I didn't want to have sex with him and he went ballistic!
Q. Please help me im so heart broken. Should i stay or not? We went to the museum today everything was so fun.. When then he said lets go to (his friends names house) and he wanted to have sex but his friend was home. So i didnt want to of cours...
A. 1 September 2008: Patterns are so important. If he has it in him to behave that way once then you can be sure that the behaviour will resurface again and again. Get out of the situation as soon as you can. As Inyourdreams says, don't buy any apology that he tries ... (read in full...)
I always end up unsatisfied after sex because I last too long. What can I do to change this?
Q. Doese anyone know a way to make your self more sensitive or easyier to come quicker during sex, basically i have too much stamina , where as most guys would probably think its a great thing, its becomeing a real pain in the ass during sex, i could ...
A. 1 September 2008: Yup, its a real problem. You're a little young for it. Google "retarded ejaculation", there is plenty of information out there. Unfortunately there seem to be no quick fixes. I've had the same problem myself and I agree with you that it seem... (read in full...)
Is there any possible way to regain trust where he will still see the woman he was with for the rest of his life?
Q. This is a long one, so brace yourselves. I probably have one of the most unhealthy relationships out there besides abusive ones. My boyfriend and I were both engaged to other people when we met. I was with my ex for 10 years, he was with his for ...
A. 30 August 2008: As i understand it, he was with her first, he cheated on her with you and at that time told you that he would never leave her. Now he spends 6 nights a week with you and your son and 1 night a week with his daughter and the woman he loved for 6 ... (read in full...)
Should I stop masturbating?
Q. Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I ...
A. 30 August 2008: Masturbation is entirely normal for a young guy. Your girlfriend's argument is a little silly. Tell her to stop "ovulating unnecessarily" and see what kind of reaction you get. Incidentally the numbers stack up like this: roughly 300 milli... (read in full...)
Is my sexual appetite just a sign I'm a healthy young man or is this excessive?
Q. I was wondering whether I have a problem. The issue is that I always feel like sex and when I have sex I feel like it again afterwards or at the most the next morning. Is this just a sign I'm a healthy young man or is this excessive? I could easily ...
A. 29 August 2008: Quite normal at your age.... (read in full...)
He fell in love with a prostitute but seems repentant about the cheating, how do I know it won't happen again?
Q. hi well a year ago my partner of 22 years came clean about sleeping with prostitutes he has slept with 3 in 2 years the only reason i know about these is he fell in love with the last one and came clean to me but didnt tell me about the other ones ...
A. 29 August 2008: I've thought about this for a few minutes staring into my first whisky of the evening because I would love to write a reassuring reply for you however I truly believe that once a man has become a regular punter (and I think that at least 3 girls ... (read in full...)
"Stand By Your Man" should also apply for women!
Q. I really need to know if I'm right in this case because if not, I do want to apologize to my husband and his friend. Basically, his best friend, we'll call him D, lived with us when we were first married. Actually, my husband owned the house an...
A. 29 August 2008: Of course you are right and of course your husband should take your side in all arguments whether he agrees with you or not. If he doesn't agree with then that's for a private discussion between the two of you. Failing to back you up is just ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with him seems extreme, but I can't stop obsessing over his porn watching!
Q. Well this isn't a very original problem, except for now its happening to me and although a lot of questions I have been reading hit close to home, I have to ask anyway... My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years and living together ...
A. 28 August 2008: The deal is that it is just so incredibly easy to get to porn on the internet. I live in China, a supposedly repressive, totalitarian state, with tight controls on the internet (if you believe what the media tells you :-) ) and yet in under 10 ... (read in full...)
I don't get the popularity of the doggy style position! Care to shed some light?
Q. Hi, I don't know if this is in the right section What makes doggy style so enjoyable for people? Me and my boyfriend have tried it a few times, I personally don't like it because I find it too impersonal and it doesn't do anything for me...
A. 28 August 2008: I guess its a question of each to their own. Not my absolute favourite either but it's good for a bit of variety, a different angle of attack. There are after all only a limited number of ways that two human bodies fit together and if you were to ... (read in full...)
I need major feedback for this job interview I have tomorrow!
Q. Big interview tomorrow ! I need major feedback, please: What are the top things to remember when going into a job interview? Not as an employer, but as a potential employee. ...
A. 28 August 2008: I agree with everything that Saltwater has said but in addition please make sure that you have taken the time to research the company. Nothing worse than someone who expects me to spend my time interviewing them but can't be bothered to spend ... (read in full...)
Why do men touch this specific area on your back? Does it mean something?
Q. I'm wondering why men like putting their hands on my back espacially touching the area where my bra's belt and aqraffe is there. These men are the ones i know and we get along well.I just wanna know why they like fumble in that area but not my waist...
