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| | *EEN THERE DONE IT's profile:Hi,
I am a married lady with two daughters 20 and 21 years old, I have no qualifications but have a good listening ear, I try to understand how people feel and put myself in their shoes, I live in London United Kingdom, I married young and had kids at a young age, my parents seperated as well as loads of other highs and lows in my life. I always have people come to me for advise, I do try to be sensitive to everyone and honest...hope I can give you some meaning and hope...
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He says he needs to get his head around things I just need to wait!! Should I give him this time ??
Q. Okay, 3 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Occasionally, he'd tell me he wanted to get back together, but then he'd "change his mind." Now, he's saying he wants to be together again.. and he sounds sincere this time. He says I just have to ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hi Babe
Yes,give him his space he probably freaked out when he knew you was pregnant maybe he is not as ready as you are to settle down, it does take men a little longer than us women to make that final commitment. But your still young and have many... (read in full...)
I have been married for nearly 2 years now and my husband and I are having a lot of problems.
Q. I have been married for nearly 2 years now and my husband and I are having a lot of problems. He keeps saying that I should behave like a wife and when I ask him what I am doing wrong he doesn't tell me and there are so many other issues too wher...
A. 17 March 2007: It is mean't to say a shove in the right direction not (shoe) sorry... (read in full...)
I have been married for nearly 2 years now and my husband and I are having a lot of problems.
Q. I have been married for nearly 2 years now and my husband and I are having a lot of problems. He keeps saying that I should behave like a wife and when I ask him what I am doing wrong he doesn't tell me and there are so many other issues too wher...
A. 17 March 2007: Hi hun,
You need to tell him that you love him so so much and you married him for better or worse etc etc... and that you are really upset because you really don't know how to fix this problem as he will not communicate with you, if you knew the ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused and just don't know what to do, please help me decide!
Q. Dear Listener, Sorry if this is kind of long but i'm in distress. I am in such a dilemma right now and need someone's help. Two weeks ago i celebrated my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has had relationships in his pas...
A. 14 March 2007: Hi babes,
You sound so lovely and what a lucky man he has to have such a wonderful person in his life who loves him so so much. I know a relationship is built on trust he went over to see his friend who came onto him I don't know if anything happ... (read in full...)
I want to look after my mum but can't stop thinking how horrible she was to me as a child.
Q. Hi all, I really need some help, I had a terrible relationship with my mother when I was growing up. She constantly put me down and was often violent to me, she locked me under the stairs, but not my brothers. I suffered with asma and eczma real...
A. 27 February 2007: Yes darling it is so so so normal to feel like this after all these years...You blame yourself for the way your mum treated you and what you really have to remember you was a child your mum was the adult...
You was the only daughter and was a bit ... (read in full...)
I love my wife but she is ALWAYS telling me how to drive from the passenger seat!!!!
Q. I have 1 of 100s of other problems with my wife, for which i need some urgent help. On this specific problem, I would explain as below- when i am driving, she continuously gives instructions, like where to park, how to park, (as a matter of fact, i ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hi,
I don't know the answers as to whether there is an ilness, but if you have tried talking nicely on many occassions then thats all you can do...maybe she does get stressed when things go wrong when your driving is she like this with all situ... (read in full...)
Do I let him know I'm here for him? I really like him but he's not answering my questions....
Q. Over 2 years back I fell for an older married friend. He offered a shoulder to cry on through hard times and I got closer to him. He gave me all the signals he was interested too. But then pulled back. Not being able to handle this well I moved ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi babes,
He gave you a shoulder to cry on and to be honest he was probably very flattered that a young girl gave him compliments, he was probably flurting and enjoying it. He probably pulled back because he knew it was wrong and felt guil... (read in full...)
He said he was confused, that I deserved better, he's not worth it. Should I wait till he gets his mind together?
