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Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?

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Question - (2 June 2014) 11 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2014)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but my nipples are small.

I am self conscious and am sure he will feel disappointed .

Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers ?

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A male reader, methuselah United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2014):

Hi,

I don't think this will be a problem for you at all. I really don't, it is probably 'starting out' fears. In the past I always feared that being circumcised would seem strange to girls. (Being British it was being in the minority.)I feared them seeing it and not wanting me, so preferred the lights out. In all my experience, this was never mentioned by the lady to me. My stress was my own doing.

So, I would just simply act normally and when the time comes just be natural. Thanks.

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A male reader, Mark1978 United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2014):

Mark1978 agony auntHe will LOVE your nipples! They are part of you, so be proud! No pun intended.

If he doesn't like your nipples and makes any kind of gesture or comment to that effect, which is highly unlikely, then he isn't the one for you!

Mark

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (2 June 2014):

chigirl agony auntNo, he wont be disappointed.

I am sure you are attracted to some nice biceps. Who isn't. Are you disappointed when he doesn't have the exact perfect sized arms? No. Because people are a package deal, you don't pick their body parts, you get the person as a whole.

So he's with you, the WHOLE you, not just your nipples. If he's disappointed with you, the whole you, then he'd not be with you. People are extremely rarely disappointed by one single body part of the person they care about.

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (2 June 2014):

No he won't be disappointed... But as others have pointed out if he is, is that the kind of guy you want to be with anyways?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2014):

I'm curious to know how you know he prefers this? Has he mentioned this to you? It seems kind of odd. There is nothing you can do, if he discards for that then good riddance.

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A female reader, jls022 United Kingdom + , writes (2 June 2014):

No he won't be disappointed. He might prefer big nipples, just like you might prefer a six pack, or a hairy chest, or whatever, but it won't be the ONLY thing that turns him on. Or it shouldn't be anyway. So please try not to worry about it and realise that if you didn't turn him on as you are, then he wouldn't be with you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 June 2014):

Honeypie agony auntWait, what?

If he DISCARD you for something as TRIVIAL (let me repeat that TRIVIAL) as the size of your nipples which I might add you HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH, it's all genetic and unchangeable - the GOOD RIDDANCE to him. SERIOUSLY.

Would you dump a guy if he had no chest hair? And you prefer chest hair? It's about the same comparison.

The size of your nipples aren't what makes YOU, uniquely you. And if you let some dude tell you that, you need to tell him to go fly a kite.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (2 June 2014):

Anonymous 123 agony auntThe question is, would you be happy with a man who doesn't accept you as you are?

So what if he has preferences? All of us do, I'm sure you do too and I'm also sure your B/f doesn't fit into every one of them. I always thought I wanted a tall, rugged boyfriend but my boyfriend is shorter than I am and nothing like I imagined he would be like. Does that mean I love him any less? No. Because whatever preferences you have in your head are just there till you actually meet someone you love and connect with...and then none of that matters. You fall in love with every flaw, every quirk, every little imperfection in your partner.

In your case, its neither of these. So you have small nipples. Big deal. I'm sure he'll love you just the way you are and if he doesn't, then you know this isn't the guy for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2014):

Thanks cmmp I know he won't shun me .. But will he be disappointed ... Please be honest ...

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A male reader, CMMP United States + , writes (2 June 2014):

I can't be sure unless you send me a picture.

Honestly though, I have preferences, just like he does or anyone else for that matter. I like black hair but I don't shun women with lighter hair.

The truth is, the majority of guys are just happy to be with someone who gets naked and has boobs of any type.

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A male reader, RevMick United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2014):

RevMick agony auntHi,

If this man loves you he will not see a small minor thing like that and be completely put off or be disappointed. If he does he is shallow and not good to be around.

I think you are worrying over nothing, everyone is different and that's what makes it special. You find someone who loves you whether you have big feet, small feet, big ears (as in my case) or small nose.

Try not to compare yourself to anyone else, you are you and that makes you perfect.

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