I had sex with my, guardian is it wrong?
Q. hey guys, i think i hav a bit of a problem... about 6 years ago, when i was 14, i moved to china (my parents wanted me to learn chinese). my parents hired a guardian to look after me and afterwards, both of them went to the U.S. Well, at first, t...
A. 5 September 2010: OK this seems a lot less bad than I originally thought when I looked at the headline. Basically you screwed your ayi (maid / housekeeper for those of you not from China) and that happens all the time. My guess would be that 10-15% of boys from ... (read in full...)
Is he not taking our wedding plans seriously?
Q. We got engaged on March and decided the date of our wedding to be March 19, 2011. I heard it's best to start planning 1 yr ahead and so that's what i started to do with my mother's help. However, he always seemed to get upset about it saying I am ...
A. 31 August 2010: It is a real struggle for men to care about planning for these things in the same way that you do. That is why traditionally all the groom is required to do is buy a ring and show up early at the Church. Yes he should try to be supportive but ... (read in full...)
We are both 14, had a miscarriage. Should we try again to have a baby?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both 14 and are madly in love. weve been together for about a year now and had protected sex a few months ago. she ended up having a miscarriage and that made us both completely sad. :( We love eachother alot and wanna have ...
A. 29 August 2010: Do you have any idea how much it costs to care for a child?
Don't do it.
By all means love your girl and hold on to her for ever but wait until you are both at least 20 before you have a baby.... (read in full...)
Involved with a married man who cheats with others but I won't leave him
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who also sees other people. I knew this going into the relationship. I did not care, because I am obsessed. I will not leave under any circumstances, as I am that codependent. I love him, and that's ...
A. 28 August 2010: You've chosen a tough road and it only works well for a few people. It involves a lot of being alone and that has it's disadvantages but also its advantages.
I'd suggest that you develop very engrossing hobbies or interests or friendsh... (read in full...)
Horny girls?
Q. At what age are girls the horniest? And how can u make a shy guy horny?...
A. 27 August 2010: 32... (read in full...)
I wonder if my disability is stopping girls from approaching me?
Q. I feel like I have a great life, but there's something that is missing min my l I have been struggling to find a girlfriend for the past 4 years and it feels like I'm being hunted down. I know for a fact that I am not such an unattractive guy or ...
A. 27 August 2010: Your leg is doing you a favour by scaring off the girls that you don't want any way. Any girl that would be put off by that would be not worth having.
My Dad had Polio from the time he was a baby, walked with leg irons as a boy and then later al... (read in full...)
Do Asians have smaller penises?
Q. I am an asian thats why i am wondering: Do asian have the smaller penises than the european? What their average size? Cause i dunno mine one is good enough or not. And also i have watched some pornHow come asian leave 'it' as hairy as it is, but ...
A. 26 August 2010: Not wanting to leave any stone unturned in pursuit of answers for Dear Cupid I had an exchange of e.mails last night with a girl who used to work for me (in an office job) who now makes her living as a call girl / escort in Shanghai earning ... (read in full...)
Do Asians have smaller penises?
Q. I am an asian thats why i am wondering: Do asian have the smaller penises than the european? What their average size? Cause i dunno mine one is good enough or not. And also i have watched some pornHow come asian leave 'it' as hairy as it is, but ...
A. 25 August 2010: On average yes but there is a broad distribution of sizes for each race and so many asians will have bigger ones than many caucasians.
As for hair removal, this is a relatively recent thing in the west - watch some 1970s porn and there huge bus... (read in full...)
Why do I like older guys?
Q. help. i like older guys. but not as old as like 40 just younger then that. im not sure if its because of my recent relationship just ending and im so upset about it still even though it was 3 months ago but i just love flirting with them and i love ...
A. 25 August 2010: Thank you. You've made an almost old man much happier this evening. ... (read in full...)
Why do I like older guys?
Q. help. i like older guys. but not as old as like 40 just younger then that. im not sure if its because of my recent relationship just ending and im so upset about it still even though it was 3 months ago but i just love flirting with them and i love ...
A. 23 August 2010: Wow. At 40 you've just made me feel really really old. I'm going to have a cup of cocoa and head to bed.... (read in full...)
