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I try to give people honest opinions about situations, and give an unbiased balanced view of their options.

Some people may think I am harsh, but often a "softly softly" approach does not work, and a good dose of reality is needed.

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My boyfriend is at uni now but I don't know if I am strong enough to cope

Q.   Hello, I'm 20 and my boyfriend moved away to uni 5 weeks ago, 2 and a half hours away from home. I see him once every 2 weeks now. how do I cope better with this situation? I feel like he has a brand new exciting life and I'm just at home with the...

A.   20 October 2011: University is usually a make or break period for relationships. Most people who go to uni do so straight out of school and are only just adults. Their wants, needs and beliefs are all in the process of development. It is a big test for people, ... (read in full...)

Why didn't he want to continue?

Q.   Please, please, I really need your help. I have so many mixed feelings now that writing this is hard. I had recently gave my bf my v-card. It was unexpected to him because I've planned it all to my self. We've dated for a year and up til now, all ...

A.   20 October 2011: Have you considered he may also have been a virgin, and was 'playing along' with the whole situation pretending he knew what he was doing, and then freaked out at the last minute? My guess is he panicked. Give him a little time and I am sure he ... (read in full...)

For 16-18 year olds, what should we do for halloween?

Q.   Sooooo, Halloween is coming up, me and all my different friends and "friend groups" want to do something. People like coming to my place, but there is noway I am having a halloween party. We think someone else might be throwing one, but can't b...

A.   17 October 2011: I work at a University, and should you ever get the chance to go yourself, you will see that dressing up is an integral part of the student lifestyle..... (personally one that I do not understand!). So do not worry about the dressing up thing - ... (read in full...)

Is is wrong to date a 17 year old? I'm 26

Q.   Hi there. So basically I've got 2 questions here. 1/ I'm 26 and there's this girl I like but she's 17, would you think there is anything wrong with that? If not then read question 2. 2/ I've been talking to her for a few months now, but have never ...

A.   5 October 2011: Just remember you are a full grown adult man, legally she is still under 18 and therefore a child. Yes, she may be over the age of consent for sex, but her age does limit her with many other activities such as drinking and going out. She is also ... (read in full...)

Is it wrong of them? Neither of them seem to think they have done anything wrong

Q.   Okaay where to start.. Well i have been seeing this guy for a few days even though im all that into him i think hes okay but i thought id give him a chance. I will call this boy 'C' then there is one my best friends who i will call 'E' She (E) is s...

A.   30 September 2011: I am slightly confused by your question, but let me try and help. So you having been 'seeing' this boy C for a few days. You are not that bothered about him, but you thought you would 'give him a go'. C has been sending naughty flirty m... (read in full...)

If your son/daughter came home and told you they were pregnant or got someone pregnant, how would you respond?

Q.   How would you respond if your son/daughter came home and told you they either got or is pregnant? And I mean out of wedlock, at a young age. Around 16-18 years old. Last week, my mom told me she would be dissapointed in me, but supportive. It got me ...

A.   30 September 2011: If I was her mother, I would feel very disappointed, angry, hurt, ashamed and to be honest a total failure as a mother. I think all parents want the best for their children, and to see their underage child throw away their life by getting ... (read in full...)

She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!

Q.   I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...

A.   29 September 2011: I agree with Chigirl. She asked for you to do that, and maybe was not expecting the reality of what she asked for. If she thinks that half a penis still makes her a virgin then she is living in a fantasy land. She is 19, but clearly not r... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?

Q.   im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...

A.   28 September 2011: No it makes it a very bad idea. This is an 18 year old ADULT MAN, who is trying to get a 16 year old CHILD pregnant. No. Very bad idea. If you do this, you will regret it for the rest of your life. Potentially he may also be commiting a crim... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to get pregnant, aged 16?

Q.   im 16 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months we've been sexually active for 2 months straight and well he has told me he wants to have a baby. i dont really want to have a baby right now because im going through some legal problems ...

