Was he just in it for the sex?
Q. Dear friends I need your advice. I met a guy when I went to visit my sister cause she had a baby. He was my brother in law s friends. We didn't really talk that much at that time because we didn't really know eachother. Once he left the hospital I ...
A. 1 November 2014: This is a no Brainer: you need to forget he exists and move on.... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he be nicer to me? Should I ignore him, just as he did to me?
Q. I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like. Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my fri...
A. 29 October 2014: I doubt he ignored you, it's probably just that the conversation flowed with her while you sat there waiting for him to include you (you should have included yourself).
It's not rude to ask for one person's number and not the others. He probably... (read in full...)
My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I woul...
A. 28 October 2014: You're so afraid of upsetting your gf and she's obviously taking advantage of that.
They don't exactly have a long history together so if she'd choose him over you then save her the trouble and choose your dignity over your fear of upsettin... (read in full...)
I resent her, and feel bad about not forgiving her, this time. Is it time to break up with her?
Q. On Wednesday night I found out my girlfriend had been actively looking for someone on a dating site, after logging into the account I seen she was flirting/dirty talking with this other person, I confronted her the second I found it. We've been...
A. 28 October 2014: She's a mess and she's found someone who mostly puts up with and doesn't want that to end. Not to mention she's likely very insecure (a huge reason for cheating), so to have you leave really triggers that insecurity.
All of that's not your con... (read in full...)
Heard rumors that she's a virgin. After dating for 5 months, how to bring up the topic of sex?
Q. I have been dating this amazing girl for 5 months, I am 24 and she is 20. We get along great and connect very well, however in the time we have been dating the subject of sex (or anything remotely close to the subject) has not been brought up yet. I ...
A. 28 October 2014: I've never made a habit of bringing up sex with women unless that's the only thing you want. That's what seduction is for.
Initiate intimacy and see where it goes. She'll make it clear what's okay.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me twice so I ended things but now he's begging to come back!
Q. Dear cupid, I'm here again, but I must first thank you all for your tremendous help, I'm glad to be a part of this forum. Pls I seek your advice once again. I've been in a relationship for 7years, and I've lived with him for 2years, my boyfriend is ...
A. 26 October 2014: Hasn't he already promised you this? Why will this time be different?
Has he soul searched to figure out why he's doing this to someone he loves? Has he found an answer as well as a solution? Is there even a solution?
Even if he's faithful af... (read in full...)
If I'm not wanted why did he put in so much effort?
Q. Thank you in advance for your help. This is a bit wordy, but hopefully, the information will paint a more complete picture of what happened. -December 2013: began e-mail contact with a man who had similar interests; we got along very well. -E...
A. 23 October 2014: What did you expect when you clearly stated you treated him as a friend only? You got exactly that,a friend, not a boyfriend.
Also, you do seem to be pretty old fashioned and that's your right. But, I'm guessing it will make dating difficul... (read in full...)
No one will rent an apartment to me because of my children! Advice?
Q. I've been apartment searching for 3yrs and I have been rejected hundreds of times. I have no criminal back, my credit is decent because I never had credit cards. Its not great but not bad its almost 700. People have been discriminating against me ...
A. 22 October 2014: There's got to be another issue... I have kids and know plenty of people who do and they're not homeless. I don't doubt that there are landlords who don't like kids living on their place, but that would only explain a fraction of your rejections.
... (read in full...)
Lost him after 8 1/2 years overnight
Q. 8 1/2 years we were together through all kinds of troubles but after 8 1/2 years he ended it in a cruel way. I think he planned ahead. Came to my house took things he hdId for and ended it by telling me I was selfish stubborn ect.... I was in shock ...
A. 22 October 2014: I know it can be a shock to lose someone you've been with for so long. His excuses don't matter, and your answers won't help. That's just how he gets rid of you. At this point he simply does not want to be with you. And right now continuing to press ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for my girlfriend to sleep in another guy's bed?
Q. I just recently started dating someone new and she has had a lot of friends that are guys most of which state she's hooked up with or has had sex with in the past two weeks ago she slept over at her friends house which was a guy in the same bed and ...
A. 21 October 2014: You are free to set your own boundaries... That's not an outsiders job.
She is free to respect them or not.
You're free to determine whether she is right for you.... (read in full...)
He tries to turn our love making into some sort of sordid porno by imitating what he has watched, which doesn't do anything for me!
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six months. I'm 26 and he's 29. We see each other every weekend and text and call each other daily. Our relationship in general is wonderful and we have lots in common, however,...
