Are all cheaters the same?
Q. hi just after a few opinions pls 1.how do you tell the difference between a man who is in a relationship genuinely unhappy but confused and cheats. and a man who is using you because he can and cares nothing for you. because i dont believe all chea...
A. 18 June 2010: No not all cheaters are the same. Men cheat for all kinds of reasons and in different ways and in different contexts. It certainly isn't always because they are unhappy although that is a convenient myth. It is of course almost always a selfish ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch me have sex with a girl!
Q. ok so my bf asked me if i would do sexual things with another girl while hes watching.. idk whats that called but i have been intrested in that (we are both 18) so he said if i wanted he could try and find someone for me to do stuff with. but then i ...
A. 16 June 2010: Yup. He is absolutely counting on the two of you having a good time and getting carried away and then not minding when he joins in.... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: No it certainly isn't life threatening but you should get yourself checked out.... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on the perfect wife?!
Q. I need help! I got married when I was twenty one. To my beautiful, caring and amazing wife. But a couple months ago I did something terrible... I cheated. I was out of town. My job causes meh to be gone a lot more now and I. Was having sexual ur...
A. 15 June 2010: Don't punish yourself too much. Somewhere between 1/2 - 2/3rd of men will cheat given a sufficiently good opportunity. I spend 60 -80 nights a year in 5 star business hotels and those hotels are basically brothels in terms of the amount of illicit ... (read in full...)
Are warts contagious?
Q. My boyfriend recently discovered he has a wart on his thumb. Shortly after without realising he fingered me. Will i get warts in my vagina? please help!...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes.
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Could I have gotten an STD?
Q. Last Saturday night I met a cute guy at a club. We danced and drank until closing and I got pretty buzzed. He offered me a ride home and when we got in his car, I went down on him. I never did that to a strange guy before and when he finished I ...
A. 15 June 2010: Do get yourself tested but don't stress too much about it. The swallowing is not much of an issue as the acids in your stomach will kill pretty much anything but there is risk if you have any cuts or abrassions in your mouth. The biggest risk ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I have questions about penis size.
Q. Ladies, for those of you who've been with a well hung (8-9") man, enjoyed it, but went to a more average (5-6") partner and enjoyed that too, which do you generally prefer and why? Is bigger=more masculine, or powerful or what? Do you long for the ...
A. 15 June 2010: What is going to cause you a problem though is your insecurity. Whilst the vast majority of women don't particularly care if your dick is 5 inches or 8 inches they DO care if you are insecure and lacking in confidence and that is a big turn off for ... (read in full...)
Looking for wife's love
Q. I am not happily married. It is my wife. She has no interest in sex. She never touches me. She has no reaction to my foreplay. She never let me kiss her and has no desire for making love. I have not ever experienced a kiss in my life before. I ...
A. 14 June 2010: THIS is why no sex before marriage is such a BAD idea. You have no idea what you are getting, you're buying a pig in a poke. ... (read in full...)
One way or the other I'm going to hurt someone, and I'll be hurt too!
Q. please help, i come from a very religious family. we are christians and my family follow the faith to the letter. recently they found out that my best friend is a lesbian through the gossips in our village. they were disgusted. they told me ...
A. 11 June 2010: Wow I'm amazed that there are people in the UK who still believe in hell, in America for sure but hell just isn't very British and it really isn't very 21st century.
Don't tell your parents just yet but do get yourself out of this medieval... (read in full...)
Help! He ignores me sexually!
Q. i`ve been with my boyfriend for over 15 years,we have 2 kids,10 and 7...umm, i really dont know where to start...well,here goes,when we met,i was a normal sized gal,loved to party,worked hard and played hard. we bought our first house when i was 19...
A. 11 June 2010: My guess is that the weight is an issue. I know that it would be for me. I don't mean that judgmentally as I'm a big boy myself (as you can see from my picture) however as someone who has sex with quite a few people on a fairly regular basis I ... (read in full...)
Is it really possible to have no sex drive whatsoever? Or am I just depressed?