Curious about penis size
Q. I've read a lot here about average penis size being about 5-7 inches. I have not been with many men, but they have all been at least 6 or so. About the same for my girlfriends, except for one, whos been with a guy who was huge. I'm just ...
A. 21 August 2010: Well, at your age, the guys with smaller dicks are generally so self conscious about it that they are sitting in their rooms worrying about it rather than going out and having sex. So whilst the average may be 6 it is not impossible that the ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me, should I leave?
Q. I've been married to my husband for 11 years, and we dated for 7 years before that. We have two children together and they are 7 and 5 years old. I've been a stay home mom for seven years. Three weeks ago, he confessed that he cheated on me wi...
A. 21 August 2010: From what you say he really doesn't sound particularly pleasant.
You say that you love him and then you say that you don't know how to live without him. Are you sure that it isn't just the second of those things, fear of the unknown?
I live ... (read in full...)
Is this height difference ok?
Q. Is 26cm or 10inches difference too bad between couple? What are some adventages and disadventages in this? Would you, guys, be mind to have a girlfrient who is too short( 5'1)? ...
A. 20 August 2010: Since when has 5'1 been "too short"??... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby at 15. Could I be pregnant from these symptoms?
Q. i am 15 and i have been with my 16year old boyfriend for a year and 1month and we are trying for a baby, and i am nearly 2weeks late for my period and i have done 3 test and yet all neg and i am really scerd, i dont want to tell my mum and friends ...
A. 18 August 2010: Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?
I'm sorry, no other words occur to me.... (read in full...)
Is there phone hacking going on or does my husband have something to hide?
Q. Hi, this is going to sound really silly but I need some advice. I've been married to my husband for 7 years and we have a great relationship. We are happy, healthy, love our kids, love each other, sex is awesome and we just have a lot of fun. We've ...
A. 18 August 2010: I'm sorry but OBVIOUSLY he made the calls. That doesn't mean however that he went through with the transaction. Does he generally carry a lot of cash with him? If not then check for a late night ATM withdrawal.
I travel a lot. This is far f... (read in full...)
What is it about receiving head that men like so much???
Q. A friend and I were talking about oral sex and we were puzzled as to what "makes it good" for a man? So, here is my question what is it about receiving head that men like so much??? What makes it good?? and why?...
A. 18 August 2010: 1. The mouth particularly when combined with hands just has more moving parts so there is more that can be done with it.
2. We (generally) have a great view of what is going on
3. We are passive rather than active. There is a sense of being t... (read in full...)
Do guys appreciate a girl who says no to unsafe sex?
Q. Do guys really think better of a girl, who, wont have sex without a condom. A lot of people say that guys really appreciate and that. But in ways it sounds like away to get people into safe sex. Cause i know my boyfriend sometimes will be like "well ...
A. 15 August 2010: Pull Out Method - also known as the Abortion Method.
It is not a method of contraception and any boy who tries to tell you that it is is an inexperienced kid.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I only think of him like a grandfather?
Q. Dear Cupid There is a guy that I camp with. I have known him for about 3 months now. He is about 65 or 70. I kind of have feelings for him. Not like I want a relationship but kind of like I love him like a father of grandfather. Am I in love wit...
A. 15 August 2010: You should be very careful for your sake and for his.
Unfortunately society is such now that most people will assume that a man in his 60s wanting to spend time with a 15 year old girl is up to no good. It is sad that people think that way beca... (read in full...)
I agreed to help her financially, but she'll leave me if I stop.
Q. Hi I have met a girl online and we chat for about 3 weeks and she came to find me in my country. We met up and hit it quite well and she asked me to be her boyfriend which I agreed that we should try out. During this period of time, she told...
A. 15 August 2010: Honestly this sounds like a bad situation.
Which country is she from? How old is she?
... (read in full...)
Worried about my first threesome this weekend!
Q. Help! I am having my first threesome this weekend. It involves my fiance and another man who is a complete stranger. What should I do? What should I expect. Any ideas will be appreciated....
A. 14 August 2010: Most important, if you don't feel sure about it, if you don't feel tingly and excited about it then don't do it.
