My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 30 May 2014: I agree that this limbo is now way to live. I know you wanted this year to "fix" things, but it's clear that she is not interested in that right now, and being close to you is pushing her away.
All hope is not lost however. Being truly separate... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 21 May 2014: I would have been there for her verbally, but obviously intimacy with you at this point is not on her wish list, so you should avoid it. Right now it's more likely to push her away then bring her back.
If it's appropriate again you will probably... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 18 May 2014: I think at this stage your judgment is probably clouded, so it's hard to say if there was anything going on. I know that when things were rough between my wife and I every time her phone twitched I got paranoid.
One thing you need to realize ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 10 May 2014: That situation is both good and bad. At least being away from each other could give her time to miss and appreciate you. Without a little space she may start resenting you. So I'd definitely give her room.
My wife and I went through a similar ... (read in full...)
What Can I Do? She is cramping my style!
Q. I have a friend who is socially awkward or shy. We met when I moved to a new town and I thought she was a nice girl, so I used to invite her to things. But recently she has been really bothering me because she is really clingy and when she comes out ...
A. 4 May 2014: No, you have no obligation toward her other than being a decent person. I didn't mean to seem as if she's blameless here, she obviously has some issues.
I still feel that talking with her is the right thing to do, which you didn't adress in your ... (read in full...)
What Can I Do? She is cramping my style!
Q. I have a friend who is socially awkward or shy. We met when I moved to a new town and I thought she was a nice girl, so I used to invite her to things. But recently she has been really bothering me because she is really clingy and when she comes out ...
A. 4 May 2014: Sorry to say this, but she's not the problem, you are. You can't fault her for the fact that she really likes you and enjoys spending time with her.
If you need space you need to say something. On day two on the bus you could have said "I'm goi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has no reason for doing so
Q. I am so devastated, I am not sure what to think or what happened. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, we are the same age, we both have children (no children together) but out of the blue.... he broke up with me. I asked for a reason he had ...
A. 3 May 2014: There is a reason. You didn't do anything wrong, but if you two were compatible he would probably still be with you. Obviously he doesn't feel like you're a good match.
I'd cease all contact like previously suggested. It'll help you get over him... (read in full...)
Never had a Boyfriend but I keep on getting crushes on guys. Now I like a guy who's in a LDR. What advice can you give me please?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have not been lucky with love. I have never had a boyfriend nor sex. I have come to accept that for me, relationship is not in my way. Probably because I am disabled. Unfortunately,my heart just will not listen my problem. I k...
A. 3 May 2014: I don't know how to stop waiting normal human urges. I do know that being disabled can be hard on your love life. I have a friend who is in a wheelchair and had less luck with women before his injury than after. He's a great guy though and does ... (read in full...)
Could an attractive real woman make a guy less interested in porn?
Q. Right here is a question I possibly know the answer to. Lets say a guy likes a lot of porn, glamour mags, sexy photos etc. is here any way him finding a real woman who is attractive in looks and personality can change this or at least lessen it? ...
A. 2 May 2014: I'd rather have a woman than porn any day. When sex has been regular I rarely watch porn as I believe it can have some negative effects. ... (read in full...)
My B/f doesn't want to get married because he doesn't want to support me with medical bills and marrying me will have a bad effect on his retirement fee
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years told me that he doesn't want to get married anymore.. And his reasons are very selfish in my opinion. He said he doesn't want to support me with medical bills, or that marrying me will have a bad effect on his retirement fee. ...
A. 2 May 2014: No offense, but he's not being selfish in a bad way, he's just looking out for himself as people have to do sometimes. You're a huge liability. No job, no savings, no retirement, nothing. That's a big risk he'd be taking to marry you. If you're not ... (read in full...)
I had sex with a friend in a troubled relationship. How do I tell her that it was not to take advantage of her?
Q. I have been friends with a classmate for a long time. She is in a relationship for three years now. I tried befriending her boyfriend, but he seemed arrogant and did not respond warmly. So I chose to remain distant from him, but did not tell the ...
A. 2 May 2014: Yeah, just apologize, that's all that's needed. She probably wasn't mad at you but feeling guilty for cheating.... (read in full...)
My sister is having an affair and I've about had it
Q. I am 35 years old and I have three older sisters. The middle one is 45 years old and twice-divorced. She has been having an affair with a married man from her work for almost three years now. He says he has to stay with his wife for the kids but...
A. 2 May 2014: When this guy dumps her and leaves her broken hearted (he will not leave his wife for her when he doesn't have to) then you can have your laughs, buy until then nothing you say is going to change your sisters inconsiderate behavior.
Don't... (read in full...)
I had a threesome before I got married. Do I tell my husband?