A. 28 August 2008: If they are touching you too much or so that you feel uncomfortable about it then it would be inappropriate. I have a dozen female employees in my office most of whom I've known for years and like and enjoy talking to but I usually manage to get ... (read in full...)
He claims his love for this other woman is just a friendship..I'm very confused...help!
Q. i have been married to my husband now for 10 years. I recently found out on the day of my 10 year wedding anniversary my husband was in love with another women. I found the message on his phone that said "i love you lots" now when i asked him about ...
A. 27 August 2008: I have no way of knowing whether your husband is cheating or not but at the very least he is on the edge of it for whatever reason. What I can say, with great confidence, is that if you choose not to trust him or to try to punish him in some way ... (read in full...)
Is my mom's friend acting strange or am I reading into things?
Q. My mom has a guy friend Jeff (not real name) and hes nice and all but something seems strange about him.....when im home alone he'll call and ask what im doing for no reson and he always ask me "is any one there with you?!" then he'll tell/ask "ok ...
A. 26 August 2008: It doesn't sound as if you're reading too much it to it. That is very strange and very inappropriate behavior by this guy. Tell your Mum.... (read in full...)
How do I know for sure that it meant more than just sex?
Q. When you have sex with a man that's married, how do you know if it meant more then sex? I asked him, and he said it meant more than just sex, but how do i know for sure?...
A. 26 August 2008: I'm a married man who cheats on his deeply lovely wife. The man that you slept with has no idea himself whether it is about more than just the sex. Neither of you will know until you try not having sex for a while and see whether the relationship ... (read in full...)
He loves me, but now his wife has found out he doesn't want to know me.
Q. I have been with someone for the past 3 years but found out 6 months ago that he has recently married. Because I love this person so much I agreed to be the other woman. I know that he loves me and he tells me all the time that it was a mistake ...
A. 25 August 2008: Just re your update post on the 7th. I'm a guy who cheats on a beautiful wonderful wife with two other beautiful wonderful women so I'm speaking with experience and from the heart. It's true that you're not totally blameless but seriously he's ... (read in full...)
My husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex!
Q. What does it mean when my husband called out our 16 month old daughter's name during sex? My husband and I have a 16 month old daughter. During sex, he called out her name by accident instead of my name, saying, "Oh-----------, I love you!" ...
A. 25 August 2008: 100,000 to 1 odds against him having sexual thoughts about your daughter. Seriously don't worry about it.
Only negative I could come with would be if he was the one that chose your daughter's name and that she is named after someone else that he ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, and never had a girlfriend, been kissed or even held hands with a girl?
Q. I'm 15, and never had a girlfriend, been kissed or even held hands with a girl. Am I doing someting wrong? Whenever I think a girl likes me it always turns out that they were just being friendly. My brother is 2 years older than me but has had at ...
A. 20 August 2008: I agree with all that purple1234 says but I would add that it is perfectly OK not to have a girlfriend when you're 15 so don't get stressed about it. Take a long view, keep yourself fit and healthy, be nice, study hard and get good grades. In the ... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 12 August 2008: If there is anything that I can tell you that might help at all I would very pleased to do so. I am reluctant to get into too much detail in a public forum both for the obvious reason and because, in trying to explain my position, it might seem ... (read in full...)
LOL!!... Sorry, I sound really pathetic, but seriously, I have no idea how you do it?
Q. Hi, I've been with this lad quite a while now and were really comfortable with each other. Recently we've been doing alot more things, like hand jobs and stuff. He asked me if i'd want to suck him off and i said yeah, but not today. I know wh...
A. 12 August 2008: Also be assured that from a boy's perspective there is no such thing as a bad blow job, only good and great - rather like ice cream. He is going to love it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a porn addiction. He does't seem to find me sexually attractive.
Q. I have a problem and I really don't even know what to think of it anymore. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He's kind, intelligent, gentle, loving, and generally amazing to me. The only problem is that he has a porn addiction. He's ...
A. 9 August 2008: I don't really feel qualified to answer this in total but I can address one of your concerns: there is absolutely NO connection between how attractive you are or are not and his use of porn. Zero. If a man is in the habit of using porn he could be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to upload videos of me on porn sites if I ever leave him...Please help!!
Q. What do i do? My boyfriend has videos of me doing things, and he says if i leave him or don't take naughty pics for him - he's going to upload them to porn sites. If my family ever found out they'd be so mad :( I don't know what to do :( I'm onl...
A. 9 August 2008: This boy sounds like pond scum. I support the having him severely beaten option ...
I'd take a bet that he doesn't back up his hard drive. Does he have a laptop or a desktop? If a laptop then if you ever visit him then take it and have som... (read in full...)
Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage?
Q. Do you have or know any husband who can reform or change his unfaithful ways after 20 years of marriage? My husband and I are very intimate even though he has to have his short outside affairs for years. He likes to play his little games of conq...
A. 9 August 2008: I am quite a similar situation except that I am the X@$% that is doing the cheating and I am certain that my wife is not (yet) aware of it. From the sound of it I am not quite so deep in the hole as your husband is - but I don't suppose anyone is ... (read in full...)
Would he give me a second look?
Q. I really fancy a guy in my local town. He's very hot he plays rugby and cricket so he has a toned body, except he's really tall and i'm really small and we are complete strangers to each other. but im frightened that he's out of my league, i mean ...
A. 1 August 2008: What is not to love about small women? Many boys think that shorter girls are the most attractive.
Many boys who play a lot of sport, especially more traditional sports such as Rugby and Cricket are much less confident around girls than you... (read in full...)
Should I have sex or should I wait???
Q. hi im 14 yearz old and i ive been talkin to a guy i known for 6 months the bad thing iz that he iz onli 18 years old and im scared that its not rite but i lke him so i dont care but he asked me if i would have sex with him and i said i maybe wu...
A. 1 August 2008: Please wait.... (read in full...)
He messages, mails, texts me... but won't call me!
Q. hey all! i have a problem..i am in love with this guy who i am pretty sure is in love with me..now we live in separate countries but know each other since 2 yrs and have been in touch everyday.. he msgs,texts,emails me everyday..t...
A. 1 August 2008: Seriously, a lot of guys are just not that good on the telephone and avoid initiating phone calls if they can. Way back in the days before e.mail and txt there were times when I would walk to the station, take a train for 1/2 an hour, walk to her ... (read in full...)
I'm self-conscious about my body, I'm afraid that when we have sex he'll tell his friends about it!
Q. I'm self concious of my body and am scared to have sex for the first time because i fear that he won't like my body and will tell all his friends about it. Are guys usually like this. please help!...
A. 31 July 2008: It would be a pretty unusual thing for a man or a boy to tell other men details about a girl that he has had sex with. It is not something that men do and if you have any real reason to suspect that he is the kind that might be an exception to the ... (read in full...)
Men, do you discuss details of your sex lives with your buddies?
Q. I have a question for the men. Do you guys discuss what happens in the bedroom with your male buddies, or best friends? I'd like to think what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Do you guys compare notes and tell each other if she was...
A. 31 July 2008: No. Not ever. Can't imagine any situation in which I ever would. Never heard any of my friends ever doing this. Just not, in general, something that men do. ... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, married to a woman... am I doing the right thing, pretending to be straight?
Q. I need help!! I am a gay guy age 29, trying to have a straight life and relationship. I love my wife more than anything. now i have two questions: 1: Am i doing the right thing by trying to be straight? 2: Are there ways I can spice up our...
A. 31 July 2008: What is your reason for"trying to have a straight life"? Does your wife know? Hard to advise without understanding that.
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He says I forced him to cheat because I'm so negative! Is that true?
Q. Little confused, I've been with my boyfriend for about 3yrs we we're livin together but I got my own place because of personal reasons..I don't trust him, cheated 2x with the same girl, we got to an argument and he blurted out that he met a girl ...
A. 27 July 2008: No. No man is ever "forced" to cheat on his wife or girlfriend. He may not have set out to do it but it's the culmination of a series of choices that HE has made.
That said, men have fragile egos (poor little us) and if we don't feel apprecia... (read in full...)
My girl no longer wants sex - is it because I'm too small?
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months decided to stop being sexual with me. Does this mean im not good enough if bed? And how to I make her feel good when we have sex if im only 5 inches long...
A. 25 July 2008: Unless your girlfriend is unusually large it has nothing to do with the size of your penis. In fact having a small dick should help focus your attention on all of the other stuff that you should be doing with your fingers and tongue to give her ... (read in full...)
He says he's not in the mood for sex but then goes and jerks off!?
Q. My bf and I just had an argument. and Well I dont quite understand him, I was hoping on advice. I told him last night that I wanted to get a shower to fool around. [ and We have this big shower, so theres room, or even a jacquzzi bath] ...
A. 25 July 2008: Don't over think it. There ARE times when a man just wants to get it done with and off his mind. However, you might offer to help. I don't mean to sound crude but if you see him doing it try something along the lines of "Hi Hon (or whatever you ... (read in full...)
I'm only 5'7", will I ever have a growth spurt?
Q. Hi. Ive never had a growth spurt, and im 17 and 5 foot 7. Will i get a growth spurt/grow more? My mom is 5'2, and dad is 6'0. Also my brother is 15, yet he is 5'9, is this normal? I know this might seem silly, but its depressing me. Thanks for all ...
