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Should I stop masturbating?

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Question - (30 August 2008) 19 Answers - (Newest, 19 September 2008)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Masterbation is the best, but my girlfriend told me to stop because she said that it is like killing millions of babies, and one that could have had a chance to live, should I stop, or should I keep masterbating. she said she would dump me if I would.

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A male reader, Bladejunkee United States +, writes (19 September 2008):

Bladejunkee agony auntAs far as I can tell, if you like it, keep doing it, because the prostate gland makes approximately 2 million sperm a day, and they're all exactly the same, your identical DNA in all of them, when the egg and sperm combine, certain DNA aspects are gone, because if they were kept your wife would have a mutant baby. so feel free to tell her the truth, and tell her that you, unlike her, will not run out, eventually, she will run out of eggs, but as far as I know, you will continue making sperm untill the end of your life, and for a few seconds afterwards even, maybe.

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A male reader, ask sweeney :) United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2008):

ask sweeney :) agony auntkeep masterbating, your not killing babys, remember its only a sperm cell until it meets a womens egg, so keep masterbating ignore what your girlfriend says and enjoy your masterbation

HAPPY WANKING :)

p.s remember porn does help and make the overall wanking experiance far better :)

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A female reader, Ah-ha United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2008):

Your girlfriend sounds as though she has been brain washed by fanatical Christians.

Her statement is utterly stupid.

Masturbate and enjoy it.

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A female reader, xkokox United States +, writes (1 September 2008):

xkokox agony auntMasturbation doesn't kill babies, That's one of the dumbest statements I've ever heard. Masturbation is in a way, something you need to do. It relieves stress, and is very good for you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008):

is using a condom like killing a baby then?

if so then millions of people are murderers

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (30 August 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntAlso, she might try to pressure you into having sex with her. Don't let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. I don't know if your girlfriend is like that but unfortunately there are people who are.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008):

I’m not about to get into an argument of pro-life vs pro-choice, but this is carrying pro-life to the extreme. She just is too young to understand. Some day she will think back on this and laugh at that idea. Masturbation is good for a man’s sexual health. It is also equally good for women to do it for sexual health. Besides, it’s fun and hurts no one. Just do it in private and don’t tell her until she is old enough and understands sex enough to get rid of this silly idea of hers.

“To get a baby from every sperm, you would need to have sex with millions of women, all at the same time...”

Damn it cowgirl, not you have gotten me hopelessly fantasizing. WOW!!!!!! :D

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A female reader, babewithbrains United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2008):

babewithbrains agony aunt

You guys got it easy. you know what to do.

You aren't killing anything by this and it isn't wrong. She is just either religious or squeemish.

Jelly

xxx

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A female reader, MissHelp United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2008):

It's just your way of having safe sex. It's not risky. Tell your girl to stop haveing her period. Laugh at the reaction and say even if you stop you'd be "Killing" loads of babies because of wet dreams! You a normal human. Do what you want not what your girlfriend wants. And i recommend you don't tell her about these types of things. Keep them to yourself, that way she can't tell you to stop. Another option is to say you'll stop but keep masturbating without her knowing. Masturbate while she is out or if she isn't anywhere near you. You could do it in the shower so that way you'll have some privacy!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008):

Hi Emily, that was a damn good fine answer, I wish I had thought of that one... lol

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2008):

Tell her to stop having periods. Every month she's throwing away a baby when it could have lived.

Why would you have told her you are masturbating? Keep it to yourself.

Good Luck!! xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008):

You tell your girlfriend she needs better education. To get a baby from every sperm, you would need to have sex with millions of women, all at the same time...

Sperm aren't babies, but a man's sperm and a woman's egg combined can make a baby. If you stop masturbating, then you'll have wet dreams, and the sperm will still come out, but they'll come out of your penis when your asleep.

Your girlfriend is very controlling, she's very bossy and she's telling you what to do. First she wants you to stop masturbating, I'd be very interested in what else she's asked you to stop, and what she will ask you to give up next... By the way, what has she stopped doing to please you, what has she given up to make you happy, and if she didn't give it up, would you then leave her?

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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (30 August 2008):

Basschick agony auntOh for Christ's sake, stop telling her that you're masterbating. Some things are just private. She doesn't need to know about your personal shit. Besides, everyone does it. And it has nothing to do with killing babies. Good grief. She just feels threatened because she's young. She'll figure it out in time. But for now, just keep your private activites --- private.

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A male reader, baddogbj China +, writes (30 August 2008):

baddogbj agony auntMasturbation is entirely normal for a young guy.

Your girlfriend's argument is a little silly. Tell her to stop "ovulating unnecessarily" and see what kind of reaction you get.

Incidentally the numbers stack up like this: roughly 300 million sperm cells each time you ejaculate and the average man will ejaculate roughly 5,000 times but it sounds like you've made a good start :-) and are going to be above average so lets say 6,000 times. That would be 1,800 Billion "potential babies" or well over 100 times the total number of humans who have ever lived. With zero wastage you could populate the entire universe!

Having said that, I know that everyone likes to say that communication is good and so on but at this stage in your life it might be wise to cut back on discussion of your masturbation habits with your girlfriend. There is probably other stuff that she would rather hear about.

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A female reader, graciie; United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2008):

what she doesnt know doest hurt her right?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008):

At your age it absolutely normal. most of us know sex before marriage is wrong but you were made to have sex so when you arn't married masterbation is the solution. And keeping all that semen backed up can cause health problems. that it kills babies is ridiculous. you do know how babies are made right? you can't kill a baby if it hasn't been made yet. think for yourself and you'll be fine.

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A male reader, saltwater United Kingdom +, writes (30 August 2008):

saltwater agony auntWell, to be brutally honest she is talking nonsense...in more ways than one.

Masturbation is 100% completely normal and practiced by 95% of all people in the whole world, man or woman.

The "killing millions of babies" bit is a completely ridiculous statement and an absurd comparison to make; though I guess she is young so we can maybe let that slide.

But the short story...keep on masturbating; it's totally normal!

And if she has a problem with that, and you can't come to a compromise, then let her dump you.

No-one can ever, or should ever be allowed to impose a masturbation embargo on you.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (30 August 2008):

SirenaBlusera agony auntSorry buddy but your girfriend is very, very misinformed about this. It's not killing... and unlike having sex it isn't risky, it can't cause a disease, or pregnancy. It's a lot better to get it out of your system that to become sexually active, which is dangerous. I'm not sure what kind of sex education you've received but it might help alleviate your fears if you talked to a nurse or dr. about your concerns.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008):

Oh no!,well I love masterbating, and nobody is going to take that away from me, there is nothing wrong with masterbation.

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