I just had unprotected sex on the first date!
Q. Yesterday I met up with my boyfriend for the first time. We actually ended up having sex, and I know it was really to soon! We actually did it without a condom, and I do plan on getting checked out just to make sure. Anyways now looking back on it I ...
A. 9 September 2010: First of all... he is your "boyfriend" but that was your first date?
I dont get that bit.
How did you meet this guy if you only met up with him for the first time yesterday? Is he an internet date? If so that could be what your mother is s... (read in full...)
Is he really in love with her as much as he say? he is messing with my head!
Q. I have a male friend who i have feelings for (wish i didn't), anyway, he has a girlfriend who he's been with about 9 months. I'm pretty sure he knows i like him as more than a friend and him being with her kills me. He flirts with me all the time ...
A. 9 September 2010: It was difficult, because I felt so used and stupid. I just ignored him. Even tho he tried to call and talk to me. He just wanted me to accept he was in the right and go back to how we were.
So I just ignored him. Which was very difficul... (read in full...)
Is he really in love with her as much as he say? he is messing with my head!
Q. I have a male friend who i have feelings for (wish i didn't), anyway, he has a girlfriend who he's been with about 9 months. I'm pretty sure he knows i like him as more than a friend and him being with her kills me. He flirts with me all the time ...
A. 9 September 2010: Yes I did stop seeing him. I thought we were dating. I thought he was my boyfriend. Turns out I was very wrong, and all those things we were doing were just as "friends". Which also included a lot of intimate things.
He wasnt seeing anyone e... (read in full...)
Is he really in love with her as much as he say? he is messing with my head!
Q. I have a male friend who i have feelings for (wish i didn't), anyway, he has a girlfriend who he's been with about 9 months. I'm pretty sure he knows i like him as more than a friend and him being with her kills me. He flirts with me all the time ...
A. 8 September 2010: His name isnt Pete is it? Sound suspiciously like someone I used to know.
He is a womaniser. He has a girlfriend of 9 months, yet he is groping another woman and telling her she looks hot. And that is "behaving". What else does he think is ok be... (read in full...)
I'm 21 she's 15. Is morally it ok that I want to date her?
Q. So I've recently met this girl, she's 15, but she seems so nice and mature, but ok she can also be quite childish as well. But she seems really into me and I'm 21, now the legal age for stuff I know is 16 but I wouldnt do anything with this girl ...
A. 2 September 2010: She is too young for you. You are in two very different places in your life and want and need very different things.
If she is 15, she will be doing her GCSE's next year. This means a lot of pressure on her. Can you remember how you felt then? Yo... (read in full...)
I'm 21 she's 15. Is morally it ok that I want to date her?
Q. So I've recently met this girl, she's 15, but she seems so nice and mature, but ok she can also be quite childish as well. But she seems really into me and I'm 21, now the legal age for stuff I know is 16 but I wouldnt do anything with this girl ...
A. 2 September 2010: She is too young for you. You are in two very different places in your life and want and need very different things.
If she is 15, she will be doing her GCSE's next year. This means a lot of pressure on her. Can you remember how you felt then? Yo... (read in full...)
I am a 38 virgin, am I the only one?
Q. I am a 38 virgin, am I the only one? I think all that talk when I was a teenager back in the mid 80/s about AIDS put me off for life!!!!...
A. 29 August 2010: Well if it gives you any comfort, I am a 27 year old virgin!... (read in full...)
Why do I enjoy cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 16 and I've been with my boyfriend (23) for 7 months and in the past 2 weeks I've cheated on him 3 times with 2 different people. Once was just kissing, 2nd time was kissing and "touching" and the 3rd time I had sex with someone else... I don't ...
A. 29 August 2010: There is a very simple answer. Dont do it.
Cheating only happens because you let it. Have a bit more self respect and respect for your boyfriend, because at the moment, you have neither.
If it happens because you are drunk, dont drink.
... (read in full...)
Is this RAPE??