A. 25 July 2008: There's no way to know but it certainly could happen. I had a cousin who was 5'8 when he left school at 18 and yet grew to be 6'2 after he left school.... (read in full...)
My dad is cheating on my mum. Who can I speak to about it?
Q. I'm 15, Me and my older brother saw texts on my dad's fone to another woman saying 'Honey, I love you'. My parents are still together, but my mum doesn not know. My brother and I confronted him RIGHT now and he lied, we showed him the texts and...
A. 25 July 2008: Do nothing more than you've already done for the time being. Men, even good fathers are flawed and the majority of married men will cheat at some time during their marriage. Even if you have solid proof that he is cheating it does not mean that he ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to enjoy swallowing, and also how can I suggest he go down on me more so I'm receiving as much as I'm giving?
Q. i really love giving my boyfriend a blowjob, but i've never let him cum in my mouth. i really want to swallow, but even precum makes me gag. is there a quick fix because i really want to do it? also, he doesnt go down on me as much, even straight ...
A. 24 July 2008: If he doesn't go down on you he is missing out on one of life's great pleasures.
In terms of getting him to taste better have him watch what he eats. Reduce coffee and red meat. Avoid garlic and onions. Eat celery and drink pineapple juice.... (read in full...)
What is the etiquette of oral sex?
Q. This is probably a question that will get vastly different answers, but I have been curious to know the answer to the following question: What is the etiquette of oral sex? When you go down on a person, do you expect to kiss them after or do ...
A. 23 July 2008: I can't even begin to imagine having a problem kissing a girl after she's been down on me, giving me blowjobs is behavior that I like to encourage and reward. Frankly, the other way around I'd be a little offended. If I've been down on you for 15 - ... (read in full...)
I want to "go down" on my girl. Please advise me. Do we kiss afterwards?!!
Q. hey. help from all. i want to go down on my girl. how do i go about doing that. tell me what to do from the start to the end please. do we kiss afterwards? how do i get her to go down on me? actually dont want her too although it would be nive or so ...
A. 23 July 2008: Pick a time when she is going to be clean - i.e. just had a shower or a swim. This for your own sake obviously (actually many men couldn't care less but for your first time it would be best) but also for hers as she may feel uncomfortable / self ... (read in full...)
He loves me, but now his wife has found out he doesn't want to know me.
Q. I have been with someone for the past 3 years but found out 6 months ago that he has recently married. Because I love this person so much I agreed to be the other woman. I know that he loves me and he tells me all the time that it was a mistake ...
A. 23 July 2008: If for whatever reason you actually want to sustain your relationship with this guy then you are going to have to find a way to back off for a while. He can't risk contacting you at all for weeks or months. He should have told you that he was ... (read in full...)
Could I be happy with two different girls?
Q. is it possible for me to happy with 2 different girls? without them knowing. i dont want to lose the girl im with now. and the girl in my past is someone close to me and i dont want to lose her either....
A. 23 July 2008: It is perfectly possible to have genuine and deep love for two or more people. Some people will try to tell you that ain't so but it is. There are situations in which it can be made to work particularly when you are older but at your age it isn't ... (read in full...)
I only like receiving oral sex, any suggestions, to help me reciprocate?
Q. Hello. I have some sort of phobia or fear or disgust of giving oral to a women. Now I've been with my girlfriend for a year and she is very relaxed in giving me oral and demands none because she knows how I feel which I really appreciate of he...
A. 21 July 2008: It's important that you do get over this because a) it's one of life's great pleasures and b) you are never really going to sexually satisfy a woman if you don't pay attention down there.
Is she nicely shaven? It can be pretty off putting ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. I am considering to lose my virginity seeing a prostitute. Now I would like to hear some people's advice who have been in a similar situation. I am male, 23 years old and suffer from a quite bad case of virginity - so to say. I have never even ...
A. 21 July 2008: Jester I'm assuming that you have a decent education and that you're basically fit and healthy? If that's so come to China and put your worries behind you. Not only is China the land of opportunity but you'll find many beautiful, sweet and lovely ... (read in full...)
Does sleeping with a hooker feel nearly as good as legitimate sex?
Q. I'm wondering if any guys here have ever had sex with a hooker, I ask because I've been wondering about it for a while, but I'm not sure if it would feel nearly as good as legitimate sex. Don't get me wrong, I'm not considering getting a hooker...
A. 21 July 2008: It can be great with a little bit of luck and with a good attitude. Pick a good one, treat her with respect, work your tongue, make sure that you're not the only one enjoying themselves. Say thank you.
Many working girls are not that keen to ... (read in full...)
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