Is there something hypocritical about this relationship?
Q. How should I understand this situation? History of a relationship 1. Been dating someone for 2 years. 2. We have had some arguments and she says we are through. Has been like 4 times and we don't speak for a few weeks then everything goes back to ...
A. 6 October 2014: Good riddance! Hopefully you find someone who is better suited to you. And hopefully she can find the asexual virgin she needs.... (read in full...)
Is there something hypocritical about this relationship?
Q. How should I understand this situation? History of a relationship 1. Been dating someone for 2 years. 2. We have had some arguments and she says we are through. Has been like 4 times and we don't speak for a few weeks then everything goes back to ...
A. 6 October 2014: Hypocritical or not, it sounds miserable. You guys are with the wrong people. Set her free and find someone who makes you happy.... (read in full...)
I thought he liked me! What happened?
Q. A co-worker and I really hit it off when we met. He kept calling me pretty and beautiful, he kept telling me the dates me wanted to take me on, he said I was an amazing girl and he couldn't get over how I could be single. He would call me and we ...
A. 5 October 2014: Did you have sex with him?... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend and don't want to leave, but how can I make him see what a monster he is when he's drunk?
Q. My fiance has a binge drinking problem. When we are on a night out, its as if he just can't get enough and he doesn't know when to stop. He blows all our money on it too! And he gets violent.Last night, he was invited with me to a function and I was ...
A. 4 October 2014: I'm sorry, but there is something wrong with him... It's one thing to be violent when drunk. But if you told him that he assaulted you twice when he was drunk and that wasn't enough to make him stop drinking, then run for your life!
Yes, it's har... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin. Is that a turn-off?
Q. Hello my question is pretty simple...is being a virgin at an older age weird or a turn-off? The reason why I ask is because I read online that a some men are turned-off because of the awkwardness during intercourse due to not having any experience. ...
A. 4 October 2014: It shouldn't be a big problem, especially not for the reason you stated.
My concern would be that I may fall in love with you and discover that you want to play the field since you never had a chance, or that you might become attached a little q... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong in our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We used to have a lot of fun together , hanging with friends, drinking, going out etc... I got pregnant right away. After being together for 4 months I got pregnant with our son. The whole ...
A. 1 October 2014: Your mistake was getting pregnant by the wrong guy and trying to force a relationship. There's nothing you can do to fix things since they're not broken.
Unfortunately, its time to accept this and move on.... (read in full...)
Do I ask my boyfriend if he wants more time to himself? Or wants out?
Q. Im been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Lately he has started staying at his house more and more. Im hardly seeing him. Do i ask him out right - "do you want time on your own" or "if you would like to finish ower relationship?" ...
A. 30 September 2014: You're old enough that you should be telling him what you want, not playing games and asking him if he "wants out".
He's a big boy, so you should just assume that if he wanted to leave you he would.
Just tell him you're not happy with the w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially BF/GF for 4 months but have been dating for 6 months. He is 28 and I am 23. My boyfriend says he isn't like every other guy. He respects the idea of making love and prefers to have sex spontaneously. H...
A. 30 September 2014: It just means that love, passion, and sex are different things. Do you love a one night stand you have passionate sex with? Do two people who've been married 50 years who never have sex not love each other?
I'm simply suggesting that he's not... (read in full...)
I know he's a player but my gut says he really likes me
Q. ok so here goes.. I met this guy in march just after i broke up with my ex and we hit it off straight away! its like we just had this little spark as soon as we met each other. I knew he was a player from the beginning and had commitment issues b...
A. 29 September 2014: If denial was a country you'd be living in the capital.
You think he likes you because he's a player... That's their specialty.
The truth is that he's just an asshole. He's not hiding anything.... (read in full...)
What makes a guy lose interest early on?
Q. Another men disappearing question..for the guys. What makes you lose interest in a woman before you have even gotten started?? I spent a little time with someone recently and liked him. He asked me out before and I did turn him down once but...
A. 29 September 2014: I stop for two reasons... Either I feel like the girl isn't in to me or I realize we're not compatible. That's usually it.
Compatibility could mean a lot of things.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially BF/GF for 4 months but have been dating for 6 months. He is 28 and I am 23. My boyfriend says he isn't like every other guy. He respects the idea of making love and prefers to have sex spontaneously. H...
A. 29 September 2014: Not wanting to have sex with you has nothing to do with love, let's get that straight.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex
Q. My boyfriend and I have been officially BF/GF for 4 months but have been dating for 6 months. He is 28 and I am 23. My boyfriend says he isn't like every other guy. He respects the idea of making love and prefers to have sex spontaneously. H...
