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| | *EEN THERE DONE IT's profile:Hi,
I am a married lady with two daughters 20 and 21 years old, I have no qualifications but have a good listening ear, I try to understand how people feel and put myself in their shoes, I live in London United Kingdom, I married young and had kids at a young age, my parents seperated as well as loads of other highs and lows in my life. I always have people come to me for advise, I do try to be sensitive to everyone and honest...hope I can give you some meaning and hope...
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My inadequacies and insecurties are causing me to kill the relationship... Please please help!!
Q. Hi, I am feeling really insecure about myself, i doubt my ability to do anything and cannot seem to look positive at anything? I have a wonderful girlfreind and I am beginning to affect this relationship because I am jealous and insecure.. I fee...
A. 14 June 2007: Ah honey why would you feel like she deserves someone better than you, when she met you she fell for who you are and what you stand for, it doesn't matter if she seems to have a better job we are in year 2007 not 1807, it seems it doesn't matter to ... (read in full...)
How do I show her that I want to fix and will fix everything that was wrong in our relationship so we can still be together?
Q. So I need some help and advice. I have been with the same girl for three years. I met her online, and moved from Ohio to Las Vegas to be with her back in 2005 (we started dating and had a successful long term relationship at the beginning). Back in ...
A. 14 June 2007: You said that you think she still cares and has some kind of feelings for you so the only real way to know is to go for it hun, if its you she wants she will let you know, good luck x... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend I am crazy about him?
Q. hiya there is this lad that i really like and all my mates say to tell him how i feel i have liked him since i was in year 7 on and off. We are really good friends and we have just left school but going back for exams and i want to tell him how I ...
A. 13 June 2007: Go for it girl tell him how you feel you may be suprised he may feel the same way as you, all the best,
Let us know how ya get on
Donna x... (read in full...)
How do I show her that I want to fix and will fix everything that was wrong in our relationship so we can still be together?
Q. So I need some help and advice. I have been with the same girl for three years. I met her online, and moved from Ohio to Las Vegas to be with her back in 2005 (we started dating and had a successful long term relationship at the beginning). Back in ...
A. 13 June 2007: Ah honey,
I think all men forget the little things us ladies love at times but that doesn't mean they don't care does it?, I think every now again is fine otherwise it would get boring and would not be a suprise....
I really don't think you need... (read in full...)
What should I do, do I move away without saying goodbye or do I bump into her and invite her for a coffee and a farewell chat to tell her my regret?
Q. My problem is more a regret or if only, I met a girl at our local May fair 19 years ago. We dated for three months before a combination of work and immaturity (on my behalf) brought it to a premature end on my 19th birthday. Work as being away from ...
A. 13 June 2007: I have to say this really is a lovely story one you read in books, it bought a tear to my eye..what a lovely thoughtful man you are but, and here is the BUT, you are a HAPPILY married man with children so why would you chance loosing everything in ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's not... any tips for our relationship?
Q. hi me and my boyfriend are in a serious relationship and we are thinking about having sex but i'm kinda worried because i'm a virgin and he's not what if he breaks up with me because i can't full feel his needs?...
A. 12 June 2007: Ah honey I know how you feel I remembr being in that situation once and I can tell ya I was bricking it, but he knew I was a virgin and I told him how I was feeling, he was so gentle and led the way, I have never looked back since so if he is caring ... (read in full...)
Now that he finally likes me back..I'm not sure if I like him anymore! any advice?
Q. i love this guy more than life, i even did a spell to keep him when i lost him to my best friend. i no right pathetic! but it seems to have worked now this guy really likes me and is asking me back out. But now im not sure if i still love him! ...
A. 27 May 2007: You said you love this guy more than life, but now he wants you your not sure if you want him, well thats just typical of us ladies....
Best thing is to tell him your not ready for a relationship right now its not fair on him hun, no one can deci... (read in full...)
Husband is unable to perform sexually, due to drinking! What can I do?
Q. My Husband can no longer perform sex from drinking to much, and im very sexual woman, what in the dam can i do when he is my husband and i need good sex and affection, please help me please with some wisdom.......
