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writes:My bf is an egoist person. He always asks me to stay online 24 hours for him. And always said that i must reply his chats. If i late reply 1 or 2 mins, he will get angry.He never allows me to attend someone's call when i chat with him. While he always attends many calls when he chats with me.He always said he loves me so much.Yesterday he sent me a pic of him and a girl. They were using 3g glasses. I got angry.He said he did it just for making me jealous.And i asked him what will he do if i send the same pic. He said he will leave me if i do that.And today he said "love doesn't suit me anymore" He wants to break up.But i really love him.. I can't imagine my days without him.. Should i beg him to back with me..?While there is another guy who loves me so much and always on my side everytime i need someone to talk to.. But i dont have any feelings to him..What should i do now? Should i beg to my bf or i should try to love that guy?
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (31 January 2011):
The question is...do you want to be loved and in love? If the anwser is both...then you know what you must do.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 I wonder how much of your love for this man is Stockholm Syndrome. He's controlling your every move and even training you to accept him with other girls while threatening to leave you if you have male friends. He's got control over you and he knows it, and you want to beg him to take you back? Why?
Honestly? I think you should be single for a while. Let this controlling man go and don't jump into a rebound with the nice guy. You sound like you could use some time to get to know yourself as an individual before being in another relationship. Learn to respect yourself so you don't get enslaved again.
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reader, Catflap1  +, writes (31 January 2011):
You would be better off without that boyfriend. It is worrying that you have allowed him to control you. It may mean that you will look for similar things in the next boyriend as that is what you know. I am not sure why you are looking for another so quickly - do you need a boyfriend? Make a list of the things that you need to make you happy and then take time to select someone suitable, a good person who you are attracted to. Do you choose get chosen? If you wait for someone who doesn’t know you well to charge at you professing love, demanding texts, filling your vacuum, overwhelming you – you can bet they are a bit wrong in the head. You may think that is what you should expect if a person loves you. It isn’t. People usually start by sharing a joke, realising they have similar values and needs, interests etc. They date a few times to see what they think. They both consider whether this is a good relationship and then choose each other, perhaps.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Sorry to say but your better off without him.
From what you say he is obviously is a very insecure and immature person with deep trust issues.
He wants to control you this is really no good for a loving relationship and it will not really work out unless he changes.
A good relationship should have a healthy balance of being with each other and having your own male and / or female friends too. Trust plays a big part and without it its not going to work well.
You should find someone who appreciates you for who you are and never be told what to do.
Good luck!
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