How can I save my marriage after cheating on my wife?
Q. I have been in a 13 yr marrage and now I have distroyed it by cheating on my wife. I had paid for an erotic massage and I am extremly embarresed about it. My wife says that I am upset because I got cought. I am not I am distroyed because I hurt ...
A. 17 April 2010: How on earth did you get "caught"? It isn't that difficult, really, to keep that kind of thing discreet.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband I have had sex with his brother?
Q. hi, i had a question just before. the matter was about my husbands sex with his aunt during his early ages. he tells everything to me openly. but i do have a big secret and i really cheated him. his younger brother stayed with us and was v...
A. 17 April 2010: I don't think anything good is going to come out of telling him.
Don't do it again.
Deny it flat out if the issue ever comes up.... (read in full...)
Is it wise to propose given our age difference?
Q. I am 45 years old and love a girl of 27 years age. We date each other but never discussed marriage. I have never found out whether she is interested to marry. Is is wise to propose a marriage ? Is there an issue with the age gap ? ...
A. 17 April 2010: It can work - I have a friend who's 40 now, beautiful, successful business woman, made many 10's of millions of dollars on her own, when she was 36 she married a guy 26 years older than her. They've had a baby, they seem very happy. But you have ... (read in full...)
Anal sex - to do or not to do.
Q. Should I let my boyfriend give me anal sex?...
A. 17 April 2010: Only if YOU want to. Anal is NOT something that "everyone does". Because of the internet young guys now have grown up watching far more hard core porn than my generation every did and because Anal is just part of the formula for hard core porn so ... (read in full...)
Confused, am I a freak?
Q. i am a 39 year old male who's wife passed away 9 years ago i have not been with another person since.Here is my confusion and question about four months ago i met this great looking girl at a bar she was nice and smart and everything well i went ...
A. 16 April 2010: No you are not a freak! A person was being nice to you and you responded.
As anyone who lives in Asia knows many pre-op transsexuals can look absolutely stunning and without doubt can be extremely feminine despite not being actually female. ... (read in full...)
The sex I've had in the past upsets her.
Q. My girlfriend makes me feel bad constantly about the number of sexual partners I have had. I have been with seven other women. I don't think that's a high number. I had sex with seven different women but I only had sex, get this seven times. ...
A. 16 April 2010: Huge congratulations on getting your life turned around - that's wonderful. Yes, she needs to give you a break. She is going to find very few unmarried men of 40+ who have had sex with less than 7 women.... (read in full...)
I was thinking about showing up at his place with my raincoat on and nothing underneath for the one hour drive to my mom's cabin. Do guys like things like this? Or, is it too forward?
Q. I am a 24 year old woman and single (I hope not for much longer). To make a long story short, when I met my boyfriend, I took a deep breath and went after. The problem was that he was rebounding. Over a period of time, he got over that and came ...
A. 15 April 2010: Always works well. I have a friend who comes to my office like that, always blows me away.... (read in full...)
Do you think once a cheat always a cheat?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 8 months and told he confused to me that from October 2008 - January 2009 he had an affair. He proposed to me on new years eve 2009, that means whiel he was having an affair he asked me to marry him. I had NO ...
A. 15 April 2010: Life is more complicated than "Once a cheat always a cheat". Honestly, this guy, as someone who has agonised over it and confessed out of the blue does not seem like a high risk for future cheating.... (read in full...)
I'm about to run away
Q. [Moderator note: this post has been edited for clarity] my mom promised me a phone for christmas. She said the place was too busy and she said we'd get one 'tomorrow'. That happened again and I still didnt get it. Today she got a phone (for herse...
A. 14 April 2010: Seriously?
Actually, NOT giving hot girls your number is the way to make you seem even more attractive.... (read in full...)
I am considering being a non sexual escort
Q. hi, iv split up with my bf recently and im not taking it very well...i have no interest in any physical contact and think just going on dates would help...with no contact and i dont want it to go any where so is it wrong if i become an escort? on a ...
A. 11 April 2010: Honestly sweetheart I don't think such a thing exists.... (read in full...)
If I watch lesbian porn does that mean I am a lesbian?
Q. dear cupid, I regularly watch lesbian porn. i am a girl aswell. I dont know if i'm a lesbian or not because i'm still attracted to boys. But not attracted to girls. i don't know what to do! help!...
