnormal thing the guy probably won't notice anything except for the fact he's gonna get some.
Women compare themselves to porn stars and models more then men do. ... (read in full...)
Should I go through with leaving?
Q. Married for 7 years with a 5 years old kid,My problem is my husband shares everything with his family. I dont have any privacy at home . I I am a private person and he knows it. We have talked many times regarding this issue, last night I found ou...
A. 10 May 2014: Well, sometimes a third party can facilitate change that two people can't. So maybe you should separate for the time being then see a marriage counselor. Marriage can be difficult and sometimes divorce is inevitable, but it's worth doing whatever ... (read in full...)
Will I be limiting my chances of having a Boyfriend considering that I don't like giving blow jobs?
Q. Will I have limited boyfriend chances unless I give blow jobs?? I don't mind hand jobs, but I'm not a person who feels comfortable with the idea of a penis in my mouth. I also don't particularly like the idea of a guy ejaculating on me, but I don't ...
A. 10 May 2014: Some guys will cheat on you because of it. Some will be happy you don't want to give because they don't like to receive. Some wouldn't date you because of it. Some would prefer it but can live without it.
The key is to be honest. Attract a man th... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because of anxiety, but doesn't want to give me details
Q. Hi, I am was dating a girl who I got on really well. One day she called it off. Not in the usual way, it sounded quite strange. Anyway, she has kept in touch with me for quite a while now. She sounds like she wants to date again. When I asked ...
A. 10 May 2014: It could have been a lame excuse to break up with you for all anyone knows, so who knows? Also, it doesn't change the fact that she doesn't want to be with you. End of story. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a blowjob but I can't do it due to past experiences
Q. My current boyfriend of almost a year really wants me to give him a blowjob. He's asked a number of times and at first I thought nothing of it and said I would at some point, but more recently he's become more naggy on the topic. This has made me ...
A. 9 May 2014: I'd just straight up tell him that you will not give him a be, now and possibly forever.
Personally I feel like you need to learn how to deal with what happened. Maybe you need some therapy, because it's causing problems still.
You should kn... (read in full...)
Can you please help me find a way to get my boyfriend to be intimate with me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm happy to say I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now we get along great and it's very rare we fight and when we do it's never a long and we always learn to reconcile with each other quick. The only thing th...
A. 9 May 2014: Sorry but this is just a fundamental difference between you. Some people just don't care for intimacy, which is fine if you're also that type of person.
If not its a deal breaker.
I know my advice won't cause you to end your relationship and... (read in full...)
I have a job, but not a role, should I quit or wait until I find another job or they fire me?
Q. it's not a relationship question but I don't know who else to ask. a few weeks ago my supervisor told the human resources he no longer wished to work with me (some sort of misunderstanding happened and he thinks I screwed up, which I didn't but he ...
A. 9 May 2014: So quit and go find another job. Why isn't that the obvious choice to you? ... (read in full...)
Is the new hair, the underwear for the gym, and texting her friends for her pleasure or for someone else's?
Q. Ok over 2months ago me and my girlfriend joined a gym together thought it would bring us closer which it didn't cause I wanted to use the weights and she was only the light equipment for the first few weeks we went 2 times a week then our kids had ...
A. 9 May 2014: I don't blame you for having a lot of questions, especially because the sex has stopped and she asked you not to go to the gym. This last part needs to be addressed and, combined with everything else is very suspicious. ... (read in full...)
His ex is still in the way!
Q. Hello, i´ve been dating my BF for almost three years. And his ex is still in the way. I mean, they stayed friends after the break up, but my bf lives in another city than her, so they chat on fb from time to time..I don´t live with my bf yet, he ...
A. 9 May 2014: Sounds like the only problem here is you. You're being jealous, rude and immature. Work on your behavior if you want this problem to go away. You good do that by asking yourself why you should be mad at this girl, or anyone else involved. She's ... (read in full...)
I thought all men liked giving anal sex! Is he a weirdo?
Q. Am a bit confused about the situation am in it also may sound a bit silly. I have been with my partner now for 7-8 years now and I should think i know him but.... When we got together ok we experimented with each other in the bed room department and ...
A. 9 May 2014: From what you described I think he may be a lesbian.
I don't care one way or another about anal unless I'm with a girl that's into it, if that makes me gay so be it. ... (read in full...)
Is it safe or a good idea to go clubbing on my own?
Q. Is it safe or a good idea to go clubbing on my own? All my friends are settled or far away. If i want a night out i have to go on my own I have done it a few times i feel like people are looking at me thinking im pathetic with no friends or im a ...