Q. Alright...I started feeling a little itch. This weird feeling came over me one day when we were together. It was doubt. I mean not from my own feelings but from him. I don't know why but I did. The next few days I began to think and think about the ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi babe,
He has been honest with you and thats really all you can ask for in a man so thats a good start...As for waiting for him well that all depends on how you feel about him, just give him a bit of time and space, you are both young and have... (read in full...)
Does he really want me and he's just too scared to admit it?
Q. theres this guy and wev been friends for like 2 years but not like realy close close friends. and well everytime we wld get drunk together we wld fool around even tho he had a girlfriend. and well the first time he told me stuff like he wanted me ...
A. 26 February 2007: It sounds to me darling that he is having his cake and eating it (and a big one at that),
He can't love his girlfriend otherwise he would not be seeing you, this really is not fair my sweet on you or her, I am so sorry for being honest but he is m... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel my friends get just too much for me....
Q. i know this is going to sound like the most selfish problem in the world but its really getting me down. I love all my friends to bits and would do anything for them but im constantly the one they all turn to when they have a problems. I am ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi honey,
NO NO NO NO NO your not selfish your just a great great friend who obviously gives the best advise, this is a gift but can also become a bit of a pain now and again, all of your friends obviously think the world of you and really don'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isn't opening up to me, I'm telling HIM everything about me and he keeps quiet about himself. How can I get him to open up more?
Q. My boyfriend of two years is having a hard time opening up to me. I feel like I'm telling him to much about my personal life and he's not telling me much of anything just things that he fells comfortable discussing with me. With that being said ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi,
You have been with him for two years now and i'm preety sure you must know him well,if you have tried to talk to him and get him to open up to you and you have had no joy then really I wouldn't push it...I don't know if he has any issues or prob... (read in full...)
He called me a spiteful bitch so I dumped him, should I take him back?
Q. Well all i ca say is it isnt my first time of breaking up, so why is it so god damn hard? I've been with Gav a year ad a half things was great..(thats how it is) and month after month we was getting fed up of each other, he knew i wasnt happy but i ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi honey,
You only let him know where you was that to me doesn't mean your spiteful....
Your obviously very hurt by this did you explain to him you didn't mind him being out enjoying himself so you used the time to have fun with your girlfrie... (read in full...)
I love my wife but she is ALWAYS telling me how to drive from the passenger seat!!!!
Q. I have 1 of 100s of other problems with my wife, for which i need some urgent help. On this specific problem, I would explain as below- when i am driving, she continuously gives instructions, like where to park, how to park, (as a matter of fact, i ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi,
It seems to me that this is not the problem as you stated it is just 1 of 100's...Does your wife like to take control of everything?
I am sure you love her but all this is becoming too much for you, but hitting her in front of your two year... (read in full...)
An update about my recent problem.
Q. Thank you for your advice and this is just an update and not another issue. I found a more indirect way to cure my curiosity I Myspace him. I found out that he has a girlfriend named Monique and yes she is black. He said that he loved her on his ...
A. 26 February 2007: Oh darling what an awful way to find out that he has somone else,please don't feel like this wish I could cuddle you and tell you it will be ok...There is nothing wrong with you wishing you were in her shoes we have all felt like that at some stage ... (read in full...)
It hurts my feelings that he ogles big busted women! Should I just move on?
Q. My present lover and I have been together for over a year and a half. We get along petty good, until it comes to sex. Soon after we first got together, I found he had been viewing bare chested woman with big breasts on the internet when I was not ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi honey,
All guys are either breast men, legs men (what ever), there is nothing wrong in this as us girlies don't mind a quick peak do we?
But when it is done infront of you quiet obviously and it hurts your feelings and he won't listen then it ... (read in full...)
I really thought there was a connection between us but she hasn't answered my text. Why?
Q. Hi friends, please help I could really do with some advice, from anyone!! I met this girl called K 2 weeks ago at a geography open day at Exeter university, whilst waiting in the lounge and being put into groups, i turned and spotted K amongs...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi,
Its really nice to hear of a guy who is waiting for replys its normally the other way around....