A. 11 April 2010: No. Girls just look nicer. What you like is perfectly normal.... (read in full...)
Can guys feel if they have released pre-cum?
Q. Last night i may have done something stupid. I was in the car with my ex-boyfriend who I often hook up with, we were fooling around and he really wanted to have sex. It was quite cramped and he didnt have a condom on so I kept saying no initially. ...
A. 11 April 2010: No.... (read in full...)
Eye Color Genetics
Q. Hi I have a question concerning genetics. So I have green eyes and brown curly hair and my boyfriend has brown eyes and black curly hair. Also, I am white and he is puerto rican. We have one child with brown eyes and brown curly hair with very light ...
A. 7 April 2010: I have green eyes although neither of my parents do. None of my children do though. Having said that, my children all have red hair despite my wife being apparently 100% Han Chinese - born and bred in central China. Recessive genes (such as red ... (read in full...)
Is sex more than once a month too much to ask?
Q. I am 31 years old and have been married for almost 4 years. We have sex almost every month. I don't want to sound like a pervert but i started masturbating when my husband is not home which is most of the time since he's a truck driver. I know i ...
A. 7 April 2010: No, most certainly not too much to ask.... (read in full...)
Will this retreat help with my prostitute problem?
Q. Hello again I know this is stupid and im ashamed and annoyed with myself along with hating myself right now. I slept with a prostitute again and have no idea why i was doing well... booked my retreat holiday to thailand where im doing a fitness ...
A. 6 April 2010: Sounds like you're doing something really positive with the Muay Thai fitness camp. I've heard good reports of those. It does seem however that Thailand is a strange choice of destination if you are seeking to deal with a "prostitute problem"
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Do you guys appreciate manicured nails on a girl?
Q. Inspired by a chat on another topic, ... I am wondering guys, do you appreciate seeing a well manicured hand/nails when a girl has hold of your goodies, .. or does it go completely un noticed? I kinda thought it adds to an overall effect a...
A. 4 April 2010: Absolutely, details are important but don't go overboard.... (read in full...)
I didn't say no, but I was pushing him away and then I passed out. Was it rape?
Q. Last night i went to a small party of about 20 people. We played beer pong and all of us got really really hammered. My friend put me to bed and another male friend ended up sleeping in the same bed as me. At first we just talked and we cuddled, but ...
A. 29 March 2010: Oh, and obviously make sure that you are safe - see a doctor.... (read in full...)
I didn't say no, but I was pushing him away and then I passed out. Was it rape?
Q. Last night i went to a small party of about 20 people. We played beer pong and all of us got really really hammered. My friend put me to bed and another male friend ended up sleeping in the same bed as me. At first we just talked and we cuddled, but ...
A. 29 March 2010: I'd say yes but I don't think that it would help you much if you took it to the police. Just stay well clear of this guy in the future and make it clear to him why.... (read in full...)
My family doesn't approve of my boyfriend and I fear I will be all alone if we break up!
Q. I feel so alone! I've been with my bf for just one year and we're quite happy. Lately though we've quarreled more and more. Nothing too serious though, and he's always very sad afterwards and we make up quick. Anyways, this quarreling is making me ...
A. 26 March 2010: When your boyfriend is nothing more than an ex-boyfriend or even an ex-husband, your family will still be your family, explain to them how you feel but don't push them away. ... (read in full...)
Caught in compromising footage on the internet, ..but it was all totally innocent!
Q. Several years ago, I was leaving a concert. As we heading to a parking garage a woman on the street took off her top and lowered her pants showing everything. She bent over in front of me and gave everyone a show. The whole thing lasted only a ...
A. 24 March 2010: I'm trying to catch up, is the embarrassment over the event or that it was all over in a couple of seconds? I can see that you wouldn't want that getting out.
Most of these sites have a feature that allows viewers to rate videos or pictures... (read in full...)
Sensitive girl dating very sarcastic man.....will it work out or end in tears?
Q. im 22 goin out wit my 26 yr old boyfrend 7 months for the first 3 months we had so much fun we used to always go out dancing in clubs go to pubs and go out drinking and go to cinemas. we said i love you after only 3 months which is very quick i kno...
A. 24 March 2010: Well, I agree, he does sound like a real charmer. If you find that kind of behavior "hard to resist" then there will be some other men out there for you.
I think the fact that in the 7 months of your relationship he has repeatedly failed to buy y... (read in full...)
