How do I get help from my University after the death of my father?
Q. it's been more than a month since my father has passed away and i have find it very difficult to understand that i will not see him again. my father's death is effecting my whole family and i can not concentrate on my studies anymore and it i...
A. 21 January 2011: I know its hard, but unless you talk to them, they cant help you.
Best of luck xx ... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from regretting losing my virginity after its done?
Q. So i've met this guy. it was through a friend of a friend and we met only briefly but i have him as a friend on facebook. So we began talking and the conversation quickly became sexual. We swapped numbers and have continued this to and fro-ing of ...
A. 19 January 2011: I want to take this from a slightly different angle.
What exactly do you know about this guy? How many times have you met him?
Your first paragraph concerns me A LOT.
"So i've met this guy. it was through a friend of a friend and we met only... (read in full...)
How do I get help from my University after the death of my father?
Q. it's been more than a month since my father has passed away and i have find it very difficult to understand that i will not see him again. my father's death is effecting my whole family and i can not concentrate on my studies anymore and it i...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there OP.
I totally understand how you feel and my thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
I too have had a berevement this year - In August my Gramps passed away from Pancreatic cancer. It was very quick, a mere matter of 3 mont... (read in full...)
I don't cook and bf said no one will want me even he is verbally abusive to me.
Q. I don't cook and my boyfriend hates it. He said he will eventually leave me because I am not good at cooking and housework. He said no one will want me. His ex cooks very well, but then he has issues with her character or looks. I feel so tired and ...
A. 17 January 2011: I dont condone the fact that your boyfriend is verbally abusive - that is not on in any relationship and he sounds like a nasty piece of work. No one should abuse their partner for any reason.
However, I do wonder about why he might be doing th... (read in full...)
Pull out method... reliable enough???
Q. me and my boyfriend want to have sex, im not on the pill or anything and neither of us have got condoms. he said he could put it in then take it out when hes about to come, but i dont know if thats okay or not. what is the best thing to do?...
A. 16 January 2011: Oh I would also like to add...
You CAN get pregnant on your first time
You CAN get pregnant if you do it standing up
You CAN get pregnant if you do it whilst on your period
You CAN get pregnant if you use the pull out method.
... (read in full...)
Pull out method... reliable enough???
Q. me and my boyfriend want to have sex, im not on the pill or anything and neither of us have got condoms. he said he could put it in then take it out when hes about to come, but i dont know if thats okay or not. what is the best thing to do?...
A. 16 January 2011: Did you not go to any of your sex education lessons?
A teenage boy will not have the control to "pull out" in time. He will also get VERY excited and secrete a lot of pre-cum which can also contain sperm, so either way, you will end up pregnant... (read in full...)
Don't want to hurt my brother but I want to get my sister in law into bed
Q. i need help for years i`ve had a sexual attraction to my sister in law and hurting my brother is the last thing i want to do but this sexual attraction is really strong i really want to get her in bed what should i do?...
A. 15 January 2011: "i really want to get her in bed"
First of all, this is SO selfish it's unbelievable! You have not for one moment considered anyone apart from yourself and your own sexual desires.
This is how it sounds:
"I WANT HER, so therefore I will... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 14 January 2011: I am going to ignore the majority of your follow up and focus on one particular point.
What exactly is wrong with the way Miss Australia looks?
You say :
"And this is why I have such an affinity to Australian. Physically, she's attrac... (read in full...)
Am I a bit weird for not particularly liking kids?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but i would be interested to hear what people think. Ever since i was about 13 (i'm now 23) i realised i wasn't the maternal type. People would show off their kids and these women would go all ga ga over them and...
A. 13 January 2011: I love kids, but I am not a fan of babies. I do not understand the ohhing, ahhing and fussing. They are babies. Woo. I adore small children, being able to interact with them, talk to them, and doing things with them, but I just dont understand WHY ... (read in full...)
I suspect a student is dating a lecturer, should I report it?
Q. I am a student at university and I think one of my friends is having an affiar with a lecturer. I have asked her and she says she is not but I don't believe her. They are always together around campus and I am sure I have seen them flirting. Like he ...
A. 12 January 2011: OP - it is not your problem if they get into trouble.
If they have done nothing wrong, then no trouble will come to them. However, if there IS something fishy going on, then the University needs to know about it.
A relationship tha... (read in full...)
I suspect a student is dating a lecturer, should I report it?
Q. I am a student at university and I think one of my friends is having an affiar with a lecturer. I have asked her and she says she is not but I don't believe her. They are always together around campus and I am sure I have seen them flirting. Like he ...
A. 12 January 2011: As it stands there are legally no laws against a university lecturer having a relationship with a student.