A. 29 September 2014: You have two choices: find a guy you're compatible with, or accept the fact that you'll probably only have sex a few times over the course of your relationship.
He may not be gay but he may just dislike sex.... (read in full...)
He Lied About Dating Someone - Should I Not Be Friends With Him?
Q. Last summer, I fancied a male friend (used to flirt with him a bit but nothing more than that) whom I got on with quite well. I told him I liked him, and he turned me down, saying that he was already seeing someone. There was a mutual guy frien...
A. 25 September 2014: "I'm already seeing someone" is probably the most gentle way to let someone know they're not interested in dating you.
Don't be offended, he was trying to be nice.... (read in full...)
After 2 months of dating should I ask him where he thinks things are headed?
Q. I went on a first date with a guy I'm currently seeing 2 months ago. We hit it off straight away and have been out together about 15 times since then over the last 2 months. We get on really well and there is a lot I like about him. I have spen...
A. 24 September 2014: If it was a casual fling he'd be gone by now... That should give you some clue. Congrats on holding out, it's a good idea as it does make a guys intentions clearer.... (read in full...)
She spends a lot of time with her ex boyfriend but tells me I'm still her 'one and only'
Q. Hello, I've been dating this girl for 6 months now. It all started when I needed help with getting the size for my suit from the girl I like, because I was ordering for Valentine's Day because I promised my friend, Adele, (who is straight but I w...
A. 24 September 2014: "I just want to get over my jealousy ans all I want to do is be with her".
I'd recommend an open relationship then, because your jealousy is completely justified,so it won't just go away.
She may hate cheaters, but the word "hypocrite" was ... (read in full...)
She spends a lot of time with her ex boyfriend but tells me I'm still her 'one and only'
Q. Hello, I've been dating this girl for 6 months now. It all started when I needed help with getting the size for my suit from the girl I like, because I was ordering for Valentine's Day because I promised my friend, Adele, (who is straight but I w...
A. 24 September 2014: She's cheating on you. I'm not sure if you're actually aware of that or not. Maybe it's time to find someone who isn't just experimenting?... (read in full...)
I came on too strong and scared him off -- any way I can fix this?
Q. A little over a month ago I met a guy and we went on 3 dates. The first 2 dates went amazing and I really felt a connection but on the third date I slept at his place and things got a bit awkward, I kind of came on too strong, asking too many ...
A. 23 September 2014: Uhhhh.... I disagree, you can totally scare a guy off. Or girl for that matter. It's easier to stop seeing someone early on when warning signs start popping up then it is to ignore those signs and have issues after there's a commitment and feelings ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is always breaking his promises to me
Q. So my boyfriend and I are expecting our first child together at the end of next month. I've had a hard preganncy and am currently on early maternity leave my doctor ordered because I am at risk of going into labor preterm. It hasn't even been a week ...
A. 23 September 2014: In his defense, my experience, and that of a number of my friends, is that women are a little crazy when they're pregnant.
My wife would say some similar things to what you're saying and, although that's how she felt, it wasn't always what was... (read in full...)
Why does he stay if I do nothing for him sexually?
Q. Why would a guy who never initiates sex want to go on sites and chat 2 other women ? My partner of nearly 3 years isn't that interested in sex well not with me ... He gets Viagra from doctor and takes it but it always feels like it's staged never ...
A. 22 September 2014: The question isn't "why does he stay with me" it's "why are you staying with him?"
What good is an answer to your question other than to hurt you? Find a guy who'll be happy with you and find a guy who will make you happy.... (read in full...)
It seems like a normal, everyday woman isn't enough for a man anymore
Q. Help after lengthy narriage I finally have been meeting some new people. However, I am finding this whole dating thing quite a struggle . It seems that I am competing against a world where men now want it all ... A thousand women , eternally young , ...
A. 22 September 2014: I personally prefer robots. Women have too many unpredictable emotions and can't lift more than a couple of hundred pounds.
For real though... If men didn't like "real women" (whatever that may be), then there'd be a lot less real women to like.... (read in full...)
Has My Boyfriend Lost Interest In Me?
Q. Basically, me and my boyfriends have been together for about a month now. We met on a youth program that had a 3 weeks during the summer and now runs every Sunday. Before he asked me out, we became really close friends, we were inseparable for most ...
A. 22 September 2014: The best advice someone can give you is to relax, stop worrying so much and be yourself.
If he likes you, he'll like you for the real you. If he's losing interest already then you are just not right for each other at this time. Learning to reali... (read in full...)
We broke up and he wants me to leave immediately, but I have nowhere to go
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 and half years. we have just split up and now he has gone 2 work until late tonight, I have to be gone by the time he gets back. Here is my dilemma I have no friends or anyone who I can move in with and I ...
