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writes:it's been more than a month since my father has passed away and i have find it very difficult to understand that i will not see him again.my father's death is effecting my whole family and i can not concentrate on my studies anymore and it is my last year. i would like to get personal help from the university but im worried what to say to them. plz help
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (21 January 2011):
 I know its hard, but unless you talk to them, they cant help you.
Best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): i would like to thank you all for the support and advice u have provided me and i will try and see my tutor but i just find it diffcult to talk abut the situation howvere i will try. and my biggest problem is that i dnt have an individual assessment as its a group work and i dnt like letting any of peers down but again thank you all for ur prayers
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (18 January 2011):
Hi there OP.
I totally understand how you feel and my thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
I too have had a berevement this year - In August my Gramps passed away from Pancreatic cancer. It was very quick, a mere matter of 3 months from diagnosis to his death and it was a great shock to everyone in our family. I work at a University, teaching and doing research and am currently in the final year of a PhD, so I know how hard it is to "carry on" and focus on your academic work. I had to take the whole summer off from my work and it is only now that I am picking up where I left off last May. Mainly because my head hasnt been in a place where I could do any work.
Please, please please do not worry about talking to your uni. They are there to help you, and they have seen things like this many times before.
Do you have a personal tutor? My advice would be to go and talk to them. Be honest with them, say that you are struggling with your emotions and work and that you feel you cannot concentrate on your studies. They will be able to advise you more. You final year is the most important, to it is right that you are able to focus 100% on it.
Your personal tutor will be able to give you all the options and support you through this difficult time. You have an extenuating circumstance, and the school boards will be perfectly understanding of your predicament.
They want you to do well! It may be that they can postpone your final year modules, so you can take them another time, or perhaps you can take some time off to be with your family. Your tutor will have all the options.
If you need to talk then I am here. You will get thru this, I promise. It's not going to be easy, but you will grow to be a stronger woman.
Big Hugs
Tiger x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): Most universities have a 'mitigating circumstances' form which you can usually get from you department office. You usually need to privide a doctors note or a copy of a death certificate. this will usually give you leave from current exams or assesments but you will need to check with your induvidual university. Most universities also offer a counselling service if you need it.
I'm sorry you are in this position.
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