What are my rights??? Airport Human Body Scanning?
Q. I am due to be flying in about a month's time. I really really detest the idea of this whole human body scan thing where any odd person can view my private parts and genitals. Most men don't seem to think it is a big deal, but as a woman it is a ...
A. 24 March 2010: Bear in mind also that the person who can see your scanned image is in another room and doesn't ever actually see you or see your face. You are pretty much an abstract thing as far as they are concerned.... (read in full...)
My skinny legs don't match the rest of my body.
Q. i am a healthy and handsome man but my problem is in my legs. i have skinny legs comparing my rest of the body my legs are very very thin .so that i never wear tight pants and half pants .because people will really comment how skinny it is. PLEASE ...
A. 24 March 2010: What are you doing in the gym?
If you want to put weight on your legs then don't run, don't bicycle. Do squats, leg extensions and calf raises. Lift heavy. Have someone watch you with the squats for safety. Don't do weights that you can lift... (read in full...)
Will my penis please a girl?
Q. I'm 17 years old and my penis is 6.5 long and 5 inches around,basically im nervous about sex, do i have good length and girth to please a girl?...
A. 24 March 2010: Yes - you'll do just fine.... (read in full...)
Why do some ladies judge men on how long they can last during sex?
Q. *OP's own title* Why do some ladies judge men on how long they can last during sex? I mean me as a young man all I want to do is try and please a woman to the best I can. When they say something like that its really upsets me (example: "haha he...
A. 24 March 2010: The secret here, particularly if you aren't very experienced, is to keep your dick off the field of play for as long as possible. Your mouth and hands - her mouth, face, neck, nipples, under the breasts, tummy button, hips, thighs, into the pussy, ... (read in full...)
Lifeless relationship - Is this how it is suppose to be when you have kids?
Q. *OP's own title* I met my current "fiance" and 2 months later we were surprisingly pregnant, it was a shock. We had a hard pregnancy and didn't get along well. Now 2 years later our relationship is still failing; he doesn't show affection, caring o...
A. 21 March 2010: Of course it shouldn't be like that. You have one life. Is this how you want to spend it?... (read in full...)
I feel I may have settled for less
Q. Last night my b/f and I attended a function and bumped into a couple we met several years ago, who at the time, were married to different people but found each other. I watched them from across the room when they did not know it, and obsserving ...
A. 21 March 2010: If there is no affection then what is there? How is the love between you manifested?... (read in full...)
I don't want to be kicked out of church, but I don't want to have to tell the leader about my sexual activity either!
Q. Okay - first off - not a virgin and was not an active church go-er. However since being sexual active and regreting it ... i feel i need church in my life and if that be the case, i have to confess to my church leader (namely cos evidence of that ...
A. 16 March 2010: No Church worth anything is going to kick you out.... (read in full...)
Help!!! Is there anything that I can do to be more attractive or just accept that I'm ugly?
Q. I've just been feeling like a frumpy old bag lately... just unsexy and plain. I can't imagine anyone ever being attracted to me. Is there anything that I can do to be more attractive or just accept that I'm ugly? Am I just too old to be s...
A. 13 March 2010: No.
I can't say whether you are ugly or not but you are most certainly not too old to be sexually attractive.... (read in full...)
Do girls actually think this way about the penis size?
Q. I was talking with a girl (not a girlfriend) about relationships and stuff and when we were talking about the sexual aspect and stuff about how sex is an important part one, she brought up something about penis size. Well I, being the honest(lol) ...
A. 9 March 2010: Learn Chinese.... (read in full...)
He cheated...it drives me crazy...completely crazy...
Q. By bf and I just turned one year last Feb. And last Friday I found out that a month right after we got together, he had sex with a girl from our work (it's a restaurant franchise). I don't work there anymore, but I knew the girl he had sex with. My ...
A. 9 March 2010: Kudos to your "friend" for deciding to tell you and making you and your boyfriend both feel miserable - good job!
From what you've said your boyfriend doesn't seem to me to be someone who will cheat in the future. It is significant that this too... (read in full...)
He wants to have a baby and forced me to have unprotected sex
Q. hello, im writing here because i have a problem with my boyfriend. i am about to turn 16 in a few weeks and he will be 20 in a few months. everything started off great,we`ve been together 4 months, but last night we were talking about our futures ...