A. 27 May 2007: I understand you desires and needs from your husband but if he has a drinking problem then he needs to realise this and seek help if he is unable to give up the drink on his own. Have you told him how your feeling? What is his reply?
If you have... (read in full...)
Help..I'm pregnant. What can I do?
Q. ok so i've asked alot of ? about me and my bf about french kissing, sex, etc. but i didn't listen to anybody cuz I'M PREGNANT!!! i ain't told my mom cuz she'll litterally kill me well when i went to wal-mart i found and took a pregnant test thing, ...
A. 27 May 2007: Well babes, I am going to be blunt straight to the point because its what you need, your only between 10-12 years of age your still a baby yourself no age at all to be pregnant you have so many years a head life is so hard as it is hun....as well ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his mom are very controlling towards me. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and his mom are very controlling towards me. I kind of live with him, but not all the time. I have alot of friends that want to spend time with them, but every time I want to hang out with my friends my boyfriend and his mom goes off on ...
A. 21 April 2007: Hi hun
your only young and I am sure you love your boyfriend very much but if you need time to go out with your friends then do it no one should be controlling you if this is what you want to do.. The only people who have that right is your pare... (read in full...)
he said its because suddenly he feels as tho he loves me.. but hes not IN LOVE with me?? what the hell does he mean, how does this happen?!?!?
Q. I asked him why he split up with me after 10 months of being besotted with me... he said its because suddenly he feels as tho he loves me.. but hes not IN LOVE with me?? what the hell does he mean, how does this happen?!?!?...
A. 8 April 2007: Hi Hun,
Typical male, as soon as they feel emotions it scares them he is falling in love with you and doesn't know how to handle it so he has backed off, don't worry leave him give him time to work out what he wants....
This is hard for us women as... (read in full...)
I'm against him using porn. Shouldn't he understand?
Q. hi i am having problems with my boyfriend. once before i found pornos and i broke em and threw em away.i take that very seriously and i find it disrespecful. i told him if i find them again me and him are done. i am pregnant with his child and it ...
A. 8 April 2007: Hi
I understand that you don't like porn and that you find it disrespectful and that it hurts you because your partner watches it, this is very common in women but unfortunatley men do like porn this doesn't mean he doesn't love you, they learn new ... (read in full...)
My husband of 5 years says I've never satisfied him sexually and wants me to be like a pornstar with him!
Q. My husband of five years said that I'v never satisfied him sexualy, and he wants me to perform like the women in his many porn DVD's. Is that reasonable? He expects me to be always ready for sex ie fully shaved (and I'm very hairy) and doing it up ...
A. 8 April 2007: Hi there hun,
This must be very upsetting for you considering you have been married for 5 years and he now tells you that you have never satisfied him....
It is ok to want to spice things up but if your worried about this fantasy of his you need... (read in full...)
How can I avoid looking at someone who wears underwear or a bikini?
Q. hiya. I'm here agian I've a very confusing problem how can I avoid looking at someone who is wearing an underwear or a bikini??? as you know this happens a lot in the movies and commercial...etc. Please help me....
A. 2 April 2007: Hi babes,
Your a young male and its very natural to look at women in under wear and bikini's so don't feel bad, I am sure men of all ages look,even the old guys, its natural as long as its only looking then you really have no problem (so enjo... (read in full...)
I'm sick of chit-chat conversations and I want us to open our hearts to each other to build something meaningful.
Q. Lost. Confused. Anxiety ridden. Depressed. Contemplating ending a relationship with a woman a care deeply for. I have been on edge for months now about where my "serious" long distance relationship is heading. I care about her very much and i want ...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi babes,
You have been dating for 5 months now it is only a short time honey and your relationship is 300 miles apart, you have found a busy woman who sounds content with herself and you want more.... Well thats great, but maybe she has not move... (read in full...)
Is she trying to distance herself from me to leave me?
Q. Hello. My girlfriend and I met online a little over 2 months ago. We "clicked" instantly... in every conceivable way and were on the phone talking to each other within hours after first interacting online. At this point, we have not yet met in p...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi Mike,
You have only know this woman via E-mails, phone, text messages etc...for two months and yes, you may of just clicked right away like you have stated ,which is lovely as finding someone to click with is hard...