A. 8 May 2014: It totally depends on where you want to go. Also, you shouldn't drink, or if you do, be very careful with your drink and stick to 2 drinks, no more.
My sister in law had something put into her drink but she was fortunate enough to have people s... (read in full...)
Could he be attracted to me at least? How could I become friends with him again?
Q. There is this boy M that I used to be friends with in 9th grade but then we stopped talking completely after a fight.We started talking again occasionally after last summer when we met at a bday party.We are hs seniors now.I was at 2 parties where ...
A. 8 May 2014: I don't think this guy's a very good match for you. It doesn't seem like there's anything that you like about him other than that he might be attracted to you.
I think it's more like he wants to have sex with than anything else. If that's a... (read in full...)
I need advice on getting my confidence back with dating and men.
Q. I need advice on getting my confidence back with dating and men. Sorry I sound selfish but i recently was with a guy who ruined me. I met him a dating site which made me think he genuinly thought he wanted to meet someone. He was nice in...
A. 8 May 2014: Relationships fail. It's just part of life. It's actually a great thing because if they didn't fail people would be even more miserable than they are now. It frees you to find a great guy. A GENUINELY great guy.
So, focus on the future. There ar... (read in full...)
I am fed up of arguing about her wanting breast enlargement surgery!
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice on a frustrating situation that I am in. About 7 months ago I had a breast enlargement. At 22 I was fed up of feeling self conscious, unhappy and miserable about my body. I never ever developed more than buddin...
A. 8 May 2014: I think you're jealous and it's not fair to your friend. If you keep it up you may not have her as a friend.
Also, you are not the reason she's getting them done. Seeing them on you may have helped push her, but she's wanted them for a long tim... (read in full...)
In an LDR for 3 years, we rarely see each other, and have had sex 3 times! She says she loves me but I'm not sure she wants to be with me. What should I do?
Q. Hello.I am a 31 year old guy and I have been in a relationship with a younger woman for the past 3 years.We live around 100 miles from one another but have kept things going but I rarely ever see her and in those 3 years she has come up to see me ...
A. 7 May 2014: What's the point of this relationship? What could you possibly be getting out of it?
Your girlfriend has likely cheated more than you know about and it's even possible she's in a relationship right now considering the lying and lack of communic... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a gay man.
Q. How do people accept being gay so easily? I'm starting to think I'm gay but I don't want to be. Sure I could pretend to be straight for the rest of my life but I'm not sure if that's what I want but I don't want to lead a gay lifestyle either. I ...
A. 6 May 2014: If you think you may be gay, what does that mean to you? I assume it means you're not attracted to women and you are attracted to men. So why wouldn't you want to be gay if that is what you feel you are?
I'm also going to guess that it's because ... (read in full...)
He wants me to move in, but I'm worried about his nasty sister, and my independence
Q. I met Andrew 4 years back. we have Ben dating ever since. He is a very good man and I love him very much We even have a beautiful 5 months baby girl together . He has another of 7 years old call her Anita Anita's mother has been in the pi...
A. 6 May 2014: You should be talking to him about this. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being mad about these 'friends'?
Q. How do you see this situation? Am I wrong for being mad about them? We have a vacation house that we come to from another state approximately 6-7 times a year. Ussualy for kids holidays, just a short break away from work, long weekends, etc. ...
A. 6 May 2014: Sounds to me like no matter who's wrong or right it doesn't really matter. You obviously weren't that great of friends with this family in the first place and you definitely need to make the house rules clear to anyone who lives there.
For t... (read in full...)
She said she's lost passion for the relationship
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me last Thursday because of some mixed feelings and confusion on both of our parts. I pushed her away because I was starting to smother her too much and she lost interest in the relationship and was feeling miserable, at ...
A. 5 May 2014: First and foremost, if it's meant to be it will be. Don't try and force things.
Second, take the breakup seriously and move on with your life. If you keep asking for her to explain, give you a time line, etc, you're going to push her away. Th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cut me out from his life, he seems to be having a great time and here I am with severe trust issues
Q. My boyfriend (have been together for just two months) is on a business trip. We were chatting yesterday, and the conversation began as something like "hi! how are you?" and then we proceeded to talk about his new hotel room and his new job, which I ...
A. 5 May 2014: If you were an unofficial couple then you were dating. Not committed, but dating nonetheless.
Most people tend to take their first relationship seriously and it's fine. The thing is that they don't have the benefit of 20 different people with mor... (read in full...)
My relationship is very far removed from the fireworks and sweeping me off my feet that I'd ideally want from a man of my dreams. Am I being unrealistic?
