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writes:Hello. I recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of a couple of months. The first time we had sex, I didn't feel a thing. I faked that I liked it but I really didn't. I finally told him the truth and from then on we've been trying everything. I just can't seem to see why i can't get that excitement of having sex. It's suppose to be enjoyable and fun, but i don't get that out of it. I just sit there, in my bed, bored as ever, while he's going in and out. I asked my close friends about it and they don't seem to know the answer to my problem and i WOULD go to the doctor about it, but my mom would SOMEHOW find out that i'm not a virgin, and of course she'll be FURIOUS. PLEASEEEEE. HELP =/ ?? I NEED ANSWERS !!!-- *`Me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Hello , I think I know why ou arent enjoying it, its probley because you dont get an orgasim when your having sex.The way you get one is by doing a certain type of thing.Nothing is wrong with you
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAww. Thank You !!
You all are truely ANGELS !
I guess since I don't have any one older than me that I can feel comfortable talking about this subject to, so I'm kinda not sure of alot of things. I know I'm only 15 & I have DECADES to be worrying about sex, but I'm curious [[ You can't blame me ]]
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Your only 15 darling I understand peer pressure just wished you had waited till you were a bit older but whats done is done.....I hope your using some kind of contraception because it is not fun at such a young age bringing up a kid, trust me I know....
You need time to know what you like and what you don't its about knowing your own body and letting him know what you like.....
Please be careful babes you should be going out with friends and enjoying lots of boyfriends I'm not saying he is not the one for you because it does happen but you have your whole life in front of you.....I know most girls start early these days but its your body love and respect every part of it, you have years a head of you yet, but if you insist on having sex with your boyfriend you can't just be laying there thinking of England explore and find out what you like and don't be affraid to tell him...but take precautions xxxxxx
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): apparently a huge percentage of women fake liking sex so you're not being weird there
lots of foreplay helps, as it makes it more exciting for when you actually have sex
but yeah, i don't think age matters, or marriage, it's as long as you do it with someone you love and trust
good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much. Hopefully next time will go better. I know I'm too young for sex because I'm only 15 but it's hardnot to do it with all the peer pressures. All my older friends have toldme that if I'm 100 per cent sure I'm ready then I should do it.I have no regrets on lising it, waiting till marriage would have been nice. I know my family would have been proud but that special moment came too little. Well anyway, Thanks for the answers. I would still like to hear some more. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): Sex needs to be a 2 way street. Sounds like he prepares you a little at best and then pleases himself. You need to both get actively involved in pleasing each other orally and physically prior to actual intercourse. After you feel a orgasm the first time, you will look forward to the next time so much that you will tingle just thinking about it. it is all about build up.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Okay first of all you're far too young to be having sex! The reason you didn't enjoy it was because you're not ready for that kind of relationship. It meant nothing to you because you didn't have feelings for the guy. I hope you used protection!!!
Making love to someone YOU REALLY LOVE is the deepest, most intimate way of showing your feelings to someone. Okay, so you can do it... big deal! Now leave it to the grown ups until you're more mature to understand exactly what it's all about!
Sorry it's not what you want to hear but you did ask!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): im not sure if you have oral sex before that, but its more enjoyable if your stimulated a little. If not you can try to be on top and take control and do it your way, cause maybe you dont like the way hes doing it and just dont realize
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