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writes:I hooked up with this girl 9 weeks ago, we're both teenagers, she told me she loved me after knowing me for only a day. she became annoying and shes a psycho so I blocked her number for 2 weeks. After we had sex she asked me "what if I wasnt really on birth control and got pregnant"? that should of been a red flag but I'm and idiot and i assumed she was kidding. on the 6th day after we hooked up she told me she forgot to take her bc pill for the day, 9 days after we met she thought she was prego. Anyways 4 weeks after we hooked up she called me saying that she was pregnant, she was crying asking me why I blocked her number; she was on bc pills this is why I ejaculated inside her, she gets her period every 3 months; but she was also taking antibitocis at the time for a UTI which I didnt know about. And I heared that antibitiocs can affect the pill, first she told me that they wouldn't affect it; then she said it wud...she lies so much. I asked her if she would take a pregnancy test and she said no because she had nothing to prove. a few minutes after telling me she was prego, she asked me if i still wanted to be with her and she invited me to go to the beach with her. The next morning she texted me at 7:01 telling me that she told her mom last night and that she's getting an abortion at 8:30am. at 8:49 she told me that she already had the abortion, and that her obgyn put her to sleep and gave her an abortion shot in her stomach. I asked her how far along she was in her pregnancy and she said she didint know; then she told me she was 2 weeks along. Idk if she was telling the truth or not. Fastforward 5 weeks later, the last time I tlked to her was 12 days ago; she insisted that she was not pregnant; and she said she got her period 2 weeks ago, but she said her mom told her that it wasnt her period. IDK if she was lying about being prego and having an abortion, I know that she continues to talk to other guys online; she even went over a guys house not too long ago. Im not sure if they had sex or not. she took a pregnancy test for me 2 weeks ago to prove that shes not pregnant, but the results were invalid because it came 30 min after. she even wanted to have more unprotected sex, because she said she was back on her birth control. Her abortion stories also changed, first she told me she did'nt have to take a pill then she said that she did take a pill. I dnt even wanna give her another pregnancy test because the fact that shes going to others guys house and asking random guys online if they wanna hangout makes me suspicious she's having more sex. I changed my number 12 days ago so I haven't tlked to her for a while, but for some reason I cant stop thinking about this, I'm thinking that she lied about being pregnant while actually not knowing that she is pregnant. like I said she gets her period every 3 months so she wouldn't exactly know if she missed a period or not. I decided to stop talking to her and walk away from the situation because she's immature, young and a habitual liar. But I cant stop thinking about it,she smokes a vape and she takes ibuprofen because she always has headaches, and shes on other medications. I know that youre not suppose to take ibuprofen during a pregnancy but IDK.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (5 June 2014):
 You have been foolish and put yourself at risk. NEVER EVER take a woman you hardy know at face value. Whether you are a man being told your female partner is on the pill, or a woman being old your man has had the snip, don't believe it until you know them enough to have trust and a genuine belief they are telling you the truth!
To have unprotected sex with someone you hardly know is foolhardy and immature. God knows who else she has been sleeping with! If she is a single, young woman on the pill then either she is on the pill to control here hormones, fair enough, or to go out getting laid with any tom, dick or harry without using condoms.
Yes antibiotics can lower the effectiveness of the pill, and missing a day can also cause pregnancy. NOTE - even if the missed pill was several days before sex, or indeed after, conception can still occur.
Right, bollocking over. This girl is a weirdo. An attention seeking, mixed up kid who needs to be avoided.
There were one or three big red flags you missed on this one. Firstly she declares love to you after five minutes. She then quickly became a psycho and annoying. Then, as you withdraw your penis from inside her and lay back satisfied, she says "Hey big boy, remember before you slid inside me I said I was on BC? Just remembered, it was the warm feeling of your ejaculation inside me that reminded me, im not actually on BC after all...opps a daisy!"
Instead of asking what the hell she meant by this you naively assumed she was playing a prank? Really? Then just NINE days after meeting, and possible even less since having sex, she claims to be pregnant?!?! In Nine days? This girl doesn't have a period for three months at a time (WTF!) and yet knows she is carrying a sprog in a matter of days. USE YOUR HEAD!!!!