HOWEVER, there are many moral and ethical issues which do arise with this situation. The main one being the abuse of a position of trust, a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 months is away a lot in Army. is it a good idea to have a baby now?
Q. I'm 19 (20 at the end of 2011) I'm currently with my boyfriend who is 22 we have been together for 3 months and are living together (ano sounds crazy) he is in the army and is away a lot but recently we have decided to have a baby after a ...
A. 11 January 2011: Being an army girlfriend is no bundle of laughs, and you will spend a lot of time on your own. There are many factors about your relationship which are difficult before you even factor in the short length of time you have been together or having a ... (read in full...)
Two long-term girlfriends, both in love, one pregnant - looks vs. personality
Q. I am in a bit of pickle situation and it's pretty deep and I don't know what to do now. I thought I could handle it and that the answer would present itself by way of circumstance, but this hasn't happened and now I'm in desperate need of help. ...
A. 11 January 2011: I just want to add something to this - you have already been given a deserved ear bashing for your behaviour and you do deserve more, but here is not the time or place.
Have you thought that the Latvian may have other motives?
You admit yourse... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher, who is married, how I feel?
Q. Hi there, I have a little bit of a problem. I'm 20 years old, been out of high school for almost three years now but I still have very strong, deep feelings for my high school teacher. I first had him as my teacher during my junior year, and sinc...
A. 10 January 2011: As a teacher myself, I can see one very important red flag in your original question.
"Is it worth disturbing a seemingly happy marriage for my own closure?"
This says it all.
He is a happily married man. Regardless of if he is a teacher, d... (read in full...)
I took a girl's lost blackberry and everyone has found out and started abusing me on facebook!
Q. A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back. ...
A. 3 January 2011: You just have to man up and take it all on the chin. Face these people and be sorry for what you did.
Apologise, be remorseful. Remember you have got off lightly - you stole her phone, and an expensive one at that. Stealing is a crime, she coul... (read in full...)
Painful sex, lube is too embarrassing to talk about?
Q. Hi I'm 18 years old and in a very steady, loving relationship with my boyfriend of the same age. We both feel ready to have sex together but I have a problem which I really don't know how to approach. I was raped when I was 16 and although I feel ...
A. 26 December 2010: I dont understand what the negative image that lube has is?
Its a fact of life - MANY women do not produce enough natural lubrication and have to use lube. There is nothing wrong with that. Not all women are wet and damp during sex, some need a l... (read in full...)
Disappointed my boyfriend bought me t-shirts instead of a promise ring for Christmas!
Q. Its coming up to xmas and for a month my bf of 4 months has been asking me what I want for xmas. He suggested a budget of £50 and I agreed. I hinted I wanted him to get me a promise ring, he soon seemed to forget within a week and would say ahh ...
A. 24 December 2010: Bottom line, you should never demand anything!
I was always brought up to believe saying "I WANT, never gets". Its very selfish.
A ring is a very powerful symbol - not just a piece of jewellery. DO you actually know what a promise ring is ... (read in full...)
My friend copies all my clothes!
Q. Hi~ So my friend just copies everything from hollister I own. I had a blue striped hollister shirt, and she said exactly in my face "Oh I like that shirt, I'm gonna buy it." I didn't want her to copy it becasue I liked it a lot so I said "No, ...
A. 23 December 2010: Have you considered that this girl might have seen someone else with the same top and liked it? You are not the only one with this item.
"She should be able to shop at hollister, but not get the same exact thing when you've told her you didn't w... (read in full...)
My friend copies all my clothes!
Q. Hi~ So my friend just copies everything from hollister I own. I had a blue striped hollister shirt, and she said exactly in my face "Oh I like that shirt, I'm gonna buy it." I didn't want her to copy it becasue I liked it a lot so I said "No, ...
A. 22 December 2010: I think the problem is, you are shopping at a well know branded store. Sadly, you cant tell people what they can and cant wear.
Of course people are going to want to buy the same item of clothing. There will be thousands, if not millions of peopl... (read in full...)
What happened to my period?
Q. Ok. I'm 17 and sexually active with a long term bf. I used to be on the pill but kept on forgetting to take it and messing it up so i decided i should come of it, wait for my next period to come along so my system could sort itself out and then maby ...
A. 20 December 2010: Ok, first of all, get yourself to the doctor asap! You may well be pregnant.
Now, it often takes your body a while to adjust to not being on the pill. The bleeding you experience when on the pill is not an actual "period" - it is not the same as ... (read in full...)
Virgins getting erections????
Q. ok so my friend's worried because her boyfriend says he's not a virgin but she thinks he's lying because he always has a erection like when they hug kiss or anything he always gets a erection and she thinks that if he's not a virgin he would be able ...
A. 18 December 2010: Your friend is totally wrong. Men/Boys ALL get erections, from the strangest things.... kissing and touching will only increase the likelihood of it!