Q. I've stopped caring about whether or not I ever have a girlfriend. I don't know if this is normal. But my question is...Is it possible to have no sex drive whatsoever? I am 31 and I've become so depressed and disappointed with my life, that I just ...
A. 10 June 2010: Nothing wrong with it, just not much fun.
What is depressing about your life?... (read in full...)
Delicate situation
Q. If i want to eat a girl out but her vagina smells, what should i do?...
A. 10 June 2010: Have a shower yourself and she'll get the hint.... (read in full...)
Engaged but still have the single male mentallity, Help
Q. Hello people, I'm 24 year old male engaged to my beautiful finance of 21 of age. Ok the question is why is it that when I see other females I get attracted so fast and a lot of sexual thoughts run through my head? I know its wrong but its something ...
A. 10 June 2010: 24 is really young to get married these days.... (read in full...)
A crisis of faith
Q. Hi there. I'm on my gap year and during it i met the most amazing girl and we are coming up to our one year anniversary, and for our anniversary (in a month and a half) i named a star in the sky for her. I sent it to her early because im going...
A. 9 June 2010: Familiarity breeds contempt.
Don't call every day. Don't ever allow her to find your calls even a little commonplace or dull. Women don't respect men that they have on a leash. They want you on a leash but once they get you there some of the a... (read in full...)
Not desperate for sex just want to know what the hell I'm doing wrong - am I missing something?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship now for almost two and a half years. Its a long distance relationship in that my boyfriend lives four hours away and so we meet on weekends or at worst every second weekend. Okay my problem is that there is no sex i...
A. 8 June 2010: OK. Send me his e.mail address and I'll send him an e.mail from someone he doesn't know in China and tell him that he bloody well better get his act together.... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 8 June 2010: You only have one life.... (read in full...)
A pimple? Or something else?
Q. Hello, Ive noticed i have a bump on the underneath my shaft, about halfway up. Its underneath the skin, and at first i thought it might be a pimple forming because it was small and hurt a bit, but now it has gotten bigger, but no whitehead has ap...
A. 8 June 2010: If there is just the one of them then it could be a genital wart. If there a whole lot of them all quite tiny then they are just slightly swollen hair follicles. Genital warts are pretty common and highly contagious so you owe it to your sexual ... (read in full...)
How do I introduce a vibrator into sex?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months and we are madly in love, We have amazing passionate sex which feels great! BUT he just doesnt really care about me orgasming, he does want to try though. but hes impatient and cant keep a hard on and use h...
A. 8 June 2010: I'm not quite following how the sex can be "amazing and passionate" if you ain't cumming. For me if I don't cum then that's pretty mediocre sex at best and I don't see why a girl should feel any other way. Have higher expectations.... (read in full...)
A crisis of faith
Q. Hi there. I'm on my gap year and during it i met the most amazing girl and we are coming up to our one year anniversary, and for our anniversary (in a month and a half) i named a star in the sky for her. I sent it to her early because im going...
A. 8 June 2010: Honestly, don't go looking for too much reassurance. It comes across as wet - "I love you so much, will you still love me in 8 weeks time ...please don't stop loving me" Be a confident man, tell her you love her by all means but don't seek ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men don't get their way they always go off in a mood?
Q. Is it just me or when men don't get something to do with sex they go in a mood and blame their partner. My boyfriends likes bum fun, we tried it but it really hurt me. but he doesn't seem too realise that cause of the pain i dont want it. and he ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think what you mean is boys rather than men.... (read in full...)
Is it common amongst guys to share their sex stories?
Q. I would like to have opinion on guy who will describe to his friends how he had sex during his one night stands, and also how he first made love with his girlfriend. Is a guy even serious if he describes how he n his girlfriend have sex? Or is ...
A. 3 June 2010: No. It just isn't a thing that men do.... (read in full...)
Is he likely to cheat again based on his history?
Q. I've been married 10 years and 2 young children. A year ago I found my husband had been on internet dating sites and had been chatting to dozebs of other women, having dirty emails and met up for sex with some of the women he met, all behind my ...