Q. im not sure if this is rape... i was messing around with a guy and he started touching me...i didnt care about that but then he started putting it in and i was trying to push him off me at the hips but he was too strong.. i kept asking him to get ...
A. 29 August 2010: This all depends on how old you are. If you are 13, it will have a very different baring to if you are 15.
Yes it is rape. Any act of sexual intercourse where one party said no, is rape.
In the UK, it is ILLEGAL for anyone under the age of... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a 16 year old to go out with a 11 year old?
Q. does a 5 year age gap matter between a boy and girl? i am 16 and this girls 11 years old really like each other and she said that she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend i love her enough to be her boyfriend but is it wrong for a 16 year old ...
A. 23 August 2010: You are playing with fire here. No 11 year old girl is mature enough (no matter how grown up she may think she is) to have any kind of romantic relationship. They are still children. Their bodies are still that of a child, and so are their minds. ... (read in full...)
Stabbed in the heart by her comment...
Q. So this morning was the biggest heart break I could ever handle. I found out my girlfriend... my best friend... my everything cheated on me a month ago. She told me this intoxicated and also took an e pill saying some guy performed oral on her, but ...
A. 21 August 2010: Im guessing she is the same age as you or younger? From the things you have said, she is still very young and immature, and the fact she already has TWO children (I assume and hope they are the same father) yet still goes out clubbing with ... (read in full...)
Should I wait, or have sex? Mom thinks I should be with someone else.
Q. I have been dating a guy for two months now. He is my first boyfriend, and I am a virgin. Things are going well, but sexual issues and Mum's beliefs in relationship outcomes are pressuring me. With regards to sex, he has been waiting for pene...
A. 20 August 2010: If you have only been dating two months, I think it is WAY too soon to be talking about putting your name on his mortgage. Calm down and do what you want.
As someone who has a pushy mother, I know how difficult it can be to do something that the... (read in full...)
21 and single yet again...
Q. Failed relationship after failed relationship. That's what it seems like to me. 21 and single yet again. I know having a boyfriend isn't the only thing that matters in life but it's really getting me down. I keep thinking 'he's a keeper' and it ...
A. 15 August 2010: Sorry, but wait until you are 27 and single. Then you can start to worry.
From a bitter, single 27 year old who hasnt had a boyfriend in years. ... (read in full...)
Uncircumsized, is it really that gross?
Q. Are there any girls out there that prefer an uncircumcised man? I just had a girl in a club push me into a bathroom stall in the mens room. After some kissing she got on her knees, and unzipped my pants. When she saw my stuff, she visibly reco...
A. 7 August 2010: I think this is just a case of what is normal in the country you are in.
Circumcision is widely practised in the US where you are from. In the UK, it is not common in 1993 only 5.6% of boys were circumcised.
http://www.ci... (read in full...)
I really want a family! Will it ever be the right time?
Q. Hello, I am 25 and have been married for 3 years. It has been difficult at times, but we love eacho ther very much. We have good jobs and are good people, but due to some silly mistakes, and the recession affecting work, times are tough.Fo...
A. 23 July 2010: I am older than you (27), and I know how you feel. But I dont have a loving husband or partner either.
I know it makes me angry as hell when teenage girls get pregnant, and get given thousands in benefits, houses and day trips out, when I work my ... (read in full...)
Why do you men act like this the morning after?
Q. I am so sad. This is what happened yesterday. I am traveling now, in a small town, where i only know one person. He took me out to this upscale place. We are just friends, i know him for 15 years, so when we are out we can do whatever we want. ...
A. 17 July 2010: He was nice and chatty in to you, just to get you into bed.
If he had been like he was in the morning, the night before, would you have gone back to his place? No? It was all part of the game. It was in his interests to be nice, friendly, chatty. ... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as destiny?
Q. Is there such a thing as Destiny? I'm asking this because I believe that me and an old friend of mine are meant to be together, despite our ups and downs. You know when you feel a connection with someone and there is so much tension when you...