Q. I was involved in a once only threesome with my ex bf and another girl. Deeply regretted. Should I tell the man I married later? He has had premarital sex but not of this kind....
A. 2 May 2014: Why would you? You are allowed to keep some things personal. Just because he's your husband doesn't mean he needs to know all of your secrets, especially when they're not going to affect the relationship or you're not hiding who you really are from ... (read in full...)
My friends tell me I should give my boyfriend a BJ
Q. A lot of my friends are wanting me to give my boyfriend a blowjob, and he agreed to wanting me too when i asked. But i feel like we are kind of young for this to be happening. My friends said it was okay because we have been dating for 6 months, but ...
A. 2 May 2014: I'd never go faster than I felt comfortable with because someone else recommended it. NEVER.
You have a lifetime to give BJ's if you want, there's no reason to be in a hurry.
FYI BJ's usually lead to sex. Are you ready for that? Ready to a... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 1 May 2014: I wouldn't start wondering about cheating. So many people keep their phones close by at all times. It's only a sign of cheating when you're looking for that kind of thing. And going out with her friends on Wednesday sounds reasonable for a woman who ... (read in full...)
Oral sex with no protection..should I worry about disease?
Q. I'm in the habit of frequenting sex workers on a weekly basis. Now, I typically use condoms where penetrative sex is concerned but there have been occasions where I've received unprotected oral sex. I've done some research and apparently, it's ...
A. 1 May 2014: I knew a girl who was a virgin but had herpes because her bf had a cold sore inside his mouth and he went down on her. ... (read in full...)
He was rough during sex and I bled from it. How do I bring this up?
Q. I met this guy and we slept together but he was quite rough and I bled, I know why I bled, it's because I only lost my virginity a few months ago and I've only had sex twice since. He doesn't know this and assumed I was just coming on my period, how ...
A. 1 May 2014: However you tell him you should make sure your partner is aware that they have to take it easy until you're properly lubricated. ... (read in full...)
For the grown folks, what advice would you give to your adult child who is about to move out?
Q. Hey everyone, I just graduated from nursing school and I'm 18 years old and I got a job as a licensed practical nurse, it's feels great and I make a decent pay check :) but I'm thinking about moving out of my former guardians home because I'm not ...
A. 1 May 2014: Get on birth control and use condoms.
Otherwise not much because I would have spent their lifetime preparing them. ... (read in full...)
How much does porn influence a mans expectations of how a woman should look naked?
Q. Ok please help aunts and uncles .... I'm single and ready to date again after a lengthy marriage. I have met a few guys but one really nice one and I'm pretty sure things will become physical soon I'm just a little worried thought as I know he has...
A. 30 April 2014: I prefer the natural look personally, and in the rare occasions I watch porn that's what I look for. Some guys do prefer the porn star look, but that's something you can see with your clothes on, so I'm sure he realizes that you aren't a porn star ... (read in full...)
Should I be selfish for once or be the good girl?
Q. Hi, I have this problem... I have this friend I've known for two years now and we always kind of liked each other. He's much older than I am and is in a relationship. Because we were such good friends, I know his girlfriend really well now too. Bu...
A. 30 April 2014: This is what I never understand about sex. I love it, but I can control myself enough to know when it's right and when it's wrong. It's not worth the momentary satisfaction to feel bad about myself later.
... (read in full...)
My co-worker doesn't invite me along when she goes out with our colleagues, should I confront her?
Q. Dear Cupid I have an office friend, we know each other for almost 7 months. She is nice person, but i found one annoying thing about her which kind of hurts me as well. We used to go out for lunch few times, sometimes she leaves me and goes...
A. 30 April 2014: It does sound like you're acting a little childish here. She's a grown woman and can invite whoever she wants to lunch, it doesn't mean she's purposely NOT inviting you. It just means she went to lunch with someone else, as she should be allowed to ... (read in full...)
How to tell if she's only dating you for the money?
Q. There are some things worrying me about my girlfriend. At first, things were great and I never really had to spend much. Lately, the more I shell out, the more she expects it and doesn't really say thank you. I take her out all the time, we go ...
A. 30 April 2014: Talk with her and tell her that you would like her to stop treating you like a bank. Then stop. Buy her only what you feel comfortable with and want to buy on your own. As soon as it feels like she'd be upset of you don't buy her something than ... (read in full...)
I feel like he just wants to go around and sleep around and then I'm just stuck here waiting for him to be done. How do I move on with my life?
Q. So me and my boyfriend recently broke up. Maybe about 1 week ago. Our relationship has been very difficult, we dated for a little over a year. (14 months) our biggest issue was trust. I have caught him texting other girls throughout the ...
A. 30 April 2014: You blew it with the constant break ups. It undermines the foundation of your relationship, it's not a tool to be used to gain leverage.