A. 21 October 2014: I bet the root of the problem is too much porn. I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's known to sometimes cause sexual issues like ed among other things.... (read in full...)
How do I get over my bitterness toward my ex-husband?
Q. I am so bitter about how financially successful my ex husband is. Ex and I were married six years. It was not a good marriage. He is a very selfish individual, verbally and emotionally abusive, and non committal. I stayed with him because I loved ...
A. 21 October 2014: He's the same jerk with more money. You made the right decision to leave, but if you're jealous about money find a way earn more money.
Meanwhile she has to put up with him... Money doesn't buy happiness...... (read in full...)
Does anyone else have friends that don't care about you?
Q. I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but has anyone ever dealt with bad friends? It seems like the friends I make only care about themselves. I don't want to go on a rant but ever since I was a child I have not had many friends. ...
A. 19 October 2014: I don't think anyone has friends that don't care about them, not even you, because those aren't real friends.
I'd drop them as it should be a pleasure, not a pain. Get out there and make some new ones.... (read in full...)
He's not speaking to me. Not calling me back. If he cares so little should I be worried about his car insurance premiums?
Q. My bf of 4 yrs hasn't spoken to me properly since last sat when he as meant to come down for weekend. he works away. I'm actually and have susected he's actually found someone else... but only the other week he was taking about spending xmas her...
A. 19 October 2014: Call him and leave a message telling him you're done paying. It's his responsibility to listen.... (read in full...)
He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?
Q. I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...
A. 18 October 2014: The only thing you're trtruly guilty of is not knowing when it's time to break up with someone.
You weren't happy with what he had to offer and made an effort to speak to him about it, but when it was obvious it wouldn't change, you should h... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to send this message to a guy I like? In the closet now, but should I just come out to him?
Q. "Hey decided to just be honest. I’m not gay but I am bi, and I kinda want to ^^^ you off. It doesn’t make you gay to let a guy ^^^ you off, like i said i’ve had friends it happened to and they honestly couldn’t tell the difference. I’d be 100% dis...
A. 18 October 2014: Jesus Christ, have some tact!
If you want to come out to him then do so, but don't do it by saying "Hey you should let me suck your sick that's totally not gay, but don't tell anyone."
What a disaster of a text that would be. Come out (he'll ... (read in full...)
Early 20s and having sexual issues. Why does this keep happening?
Q. Hello all. I'm a college student in my early 20s and I really need some help. For quite some time, I've been having some troubles with my sex drive/virility in general. Whenever I'm able to get an erection, it is almost always at "half-mast", s...
A. 17 October 2014: Exercise helps, so does eating healthy. Stop watching porn, stop masturbating unless it's necessary.
Seriously, exercise can greatly help. I have a physical job and find myself hornier and my erections rock solid when it wasn't the same before. ... (read in full...)
Was a wrong to contact a women to see if her baby was my boyfriends ?
Q. I recently found out that a few months before my boyfriend met me he had an affair with a married women . I found old text messages he still had on his iPhone with nude pics they sent each other. he admitted he slept with her but didn't know she was ...
A. 17 October 2014: What good is that information to you?
In my opinion your curiosity sounds more like snooping. Some things are not your business, you should know that.... (read in full...)
My crush is asking for a threesome! Do I do it?
Q. My crush asked me to do a threesome, he has this fantasy. he said I could choose any friend /girl/ of mine to do it and make me feel more comfortable. I am interested in having something more with Him, I'm confused. I wouldn't want to do that if it ...
A. 16 October 2014: I'm not going to speculate on whether or not the guy wants to be your bf because you don't give very much info. I'm guessing no simply because he seems to treat you like a booty call.
One thing I can guarantee is that if he doesn't want to be wi... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I am pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. My parents divorced when I was 9 and I have lived with my dad since then. I see my mom a couple of times a year but we are not close at all. My dad has been amazing ...
A. 15 October 2014: Leave the boyfriend out of it, he can talk to him later.... (read in full...)
I'm in a new relationship. But how do I stop being so untrusting anxious that he'll leave me?
Q. I had been in this new relationship for about two months. We first were just working on a construction job together but it gradually turned into us living together in the house we are working on and him working for me. I have 4 children that don...
A. 15 October 2014: Easy: just accept the fact that there are 3 billion guys in the world and if one treats you like crap there's 2,999,999,999 more. A jerk isn't worth crying over.... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's comment?