I don't think you have read the signals wrong it strikes me when you said her mother ushered her away a bit fast and that she replied to you late... (read in full...)
he lives with this girl at college, although it's purely platonic but he talks about her all the time and they're very close friends... How do I handle this?
Q. Hi I am not sure if this is even a problem or all in my imagination...I have been going out with a lovely man for eight mths (we are both 20). I really love him and I know he loves me, we have a very close friendship and good sex life. However we go ...
A. 26 February 2007: Hi hun,
relationships are build on trust if you don't have this then your in for trouble, you say you trust him but it is bothering you....Have you tried talking to him you don't have to acuse him of seeing her you could say your feeling a bit jeal... (read in full...)
Lost my virginity but sex bores me!!!
Q. Hello. I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of a couple of months. The first time we had sex, I didn't feel a thing. I faked that I liked it but I really didn't. I finally told him the truth and from then on we've been trying everything. I ...
A. 25 February 2007: Your only 15 darling I understand peer pressure just wished you had waited till you were a bit older but whats done is done.....I hope your using some kind of contraception because it is not fun at such a young age bringing up a kid, trust me I ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think its possible to have a relationship with someone when you're not physically attracted to them?
Q. Does anyone think its possible to have a relationship with someone when you're not physically attracted to them? Im really falling for a guys personality (hes lovely!) but im not physically attracted to him as in i cant imagine kissing him and ...
A. 25 February 2007: You haven't said how long you have known this guy for, but it is obvious he is not the normal type of guy you go for physically, looks are decieving never judge a book by its cover so they say.........You obviously enjoy his company and to want to ... (read in full...)
I think im driving myself mad with jealousy. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and i just cant trust him at all.
Q. Really need some advice. I think im driving myself mad with jealousy. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and i just cant trust him at all. he's a bit of a closed book and something just isnt right with him. Sometimes i wonder do i ...
A. 25 February 2007: Why do you say your boyfriend is like a closed book, you have been with him for a year now and you don't trust him why, what has he done to make you feel like this?
Jealously is a terrible thing babes a good healthy relationship ship is build on t... (read in full...)
Should I give her an ultimatum or just stick it out?
Q. Hi Im a single guy and would like some advice. On 04/12/06 I started chatting with a girl nearby in a chat room. Anyway we hit it off instantly and after a couple of weeks she asked to meet me. However I still haven’t met here. Every time we ...
A. 25 February 2007: HI
You have been e-mailing with this woman for a year now and after only two weeks she was the one to suggest you both meet up and yet she is the one who has given excuss after excuss, she is obviously avoiding meeting you but what her reasons are ... (read in full...)
I really like this man but I need support just now more than a man. How can I go there and NOT look attractive?
Q. I have been separated from my husband for a year and we are filing for divorce this month. It was terrible, traumatic, both of us did terrible things to each other and I have had post traumatic stress problems for this whole year. So much so, in ...
A. 25 February 2007: Well you really have had a hard time babe haven't you, but well done you for realising you can change yourself, that takes great strength and is a big step to the road of recovery xxxx
This bloke sounds great just the tonic you need someone out ther... (read in full...)
What do you do when your husband does not see the bigger picture?
Q. whre do i go from here , im with my husband 13 years and since having twins 16 months ago life has become hard work ,im not complaining but i miss 1on 1 with my husband talking and just holding each other he thinks im just nagging .. i am only 27 ...
A. 25 February 2007: You have been together for thirteen years and now have your wonderful twins, as much as we all love our kids we need our own time don't we.
Kids get a little easier as they get older but you need to let your husband know your not nagging you love... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that my sister's having a party while they're away even although they've told her no?
Q. I found out that my sister might be having a party. Now I don't now all the details (where, how many are going etc.) but me and my parents are out that weekend and there are guys older than me, who might be going. My parents say she can't have a ...