But you have both talked a... (read in full...)
Are my concerns and questions about a potential, future gf, counter-productive to my recovery from the ex gf?
Q. I am just getting into recovery from a break-up. The wound still pretty fresh and it's hard. It's hard because mostly the bond that existed between us and the connection were perfect. We were a perfect match but couldn't make it work right now beca...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi honey,
First of all well done, a man who admitts to wanting love.....
But to enable a life long happy relationship it takes time to get to know someone, now your single again don't go out with the intention of a list a finding a life long par... (read in full...)
If talking to his ex gf means nothing to him...then why is he lying and hiding it?
Q. okay. my bf and I made an agreement because of a huge argument we had about his old gf calling him and he calling her back. He promised that if she ever contacts him, no matter the reason that he would share it with me to avoid any arguments. ...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi
If its only minor then why has he not told you what it is about?
If its only minor then has she no other friends?
No this is not nice he would not be happy if one of your ex-boyfriends kept ringing and the only answer you gave was," WELL I... (read in full...)
I can't figure out how to have an orgasm! Any suggestions?
Q. I am not being able to figure out how to have an orgasm while having sex and my husband can't figure out how to get me off. Any suggestions?...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi babes,
This is difficult but a woman needs to be in tune with her own body before she can tell her husband..
You need to find out what parts feel good to you, alot of women are stimutaled from the clitorous area...Your husband can help try tell... (read in full...)
If I try to speak to hubby about his daughters troubles, I am accused of being almost a cruel stepmother! What can I do?
Q. I have just got married and desperately need some advice. My husband has a daughter who is now 7 and I have known her since we got together when she had just turned 4 years old. I try desperately hard to ensure that she is happy, comfortable and ...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi babes,
This is just as hard for you as it is for them, he sees this as its his daughter so thereforehe will make the decissions, fair enough, but she is now part of your life now you are married , she comes to stay with both of you....
You h... (read in full...)
We broke up, but got back together as I couldnt bare to see her hurt, thing is I want to break up again, but I really dont want to hurt her! Please help!!!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years now, and are now in our 2nd year of college. I felt like things werent working back around Christmas, and we had a confrontation and broke up, but it was the first time we were ever apart and got ...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi,
My only advise here is to be honest your hurting her more being with her, she deserves the respect of a good honest man...
I know she may have loads of problems that doesn't mean you can't be there for her to support her when she needs it, but ... (read in full...)
Would getting some porn DVD's be a bad idea ?
Q. I would like some advice, we have been married many years and my husband keeps requesting for us to get some porn DVD's to watch together, now I'm not so sure that this is a good idea after reading some of the stories on this site, and I don't want ...
A. 2 April 2007: Hi Babes,
If you are happy to do this then go for it but never do anything that you really don't want to do otherwise you may resent him for it.
Tell him your fears and see what he has to say, comunication is the number one key....
Let him k... (read in full...)
Worried that his loss of erection is due to not fancying me!!!
Q. Hi, I am 38 yrs old and my husband is 42. We have been happily married for 15yrs and have always had an excellent sexual relationship. Recently, he has been too tired for sex, and he makes sex seem like a chore. A few times, he lost his erectio...
A. 29 March 2007: Hi babes,
I am going through the same problem with my husband at the moment and it has been going on for a while now, like you at first I thought it could be me so I sat my husband down and said although I understood this must be hard for him as h... (read in full...)
Do you think that she would like to make it work, or is she scared of how her parents will react ?
Q. I really want to go out wth a grl who is 17 and I am 27. She said she won't date men who are over 22, Another day she told me over 23 and another day over 25. Also, she said that if she dated me, her parents would disown her! She knows that I...
A. 29 March 2007: She has changed the age gap three times, if this was the reason she would have said an age and stuck to it, it would not rise everytime, but in her case it has........ (read in full...)
I have 4 kids--should I stay with hubby for their sake?