Q. My boyfriend said something last night that has left me feeling insecure this morning so I would like other opinions on whether I'm overreacting and just take it as him being honest. We were talking last night about opposite sexes/physical ...
A. 15 October 2014: It's normal to be sensitive to those types of comments, as we'd all like to be perfect in our mates eyes. However it's certainly not a good reason to be upset or offended.... (read in full...)
Could it be men see hurt in my body language, and that's why I am still single?
Q. Dear Cupid,I really want to have a friend for the new year but no one seems to be looking my way if they are I can't tell.I have been single for many years about 13 and now I want companionship.I just turned 43 yesterday I feel and look young I ...
A. 15 October 2014: That could be part of it. The "vibe" you give off is easy to read and can make a huge difference in the way people view you.
Maybe counseling would help? You also may want to try internet dating if you haven't.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I am pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. My parents divorced when I was 9 and I have lived with my dad since then. I see my mom a couple of times a year but we are not close at all. My dad has been amazing ...
A. 14 October 2014: Just be honest with him, he deserves that much. Keep in mind that much of the responsibility of raising the baby will be his, so don't be surprised or offended if he's not happy. Eventually he will be when the little rugrat is running around.... (read in full...)
She never got rid of the explicit pictures of her ex! Do I just throw them away or confront her?
Q. I have a question. My wife and I are together 7 years married for 5. When we moved in together she had some pictures of an ex boyfriend. I was fine with some of them but there was 1 where they were kissing and a few of him in various states o...
A. 14 October 2014: I lol'd at 'erection' as a keyword. Anyways, although it's tempting to be upset at her and offended by her not throwing the pics away, it's pretty natural for her to want to keep them.
It's sort of a fantasy thing. I'm not sure the best way... (read in full...)
My partner looks at other women whenever we go out. It makes me feel insecure. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi I'm a fourth eight year old woman with two marriages behind me. I am currently living with a man who's six years younger who has also came out of a marriage 5years ago but through his years being single or married he watched a lot of hard-cor...
A. 14 October 2014: You don't say whether you have talked to him about it... That'd be a good place to start.
If you have, well... You'll probably have to accept that the guy you're with is flawed and learn to accept it.
As you found out when you list weight,... (read in full...)
Family secrets: The only two who were not told about the cheating? Myself and my son. How do I deal with their toxic actions?
Q. My husband had an affair with his sister in law. His older brother was 20 years older than her, they married because she was pregnant. He had another younger girl pregnant, but chose to marry ''C''. He never had contact with that child from the...
A. 14 October 2014: You don't need input you need a divorce. Your marriage is FUBAR and has been since as long as you can remember, so what's the point of staying?... (read in full...)
I've been thinking about unfriending these awful former co-workers on social media, except for one. Any advice?
Q. I used to work in a not so nice place. The boss' where horrivle to staff, the working conditions were poor and the staff as lovely as they seemed the vast majority where extremely bitchy. I worked predominately with 2 other girls. They were lovely...
A. 10 October 2014: I have some advice: stop over thinking things and stop worrying so much. They probably won't even notice you're gone, it's not like fb has an 'unfriendly' notification.... (read in full...)
Is it bad to go on cam sites?
Q. Hey all, I'm a 21 year old Male In the last two year or so, I have been going on cam sites and looking at girls on and off. i used to pay money for it but stopped that about a year ago. I feel bad every-time I do it because within me I know I'm expl...
A. 10 October 2014: You got it backwards: if you're paying someone to get naked THEY are exploiting YOU.
They have a choice, and they chose the easy money over hard work. Most of them were probably highly sexual people to begin with despite the over exaggera... (read in full...)
Her ex is traveling 300 miles to take her to the theatre!
Q. my wife died about six months ago and i have been seeing another widow of four years who really likes me and we have had sex which is not the problem, about nine months after she was widowed she took up with a chap who lives about 150 miles away and ...
A. 10 October 2014: Good news: you guys now have an open relationship which means you can date other women.... (read in full...)
She's exactly my type and we have had fun talking about stuff and joking around, but I can't help feeling like she's not all that into it. What do I do?
Q. I recently moved to a nee city and a new country. Since I don't know many people here, I decided to give online dating a try. I didn't have a lot of success at first but about 10 days ago I came across the profile of an absolutely gorgeous girl who ...
A. 9 October 2014: Small talk will only get you so far and not everyone communicates in the same way. Try asking her out, maybe something innocent at first.... (read in full...)
I'm considering running away and getting pregnant to get away from my controlling family! They treat me like a child!