A.   27 September 2011: ok.... so let me get this straight. You have known this guy for 2 months and slept with him straight away. And you are only 16. And you think this is a good idea? You are in no way mature enough to have a baby. Period. If you were old enoug... (read in full...)

How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?

Q.   I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...

A.   27 September 2011: I want to make a point that no one else has picked up on yet. This is YOUR two year Anniversary. *YOU* as in a *COUPLE*. Not just him. You say "He is really excited about it so I want to do somethign special for him" Well that is... (read in full...)

So are his little postings on facebook about me?

Q.   Hi, So I just wanted to ask if these are all coincidences or not. A guy and I got into a misunderstanding and based on 1)he thought I was into his friend at the same time and 2)he was really a party boy all his life and I don't think he had mu...

A.   27 September 2011: Is this you too? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-would-he-suddenly-make-his-facebook-photos.html I stand by what I said on that thread. Stop reading into things, he doesn't want to be your friend and he is not thinking about you. Ti... (read in full...)

Yasmin Pill a month later

Q.   Hello everyone thanks in advance for your answers. My issue is technical. My gyno prescribed me Yasmin pills and told me to take them August 6 because I wanted to be period-free for some time (Swimming-Lengthy Vacation). BUT! My period cam...

A.   26 September 2011: You are still very new to the pill and it can take a good few month for your body to settle into its the new cycle you are forcing on it (remember the bleeding you have now is NOT an actual period like it was before, but a withdrawal bleed). Thing... (read in full...)

I'm 13, he's 18. Would it be ok to date him?

Q.   i always feel a lot older than i am. me and this guy like each other and flirt a lot, and it might lead to a relationship but we're just seeing how things go as hes 18, im 13 and we don't want to rush into anything. i know it would be illegal to ...

A.   26 September 2011: Right Legally, anyone over the age of 18 who is involved in a sexual relationship with someone under 16 can be put in jail for UP TO 14 years. If you were under 13, then this would be even longer. He would also be put on the sex offenders re... (read in full...)

How can I deal with the criticism I'm going to get? How can we work it out in the future?

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend two years on Friday, because he thought it was getting too intense and serious for two year 11's we were arguing a lot. It was done really nicely and he said if I ever needed anything he'd be there for me, I was the best...

A.   25 September 2011: I have to agree with marieclaire. We have all been teenage girls, and we all think we are mature and know everything. In 10 years time you will look back and know you were naive. Trust us. If you think you are mature enough and strong enoug... (read in full...)

How can I deal with the criticism I'm going to get? How can we work it out in the future?

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend two years on Friday, because he thought it was getting too intense and serious for two year 11's we were arguing a lot. It was done really nicely and he said if I ever needed anything he'd be there for me, I was the best...

A.   25 September 2011: In a few years, once you hit 18, you will all be moving on in different directions. University, work, all sorts of other things come into your lives and you will find that your ex BF will want to move on and explore the next stage of his life. ... (read in full...)

He's moving away, and this could be our last chance of a relationship, help! Do I give it a chance?

Q.   Hey, any advice would be appreciated! right, first of all I'll tell you the basic story. I'm with this guy. I met him in college, he's similar to me in things like music, and our views on things, I get on well with his family and he does with min...

A.   25 September 2011: I think you should just let sleeping dogs lie. You have already said you dont feel more than just friends for this guy - possibly there is more, but it didnt work out once and it is unlikely to again. He obviously has very deep feelings fo... (read in full...)

He thinks I'm cute and funny but he said he doesn't want a girlfriend!

Q.   I am in 8th grade and I've had this crush on a guy for about 4 months. He hasn't really showed any interest in me ,but my friends catch him staring at me when I have my back to him all the time. We used to text eachother all the time, but lately not ...

A.   25 September 2011: I agree. Some people are just not ready to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend at 14, 15, 16 years old. And it is perfectly normal to feel that way. He is just being a very normal teenage boy. There could be many reasons for him to feel that way... (read in full...)