A. 2 June 2010: Yes. I'm sorry but yes. If he has the opportunity. ... (read in full...)
Don't you consider this a cruel game?
Q. My friend was at the mall with her family and her dad started a game where they had to "find chubby people." I said that this was a mean and cruel game. She said that it wasn't and it was just a game- just something to do. But still- isn't this mean ...
A. 31 May 2010: It's just a game. When I was younger we used to play a version of cricket based on spotting different styles of beard (there was less TV in the 70s).
Whilst I don't consider myself fat (just broad shouldered and prosperous looking :-) ) there's ... (read in full...)
Is being with 6 men sexually by the age of 30 a lot?
Q. okay so this is a very random curious question. I'm turning 30 and have been with 6 men sexually. Is this a lot for a woman of my age to have been with that many men? Sometimes i wonder and feel bad about my sexual experiences. ...
A. 31 May 2010: Ah, first time I read this I assumed that you meant 6 men at the same time and I was going to suggest that you be more careful but 6 at different times by the time that you're 30, no, really not a lot.... (read in full...)
Cheating with a married man for 4 years, does he love me?
Q. hi!4 years now i had realationship with a married man.we always have good sex good realation but her wife find out.but even if his wife knows about this.we still together.so many things happend so many fight but yet we have each other.is he really ...
A. 26 May 2010: If it has been 4 years then yes, most likely he does love you.... (read in full...)
Confidence issues are keeping me single
Q. Hey :) So this is going to make me sound like a complete looser but I seem to be totally incapable of getting a boyfriend! Im 15 and i havent even how a first kiss yet - how pathetic? I have really really really low self-confidence and so im quite ...
A. 22 May 2010: Not a looser at all. Wait a while. Enjoy your life, study, get good grades, be healthy etc. I've been a teenaged boy and they're really not that great. Better off without em.... (read in full...)
Is there a subtle way I can bring up sex with my girlfriend?
Q. Is there a subtle way to bring up sex with your significant other? in my case, with my girlfriend, im not interested in anything kinky, just not the same position every time, i guess you could say i want to switch the positions up a little bit, be...
A. 17 May 2010: It isn't really a thing to have a meeting about! Whilst you're having sex and hopefully you are being a good attentive lover you just guide her in to the position that you want. Most women who are enjoying having sex are open to a fair amount of ... (read in full...)
We adore each other and have been good for each other but I can't be intimate with him because I'm a lesbian
Q. Hi there everyone, I really need some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and I absolutely adore him, I love him. But I'm a lesbian. I've been with girls, had relationships with girls and I'm unable to be in...
A. 9 May 2010: Sorry, I don't mean this to be flippant or rude but couldn't you look for a nice bisexual girl and all settle down together? It's worth a shot.... (read in full...)
How do I appear confident and sexy in bed?
Q. so im a virgin and im uncomfortable in some ways example: i dont like when he tells me to take his clothes off....because im a little shy...and i dont feel comfortable moaning....do guys like when a girl moans?? anyway i want to seem confident and ...
A. 8 May 2010: Only moan if you really feel it. Few things worse in this world than a fake moan.... (read in full...)
Why did he cheat on his wife and take our affair to an emotional level?
Q. I'm trying to understand the situation better. I'm married and I cheat for about a year with another man, who was also married (even though I didn't know at the time). I understand my reasons for cheating (abusive relationship), but I don't ...
A. 5 May 2010: Some of us are just more greedy and selfish than others.
There is a rush, a sensation about being "in love" or being in simulated love that you don't get from a stable relationship no matter how wonderful one's long-term partner. We all love to ... (read in full...)
Does it make me gay if I want oral sex with another guy?
Q. i have always considered myself straight. I find the idea of sex with girls extremely arousing. However recently i have been finding the idea of giving ang recieving blowjobs to/from other males. In particular gettting the ejaculate on my face. I...
A. 5 May 2010: On the other hand it could simply be that you are not getting enough blowjobs yourself and as a result have them too much on your mind.
You say that you find the idea of sex with girls extremely arousing. This suggests that maybe you aren't a... (read in full...)
Wanting to watch the girl I love have sex with another man, since I can't.