The truth, which I'm sure you're aware of, is that you guys are not a good couple. Love is meaningl... (read in full...)
Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?
Q. Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...
A. 29 April 2014: Maureen1979: are you nuts? That's the worst advice I've ever heard. Did you even read it yourself? Let me rephrase it for you:
If you can't say to a woman you have a friends with benefits relationship with, "You're nothing but a warm hole for me t... (read in full...)
I haven't told my boyfriend I'm pregnant yet, and now I'm back to checking his phone for texts! I need your help!
Q. Is it ever possible to truly move on from finding out your other half has cheated on you? The reason I ask is because for the past ten months, since getting back with my boyfriend since finding out he had cheated on with a mutual friend, I have tho...
A. 29 April 2014: I don't know how to fix what's happening to you, but the reason it's happening is because you just made a pretty huge commitment to him by way of a baby. You're subconsciously wondering if the man who will father your child is really someone who you ... (read in full...)
Since I said no living together without marriage he's backed off
Q. Hi, I would like to ask for some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 months, he is 39 and I am 27. We don't live together and he stays about an hour away from me, for the last 15 months I have been going to visit him every weekend, ...
A. 29 April 2014: It's sounds to me like this has little to do with your values since you're having pre-marital sex, but rather fear of what your family might say.
Unfortunately you guys seem to be at a standstill. You could suggest that you live closer together... (read in full...)
Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?
Q. Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...
A. 29 April 2014: If you only want sex, end it. She obviously isn't on the same boat as you are.
However, if you may want more, it could be that you only need to talk with her. The examples you've given don't seem too wierd to me, just a little annoying. But it c... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?
Q. Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...
A. 28 April 2014: I think you're adult enough to deal with hearing his name, no need to delete someone you want to keep otherwise. ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?
Q. Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...
A. 28 April 2014: Block/delete him. Case closed. ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me, lashed out at me and left me bawling my eyes out, so why is it he's still trying to hurt/and or get a response from me?
Q. Ok, long story as short as possible. My ex and I were together for 4 years. Towards the end things got absolutely horrible. We couldn't be around one another without fighting. He became a totally changed person. His entire attitude about me and our ...
A. 27 April 2014: It's good for his ego to have someone so into him. He thinks you'd do anything to get with him.
Just delete him. Keeping him on FB is only prolonging the inevitable. ... (read in full...)
When we try to have sex, he goes soft. Could he be gay?
Q. Hi, so I have a question about the sexuality of the guy that I am seeing. The guy that i am currently seeing is 20 and I am 19. Him and I have not been seeing each other very long, just about a month, but for the past two weekends we have been try...
A. 27 April 2014: Probably just nervous. Using condoms may make it worse because they can desensitized him, especially if he's used to his hand's firm grip.
That doesn't mean forget about condoms, it means be patient. ... (read in full...)
Am I a pan-romantic lesbian?
Q. Ok so. I really do like guys a lot. And I kinda thought I was pansexual but honestly no matter how much I do like guys I never ever ever want to have srx with a guy and have never been sexually attracted to a guy. I think I might be a pan romantic ...
A. 27 April 2014: Labels aren't as important what makes you comfortable and happy is.
You are also still quite young and discovering yourself. I have a lesbian friend who was confused until she was in her early 20's. I'm pretty sure that lesbian isn't the perfect ... (read in full...)
Sex/Intercourse with a partner versus Head/Fellatio with a partner? Why can't I orgasm from the latter and prefer Intercourse instead?
Q. So is something wrong with me that I can't seem to come from getting head? I've only ever gotten it from my girlfriend (she's my first) and I never come from it, I got close once but generally it doesn't feel as good as sex. Is this normal? I me...
A. 27 April 2014: It's called personal preference. BJ's are a nice treat, but I've been with a number of women only came a few times.
I also have never been with anyone that was truly amazing at it either. ... (read in full...)
Is it always the guy's fault when things go wrong?
Q. Its going to be a long story so please be patient. In Dec 2010, I met this girl in a party, we clicked instantly and hooked up in the next week itself. 2011 was a breeze, we had an amazing time, took vacations, had sex like crazy. We were a fun co...
A. 26 April 2014: You can either be right or be happy, not both. Being a man means absorbing blame and gaining power from it. Release it when you have sex.
... (read in full...)
My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?
Q. Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...
A. 26 April 2014: The more you try to force things at this point, the more likely it is she'll never want to hear from you again. Be a man and go along with the separation 110%.
Enjoy your freedom. There's a possibility that seeing this will cause her to second g... (read in full...)
He's pressuring me to get pregnant
Q. Hi everyone. I've been in a relationship with my bf for three years and three months. I'm 25 and he's 29. Since the beginning of our relationship, he told me that he wanted to settle down and start a family. I told him, that while I wanted to...