Why would he suddenly make his facebook photos public?

Q.   A guy removed me as a friend from his facebook list because he wanted no regrets and didn't want me to know about his actions. I got a really amazing makeover in the upcoming year. I know I shouldn't be searching him but ... I did. Anyway, he has e...

A.   23 September 2011: Short answer, No. He probably didn't even think about you when he did it. Also, with the way facebook tinkers with the settings does he even know you can see his facebook? Stop reading into things. It will do you no good at all. ... (read in full...)

We're getting comfortable but she won't sleep with me

Q.   So I been talking to this girl for a few weeks now. At first, she was very resilient. I heard a lot of the word "no", but now she seems more interested in hanging out. We've gone on a couple of dates/hangouts ( casual dinners, public shoppin...

A.   19 September 2011: Ok. I have read this a couple of times now. And I am going to try and stick to the facts. You have been 'talking' (note, not dating, or going out with, or being in a relationship with) this girl for a few weeks. You have ONLY gone on a coup... (read in full...)

How can I make my boyfriend of over two years commit?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2years but he doesn't seem like he wants to commit and i don't think i can wait any longer. We've spoke about getting engaged but he doesn't seem interested and the same with a baby, theres always ...

A.   19 September 2011: OK, so he is 25, and has a child with a woman he only knew for 7 months. Now he is dating you. That isn't a great track records. What is to say you won't get pregnant and he will move on. He has already left one mother and child, how do... (read in full...)

Fwb ignoring me done nothing wrong

Q.   Hi this is my problem my fwb who I have been having sex with for the past 6 months has just recently started ignoring me I text him last wednesday and got no reply and today he completely blanked me and walked straight past me what have I done wrong ...

A.   18 September 2011: He sounds rude, but being a FWB, there is no commitment and each person has the right to stop the sex at any point. There is no relationship. By ignoring you, he is telling you he no longer wants sex with you. It is rude, yes, and he is an idi... (read in full...)

Does Internet dating actually work?

Q.   I thought I'd share my experience - I guess I'm probably not alone. I've generally not had a problem in getting first dates with women on dating sites: although my looks are fairly average at best I've got a good profile and can write witty emails. ...

A.   18 September 2011: Hi OP You sound like the male version of me... altho I have limited experience with internet dating, my own first dates usually end up with the man running a mile, saying he isnt ready for a relationship blah blah blah etc etc Only for me t... (read in full...)

How can I make my boyfriend of over two years commit?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2years but he doesn't seem like he wants to commit and i don't think i can wait any longer. We've spoke about getting engaged but he doesn't seem interested and the same with a baby, theres always ...

A.   18 September 2011: You need to chill out a little bit. You are still only VERY VERY young. 18-21 years old. You are both only just adults (I know you think you are all grown up) but you are still learning about yourselves, what you want in life, where you see your... (read in full...)

Is he immature sexually?

Q.   My boyfriend doesn't seem like most guys I've known and he has me puzzled. I took his virginity about two months ago and the sex we have is pretty good. I'm his first for all things sexual, so ive been patient and so forth. He is very confused by ...

A.   15 September 2011: He was still a virgin two months ago, give the poor boy a break. You sound like you are very experienced sexually and know what you want and how you want it done. That all comes with experience. Think back to when you lost your virginity -... (read in full...)

I care so deeply for this girl, I don't want her to slip up and kill herself

Q.   Well it looks like I've found myself between a rock and a really hard place.. We've been together for 2 months, everthing's been going great. I know who she really is, she's sweet and cute and I guess a little on the shy side, I accept all of wh...

A.   12 September 2011: You have to look at this objectivly and not from a selfish point of view. You dont want her to break up with you, so you are willing to keep quiet and let her possibly die? If you care as much as you say you do, then you have to realise that the... (read in full...)

Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?

Q.   This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...

A.   5 September 2011: As someone who is single and has been single for a while out of choice (and the fact no man wants me - sob!) I think it comes down to the fact that a lot of women don't feel the need to be tied down. With a boyfriend, comes commitment and whether ... (read in full...)