I just have one question.....
Does it really matter if he is a virgin or not?... (read in full...)
Views on student crushes on their teachers?
Q. I really like a teacher...So I have liked many teachers before but once again i am in love with this teacher but the thing is i dont atcually have him as a teacher...he is an computing teacher and the first time i saw him i really liked him...one ...
A. 14 December 2010: 99% of people at some point have a crush on a teacher. You are not the first and you will not be the last.
However, I can say that the teacher does not and will not ever reciprocate your feelings. He is an adult, you are a child. He is your tea... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher!
Q. How do I approach this man before I graduate high school? I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher. I know you've all heard this before but im serious. I know what I want and that's a man. The boys at my school are way too immature and the...
A. 11 December 2010: ok...this is from a teacher. I am 27.
Let me give you a response from someone in your teachers position.
There is NO WAY that any decent teacher would ever have or want a relationship with one of their students. Past or present. The who... (read in full...)
I'm not getting a thrill out of sex!
Q. Hey, thankyou for opening my question =) muchly appriciated. So. im 15 my boyfriend 18 i love him so much, a few week ago we started having sex (first time for me) he was all nice about it and was gentle and everything the first time.. but ...
A. 11 December 2010: Ok, First of all, it doesnt matter what your parents or your family think. In Austrailia the LEGAL age of consent is a minimum of 16, so by you having sex with an 18 year old man underage, HE is commiting a crime - child abuse and rape. LEGALLY you ... (read in full...)
Tampons are hurting me, why is this?
Q. I just recently started using Tampons and there the good kind (tampax pearl)but they hurt, i know Tampons are suppose to be comfortable and your not even supposed to feel them in you but there hurting me when i walk and sit..Why could this be??...
A. 6 December 2010: I agree with the other posters - it is not inserted far enough inside you. I get the same thing happen to me and it really does hurt! Just make sure you really push it in as far as it will go.
One thing I will add - I dont really like the tampax p... (read in full...)
Should I have sex?
Q. I am not sure if I should have sex or not and I was hoping for some input based on the following 1. I REALLY want to have sex 2. I trust my partner and have been with him for three years. 3. I feel at 25 I should be having sex or at least ...
A. 2 December 2010: OP, I can sympathise. I know how it feels to be in a relationship and your man not want you sexually.
My ex BF was exactly the same. He point blank refused to have sex with me. I am also still a virgin, but 27, so I have a couple of years on you, ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex?
Q. I am not sure if I should have sex or not and I was hoping for some input based on the following 1. I REALLY want to have sex 2. I trust my partner and have been with him for three years. 3. I feel at 25 I should be having sex or at least ...
A. 1 December 2010: Just out of interest, how have you been in a relationship for 3 years and never had sex?
Surely any man in that a relationship that long would have made a move before now?
If you do not love him, why are you with him?
Leave the poor guy, f... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me she wants me to take her virginity! I'm scared to hurt her!!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for just about 7 months. A couple of days ago she said that she wanted to have sex and i told to give me a day or two because its a big responsibilty if we do it. The problem is that she's a virgin and anemic. ...
A. 29 November 2010: You sound like a very caring boyfriend! She is very lucky to have you!
:) Good luck! xx... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me she wants me to take her virginity! I'm scared to hurt her!!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for just about 7 months. A couple of days ago she said that she wanted to have sex and i told to give me a day or two because its a big responsibilty if we do it. The problem is that she's a virgin and anemic. ...
A. 29 November 2010: Being anemic just means she is low in iron. Most women suffer from this at some point! Basically she has a low red blood cell count. This can easily be fixed by taking iron supplements which you can get from the chemist (altho always talk to the ... (read in full...)
What is a hmong?
Q. Okay well this isn't relating to relationships or nothing. I was just wondering how many people actually know what a Hmong is? Again I was just wondering how many people actually know....
A. 28 November 2010: Google is an amazing tool....
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=hmong
Enjoy! :)... (read in full...)
I was hit on in a chippy!!!
Q. Ok, this is going to sound really funny but, earlier I got hit on, in a fish and chip shop whilst ordering some fish and chips for 2 to take away in my town... Here's what happened, I'm a part time sales assistant and just finished work an...
A. 28 November 2010: He could just have been making small talk with the customer - that is good working practice. There is often a little banter and flirtatious habits... not too much, but just to make the customer feel like they are getting a good deal.
he may have... (read in full...)
People tell us we shouldn't buy a house together yet, but why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a year. We have lived together since we'd been together 2 months. We currently live with his parents, but are pretty self sufficient and it is more like a house share situation, his parents are very laid ba...