A. 21 September 2014: Did you do something that makes him not stand the sight of you? If not, tell him you're not leaving until you can find a roommate and then go to a roommate finding website and find one. Sleep on the couch until then, it'll only take a few days. ... (read in full...)
Why does he get angry when I question him about a girl I know has a thing for him?
Q. Hi everyone! I would like some opinions on this! Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years, we did take a 7 week break over the Christmas period due to personal issues. In that 7 week period I was introduced to a friend of a friend,...
A. 16 September 2014: It appears you won't leave him alone when he already told you what happened. Why do you think he's getting mad at you?... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend's lies!
Q. We've been together just over 2 years. We're both 20 and although young can see marriage etc in the future. He's great. He's sweet and supportive and I overall a great boyfriend. The only problem that we have is, his lying. He's not an unfaithfu...
A. 15 September 2014: Some people have an addiction to lying. It's a defense mechanism left over from childhood.
You should encourage him to see a behavioral therapist. Or just accept that this is who he is.... (read in full...)
Yet another Christmas all alone. What do I do?
Q. It looks like I am spending Christmas on my own this year as I am single, childless still since my divorce - so its just me and my dog! In the past I had Christmas's ruined by my ex husband and his family so now I am divorced I don't have that drama ...
A. 15 September 2014: Volunteer or travel to an exotic country to see how they celebrate Christmas. Its easier to make friends in the road.... (read in full...)
Should height be a factor in not picking someone?
Q. Should height be a factor in not picking someone? There's a guy I went out with recently, cute, sweet, funny, and we got along fine it's just that he's so short. I mean I'm short too but he's like 2 inches taller than me and I'm 5'1 I love ...
A. 15 September 2014: Attraction is perfectly natural, it helps to make sure you children will have desirable traits (which is why its always been important for humans and many other animals).
If you have kids with this guy they're gonna be short. Would you care if ... (read in full...)
We're no longer together but I was offended by his actions
Q. I went to a wedding recently with an ex bf. we didn't go as a couple but we went together because we were both invited, our mutual friends would be there as well. during the wedding I noticed him talking to this girl on the dance floor. then I saw ...
A. 15 September 2014: He doesn't Cate enough about you for your needs. You want something that he doesn't seem to want. Live with it or stop seeing him.... (read in full...)
His ex paid for his college and housing, now she wants him to do the same!
Q. I’m almost 26 and my bf is 27, his ex is 29. A little background first; his ex helped him get through University as a full time student while she took care of the expenses of their house and his fees. When they split up after 6 years of relationship ...
A. 14 September 2014: Uhhhh.... Am I missing something here?
If it wasn't for her, he wouldn't be in a position to have this extra money "for your future" in the first place, right?
They had an agreement. He admits that. So by expecting him to honor the agreem... (read in full...)
Do you think I should've had sex with him?
Q. Please help me!!! I had been going out with this guy for 2 years until he dumped me round 7-8 months ago. The reason for this was because he asked me if I'd have sex with him and I said no because we're waaayyy too young, (we're both 13) He sai...
A. 12 September 2014: I don't like it when people say "oh you're only 13 you couldn't have been in love."
That's absolutely not true. Granted a 13 year old doesn't have a lot of experience to compare to, but they are as capable of love as anyone else.
It's possible... (read in full...)
Do you think I should've had sex with him?
Q. Please help me!!! I had been going out with this guy for 2 years until he dumped me round 7-8 months ago. The reason for this was because he asked me if I'd have sex with him and I said no because we're waaayyy too young, (we're both 13) He sai...
A. 11 September 2014: Of course you shouldn't have. That goes without saying.
Regarding why you can't get over him, it's probably because you got dumped. Being rejected plays tricks on your brain to make you think you want the other person when you really only wan... (read in full...)
Do I need to tell guys that I don't shave down there?
Q. Same person who just wrote in about starting over sexually I just thought this was different enough for a new entry--I don't like to shave or really even trim my bush, I do very minimal maintenance.Once you're at that crossroads, where you're ...
A. 11 September 2014: Unless it's a jungle you should be fine, no need for a disclaimer. A mature guy will be fine, if he doesn't like it then it's not your problem.... (read in full...)
It's like whenever something better comes along I get ditched
Q. My boyfriend of 1 and a half yrs is very selfish he has been this way the whole time so i knew what i was getting into but i honestly never thought he would choose his friends over my birthday weekend. His friends planned a get together " boys ...
A. 10 September 2014: Either accept that this is who he is or find someone you're more compatible with. Otherwise you'll have to get used to feeling like crap.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend choked me in an argument and I'm extremely disturbed. What do I do?