Lesbian friend going too far!!

Q.   Hey everyone, I am a 16 year old female, I have a boyfriend and I love him to death but my best friend is really starting to get in the way! She admited to me two weeks ago that she is a lesbian and she hasn't stopped harassing me since. She keeps ...

A.   4 September 2011: If this was a male friend coming on to you, groping you and forcing himself on you, this would be classed as sexual assault. Just because it is another girl, doesnt make any difference. You have told her to back off, you have said you are not ... (read in full...)

Problems with marrying my boyfriend.....how do we get around this?

Q.   how can i get married to my boyfriend? he is from iraq and only has a home office id card which cannot be used as id for marriage at the registrar office. he has been in this country 4 years and is awaiting his passport, he has been waiting about 6 ...

A.   2 September 2011: I don't think you have thought this through 100% If he is a muslim, and you marry him in a mosque, then you will also have to convert. DO you want this? Do you know what it entails? Do you know about what you will and will not have to do and give... (read in full...)

Mum has outstayed her welcome but she has nowhere else to go!

Q.   my 79 year old mum has got a fear of living on her own and spending nights on her own. she is fit and well for her age, she does not even look 79, she is not like a frail old lady. when i had my baby and got a house of my own and moved out she mo...

A.   1 September 2011: She sounds like my Nan, who is about the same age, and since my Grandfather passed away she has engineered as many opportunities as she can to have my Mum and Uncle running around after her and looking after her. We have had crying, moaning, lying, ... (read in full...)

I've been talking online with a 30 year old woman who wants to go out with me!

Q.   Hello there everyone i could use some advice. Ive been talking online with this woman she is 30 years old. We have been talking for about a month or so and do not live far away from each other. I have talked to her on webcam so i know she is who ...

A.   31 August 2011: "I want someone there for me when i need them someone i can talk to understands me . And she said she would be that person." You want a mother figure, not a romantic liason with this woman. I am 28, and there is NO WAY on earth that I would eve... (read in full...)

My friend goes after all my sloppy seconds!

Q.   Hey, I'm just going to get straight into it. I have a friend, i love her to bits and trust her. Well. Not so much now. I have an ex, who im extremely close with and she knows just how much. But everytime shes drunk she tries it on with him, they ...

A.   30 August 2011: I don't think you are being stupid, and yes, if she is going after ALL your exes (how many have you had?!) then she may have some issues, perhaps she is jealous of you, or maybe she thinks you are better than her, so she goes for your ex boyfriends ... (read in full...)

Am I being selfish? Or does my BF need to be understanding?

Q.   I have recently gotten my A level results and was supposed to go to uni and move in with my boyfriend of 3 years. Unfortunately I didn't get the results I needed and subsequently lost my place at university. I spoke to lots of people and they all ...

A.   26 August 2011: I am sorry you didnt get the grades you wanted, but that is the lottery of University entry systems. There is no 'right' to a place at any University. Did you get the grades to be able to go to another Uni to do the same course? Or is this purely ... (read in full...)

I think I'm in love with teacher...I want to know if he loves me back

Q.   I'm 15 and this teacher is almost 40.But i think I love him.I'm going to be a Sophomore this fall,and I met him the fall of my freshman year,he was my science teacher for 2 sememsters.I have alot of emotional baggage in my life including my mother ...

A.   26 August 2011: He is married with kids. Regardless of your age, that should instantly make him off limits to romantic advances. The thing about love, is that sometimes we cant have the people we want. That is life, learn to deal with rejection. As for your s... (read in full...)

Should I study film in college, which is my passion, or get another degree as a fallback?

Q.   I know this is relationships but i really could use some third party advice! I'm going to university and want to know whether i should study the what i hope to pursue a career in, or whether i should study something else?? Basically, i w...