A. 16 July 2010: As someone who has felt excactly what you are feeling, been there, done it, and believed it, please please please dont let yourself get so attached to him that you hurt yourself.
Because life is not like fairy tales. Sadly.
Dont spend yo... (read in full...)
Help!!! Am I still a virgin??? What should I do?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We love each other. We've being practicing oral sex but always with my pants on. He does not want to have penetrative sex with me before we get married. Even though he sucks and squeezes my breasts, he ...
A. 11 July 2010: Just because he is your first guy, doesnt mean he is the ONE for you. I am not suggesting you leave him, but do you want someone who only cares about his own needs? Because it sure doesnt sound like he cares about yours.
If he cant or wont hel... (read in full...)
Help!!! Am I still a virgin??? What should I do?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We love each other. We've being practicing oral sex but always with my pants on. He does not want to have penetrative sex with me before we get married. Even though he sucks and squeezes my breasts, he ...
A. 11 July 2010: I think from what you have said, you have a very selfish boyfriend.
You say you have been practicing oral sex, yet he has not seen or touched under your pants? In my mind, this means you have NOT been having oral sex. I expect you have been giv... (read in full...)
Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?
Q. I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...
A. 10 July 2010: This honestly could be me writing this. I know exactly how you feel.
"I'm seriously beyond desperate at this point because nothing is making sense anymore!"
Its like no feeling you can put your finger on, its oppressive, stressful, depre... (read in full...)
My boobs haven't grown any more!
Q. hi. i started my pireod when i was 13 and a half and im now 15 and a half but ever since i started i've stayed the same boob size( a :( ) and 4 months after i started my boobs never hurt again. what is going on with them? thanks for any reply...
A. 9 July 2010: I know it seems like this is a major crisis, as all teenage girls feel pressured to have big boobs. (and the boys dont help, as they think the big, inflatable fake boobs they see in porn are real. Boys really can be thick idiots sometimes).
But t... (read in full...)
My friend is the odd one out?
Q. Ok so i live in a small town where I grew up with all these girls. Iv'e known them since we were babies. We are all 17 theres about 14 of us all together. But one of my friends Naomi havent changed at all. she's still young in the mind. She doesnt ...
A. 8 July 2010: Your friend is right. If you are training to be in child care, then even at 17, you need to behave in a responsible way. When you are looking after children you need to be reliable, responsible and above all grown up.
However, from your attitude... (read in full...)
My friend is the odd one out?
Q. Ok so i live in a small town where I grew up with all these girls. Iv'e known them since we were babies. We are all 17 theres about 14 of us all together. But one of my friends Naomi havent changed at all. she's still young in the mind. She doesnt ...
A. 8 July 2010: I dont think you do get our points. You seem to concerned that she is "wrong" for not wanting to do these things.
In fact, she is the only one who is being grown up and adult.
"we tryed to get her to drink" - she doesnt want to, so even "try... (read in full...)
He stopped trying because it was too difficult to take my virginity!
Q. me and my boyfriend have almost been together for 2 months, we are so close and comeftable together it is so right i now belive in love ther is 2 years 9 months diffrence. when we first got together he wasn't too keen om my age and im a 15 year old ...
A. 7 July 2010: In the UK, the LEGAL age of consent is 16.
This means that until you ARE 16, it is ILLEGAL to have sex. At 15, any form of sexual contact is technically classed as RAPE - including oral sex, fingering, handjobs, penetration of the vagina or anus.... (read in full...)
My friend is the odd one out?
Q. Ok so i live in a small town where I grew up with all these girls. Iv'e known them since we were babies. We are all 17 theres about 14 of us all together. But one of my friends Naomi havent changed at all. she's still young in the mind. She doesnt ...
A. 6 July 2010: First of all in the UK it is ILLEGAL to buy alcohol under the age of 18, so if your age range is correct, technically YOU are breaking the law. Maybe your friend actually respects the laws of this country?