A. 26 April 2014: This is one of those hard choices you have to make in life. Having children is amazing but not something you should ever let someone push you into doing.
You're also pretty young and sometimes it's nice to get your career solidified so you can ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't drink often, but when she does it's hell! What can I do?
Q. Hi I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years so it's not something I want to just end. But I'm having a serious problem with my girlfriend and when she drinks. She's far from a alcoholic, she will drink only once or twice every couple of months...
A. 26 April 2014: Yeah, you can tell her drinking isn't for her, that she's mean and makes a fool out of herself and you won't tolerate it.
Also, unfortunately, there's definitely some truth to what she tells you when she's drunk. It's not just some made up rando... (read in full...)
I worry I am reading too much into his flirty, chatty talks.
Q. Say you see a person of the opposite sex every day and you always have interesting conversations about random things. Or maybe they always ask "how are you?" when you come in and ask about your day. Could this be possibly be flirting? Or am ...
A. 26 April 2014: The signs aren't definite, but at least he likes you as a person. Maybe you could ask if he'd like to do something outside of work? ... (read in full...)
He says he is unhappy and doesn't want to be with me either.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and let me just say this has been the hardest relationship I have ever been in! We've had some rough patches in our relationship we both suck at relationships! There's some months when we fight non ...
A. 26 April 2014: The response from Anonymous male is assuming way to much.
Anyways the bottom line is that it's often easier to stay than to go. It's that simple. You should start the process of leaving him. You guys are terrible together, there's no reason t... (read in full...)
If I break up, I'll hurt! If I stay, I'll lack trust! What do I choose?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. Four months into our relationship I found out that he cheated on me with F. I confronted him, we fought, he begged for forgiveness and I stayed with him. A year later I found out that he cheated me on ...
A. 25 April 2014: What good is love if this is how it makes you feel? He'll do anything you say for a a couple of weeks then, just as he has done at least 5 times in the past, he'll cheat on you again.
People make mistakes, but at this point he's proven that he ... (read in full...)
I want to make this relationship work!
Q. Hi guys I've been in a relationship for 4 years now with my boyfriend. He is not really great as a bf but then i love him to bits and we have a bond that will keep us together forever. he's mean to me at times and cares more about his own fe...
A. 25 April 2014: I don't understand why you're fighting for a guy who doesn't treat you the way you want to be treated. You do realize that you can find someone who will treat you right AND you'll "Love to bits"? ... (read in full...)
I imagined having a boyfriend would be a nice experience, but I find myself alone, fighting to be by the side of a person who is thinking about someone else
Q. Today is my boyfriend's birthday, we've been together for one month and a half (we were friends before becoming a couple). I baked a cake, bought candles, made a card, bought tons of presents, I just want to make him happy. First thing he ...
A. 24 April 2014: Listen, if you want to be loved and be happy, you need to find someone who can love you and who makes you happy. Someone else.
If you try to force a relationship to work you'll just end up miserable and broken hearted. Not to mention opportun... (read in full...)
We are both virgins in a LDR together. How should I initiate touching her chest?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship with an amazing woman for over 2 years. We are both virgins, and I just wondered how I should go about touching her chest? Should I ask her first or just go ahead and try? I really have no idea what I s...
A. 24 April 2014: It's not like you just walk up to her and grab her boobs. You work up to it, or any intimacy, and step by step if it feels right you keep going. ... (read in full...)
No clear discussion of commitment, so is it OK to talk to others?
Q. So I recently met a guy from out of state, and it has been going well but we have only seen each other a few times. The first time we met, we had dinner and a great time, just cuddled and no sex. A month later we meet again and spend a few days ...
A. 24 April 2014: Here's the thing; you're dating with no commitment. That means it's generally not considered wrong to be dating other people.
However, there's always the risk of offending the other person. If you really like someone you should commit sooner t... (read in full...)
Suspect she's cheating but she just gets mad if I ask. Is it time to bail?
Q. I have been married for almost 25 years. I can't honestly say I ever really loved my wife, i believe at the time I married her, being young, it was more for financial security than anything. In the early years things were okay, we had 2 sons, had ...
A. 24 April 2014: Your story is depressing. Who cares if she's cheating or not, I'm surprised you're both not. Just end it already. ... (read in full...)
If it's over, why does he care?
Q. I had recently connected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. When I was 20 and he was 28 we dated on and off for 3 years but he ended up breaking up with me to marry someone else. We went our separate ways, both married other, had kids etc... ...
A. 23 April 2014: It's over, he's just hanging onto hope because he was rejected and was is heartbroken. You're a rebound, obviously. That's not to say he actually wants to be with her, and doesn't have feelings for you, it's just the nature of the beast. ... (read in full...)
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