A. 25 February 2007: Hi, Your sister is only just going to turn sixteen and at that age as we all know we know everything we don't think of any danger...she is probably well excited that older guys are coming to the party but hey that spells DANGER!!!! Not saying t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never lets me go clubbing with her!
Q. I have been going out with my gf for 8 months she never lets me go clubbing with her (always with her girls only. we argue alot now over silly things and its beaking my heart what do i do ?...
A. 25 February 2007: Hi babes, Loads of girls like to go out with their mates on a girlie night out to let their hair down, relationships are built on trust, tell her you trust her and you understand she needs her own space but so do you so get the lads together... (read in full...)
He put his friends first, so I broke up with him. Now he won't reply to my calls or texts? What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i have being goin out for three years, lately he has been putting his friends first (in my opinion) i told him on Friday night that i was upset and he laughed at me and said i was talking rubbish. I then said it was over, and we ...
A. 25 February 2007: Hi your only sweet sixteen and love seems to be cruel doesn't it....well trust me babes you will look back and laugh I promise you that. But for now don't hound him men don't like that it just seems to push them away, I know you feel desperat... (read in full...)
I find it hard to get the bigger picture when forming some kind of opinion about people.
Q. I find it hard to get the bigger picture when forming some kind of opinion about people. Like i notice an imperfection in someone that is hard to tolerate, for example -fat women. Similarly, people who don't use their own brain and instead use ...
A. 25 February 2007: It takes all kinds to make this world we all share but to judge people by their size, looks, education etc... really is hurtful how would you feel? We all judge at times but ask yourself this are we right? no, we are not, it takes time to really get ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting my online love on Saturday and I'm excited but shy and nervous, I don't want to come across as boring.
Q. i'm meeting my online love on sat. i've only just plucked up enough courage to decide to meet him. I know who he is who he says he is and were meeting in public. although i've known him online for way over a year now i'm terified... I'm an ...
A. 25 February 2007: First of all let someone know where you are going and who you are meeting I know you said you have been chatting for over a year now but you must be careful. You must by now know him pretty well so relax and ask him some questions there still mu... (read in full...)
I want to make my ex jealous of me, any ideas?
Q. hi guys, i hope you all ok! and we all have problem in here i hope there will be a way to solve it anyway i got a question guys! im a female and i want to impress others around me especially my EX lol can anyone help me out plzz?? and i want to ge...
A. 25 February 2007: When your angry with an ex it is natural to want to get them back especially when you still love them but STOP.......THINK about it if you want him back its really not a good idea, go have your hair done,nails,go to the gym etccc...be confiden... (read in full...)
Why do guys have a habit of messing our heads up?
Q. Why do guys have a habit of messing our heads up? I constantly always have him my head, all the live long day. Its not fair- they are so confusing- they need to say how they feel- than use silence or expect us to mindread how they feel....
A. 25 February 2007: girls are from venus men are from mars? Give him time I don't know why he won't talk but let him know you are there for him as and when he needs you, thats all you can really do babes. You haven't put much for me to go on but be understa... (read in full...)
What should I do? Who should I choose? My current boyfriend or my ex?
Q. i need help here.... it all started when i got back in contact with my ex. my ex and me had been friends before for 7 years and then one night we kissed and everything changed and we started dating. i fell in love with him but he just walked away...
A. 25 February 2007: I think you need to decide who you want to be with, it isn't fair on the new guy he sounds so nice, yes, he did wrong checking your e-mails and he feels terrible for doing it but would you check his in the same situation? and you say you don't know ... (read in full...)
Should i just be happy that i finally know where i am going in my life and accept that it is over or should i go with my dream of him and being at the college
Q. Hallo ..i have been dating a younger man (29, pisces) for the past 1,5 years. It has been on and off because he has said there is no future between us and that we are not the same "class". Most people would be very upset with such comments but it ...