Im not claiming to be an expert in the biology of baby making (just ask my missus) but although there's premature babies, ive never heard of bloody instant!!! No way could anyone be expected to know they were pregnant nine days after sex. Ok maybe a very slim chance, but this is a girl who nine days earlier did her "am I/am I not on BC" routine. Its clearly a load of crap she is doing to mess with your head.
There was no baby and no abortion. Her time line makes no sense either. Within days of sex she is supposedly pregnant, made up her mind to abort, got an appointment, and then, in a space of a just few minutes, been put to sleep and reawakened all fresh and lucid to text you to say its done? BULLSHIT!
Ive never heard of a three monthly cycle. What is it, changing her womb lining with the seasons? Im sure most women would love to have a period over three months, but its a new one on me. I have heard the expression time of the month, but not time of the year.
Learn from this. Use condoms. Don't hand over control of the rest of your life or your health to people you don't know at all. Especially as you seem such a poor judge of character.
Mark
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 June 2014):
 Amen to Auntie Cindy's & CMMP's posts.
USE FREAKING CONDOMS if you DO NOT want children or STD's. YOU can not RELY on the girl to ALWAYS be on the pill, to be truthful about it OR even be sane.
DON'T be a moron and DON'T be a statistic - yet another dumb teenage schmuck who can make a baby he doesn't want and can't afford.
I hope YOU learned your lesson here.
YOU call her immature? You were being rather immature yourself.
Keep the no contact and LEARN from this. DO not be dumb with your life.
Maybe next time, don't have sex til you ACTUALLY KNOW the girl better.
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reader, crushed_by_love +, writes (5 June 2014):
She's a crank! She sounds like she's got low self esteem which is why she's sleeping with basically anyone.The whole abortion scenario is fantasy which she is using to try and control you into becoming her boyfriend. Even the three monthly period thing sounds a far fetched invention.A girls period is either 'vaguely' monthly or 'irregular' in which case she wouldn't be having 'regular' tri-monthlies!
Instead of wasting time trying to block her or figure out her next move, your next move should be a trip to the STD clinic.Hopefully you'll be clear- and act with your brain rather than your dick next time you're offered unprotected sex.,
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 June 2014):
 See OP ? That 's precisely why all we boring stale unadventurous grown ups always insist that you do not ride bareback with strangers. I have read somewhere that the ideal would be to ditch the condom only after at least 6 months of committed monogamous relationshup, now this of course is an arbitrary number, it may be fine after 3 months, or 3 weeks, the point is that you need to know the person and to be able to trust her / him. This girl, you barely knew her, you weren't properly together, she is promiscuous, she is unreliable, says one thing one minute and the opposite the next moment... and you have unprotected sex because supposedly she is on the pill ?!...
Yeah but, what if it's not true ? What if she is the harebrained type that cannot be trusted to use bc properly ? And, forget about pregnancy scares, what about STDs ? What if , case in point, she is trolling the net for random hook ups with multiple strangers ?...
I hope that after this experience you won't be so anxious to get rid of condoms and you'll wait until you have figured out, at the best of your possibilities of course, with what kind of person you are dealing with .
Anyway, no, she was not pregnant. There are so many inconsistencies in her tale, it would be long to explain and point them all out, but all in all I would exclude that she actually got an abortion. She simply felt or feared that your interest was fading and stirred up a little drama to keep you interested ( it seems it worked !).
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reader, llifton +, writes (5 June 2014):
 Exactly what CMMP wrote. Exactly.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 June 2014):
First of all, you're an idiot. Bluntness is required here. This chick is having random sex with guys she meets on the internet and you're having unprotected sex and cumming inside of her??? I know you didn't know about the other guys, but that's the point!
You have unprotected sex in a committed relationship, you cum in a girl when you know for a fact she's on the pill. Meaning you regularly see her take it or you trust her 100%.
You could very well have got a crazy girl pregnant and got herpes or some other disease in the process. If that doesn't scare you into wearing a condom I don't know what will.
No, she wasn't pregnant. She's a psycho.
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