A. 27 November 2010: They may be worrying about you from a purely practical point of view.
Once you get a mortgage, that is a serious commitment, and one that can often be difficult to pay off.
IF you split (and no one is saying you will! - just a precaution) the... (read in full...)
We split up for 4 hours and he's already emailing girls for sex!
Q. me and my boyfriend have had alot of breakups. usually he leaves me, and we only stay broke up for a day or so, yea i know..immmature of us. anyways, yesterday we had another fight and i broke up with him for a short 4 hours. i took my stuff with ...
A. 27 November 2010: I dont think either of you are mature enough to be in a relationship.
Constant fighting, breaking up, getting back together - that is NOT what a relationship is all about. This sounds like something you would find in school, with teenager... (read in full...)
I like him so much but he's leaving me till last!
Q. since august ive been talking to a guy online. hes 6 years older than me and hes turkish, lives in turkey. he is so lovely! and i find him so attractive. we would speak online every night and see eachother on webcam, nothing wrong, just faces as hes ...
A. 26 November 2010: I just want you to read this question.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/things-arent-adding-up-and-im-confused.html
You are only 16-17, this guy could be anyone, doing any thing. Please please please be careful.
You never think these... (read in full...)
If you're a virgin, can you have sex 2 or 3 times in the same day?
Q. Hey, is it possible too loose your virginity but have sex another 2 or 3 times in the same night? Its what my partner wants just want to know if it's safes thanks x...
A. 25 November 2010: Read this, it may help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-normal-for-me-to-be-in.html... (read in full...)
Does he love me as much as he does his child?
Q. Please help me understand. I'm 20 years old and i'm wondering about things in general to do with parent-child relationships. I read on here yesterday that its a diff kind of love and you often see on here parents write that their children are the...
A. 25 November 2010: Are these your questions as well?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-so-many-women-and-men-get.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-helped-influence-my-boyfriend-to-disown-his.html
There are many different types of love. Family lo... (read in full...)
Why do so many women and men get jealous of another's children?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could tell me that if there is nothing to be jealous of (a man with children) then why do so many women and men get jealous of another's children? I have been wondering about this for a while. My boyfriend is 22 ...
A. 24 November 2010: I think the problem is that people get jealous.
They do not want to have other people (children) taking their partners attention away from them. They dont care if they are a child, a friend, an ex, a parent - they want their partner all to thems... (read in full...)
Should I get mum and dad tattooed onto my inner wrist
Q. should i get my mum and dads name tattooed onto my inner wrist okay i was thinking mum on my right wrist and dad on my left do you think this will look okay ? or do you think it would look better with mummy and daddy ?...
A. 24 November 2010: Ok, firstly in the UK it is illegal for anyone to tattoo a person under the age of 18.
SO if you do get a tattoo at 16-17, then whoever does it is risking a fine and possibly a criminal record.
Secondly, do you really want a tattoo that says... (read in full...)
Stepfather vs. Daughter with mother caught in the middle!
Q. My husband continues to nag at my 15 year old daughter. She is a slop and can be moody, but she is 15. When my daugther is not around, my husband and I get a long awesome...we never argue unless it is about her. She is a good kid (honor roll for ...
A. 23 November 2010: Sounds like this is a classic case of step parent not wanting the step child around.
He wants to be in a relationship with you, but not your daughter. He is not willing to compromise. Its HIS rules or not at all.
The fact that "the rules"... (read in full...)
Should I keep this relationship with the teacher a secret?
Q. i need help i wanna know if we should continue this relationship in secret or we shuold tell someone but i don't really want to end what we have got. i will be brief i went on this school visit for the whole weekend with school the teacher i ha...
A. 22 November 2010: No, you should not carry on with this. What he is doing is illegal, and will get him sacked for professional misconduct, breach of trust and child abuse. This is probably the most seriously thing a teacher can do.
16 is the legal age of consent ... (read in full...)
If you're a virgin, can you have sex 2 or 3 times in the same day?
Q. Hey, is it possible too loose your virginity but have sex another 2 or 3 times in the same night? Its what my partner wants just want to know if it's safes thanks x...
A. 22 November 2010: If he is a virgin too, you may find he CANT have sex that many times. He just may not be able to get erect a second or third time.
Having sex is not like having a crafty wank in the bathroom......
Having sex for the first time should not be pl... (read in full...)
If you're a virgin, can you have sex 2 or 3 times in the same day?
Q. Hey, is it possible too loose your virginity but have sex another 2 or 3 times in the same night? Its what my partner wants just want to know if it's safes thanks x...
A. 22 November 2010: To be honest your partner sounds rather selfish and uncaring.
When a woman has sex for the first time, it can be a traumatic experience, with blood, pain or even difficulty in penetration. A lot of first times dont work very well at all.
This... (read in full...)
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