A.   14 August 2011: I work at a UK university, and I see countless students taking 'film' 'media' etc ..... To be perfectly frank, there are so many people taking these arty degrees now, that they are devalued. They are what's known as 'soft' subjects. Getting a... (read in full...)

Is there a time limit for how long I can keep a sugar Daddy interested?

Q.   I turned 29 a fortnight ago. I will be 30 next year at this time. Throughout my 20s I have had several sugar daddies, older men who supported me financially whilst I was pursuing my musical aspirations. They've been good chaps over all, tho of cour...

A.   14 August 2011: To be honest, I think it is rather sad that you have felt the need to have ANY of this type of relationships. As a woman, I cannot imagine using anyone for my own selfish needs, and paying for it with sexual favours. But that is just me. I would ... (read in full...)

Is it legal for a 24 year old to date a 17 year old?

Q.   Hi to all I've just found out that a friend of mine (24 years old male) is dating a (17 year old female) and just would like know is this legal or illegal and is this right or wrong as i really dont know myself what to say to them both....

A.   10 August 2011: As long as he is not in a position of trust over this girl, then it is perfectly legal. It is also none of your business, so regardless of what you think, you should keep your feelings to yourself. It is his/her choice to have this relation... (read in full...)

Is it too early to consider getting married? And do I pop the question or wait for him to ask?

Q.   I am in love with my boyfriend, i want our relationship to move forward but feel like we're stuck moving nowhere. I really don't know what to do at the moment, we both work full time mon-fri, but have completely different hours, basically when i ...

A.   8 August 2011: You are still very very young. I know you feel like you love him with all your heart, at your age feelings, wants and needs can change between 21 and 28. You might marry him now and regret it in 6 years time. You would still only be 27 then. ... (read in full...)

Is it legal to date an ex teacher?

Q.   Is it legal? Some close teachers, were aware I had feelings for this teacher. and they were actually okay with it! He never taught me. And yes, mostly everyone has agreed he feels the same. Question is, would he be in trouble with the law? T...

A.   6 August 2011: I know eyes. In a few years they will see the light. ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my professor reply?

Q.   So I wanted to remain friends with a former professor because she was a huge impact on my life. I asked her if we could remain in contact, she said yes, but every time I email her (the only form on contact we have) she doesn't reply. why would she ...

A.   6 August 2011: OK, I work at a University, and when the profs go on leave, there is TOTAL blackout. No emails, no letters, no phonecalls. If it is a research leave, then they may check for important emails only. If it is holiday, then they dont check at al... (read in full...)

I started my period and gained 5 lbs???

Q.   Hello! I started my period a few days ago, and all the sudden I'd gained nearly five pounds! Which has never happened. I'm becoming worried that it won't go away! I feel so self conscious, and it's really noticeable. My jeans don't fit! My stomach ...

A.   5 August 2011: I have that problem, when I get my period I can gain a huge amount of weight, purely from water retention. It isnt very fun at all, but it happens to a lot of women. There isn't much you can do about it. ... (read in full...)

Will my boyfriend ever cut the apron strings??

Q.   I am 23 and have a 25 year old boyfriend who I love very much, he has many wonderful qualities. However, after 2 years together I am becoming frustrated by the seemingly immature aspects of his personality and the sense that the relationship isn't ...

A.   4 August 2011: I agree with Birdy. You want a serious, long term commited relationship with this guy, including moving in together. Does this dream include marriage or just living together? If you get married, she will be your mother in law - could you cope... (read in full...)

Is it legal to date an ex teacher?

Q.   Is it legal? Some close teachers, were aware I had feelings for this teacher. and they were actually okay with it! He never taught me. And yes, mostly everyone has agreed he feels the same. Question is, would he be in trouble with the law? T...

A.   30 July 2011: First and foremost, it doesnt matter if you are still at school or not, if you are below the age of 18, then it is ILLEGAL for a teacher to date you. End of. Ok, here are some facts. It is ILLEGAL for a teacher to have a relationship wit... (read in full...)

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