Why do you assume she is in the wrong, j... (read in full...)
My husband has a problem with hygiene!
Q. Hey all, quick question. My husband has a problem with hygiene, such as I have to "tell" him to brush his teeth, or to take a shower...I find it disgusting, and a HUGE turn-off. I don't want to be rude about it, but I want the problem to be fixed. ...
A. 5 July 2010: If your age range is correct (18-21) then he still may be in the slovenly teenager mode.
You are very young to be married, and he may still think he can do what he did when he was a carefree single teen - ie having his mother (you) pick up his d... (read in full...)
Can I get far in psychology?
Q. hi, ive just finished my A-Levels and am waiting for my results. i have predictions of: A for psychology C business studies E music technology i do have a mixed bag of grades but i have a great passion and have over 90% average exam perf...
A. 3 July 2010: I work at a University, and to go into a clinical field, you would probably have to do an MA or further study after your Undergrad degree, regardless of getting a First or not.
A first would help you get onto further courses more easily, so it is... (read in full...)
Looking for a hextrosexual relationship, am I being niave??
Q. Hello this is a question that I have to ask, me and a guy i know were talking the other day (this guy hastnt been the first person to say this) he came up with the theory 'all females are bisexual' and it got me thinking... I am a 22 year old male...
A. 3 July 2010: I have to agree with Caring Guy. The thought of another woman just makes me creep and feel physically sick. Urgh. Each to their own I suppose but for me its a No no no no no. If a guy was to suggest anything like that, they would probably get a ... (read in full...)
Scared to say I love you!
Q. Dear cupid, I have this boyfriend we have been going out for about a 20 days we are both 14..i love him so so much but we havent told each other that we loved each other...i am to worried if i say it first in case he doesnt say it back to me? why ...
A. 2 July 2010: You have only been dating for 20 days. This is a very short period of time to be saying "I love you".
I know you feel like you love him, but trust me, we have all been 14 and we have thought we were in love. When you look back in a few years ti... (read in full...)
How do I tell them I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hi, I would like to know your opinions and what I should do, I am 15 year old girl I am secretly engaged to my boyfriend and we have had sex many times, i am finding it very difficult to tell my parents that I have had sex so how would I tell them ...
A. 28 June 2010: The Doctors and teachers have a duty to protect you. Sex Ed is taught so that if there are silly teenagers who do decide to have sex too young, they do not get pregnant or come down with some nasty sexually transmitted disease. You were sensible and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell them I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hi, I would like to know your opinions and what I should do, I am 15 year old girl I am secretly engaged to my boyfriend and we have had sex many times, i am finding it very difficult to tell my parents that I have had sex so how would I tell them ...
A. 28 June 2010: Two things, one Sex under 16 is illegal, so technically you are breaking the law. At 15 you cannot consent to sex, and therefor it is RAPE. Regardless of if you said yes or not. If your boyfriend is over 18, this is an even worse criminal offense, ... (read in full...)
Is she scared because she thinks I want to be more than friends?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Hi. I've known this girl for 4 months; I'm 39 and she is 26; I work with her. We hanged out mostly in groups and she is the type of girl who has lots of male friends; we also hanged out together on a few occasions going fo...
A. 27 June 2010: As a woman who has been and is still on the other end of something similar PLEASE make your intentions known to her. Because if she thinks there could be something there, dont let her get so attached to you that you hurt her. Right now, my l... (read in full...)
I want to stop having sex with everyone I meet!
Q. I don't know what kind of girl I am anymore. its like every guy I meet wants to sleep with me, and I dnt know how to say No. I feel like such a hoe because I'm 19 with 8 sex partners and only been sexually active for 3 years. I want to stop having ...
A. 26 June 2010: Its about respect. About your respect for yourself. How do you see you as a person? Are you just something to be used, something that a guy can take advantage of?
It is also about self restraint. No one is forcing you to have sex with them. If... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy?