A. 25 February 2007: Ah babes life is hard we all meet people who we fall in love with and it never seems to go right, yes, you should be happy that you finally know where your going in lifes path paved for you and only you so grab it and go for it girl you only get one ... (read in full...)
I was going to have my first lesbian experience when...something terrible happened. Please help!
Q. Dear cupid, I'm 18 and a very unfortunate thing has happened to me and I need your kind words to get me through it all. (I am in tears as I write this). I am bi-curious and I wanted to turn my fantassy into a reality. I met a woman on the internet...
A. 25 February 2007: Firstly everyone has fantasies but it is not always right to carry them out it is more fun keeping them as a fantasy as it could come back and bite you... As for what she did it is very, very, very cruel yes you do have feelings and I can fully un... (read in full...)
I'm 38 weeks pregnant and just found out my boyfriend has cheated with my best mate!
Q. I'm 38 weeks pregnant, 19 years old and my partner has been cheating on me with my 'best mate' he's moving out on monday but I hurt like mad, I know I'm stupid but I still love him, how can I get over him? Please help! ...
A. 25 February 2007: Ah sweet heart your only 19 years old you sure this is what you really want life is so hard as it is without being on your own bringing up a little one. He never just cheated on you he cheated on his baby too, Is he moving in with your so called ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 years old and male and going on my first date! Any advice? I'm so nervous!!!
Q. Hi all, i need help, i'm 15 and haven't ever been out with a girl. But i'm going on date with this girl whos dead fit and 13 years old, but i'm really nervous. Any advice to give me please? I'm so nervous that my hand was shaking when i asked her ...
A. 25 February 2007: Ah honey don't worry if she didn't like you she would have said no. You just be yourself thats why she obviously likes you, Tell her she looks great, ask her what type of music she likes,hobbie, has she any brothers and sisters etc....
She is goin... (read in full...)
How do I know for sure her and her ex ARE only friends?
Q. i really need some help, so can someone out there give me some advice. i really don't know who to turn to or what to do... (sorry this is so long) it all started over Christmas, i talked to my girlfriend everyday (we go to school together but live...
A. 25 February 2007: First of all a relationship is built on trust you obviously didn't trust her otherwise you would not have logged into the computer, and yes, you found out she had been in contact with an ex, then it played on your mind, then you felt guilty for ... (read in full...)
We live with his mother and she's driving me craaaaaazy!!!!
Q. Ok my husband and i have lived in his mothers house for about 7 months and i have hated it sence we have moved in here. his mother is ocd and she is really getting on my nerves she is always telling me to tell her and anyone what i think about ...
A. 25 February 2007: Living with a mother-in-law must be one of the hardest things to do in life.. You don't want to upset your husband as it is his mum but at the same time she needs to respect your now his wife, you married him not her as well. As for Jade if you tell ... (read in full...)
My husband has a horrible temper. I've told him we need to work on it and he doesn't take it seriously. I'm attacted to someone else now! Help!
Q. I've been married for just over a year. My husband has a very bad temper to the point where all he does is yell when something bothers him. I tell him he has to calm down, but he doesn't. He never wants to talk things through rationally. He just ...
A. 25 February 2007: Ah, you poor thing, I understand how you feel does your husband want a wife or a replacement for his mother? It is hard trying to balance everything especially when your first married and its only been 1 year. You really need to let him know that ... (read in full...)
I just saw my ex a week ago, he's gorgeous and I want him back.... he has a girlfriend though. How do I get him back?
Q. i about a week ago i saw one of my exs who i had a miscarriage with. But i wanted out and now i have seen him i really love he and want him back, i would do anything. the past couple of nites i havent been able to sleep and i cant get him out of my ...
A. 25 February 2007: Think back to the reasons of why you broke up with him in the first place and that will give you a bit of strength. I understand that you may have thought the grass was alot greaner on the other side and it sounds like you havent met anybody ... (read in full...)
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