Q. I got into a silly tussle/fight with my fiancé a few months ago. She had been moody and snappy with me and her parents all day. At the end of the night I got fed up with her horrible attitude and said I was leaving for the night. As I s...
A. 9 September 2014: Just leave the psycho! Leave her and never speak to her again. Tell her why you're leaving her and tell her she needs help.... (read in full...)
LDR- he needs space, am I reacting right?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with a man i met five years ago and we have been dating since march of this year. i am in love with him and i feel he is too, hes the sweetest, loving, caring and kind man i always wanted. i can be myself around ...
A. 7 September 2014: If he needs space it's probably caused by you trying to be controlling... Insecurity is pretty natural in an ldr, since the other person is probably craving intimacy.
But you have to trust them or you can drive them nuts with questions (where w... (read in full...)
Guys, what would you prefer?
Q. In general, do men prefer a gorgeous woman (say 8/10) who isn't very good at, or interested in, sex? Or do they prefer a more average looking girl (say 6.5/10) who is more sexual? ...
A. 6 September 2014: Sex is more important than looks for sure, but personality is more important than both.
Maybe you don't have an interest in it because you haven't had a pleasant experience with it yet.... (read in full...)
I'm his first and only -- will he regret not having played the field?
Q. We've been together over 2 years. We've talked about marriage and kids and I really think, even though we are young, we're going to be together for a long time and I see him when I think of raising a family together. We got together when we...
A. 6 September 2014: The truth is that he probably will with time, as youost likely will too. The other side to the story is that people who have experienced having sex with other people STILL can get bored. It's just part of a changing relationship over time.
There... (read in full...)
It seems clear that my husband wants something I can't give him and nothing will change
Q. My husband of 15 years and I are currently seperated . A large part of the reason for the separation was his lusting after other women and porn use. He never complimented me . I felt undesirable and very unhappy. We even went through counselling ...
A. 5 September 2014: My wife wonders why guys seem to go crazy for women with their tits hanging out. The truth is that it's not a preference per say, but it's just easier to notice than a woman with more modest bosom.
When I'm with my wife I never stare at other wo... (read in full...)
What does he think now that he's seen that I'm really not skinny?
Q. Ok, so bare with me on this. I'm 24 and I have a "sex friend". We have been seeing each other for just over a year now, but I'm not a skinny girl, and you can see I'm not skinny. I'm a curvy 16 and I've never gotten completely naked with him. I've ...
A. 4 September 2014: Everyone is different. End of story. Some guys live morbidly obese women, some guys like curvy women with bellies, some guys like 'average' women and some guys even like skinny women. There's no way we can know what he thought.
What you need to ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a younger man and I wanted to hurt his girlfriend so I told her about what we did. I thought this would break them but they're back together. What do I do now?
Q. I've been very stupid. 6 weeks ago I started to talk to a man 11 years younger than myself, he was at work when I met him and I asked for his number for a job that I needed doing in my home. I text him and it started off innocently, I ne...
A. 2 September 2014: If he felt anything for you, trust me it's gone and likely being replaced by hate for your attempts at breaking them up and hurting the woman he loves.... (read in full...)
I'm irritated that this girl who is pretty vile personality wise and isn't even that attractive seems to have my crush attracted to her
Q. I feel pretty stupid writing to an agony aunt site but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. There's a guy at work who i have a sort of "crush" on. I've been talk that he likes me, although he's never said it to me. Appare...
A. 2 September 2014: People have their types, for some guys you are it, for others she is. You're not doing anything wrong per say. ... (read in full...)
His first weekend out in America and my B/f got a lapdance and kissed a stripper! The trust is completely gone.
Q. My bf and I have been together for 3yrs. He is younger than me. He had the opportunity to go to Florida to study for a year, which I have supported and encouraged. I was, however, aware of all the temptations that would be there in Miami etc for...
A. 2 September 2014: I think you know there is no easy answer here. You can't force him to be trustworthy, and considering he broke his promises you to his first opportunity, he isn't trustworthy by YOUR definition.
Besides, kissing a stripper is kind of nasty if... (read in full...)
I told her how her behaviour had affected me so she left with another guy
Q. My ex's solution to everything while we were together was to always storm out in the middle of a discussion. Or snap and break up with me about just about anything, and then leave me standing there wondering what the hell had just happened. So many ...
A. 30 August 2014: You were with someone so crazy that you became crazy yourself. Fortunately there is a cure: forget all about her and pretend this never happened. Learn a lesson while you're at it. Don't stay with someone who doesn't make you happy or who makes you ... (read in full...)
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