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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Our relationship is great except for something that I've noticed and I'm not really sure if it's that big of a problem but it does bother me.He remains friends with people who have hurt him and treated him wrong.1. His ex girlfriend who he was with for 3 years who cheated on him, left him for another guy, and lied to him about a lot of bad stuff.2. Another ex girlfriend and my boyfriend's old best friend who had a relationship and slept together behind my boyfriend's back. This girl also treated my boyfriend horribly when they lived together for 6 months and the guy (my boyfriends best friend at that time) steals from my boyfriend and talks bad about him behind his back.3. A girl my boyfriend used to have feelings for only to find out she had a boyfriend and was wanting to cheat, which my boyfriend declined. I am in no way trying to control my boyfriend or tell him who he can't be friends with, but I just don't understand why he wants to be friends with people who have treated him bad. He lets people walk all over him.I understand it's good to forgive and forget, but the main problem I'm having is that these 'friends' still continue to treat him wrongly when they're around. I feel bad for him I guess, can anyone make any sense of this?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (24 December 2013):
He is a very smart guy. Hating will get you nowhere. I am the same way. Love first and always. Leave hate alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2013): One of the reasons could be that he just doesn't care about them. They are so unimportant in his life for the reasons stated by you that he really has no feelings about them. It's like for him if they are not even there.
Also when you are young you kind of close your eyes on many things and have energy to deal with negative people in your life, but when you get to a certain age you kind of have no patience anymore and eliminate people much easier and faster.
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