We're not supposed to have sex before marriage but we want to!
Q. I lost my virginity a couple of years ago, and was in a serious and long relationship which was sexually active. However, my boyfriend and I broke up after 2 years and soon after I became a Christian so I know I am not supposed to have sex before ...
A. 14 March 2011: I am not religious, so I can not advise you on the rights or wrongs.
BUT - this is a choice you make when you choose to follow a religion. There are sacrifices you have to make as part of a faith.
We see so many questions on here about this ... (read in full...)
My friends say my facebook friend could be dangerous, but she is so nice!
Q. Hi, There is this person on facebook who is adding people from my school including me and that person has been emailing me saying that that person is a girl and is new to our school but never comes outside because she is too shy, and her profile ...
A. 12 March 2011: Just to add to my earlier answer - not everyone on facebook is nice or real.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1282157/Facebook-grooming-How-pervert-postman-used-site-groom-hundreds-children.html
"He dyed his hair different colour... (read in full...)
My friends say my facebook friend could be dangerous, but she is so nice!
Q. Hi, There is this person on facebook who is adding people from my school including me and that person has been emailing me saying that that person is a girl and is new to our school but never comes outside because she is too shy, and her profile ...
A. 11 March 2011: This is a very dangerous situation!
You should NEVER add anyone you do not know in person to your facebook.
As it stands, there are so many inconsistances in what you have told us.
1. Profile is MALE, yet this person says she is femal... (read in full...)
Would it be nasty if I receive oral sex from his close friend?
Q. Hello!!! In Just going to get straight to it, would I be nasty if I received oral sex from this Guy if I use to have sex with his friend? OK me and the Guy who I use to Have sex with we don't talk, haven't talked in Like 7 months. They both liked Me...
A. 11 March 2011: Sometimes in life, you have to be patient and wait for the things you want.
You are only 19, yet you have already had sex with 5 men? Thats quite a lot! Keep going at that rate, and you will end up with a reputation, and may become one of the m... (read in full...)
Does this mean we just cant have sex or can't have sexual play whatsoever?
Q. Ok I need some help. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few weeks now. Sure its not long but we realy have clicked. We love and hate the exact same things and things are going great. But she said to me today that she wants to go further ...
A. 10 March 2011: Generally with regards to law, ANY sexual act is considered to be sex. This includes handjobs, fingering, oral sex, blowjobs, or vaginal/anal penetration.
It is ALL sex.
The age of consent is 16, so therefore she cannot give consent to ANY s... (read in full...)
Teenaged boy needs advice on sexual relationship with girlfriend...
Q. im 16 years old and in my first sexual relationship.i've been reading other questions off a similar subject and the sex life in question has taken months to droop. i am worried because i have only been in this relationship for almost 4 months and i ...
A. 9 March 2011: I know you are both 16 and now sex is 'Legal' but she may not actually be ready for a sexual relationship.
Contrary to popular culture, most 16 year olds are not having sex like rabbits. It is perfectly normal to not being having sex or not WANT... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply for hours!
Q. Hello, My problem is that my boyfriend always texts back after an hour or two or even sometimes not at all in the odd rare occassion - sometimes i text him again later on to see if i get a reply, normaly which i do - usually saying he is sorry and ...
A. 8 March 2011: Woooahhhhh slow down there lady!
I am a girl, and I know about obsessive texting but you need to step back a bit!
Boys/men are generally rubbish about texting. You do find the odd one who is an obsessive texter, but these are not common and m... (read in full...)
My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.
Q. My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...
A. 8 March 2011: Having been a child of divorced parents, I can understand where your daughter is coming from. I also know that children have their own minds and if they dont like someone, then no amount of "training" will change the way they think.
If your dau... (read in full...)
The most wanted pennis size
Q. female input needed for the best result. What is the pennis preference size irrespective of knowing how to use it or not. I mean the ultimate size you'll wish if your man had....thank u...
