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writes:theres this guy and wev been friends for like 2 years but not like realy close close friends. and well everytime we wld get drunk together we wld fool around even tho he had a girlfriend. and well the first time he told me stuff like he wanted me but then the next day he tryed to go back to his girlfriend. n then a year later it happened again but we went alot further and he would hold me like i was his but then again the next day he went back to his new girlfriend who found out and dumped him. n now they got back together n last week it happened again although this time we werent drunk and it all felt so right although so did the other times but he held my hand to his heart n told me it was racing n we were only lying reli close. which then lead to more. n ull never guess what he did again he went back to her bt this time isnt telling her. and i know im the bad one he has a girlfriend i should say no but sometimes the right things are the hardest things too. and id only a month before told him how id felt and that i just wanted him to know so i could move on as he has a girlfriend. and then this happens, its just very confusing. i told him afterwards how i felt like a fool and thought it was right and he told me how much he loved her and couldnt loose her again. but wot confuses me is why would he put his girlfriend someone hes madly in love with at risk for one night with me someone he doesnt care about? and it hurts and its hard to get over because i dont understand even though ive been blatently rejected. and i keep thinking maybe he does actually want me but hes just to scared to admit it? but thats just the hope talking rite
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): If he wants you...he will let it be known beyond question.
He will show you and not just tell you that he wants you...and not just your body...but YOU! Believe me...you won't have to even ask the question...because if he wants to be with you... he will, end of story! But you'll have to quit giving in to him to find out now won't you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2007): Wow, so currently you are the 'one night stand girl' who he cheats on his girlfriends with but you want to up your status to the 'girlfriend'? Of course, that leaves him in the position of having to find a new girl to cheat on you with. Well don't hold out too much "hope" on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionseriously thank you for your advise, it lifted me up for once and thank you for being so nice
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (26 February 2007):
 It sounds to me darling that he is having his cake and eating it (and a big one at that),
He can't love his girlfriend otherwise he would not be seeing you, this really is not fair my sweet on you or her, I am so sorry for being honest but he is making me feel angry for messing with your feelings your worth much more than that.
I think you should try and break away from him all together easier said than done I know, but do you really want to keep putting yourself through all this awful pain?
Please honey think more of yourself you sound so loyal and great but your allowing him to repeatedly hurt you is this what you really want?
Go get some retail therapy with a good girlfriend , get your hair done etc... and go out and let your hair down, go wild you can do it girl I know you can, and who knows what knight in shinning armour will turn up xxx
All the best babe let me know how you get on, thinking of you x
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