Q. I could never date a non vegan, it doesn't matter how nice they are I just never could! Am I being ridiculous? Also why do people resent vegitarians and vegans? I have a few ideas why but would just like to know what you guys think!...
A. 22 June 2010: As someone who works with a lot of vegans and vegetarians, I often get the impression that they do think they have a moral high ground over us lowly mean meat eaters.
They insist on telling at every opportunity how they will not eat meat because ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my feelings for this boy
Q. I fancy this boy. This boy is my auntie's boyfriend's son, so kind of my cousin. He is also four years older than me but I can't stop thinking about him. I know it's wrong and I am underage but it's not illegal in the uk. I couldn't possible tell ...
A. 21 June 2010: I think you should learn a bit more about the laws relating to sex in the UK. You could well be putting yourself at serious risk, not only from sexual diseases, and underage pregnancy (which could harm you as you are not yet physically developed ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my feelings for this boy
Q. I fancy this boy. This boy is my auntie's boyfriend's son, so kind of my cousin. He is also four years older than me but I can't stop thinking about him. I know it's wrong and I am underage but it's not illegal in the uk. I couldn't possible tell ...
A. 20 June 2010: If you are 13, and he is 17, he is almost a grown adult. This means that if anything WAS to happen, it would be 100% illegal. As you are still underage, he would be classed as a paedophile, regardless of whether you wanted it to happen or not.
... (read in full...)
She's 14 and I am almost 20. How can I postpone sex until she's older, without hurting her feelings?
Q. I'm having a slight problem, and mainly just need some words of advice and support. I'm 19, turning 20 soon and I met a girl online sometime around 9 months ago, at first it was just friendly talk and me trying to cheer her up (she's had a very har...
A. 16 June 2010: By the time she reaches 18, you will be 24.
In the next 4 years, you will meet a LOT of women the same age as you, who are ready to have a proper adult relationship.
Can you truthfully say you will be able to ignore all those women to wait fo... (read in full...)
Is this a disaster waiting to happen?
Q. Two weeks ago I went out with my friend and the night before, she had met this guy. He asked her to hang out so he came later on in the night. I ended up hooking up with him, and felt really bad. But I really did like him.. which is the first ...
A. 16 June 2010: Ok, I am only going to try and make you think about this from your friend's point of view.
"Two weeks ago I went out with my friend and the night before, she had met this guy. He asked her to hang out so he came later on in the night. I ended up... (read in full...)
Is fourteen too young to lose your virginity?
Q. Im a 14 year old girl. I met my boyfriend a year ago and have been going out with him since but we have broken up 3 times but got back together. It may sound like a childish relationship but i no that its not. Iv had silly little boyfriends in my ...
A. 15 June 2010: You are probably not going to like this, but yes, you are far too young.
Ok, as you are in the UK, the LAW states that it is ILLEGAL for anyone under the age of 16 to have sex.
That includes, fingering, handjobs, oral sex, blow jobs, or va... (read in full...)
E How do we tell our friend that we're pregnant after her miscarriage?
Q. I just found out that I am pregnant and my husband and I are thrilled! We are still very early on in the pregnancy but wanted to share the news with our best friends, who are also married and were expecting their second child. Unfortunately, ...
A. 14 June 2010: Well, usually people do not tell anyone until the pregnancy has got past a few months. Those early days things are still very fragile, and the majority of miscarriages happen in this time. So if you have only "just" found out you are pregnant, maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 18 and we want to "explore"
Q. Heei, im sophie and im 15 i have a bf thats 18 weve been going out for a year now, we are very much in love. But we have a problem he really wants to explore with me, but we are both very worried about the age difference, could someone please give ...
A. 14 June 2010: Ok, as you are in the UK, the LAW states that it is ILLEGAL for anyone under the age of 16 to have sex.
That includes, fingering, handjobs, oral sex, blow jobs, or vaginal or anal penetration. Basically ANYTHING sexual is ILLEGAL.
At 15, ... (read in full...)
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