I love threesomes although only ever MFF but I can't imagine ever wanting to ask another man to have sex with my wife or even with my ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend to housekeeper!!!
Q. I dated my boyfriend 4 three months, I'm a single parent and he knew that. I never mentioned to him about my financial situation, but now that things have become harder for me, I had to tel him everything. He offered for us to move in with him ...
A. 13 August 2010: Is it a good school?... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating has slept with a prostitute! Help!
Q. Hi Guys, For the past few months i have been dating this guy, i had been seeing him for about two months before he went on a three week holiday. We never had a discussion about what level our relationship was at, i didn't expect him to not see o...
A. 12 August 2010: This is a cliche but it is true, when a man has sex with a woman there is almost always a price to be paid it is only a matter of the payment plan. You'll see some 40 something guy living in a bedsit paying over half his income in alimony and ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to hate your father?
Q. hey is it wrong to hate your father? my parents divorced when i was about 9 or 10 and it wasn't an overly messy divorce either. i got to see him on weekends and it wasn't too bad. but when he met his wife things all changed, she started telling ...
A. 12 August 2010: This really sounds like his problem, not yours. I think that the way that you feel is quite understandable. It is all very sad. However, don't let too much hate in to your life even when you've been mistreated because that hate will hurt you much ... (read in full...)
Do you believe that there is only one true love in your life?
Q. Do you believe that there is only one true love in your life? ...
A. 12 August 2010: No.... (read in full...)
What's a male virgin to do?
Q. I'm a male virgin, and I'm not attractive at all. I've been told numerous times by woman that I'm not good looking. I did'nt have the nerve to ask any girl out high school. I've asked out 50 women in college so far. 48 of them turned me down. ...
A. 11 August 2010: Well:
Don't keep score when the score is depressing
Women care less than you think about your facial features but they do care about what you do with what you've got and they way that you carry yourself. Everything can be dealt with:
-... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to believe that sex outside of marriage is immoral?
Q. I am still a virgin at 34 due to mostly my own religious convictions. I believe it is immoral to have sex outside of marriage. I feel like a freak due to this fact. I hope that nobody knows since only the ones closest to me know about it. Am I wrong ...
A. 11 August 2010: Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and as long as you don't impose them on others or harm anyone in pursuit of your belief then why would anyone object. I do belief that you are wrong to deny yourself one of life's great pleasures but you ... (read in full...)
Is Internet hook up with older guy safe?!
Q. [Mod Note: OP's own title] Hi, I'm 17 and from the uk. I've known a guy for a year and a half off the Internet. He is older than me (46) and I'm going to meet him soon, he's driving up to where I live and were meeting in a hotel. My friend knows an...
A. 11 August 2010: He is very definitely expecting to have sex with you. If you don't feel the same way then it could turn unpleasant.... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can make myself taller?
Q. Hello. I'm Emily. My height is 153cm or 5'1 and I weigh 40 kilograms. In a few months I'll be 18. I have always worried about my height. I have heard that we stop growing taller at 18. Is it so? If no, then what should I do to get taller? ...
A. 8 August 2010: Honestly at 5' and 40kg you sound just about perfect to me. Stay slim and feminine and a lot of guys are going to want to look after you and protect you.... (read in full...)
Why is it so hard to find a man with Catholic values?
Q. Why is it so hard to find someone with Catholic values? i.e. a guy who is waiting til marriage to lose his virginity. i know many guys want to marry a virgin but if they are not virgin themselves, no deal. Are there any virgin male out there wh...
A. 8 August 2010: In looking for a virgin in his 30s you really are narrowing the field quite substantially.... (read in full...)
Do boys like big girls?
Q. dear cupid i know that this has nothing to do with relationships but i need advice. i am 14 and i have 38dd breasts, is that normal? i really want 2 lose weight what exercise helps? and i have 42 inch hips and i am 5 feet tall. do boys like big ...
A. 8 August 2010: Some do, some don't. You can be big and still feminine and confident. If you walk around hating the way that you look then nobody is going to find that attractive.... (read in full...)