A. 7 March 2011: OP, I think what the women of DearCupid are trying to say, is that we do not carry around tapemeasures with us, and every time we have sex with a new man, whip it out to check how big it is.
Every man is different, and will provide a differen... (read in full...)
I'm leaning towards having casual sex but am unsure if its the right way to go
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, i'm 17 and i'm thinking about 'casual sex' i'm a virgin, but when i like a guy i get too attatched and im sick of it, it affects my college work, my moods my other friendships. I don't like the way they have power over your ...
A. 6 March 2011: You have answered the question yourself
"When im with this guy he just feels right i guess"
YOU want more than just casual sex. You want him as a boyfriend. To you being with him "feels right". This is emotional connection on your part. IF yo... (read in full...)
I'm leaning towards having casual sex but am unsure if its the right way to go
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, i'm 17 and i'm thinking about 'casual sex' i'm a virgin, but when i like a guy i get too attatched and im sick of it, it affects my college work, my moods my other friendships. I don't like the way they have power over your ...
A. 6 March 2011: Hi OP If you cannot face telling your mother or talking to the GP about sex and contraception, then you are not mature enough to be having sex. If you are indeed 17 then in the UK you are over the legal age of consent and can go to the Doctor... (read in full...)
What are some ways to tighten your vagina, aside from kegels??
Q. Blegh..Look: I'm sure I'm just "asking" to be mocked here, but the thing is..I was with a guy for a good while (the only guy I've ever been with). We've been broken up for a long while (about two years)and I've started dating a really good friend. ...
A. 6 March 2011: Glad we could help :)
But seriously, don't worry! you are fine just the way you are!
Tiger x... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my husband that I haven't been pregnant?
Q. how do i prove to my husband that i haven't been pregnant? what test to i have to undergo to prove that i haven't been pregnant?...
A. 6 March 2011: As Abella says, only a Doctor can tell if a woman has given birth either by a vaginal birth/caesarian section.
To say if you have ever "been" pregnant - ie either miscarried or aborted the foetus, I do not think that it is possible to tell, ev... (read in full...)
I'm leaning towards having casual sex but am unsure if its the right way to go
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, i'm 17 and i'm thinking about 'casual sex' i'm a virgin, but when i like a guy i get too attatched and im sick of it, it affects my college work, my moods my other friendships. I don't like the way they have power over your ...
A. 6 March 2011: If you know you already get emotionally attached to boys now, without having sex with them, then casual sex is not for you.
"i get too attatched and im sick of it, it affects my college work"
If you get this bad over someone you are not in a... (read in full...)
Do these signs point to an orgasm or is she faking it?
Q. I had this fear until last week that my girlfriend was faking orgasms. We are each other's first sexual partners, and I relied on my fingers/tongue, rather than my woefully average 5 inches in girth to get the job done. I don't see a reason why she ...
A. 4 March 2011: I agree with all the others, but I would like to point out, that normal women are not like the ones you see in porn films! Porn is not REAL life sex. It is a total fantasy for the male mind. 99% of women do not squirt, or make those bizzarre t... (read in full...)
13 year old boyfriend wears briefs. Does it really matter?
Q. My boyfriend is 13 and he still wears briefs. Does it really matter? He wears ones like these: http://direct.asda.com/george/kid-s-clothing/older-boys/underwear/5-pack-camo-briefs/GEM61476,default,pd.html...
A. 4 March 2011: So what?
There are SO many different types of underwear on the market. I mean look at womens undies, briefs, pants, g-strings, hipsters, boy shorts, high leg, brazilian, thongs.
Not all men wear boxers.
... (read in full...)
What are some ways to tighten your vagina, aside from kegels??
Q. Blegh..Look: I'm sure I'm just "asking" to be mocked here, but the thing is..I was with a guy for a good while (the only guy I've ever been with). We've been broken up for a long while (about two years)and I've started dating a really good friend. ...