Q. My husband doesnt take me seriously. I mean im bored the point is we have four children he works days and i work nights but only untill 10 oclock. We have only been married for three and half years hense my two eldest children are from a previous ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi Babes,
Yes, I do understand how you feel and yes, its so nice to know you have still got it when another man shows you attention, it makes you get them butterflies back in your tummy that you haven't felt for along time....
BUT you must have lov... (read in full...)
Dating four months so how do I know if he's ready for the next step?
Q. OK I asked for advice on here before and it's all worked out in the past.....another dilema! Me and my b/f have been seeeing each other for 4 months now, we are both in our 20's and both live at home with our parents. We never get any time alone t...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi honey,
There is nothing wrong with how you feel and I am sure he probably feels the same but your both scared as you are both virgins, but how wonderful at least you don't have to worry if you match up to anyone else....
Invite him round, c... (read in full...)
Do you think that she would like to make it work, or is she scared of how her parents will react ?
Q. I really want to go out wth a grl who is 17 and I am 27. She said she won't date men who are over 22, Another day she told me over 23 and another day over 25. Also, she said that if she dated me, her parents would disown her! She knows that I...
A. 28 March 2007: If she didn't like you she would have let you know, she seems to be makinf excuses because she is scared of something whether it be her parents or the age gap, you need to talk to her and find out what her fears are....... (read in full...)
I want to be happy and confident again! How do I do that?
Q. Recently I have been feeling quite down, normally i'm happy all of the time always making people laugh and being positive but these past few months i've felt my confidence has really gone. Before i felt as if i could talk to anybody and not ...
A. 28 March 2007: Ah honey we all feel like this at times,
Your still the old you no matter what you're feeling right now...
Has anthing happened lately to make you feel low?
Don't worry if nothing has its normal, have you got a close friend whom you can tell how... (read in full...)
We split 2 years ago, Should I try and win her back ?
Q. Would you try win your girlfriend back even though its 2 years since split up? My ex still keeps in touch, she moved to spain for a while and sent me a text to keep in touch. she once said i liked you soooooooooooo much its a shame we argued all ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi,
You obviously hold something dear in your heart about this ex-girlfriend which is well sweet, but its been two years now can you both forget the past and start a fresh?
What problems did you have before, what did you argue about?
She has t... (read in full...)
Do you think that she would like to make it work, or is she scared of how her parents will react ?
Q. I really want to go out wth a grl who is 17 and I am 27. She said she won't date men who are over 22, Another day she told me over 23 and another day over 25. Also, she said that if she dated me, her parents would disown her! She knows that I...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi
You have to remember she is only 17, still at home with her parents, so yes, she is probably scared of what her parents may say...
You need to show her you are responsible, and if you meet her parents let them know you understand their fears re... (read in full...)
Im 32 still a virgin, I hate it! But why is my BF still with me when were not intimate at all !?
Q. 32 y/o virgin in r'ship. my b'f knows i am, we have tried to have sex in the past altho it took me abt 6months to tell him. becos of me my b/f now hasnt had sex for over 1 yr, we argue alot i think lack of intimate is a big issue as we were drunk ...
A. 28 March 2007: Your boyfriend obviously loves you and has respected you, he has not strayed and he does not want to go with someone who puts out (as you stated), he is scared of getting intimate with you because he obviously would like it to go further...
Y... (read in full...)
She's trying to blackmail me, but it wont just effect me other people will be involved! Please advise what to do ?
Q. I would appreciate your help and advice on this. my question is do you ever have to stand down your grounds if someone try to blackmail you? lets say that action may effect other poeples and thier families emotionally? I can't just bac...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi,
Obviously this is a private matter, but yes, your right don't allow someone to blackmail you.....
I don't know how this will affect another family but as you stated you have principles so stick by them, go with your gut instincts here babes, i... (read in full...)
Do you think he's falling in love with me?
Q. I've been seeing this man for nearly 3 months now and we enjoy each other's company and the sex is great.. just recently he's been saying that he misses me when I'm not around and he also says he has a great affection towards me and that he cares ...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi Babes,
Us women our emotions just run wild we love the idea of a man falling deeply in love with us don't we?