A. 7 March 2010: What he has done is VERY wrong. Stay away from this man. His behavior will get worse and more controlling over time. See a doctor.... (read in full...)
Why are parents happy when a son loses his virginity, but not the daughter?
Q. why when a son lose his virginity, the parents are so happy and proud? But when a daughter lose her virginity, the parents are so upset and mad?...
A. 5 March 2010: I don't think that many parents would be particularly "happy and proud" if their 14 or 15 year old son were to lose his virginity. I certainly wouldn't be. My thought process would be "Oh no, he's on the path to under achieving at school, he won't ... (read in full...)
Crunch time for my husband, either see a doctor or I'll see a lawyer
Q. So I would like to ask what should I do about my terrible sex life, 2 years ago I caught my husband watching porn and wanking behind my back, apparently this had gone on for years of our married life in secret and led to him not wanting to have sex ...
A. 4 March 2010: I doubt that any pills that the doctor could give him are going to completely solve his attitude problem.
I think that you are within your rights to tell him that if he doesn't take care of you then you'll have to find others that will. Isn't th... (read in full...)
Anal Intercourse...what to do to avoid pain and weird things from happening?
Q. Hi yall the name nessa. Anywho I have a slight problem. So my bf's been asking and complaing...he wants to have his noodle doodle up my a*s and to me that's just going over the limit... I don't know what to do I want to satisfy him anyway I can but ...
A. 3 March 2010: I have a generally pretty liberal attitude towards sex BUT anal sex is just not something that any girl, especially a young girl like you, should be pressured into. It CAN be painful if the guy doesn't know what he's doing. It IS NOT something ... (read in full...)
How can I be there for my little sister now her dad has died depsite us not being very close?
Q. hi my younger sister who is nine not yet ten, father died last night we both have different dads. im 18 and we dont have a great relationship if even a relationship. shes not taking the death very well and of course everybody is worried about her ...
A. 2 March 2010: The death of a father is very difficult at any age and potentially traumatic at 10. It doesn't really matter that you don't have much of a relationship up to now THIS is exactly the kind of situation in which you form your relationship with her. ... (read in full...)
How much will anal sex hurt and is there a way to make it easier?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend have had sex a couple times and done everything else exept anal. well we tried once and he couldn't get it in. He wants to try it again but when he first tried he said my ass hole is really ...
A. 2 March 2010: This is something that you should only do if YOU want to do it. It is NOT something that "everybody" does. ... (read in full...)
Have any men out there had affairs but still truly loved their partners?
Q. I was wondering, are there any guys out there reading this that have had affairs behind their partners back, but they truly loved their partner? I just found an amazing article online that says that many men have affairs because they're troubled ...
A. 1 March 2010: Yes.
I love my wife deeply but I still cheat on her. Yes there is some truth in the temporary escape theory but mostly it is just old fashioned selfishness and self indulgence.
I don't believe that the good people of Dear Cupid want to se... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for loving him? It was only supposed to be fun, but I fell for him before I knew he had another girl
Q. hi all,i just have no idea how i am feeling now, i just broke up with a German guy(who lives in Beijing),i am a Chinese girl~and he was my colleague last year,and we were just friends,we did not meet up often when we were just friends,but since he ...
A. 1 March 2010: Firefliest
No you are not stupid. You sound like a sweet hearted girl and yes there is someone out there that is better for you. It is easy to be sad at the end of the holiday and with the snow falling but loving someone a lot that loves yo... (read in full...)
I want to move out of the friend zone and into being boyfriend material
Q. Hey every one, ive got two quite big problems that have been bothering me for a while.. i go to a college in london right.. im 18, and (not being big headed) im a good looking guy.. well lots of girls like me.. im REALLY friendly.. sometimes TOO...
A. 27 February 2010: Limit the time you spend with them in a bar or club. Chat for a while and then disappear. The fact that you have the time to spend all evening chatting with them signals that you have nowhere else to be and no one else to be with and that makes ... (read in full...)
Why do cheaters get mad when they're caught?
Q. Why do cheaters always continue to lie, even when they've been caught? Why do they become angry when they are found out? What moral foundation is there for this behavior (why do they think the way they do, and why do they think cheating is okay)?...
A. 27 February 2010: OK, I'm not here to defend cheating but:
- first of all there are MANY kinds of cheaters, you could build categories based on all kinds of different criteria: cheaters that care about those that they are cheating on and those that don't; cheaters... (read in full...)
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