Q. Am a 17 year old girl,i sudenly fell in love with a 20 year old guy,we,ve been so inlove bt the problem is my famile treat me like 10 year old ,they lock the gate at 18:00 i cannot even text my bf to tel him that i cannot meet up with him because i ...
A. 9 October 2014: Sorry that you feel so trapped. It used to be that people were considered adults when they were younger. Our culture may have changed, but our bodies haven't. We still desire out freedom (and some intimacy) early on.
The problem is that your par... (read in full...)
Why would a guy avoid saying your name?
Q. I've known this guy for a long time through friends, and I've noticed he never, or rarely, says my name. In a group setting he always refers to me in a group as "she", rather than my name. He'll say things like "what is SHE doing?", "I think it's ...
A. 9 October 2014: Are you sure he can remember your name? Maybe you should find a way to subtly let him know what it is.... (read in full...)
I want to be a better boyfriend and be able to trust her again, how do I do that?
Q. (Sorry for the length but I have to vent)... Me and my gf have been dating since we were 16, she was absolutely perfect, beautiful smart funny. Everything I've ever wanted! I've had girlfriends before but never as serious as her. She was very hes...
A. 8 October 2014: The easiest way to trust someone is to be with someone whose trustworthy. Your girlfriend is anything but. She's cheated on you several times.
The problem is her insecurity. That's why she gets posses when you do things and that's why she's al... (read in full...)
My fiancé has a past of the 'down low' lifestyle, should I believe him that he no longer wants sex with men?
Q. If my boyfriend/fiancé has had a past life style of having sex with men can it be possible that he's no longer into that lifestyle since being in the relationship he has with me? This is what he claims is that it's over that past life style and he ...
A. 7 October 2014: I used to love having sex with other women. Now I'm married to a woman who I love and am sexually attracted to, but I occasionally desire other women.
I have never and probably will never act on it though, There's no reason to think your husband ... (read in full...)
How can I let her know I am interested, without being too pushy?
Q. I am an expat from the UK in Austria. Last weekend, I played rugby 2 hours away from home and we won quite well. After the game, a girl who lives in that city came and talked to me as I was walking back to the dressing room. She was complimentin...
A. 7 October 2014: Asking a girl out is not pushy. If you feel the need to ask this question the likelihood of you being pushy is probably zero. ... (read in full...)
They all lose interest after I sleep with them
Q. I have been trying to meet someone to have a relationship with for quite a while now. I don't have any problems meeting men both online and in real time; however when ever I do start seeing someone I find attractive and seem to get on well with it ...
A. 7 October 2014: I don't know the answer so I'm just going to throw ideas out there.
Three to four weeks doesn't seem to soon, but only three or four dates may be. Men need more time to get to know you. If they sleep with you too soon, I think they can get a "m... (read in full...)
Disappointed that I had a lesser role at wedding of my cousin. Should I tell the bride how disappointed I was?
Q. I can't help but feel a bit hurt over my cousin giving a more important role at her wedding and more thanks/attention in general to her best friend. My cousin made her best friend her maid of honor, and me her matron of honour. I thought it was s...
A. 7 October 2014: If you had to fly there you may not be as close because of the distance... Don't take it personally.
And yes, you're being just a little bit immature.... (read in full...)
Does it make me a bad wife to exclude my husband from my social life and travelings?
Q. Doesn't make a bad wife that I don't want to travel with my husband anymore, and more...I don't really want to involve Him in my socialiZing anymore also. We are married for 23 years. I married very very young right after high school, had a ch...
A. 6 October 2014: Maybe your time together has served it's purpose? I don't think it makes you a bad wife since you have tried to include him and he ends up being a pain.... (read in full...)
Is there something hypocritical about this relationship?
Q. How should I understand this situation? History of a relationship 1. Been dating someone for 2 years. 2. We have had some arguments and she says we are through. Has been like 4 times and we don't speak for a few weeks then everything goes back to ...
A. 6 October 2014: Good riddance! Hopefully you find someone who is better suited to you. And hopefully she can find the asexual virgin she needs.... (read in full...)
Is there something hypocritical about this relationship?
Q. How should I understand this situation? History of a relationship 1. Been dating someone for 2 years. 2. We have had some arguments and she says we are through. Has been like 4 times and we don't speak for a few weeks then everything goes back to ...
A. 6 October 2014: Hypocritical or not, it sounds miserable. You guys are with the wrong people. Set her free and find someone who makes you happy.... (read in full...)
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