Firstly you have only been together for 3 months this is only the very early stages of a relationship just enjoy it, have fun together... (read in full...)
Im so confused! Do I try to get back with my ex fiance or go for this new guy who's 47!
Q. I'm 17 and was with my boyfriend for 3 years, we even got engaged. I was having trouble coming to terms with my mums death and he thought sex was more important than my feelings. We then went on a break for a week and he moved into his mums. Then 5 ...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi Babes,
Losing your mum must be very hard for you especially at such a young age you have so many emotions to deal with, without worrying that a boyfriend is demanding his sexual needs and then you decided to have a short break, in that time he r... (read in full...)
My lover wants me to leave my bf! What should I do?
Q. Im in a relationship with a guy for 7 yrs, and I just started having an affair. Now my lover wants me to leave the guy Ive been with. Can you please help?...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi babes,
You say you have been with your boyfriend for 7 years that is a long time to just throw everything away, you have only just struck up this relationship with your lover, its probably exciting and he makes you feel good with butterflies in y... (read in full...)
My mum brought home her new boyfriend and it turns out he was my one night stand! Should I tell her?
Q. hey im in a massive mess right now and would really appreciate any advice people can give me ok Im 19 and about three months ago I met an older guy in a club. He started hitting on me and i did fancy him back but thought he was too old. he then ...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi
You really need to tell your Mum, I am a Mum with daughters of 20 and 21 years if this happened to them I know they would tell me and how dare he tell you not to tell your Mum, it shows he is not trust worthy, I know your Mum likes him but babe... (read in full...)
My ex called to meet up with me and then stood me up! What's up with this guy?
Q. my ex got bk in contact...he arranged wiv me that we'd go out last nite at hlf 6 but it me 4 me to ring him 2 ask if he was still cmin but didnt show up!!! what is goin on? y arrange something wiv me? hes 25 by the way...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi honey,
He didn't show up, your upset hurting and want to know but don't make the mistake of ringing him, yes its going to be hard he will probably expext you to call him and what reply will you expect to get,it will only confirm how your feel... (read in full...)
Anyway know how I can get a healthy glow without streaking or turning orange!
Q. I'm extremely pale, I don't tan at all, and especially now I'm probably at my palest. A couple of people have being somethings at school.. such as that I shouldn't stand next to a wall (white walls in our school) because I would blend in, and rand...
A. 27 March 2007: Hi honey,
Yes, exfoliate this gets rid off all dead skin cells thus making an even surface for a self tan lotion. TRY calling 0800 524232 this is a free phone number to QVC they have excellent products that are sold in very expensive London Salo... (read in full...)
He's almost 40 and his family is threatening to disown him if we date again! Any thoughts?
Q. My partner and I have recently started getting close again after being apart for 14 months. We were together for 7 years and we have a two year old son. His family have never liked me nor have they even really bothered getting to know me and our ...
A. 27 March 2007: Well I think its great,
You were together for 7 years, have a lovely son and obviously missed one another when you split for 14 months.
You are dating each other not his family and as long as you both love one another then no one should interfer... (read in full...)
Im in the navy, and the guy I dated for 8 months has ended it, he loves me but wants someone that can be there to hold him!!
Q. I am a 19 year old guy in the navy. I met a guy in May 2006 and we got together in July. The majority of our time was spent apart due to me being in the navy. 8 months to the day that we were together, He told me that he didn't want to be with me ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hi
You sound such a lovely caring guy don't ever loose those qualities, first of all any relationship which is long distance is hard but you guys had been together for quite a while, now he has someone else it has only been 2 weeks and his new boyf... (read in full...)
He says he needs to get his head around things I just need to wait!! Should I give him this time ??
Q. Okay, 3 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Occasionally, he'd tell me he wanted to get back together, but then he'd "change his mind." Now, he's saying he wants to be together again.. and he sounds sincere this time. He says I just have to ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hi Babe
Yes,give him his space he probably freaked out when he knew you was pregnant maybe he is not as ready as you are to settle down, it does take men a little longer than us women to make that final commitment. But your still young and have many... (read in full...)
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