15, pregnant and don't know how to tell my parents
Q. I am 15 and i have just found out i am pregnant, im not sure what i want to do yet. When i think about getting an abortion it makes me sick to the stomach but im not sure keeping it is the best option. my main worry is my parents, i dont know how...
A. 7 August 2010: Having a baby at 15 is going to mess up your life in a big way. Wait another 10 or 15 years.
I'm a father of 2 young girls. What would I want them to do in this situation? Most important, tell me quickly. You have already made a bad decision... (read in full...)
Am I a virgin man?
Q. Once, my colleagues asked me " r u a virgin"? And i did not know how to answer them. I am wondering how '" virgin" is defined? Lets say if i have never had sex with a girl, but i have done masturbation. Then am I a virgin man? ...
A. 7 August 2010: Yes. Of course you are a virgin.... (read in full...)
My husband believes this woman is from his past and him and her are getting too cozy for my liking!
Q. My husband met a married woman at a conference in January this year. She came to our house on a recent visit and I simply assumed that there was nothing to it. I later find out that he has been seeing the woman in his dream before actually meeting...
A. 6 August 2010: Wow. It is tough to compete with "foretold" what with your relationship being only a single / current lifetime thing whereas they are star-crossed lovers reunited across multiple lifetimes.
I can see why you find this a little exaspera... (read in full...)
Pelvic injury and erection problems
Q. I was hit by an 18 wheeler at full speed. I was on foot. I'm still in the hospital and almost died. One of many injuries was a very severe fracture of my pelvis. I cannot get an erection. I also wore a catheter for several months. When catheter was ...
A. 6 August 2010: Honestly this is one for your doctors. No one here is qualified to answer. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Pregnant from blow jobs?
Q. I'm wondering if you can get pregnante through blow jobs exetra.Is that possible ???...
A. 6 August 2010: NO.
Absolutely not. No chance whatsoever.... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and exhibitionist. Am I normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did not...
A. 2 August 2010: You really need to direct your energies toward getting yourself laid.... (read in full...)
I think he's just using me for sex
Q. Hi All I think my boyfriend of over a year is using me for sex but I can't bring myself to dump him. He never has time to come see me unless he cames pick me up and we go to his place for sex. after that he wont see me for about a week till he wan...
A. 2 August 2010: Yes he is using you for sex. That isn't to say that he doesn't like you but just that patterns like this once established are hard to break and he is unlikely to put in any more effort in to the relationship in the future once he has established ... (read in full...)
Is the age difference between me and my future wife too big?
Q. i am 28 years an i will marry a girl younger than me by 7 years she is 21 ,is the age difference large or it is a normal age difference? ...
A. 2 August 2010: No. In fact there is a common rule of thumb which says that the optimal age difference at marriage is for the wife to be (husbands age / 2 ) + 7 which means that your age difference is just right.... (read in full...)
Do you tell your husband when you have cheated?
Q. I had an affair 3 years ago with a man I thought I loved. I was so messed up from it I slept with another man just to get over the man I was in love with. I have been married to my husband for over 20 years and have not slept with anyone else! It ...
A. 2 August 2010: Absolutely don't tell him, ever. Why would you decide to inflict that much pain on him just to absolve your guilt.... (read in full...)
Husband says I let myself go
Q. i been married for 17 years i love my husband to bits we used tohave a brilliant sex life now its non existant we make plans to spend time for just us but it never happens he is a hard worker he gives me and the children anything we want and more ...
A. 2 August 2010: It may seem "shallow" but the physical things are important for men especially for the kind of man who is a "provider" which is the way that you make your husband sound.
Have you let yourself go? Take a hard look at yourself. Look at old phot... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of becoming an "escort". Any advice?
Q. hi im 16 years old and i have no qualifications as i got kicked out of school, i am considering becoming a protitute or joining a escort agency but i was just wondering can i even become an escort if i am only 16 nearly 17, i have no other income ...
A. 31 July 2010: Daffy, I'm pretty open minded about this sort of thing. Someone I love was an escort for a while and I have another friend who still is. For the right person at the right stage in your life being an escort can work very well BUT at your age and ... (read in full...)
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