A. 3 March 2011: You are only 18-21. I very much doubt you are 'loose'! If you had given birth to 3 or 4 kids, or been having rampant sex with some overly large objects every day for the last 20 years then you may have some worries but as you have not and havent h... (read in full...)
My Mum is coming between my first love and me!!
Q. Ok so i'm 15 in yr 10 goin' on to work experience etc and my friends who don't go to my school (they go to a grammar one) have a friend who's in yr 11 (just turned 16) and when i met him he was really nice and fun to talk to. Then one night (l...
A. 2 March 2011: Im going to look at this from a slightly different point of view.
Do you want to go to university? Because I tell you now, if you get a U in maths, you will not be going.
Its a core subject. Most Unis will look for 5 A-C including the co... (read in full...)
After we made out he said he feels like we didn't click why would he say this?
Q. hi, so there's this guy who lives where i always go on holiday, about ever month. we have known each other for a about two years. I recently started texting him and we did this like every single day and i got very close to him. we started txtin a ...
A. 1 March 2011: I think in his own weird way he is trying to stop you getting hurt - and you have to respect him for that.
Bottom line is, he doesnt fancy you. He doesnt want to be your boyfriend, and if you have sex with him, thats all it will be. Just sex.
... (read in full...)
Am I just his texting friend?
Q. Ive being txten a guy for the last month now. We txt all threw the day and he has being calling me a few times lately. We get on really well. I remember him from school but didnt know him to talk to. He is 21 and im 19. He works away from home and ...
A. 1 March 2011: Men are strange creatures when it comes to texting.
I myself have had TWO (!) experiences with men who like to text a lot. Flirty, chatty, all sorts. We are talking 10 + a day texts. Of course I took this as a sign of romantic interest. Turns ou... (read in full...)
Should I tell my professor how I feel, seeing as we are both adults?
Q. Firstly, I'd just like to say that student/lecturer relationships aren't illegal or anything over here and we're both adults. Secondly, I think this is more just to get things off my chest but any advice would be appreciated too. If anyone's been in ...
A. 16 February 2011: Dear OP
In your first line you say "I'd just like to say that student/lecturer relationships aren't illegal or anything over here and we're both adults."
I work at a University, and what you consider to be perfectly ok - is in fact VERY frowne... (read in full...)
I don't know how to bring up having the implant to my mum
Q. My boyfriend and I have planned to have sex within the next month or so. But we desided that we weren't going to do it untill I had got the implant, but I need to talk to my Mom about talking me to get a implant in the first place.. but I don't know ...
A. 14 February 2011: First of all - in the UK, the legal age of consent is 16.
You are planning on breaking the law.
You are unable to give consent to sex, and ANY underage sex, oral, fingering, blow jobs, or penetration of ANY orifice (vagina, anus, mouth) would... (read in full...)
I'm 20, and I'm desperate for a baby...
Q. I want a child. I put child because I mean it; I want to be a Mum. I'm 20, so if I say Baby people will think I'm some young kid that just likes the thought of not working and having someone to cuddle... I recently asked my boyfriend and he said ...
A. 13 February 2011: I know the hormones are very strong at the moment, but you need to try focussing on something else.
At the moment your boyfriend wants to focus on his work, getting a good career and building a stable job. That is a very responsible thing fo... (read in full...)
Baby in June and we need some names!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having a baby in June and we need some good names for it . I all ready thought of the names Patrick after Patrick Swayze or Morticia after Morticia Addams . But we can't decide. ...
A. 12 February 2011: Please dont name your child Morticia! They will not love you for it when they are at school.
Think about your child, they need a name that they can take through childhood to adulthood so calling them something weird, which may suit a 4 year old... (read in full...)
Why do some girls like anal and some don't?
Q. Why do some girls prefer anal sex and others don't? Are some afraid to try it? Or is it deeper than that?...
A. 10 February 2011: OP. I would like to ask you a question.
Why are YOU so obsessed with anal sex? What makes you think that it is a normal thing for women to do?
