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writes:Does anyone think its possible to have a relationship with someone when you're not physically attracted to them? Im really falling for a guys personality (hes lovely!) but im not physically attracted to him as in i cant imagine kissing him and things like that yet hes all i think about and i would love to just cuddle up to him and watch tv - simple and non sexual things. Do you think i could gradually learn to be attracted to him? i really like him and hes perfect personality wise but im not sure if its possible to be in a relationship when u dont "fancy" them.im really confused as to whether i only like him as a friend or whether ive fallen for his personality and want a relationship :-( xXx
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (25 February 2007):
 You haven't said how long you have known this guy for, but it is obvious he is not the normal type of guy you go for physically, looks are decieving never judge a book by its cover so they say.........You obviously enjoy his company and to want to cuddle up on a sofa a watch a dvd says something to me...as for kissing and anything else maybe this will come later who knows, you can't learn to love someone love just hits ya when your least expecting it!!!!!!
I think you should cheerish what you have for now, how does he feel about you?
Don't hurt his feelings let him know you love his personality, could you imagine life without him, maybe there is something there and you just don't know it yet.
My husband is my best friend so who knows what lies a head for you....
Good luck babe
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reader, AskEve +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Yes, it IS possible to fall for someone even although at first you're not physically attracted to them. If he's fun and makes you happy then I don't see any reason why both of you can't cuddle up and watch a movie together. Physical attraction is superficial and looks fade with time whereas his personality will never fade. That being said, I personally think as guys get older they get better looking, look at George Clooney for example, did you ever see him as a teenager? lmao
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Don't be shallow and not go out with him just because he doesn't attract you physically. As time goes on you'll think "I didn't notice that cute smile before or how he has a cute dimple when he laughs." People really do grow on you with time, trust me!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2007): I think you may be more physically attracted to him than you realize, but his personality is what knocked your socks off first, so you aren't sure.
Often women start to feel physical attraction for a nice guy after the first kiss...so go for that and see how things develop. It sounds to me that you like him more than just a friend, there is a connection there and he is winning you over romantically and you feel that...so hence your confusion as it was his idea first and not yours....you are being courted maybe for the first time, and it feels strange to you since maybe you are the one who usually pursues a relationship with a looker first....
He sounds lovely to me!
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