Q. I met this girl online that I really liked and we fell for each other and it is all completely amazing, we are pretty both always searching for a way to talk to each other and I am soon gonna move to where she lives so we can be together. But ...
A. 4 May 2010: BAD idea.... (read in full...)
Does it make me gay if I want oral sex with another guy?
Q. i have always considered myself straight. I find the idea of sex with girls extremely arousing. However recently i have been finding the idea of giving ang recieving blowjobs to/from other males. In particular gettting the ejaculate on my face. I...
A. 4 May 2010: A bit, yes.... (read in full...)
Do I go over to Thailand to be with her? It sounds horrible!
Q. My girlfriend is from thailand. because of an exchange students organization she was in belgium for 1 year. there are 2 months left now, we've been a couple for 6 months and i can surely say we have strong love. i talked to her abt it and she said '...
A. 3 May 2010: Thailand is a beautiful and very relaxed country which is why 100,000's of foreigners choose to make it their home. I have certainly never found it to be necessary to be married before living under the same roof as someone in Thailand. I think ... (read in full...)
Should I live life as the teenager that I am or stay with my 38 year old fiance?
Q. lets see if i can explain this in a way that might make since. ok im a 19 year old female i have been dating my fiance whoms 38 years old for almost 2 years now. i love him and his son very much, but lately it just seem that we dont have the spark ...
A. 1 May 2010: If he really loves you in a mature way then he has to set you free to go and live your own life whilst hopefully staying as a good and close friend for him and his son. I don't understand why you feel that people will hate you for this.... (read in full...)
The guy I am seeing wants to engage in incest themed role play!
Q. Sorry, I'm sure you get questions like this all the time... Anyway, I'm 18 and I'm "seeing" a guy who is mid 40's, he is divorced and has no kids and I'm going off to uni soon so it'll be goodbyes in a bit, the other day we were laying in bed and he ...
A. 1 May 2010: Honestly it really kind of depends on how he said it. If it came out as if it was a genuine secret desire that he had been mulling over for a long time that is one thing, if he just threw it out there as a somewhat off-colour joke about your age ... (read in full...)
Commitment phobe or moving too fast?
Q. My gf was initially driven by lust by mentioned that she wanted to settle down with me for certain in the early stages of the relationship. I was glad that she was so 'in love' but a few months later (and a lot more water under the bridge) and ...
A. 20 April 2010: Once a girl loses respect for a man, as yours has for you, it is very very hard to get it back.
You keep on posting here and the answer is the same: you are starving yourself in the middle of the land of plenty. China is just choc-a-bloc full of ... (read in full...)
He's going to visit a nude beach -- should I be worried?
Q. I have a friend I've been involved with for 3 years. He told me not too long ago that he and some of his boys are going on vacation in Jamaica, and that he plans on going to the nude beach there. The way he was talking about it he's been wanting ...
A. 19 April 2010: A lot of unattractive older people. He'll wish he hadn't gone.... (read in full...)
Do couples have to do everything together?
Q. my boyfriend doesnt want me to do anything without him. i like to go to concerts but he says no every time, he will always say that artist is crap, even if i know he likes their songs. and then he says if he doesnt go i cant go without him. he d...
A. 19 April 2010: No. In fact not doing everything together is key to a successful long term relationship.... (read in full...)
If I didn't know she was married at the time I flirted with her and felt her up, could that get her thrown in jail on an account of prostitution?
Q. Last March, a 21-year-old girl I met let me come down to come see her. She was my girlfriend, and this was the first time I was meeting her in person. However, I broke up with her a week after we met because she was teasing me and all of that and it ...
A. 17 April 2010: ???
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How can I save my marriage after cheating on my wife?
Q. I have been in a 13 yr marrage and now I have distroyed it by cheating on my wife. I had paid for an erotic massage and I am extremly embarresed about it. My wife says that I am upset because I got cought. I am not I am distroyed because I hurt ...
A. 17 April 2010: How on earth did you get "caught"? It isn't that difficult, really, to keep that kind of thing discreet.... (read in full...)
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