Because you have seen the women in porn films do it? So therefor EVERY woman must be happy to do i... (read in full...)
How can we get over this petty fight that all started because of an iPod?
Q. Ok people I bet you will laugh and cringe equally when you read this little issue I'm having. Last night I asked my boyfriend if I could use his ipod at the gym this week (because he never uses it when he's there). Much to my surprise, he sai...
A. 7 February 2011: I think the question here is do you really want to be with a man like that?
He sounds rather arrogant "you have one more chance to prove you are perfect for him"!!!
Well how about he proves he is perfect for you? Because from what you have sa... (read in full...)
Anal sex and anal bleach?
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and i want to try anal but im scared. The area around my ass hole and vagina is quite dark, does this honestly matter? im worried that when it comes rouund to it he may be put off. Also, i know this may so...
A. 6 February 2011: Just remember that "porn" isn't real sex and the things that the women do in it are often not something that most women would ever condsider doing. Porn stars are paid to do these things and look like they are enjoying them.
You are still on... (read in full...)
How do you become a trophy wife?
Q. What do you do to become a trophy wife? Is it just about looks? Or is it if your a wonderfull wife and mom? Thanks for your time....
A. 5 February 2011: A trophy wife is essentially something to look pretty and to make other men jealous.
They are there to look good, nothing else, and as walkindude says, keep their mouth shut. Nothing to do with being a wonderful wife, or mother. In fact a trophy... (read in full...)
I still love my husband. Can he force the issue, divorce me and force a sale of our jointly owned home?
Q. My husband wants to leave me as he says he no longer loves me. I still love him very much and want our marriage to work. He says he has tried but can't. Can I be forced to sell our jointly owned home if he wants to walk away? I have done nothin...
A. 5 February 2011: Short answer, yes he can.
I know this is probably not what you want to hear.
Just because you still love him, and want to make the marriage work will not be enough to force him to stay if he no longer loves you.
When it comes to a di... (read in full...)
Is kissing sexual?
Q. Is kissing sexaul? My friend told me and my short kisses that I had with my ex werte sexaul even thougfh they only lasted one-five seconds, Are kisses sexaul??...
A. 1 February 2011: There are many types of kisses.
There is the quick peck on the cheek.
There is the kiss you give your gran.
There is the kiss you greet your friends with.
There is air kissing (if you are theatrical) a la mwah mwah.. helllooooo dahllllll... (read in full...)
I'm giving my girlfriend her fantasy to be with a former lover/friend. Will I regret it?
Q. I would appreciate any help and comments on my situation. I met a wonderful woman last year and we had an immediate connection. Stronger than any I've known before and she said the same thing. On our third date we were talking openly about fan...
A. 1 February 2011: "She could have just gone to see him without telling me, right? But then it wouldn't have been a threesome with two men she feels strongly about, would it?"
No, then it would have been called "cheating".
What she wants to do is screw him. By ha... (read in full...)
I'm giving my girlfriend her fantasy to be with a former lover/friend. Will I regret it?
Q. I would appreciate any help and comments on my situation. I met a wonderful woman last year and we had an immediate connection. Stronger than any I've known before and she said the same thing. On our third date we were talking openly about fan...
A. 31 January 2011: To me, this sounds more like she wants to have sex with him and you just happen to be there, rather than a threesome.
I think you will end up feeling left out, confused and lost. She has already told you this guy makes her come more, is bigger t... (read in full...)
Does it sound like they're going out?
Q. i think one of my friends is going out with my best friends ex in secret. she walks home with him and on more than one instances ive seen them hugging and holding hands also this weekend i went to the cinema and he was kissing a girl and she had the ...
A. 31 January 2011: ok, firstly it is none of your business who anyone is going out with.
Secondly, your best friend and her ex have broken up - that is why they are ex's. If the guy wanted to be with your best friend he wouldn't have broken up with her.
If she ca... (read in full...)
I hate condoms and she won't go on the pill!