Q. I'm a ridiculous romantic but starting to think life just doesn't live up to my ideals. Im currently seeing someone and we didn't have a great start (commitment issues that left me questioning his feelings for me). Things are now moving very slowly ...
A. 5 May 2014: I don't know what you mean by hearts and flowers, but in my opinion it's not worth dating someone if you don't get butterflies when you think of them. I'd never settle on that because I've never had to. There are plenty of people out there, so if ... (read in full...)
I'm so self-conscious that I have trouble making friends
Q. I'm normally a very shy girl and don't trust people upon meeting them. Its difficult for me to make friends. My bf has it a bit easier since he's more social. He wants to encourage me to make friends so he often invites me to double dates with new ...
A. 5 May 2014: Behavioral therapy or something similar might help. ... (read in full...)
I went out of my way to accommodate them, and they couldn't be bothered to return the favour
Q. This probably may come across as me being picky but I would like some opinions. I threw my husband a birthday party at our home 2 months ago and we invited a few of his colleagues and their families from his work. 1 particular colleague had ad...
A. 5 May 2014: They're inconsiderate and forgetful, that much seems obvious. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cut me out from his life, he seems to be having a great time and here I am with severe trust issues
Q. My boyfriend (have been together for just two months) is on a business trip. We were chatting yesterday, and the conversation began as something like "hi! how are you?" and then we proceeded to talk about his new hotel room and his new job, which I ...
A. 5 May 2014: You just gave a number of good reasons to dump him. So go ahead. I don't get how him sleeping with someone else two weeks before you started dating had anything to do with you.
The bottom line is that you think he's a bad boyfriend and your own... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cut me out from his life, he seems to be having a great time and here I am with severe trust issues
Q. My boyfriend (have been together for just two months) is on a business trip. We were chatting yesterday, and the conversation began as something like "hi! how are you?" and then we proceeded to talk about his new hotel room and his new job, which I ...
A. 4 May 2014: At two months you should be trouble free if there was any potential at all for this relationship.
You are probably being too needy, that can scare guys away very quickly. He is also not as sensitive as you need someone to be. So my advice i... (read in full...)
Are my expectations way too high? Will I ever find true love before I get too old? Is it the lack of decent guys around, or is it me?
Q. I'm 19. Never been kissed. Never been on a single date. Slightly shy, but capable of leadership. I'm agnostic, slightly veering towards atheism...but waiting till marriage for sex. I have a strange liking for white guys...which shouldn't be a ...
A. 4 May 2014: You may be too picky. Honestly, you seem like quite a catch to me, but there are obviously some issues working against you. The fact that you're having difficulty finding someone has less to do with what you have to offer than where you have to ... (read in full...)
Guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself?
Q. A question for the guys ... Have you ever seen a woman and been so turned on that you felt the need to go and relieve yourself .... I ask because my bf said he did this before we were together . He saw a very sexy woman one day out and said he went ...
A. 4 May 2014: Your boyfriend seems like he has some self control issues. I've seen women and got extremely horny, but I've never had to masterbate. ... (read in full...)
What Can I Do? She is cramping my style!
Q. I have a friend who is socially awkward or shy. We met when I moved to a new town and I thought she was a nice girl, so I used to invite her to things. But recently she has been really bothering me because she is really clingy and when she comes out ...
A. 4 May 2014: No, you have no obligation toward her other than being a decent person. I didn't mean to seem as if she's blameless here, she obviously has some issues.
I still feel that talking with her is the right thing to do, which you didn't adress in your ... (read in full...)
What Can I Do? She is cramping my style!
Q. I have a friend who is socially awkward or shy. We met when I moved to a new town and I thought she was a nice girl, so I used to invite her to things. But recently she has been really bothering me because she is really clingy and when she comes out ...
A. 4 May 2014: Sorry to say this, but she's not the problem, you are. You can't fault her for the fact that she really likes you and enjoys spending time with her.
If you need space you need to say something. On day two on the bus you could have said "I'm goi... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 1 May 2014: I wouldn't start wondering about cheating. So many people keep their phones close by at all times. It's only a sign of cheating when you're looking for that kind of thing. And going out with her friends on Wednesday sounds reasonable for a woman who ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 26 April 2014: The more you try to force things at this point, the more likely it is she'll never want to hear from you again. Be a man and go along with the separation 110%.
Enjoy your freedom. There's a possibility that seeing this will cause her to second g... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 31 January 2014: I'd run for the hills, the warning signs are all around you. ... (read in full...)
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