Q. I am in a bit of a predicament with my new girlfriend. We're both 22 and have been going out for 2 months. Last week we talked about having sex with each other for the first time, it's not that one of us doesn't feel ready it's just an issue with ...
A. 31 January 2011: So its ok for her to be uncomfortable, possibly get horrible side effects just so you don't have to wear a condom?
That isn't really very fair now is it!
You are making this all about her. Being a man you have no idea HOW the hormonal contrac... (read in full...)
Should I wait for the relationship that might not happen or just go for it and see how far it could go?
Q. Im single and so he is. It's always been more than just friends, we 'sext' all the time. He wants us to have sex but doesn't like talking about a relationship. He's not a virgin but i am. Should i wait for the relationship that might not happen or ...
A. 30 January 2011: The problem is, this guy sees you as a possibly easy lay.
You are a girl, who without much pressure is "sexting" him. You are not in a relationship, yet you still send him sexy text messages in an attempt to get him off - as a masturba... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he likes me as a friend or as more?
Q. I'm not sure if this guy likes me or not, in an attracted way or as a friend . He is an actor ( not a very well known one , but he is the son of a well known English actor ) . I met him once after a show he did which i saw with my friend, and he ...
A. 28 January 2011: Most people in showbiz feign interest in people. They say "hello darling!" an awful lot and may/may not remember your name.
As actors/actressess/musicians/dancers it is the business to make people like you and to "network" as you never know whe... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?
Q. Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...
A. 24 January 2011: I'm sorry. You are only 20, yet making out like you are over the hill. So you haven't had sex in a year, big deal. There are many people who go for much longer than that without sex and find a boyfriend or partner.
You will have sex again, a... (read in full...)
How do I get help from my University after the death of my father?
Q. it's been more than a month since my father has passed away and i have find it very difficult to understand that i will not see him again. my father's death is effecting my whole family and i can not concentrate on my studies anymore and it i...
A. 21 January 2011: I know its hard, but unless you talk to them, they cant help you.
Best of luck xx ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a sex buddy all the time?
Q. Hey everybody. I have a question; Is it so wrong to have a sex buddie? I mean I'm 19, I'm young I only had sex with 2 guys and the last time I had sex with my last sex buddie was almost 8 months ago. And yes I'm horny I never really like a guy befo...
A. 21 January 2011: This is entirely your choice, however you should always protect yourself.
Dont have multiple one night stands - this will put you at risk not only from STD's and pregnancy, but also from rape, abuse and violence. Get yourself on the pill, al... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher how I feel about him?
Q. Basically I'm in love with my teacher, yeah you've heard it all before I understand, this is just typical, he pays me special attention, touches my body like waist and arms. He makes jokes that can be taken in different ways and says things I could ...
A. 21 January 2011: First of all, it doesnt matter how old you are, ALL teacher/pupil relationships are frowned upon.
Up until the age of 18, it is ILLEGAL.
At Universities it is frowned upon and can be a sackable offense.
When a teacher signs up to the prof... (read in full...)
How do I stop myself from regretting losing my virginity after its done?
Q. So i've met this guy. it was through a friend of a friend and we met only briefly but i have him as a friend on facebook. So we began talking and the conversation quickly became sexual. We swapped numbers and have continued this to and fro-ing of ...
A. 19 January 2011: I want to take this from a slightly different angle.
What exactly do you know about this guy? How many times have you met him?
Your first paragraph concerns me A LOT.
"So i've met this guy. it was through a friend of a friend and we met only... (read in full...)
How do I get help from my University after the death of my father?
Q. it's been more than a month since my father has passed away and i have find it very difficult to understand that i will not see him again. my father's death is effecting my whole family and i can not concentrate on my studies anymore and it i...
A. 18 January 2011: Hi there OP.
I totally understand how you feel and my thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
I too have had a berevement this year - In August my Gramps passed away from Pancreatic cancer. It was very quick, a mere matter of 3 mont... (read in full...)
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