I was drunk out of my head and got involved in an orgy
Q. Something happend to me last Saturday and I am trying to process it in my head. I am still in shock. I went to a very good friends birthday party. Because it was a house party and I planned to stay in their spare bedroom for the night, I got rea...
A. 14 July 2009: It's not wrong, sick or disgusting so long as everyone was happy at the time and no one got hurt. Don't judge yourself. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome, should I do it to keep him happy?
Q. oh oh now my boyfriend wants a 3 some with another woman just the one off mind to see if it will help him get hard but i dont know how to go about it please help im willing for him to try this just to keep him happy thanx...
A. 13 July 2009: Threesomes are great fun but they are just that, they represent sex at its most fun and meaningless. I think that doing it in the context of introducing a third party into an existing relationship is fraught with risk and should be avoided. Ther... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be with me 24/7..is that ok?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 6 months now, he lives with his older brother while I live at home with my parents. He is really good when it comes to calling me everyday to tell me what he's doing. He tells me that he loves me but that he also ...
A. 11 July 2009: There is nothing wrong with you, you love him a lot and you want to be with him. BUT yes you are being too possessive and you need to give him some space otherwise you will drive him away from you. Find some alternative things to do with your own ... (read in full...)
Should my baby be circumsized?
Q. I am 8 months pregnant and I am having a baby boy.. I don't know what to do about circumsizing??? His father was not circumsized and is currently not in our lives due to being controlling and abusive.. I have read the pros and cons of either way but ...
A. 9 July 2009: No. A foreskin isn't a design flaw.... (read in full...)
Will I regret having sex with someone I won't love later in life?
Q. So I'm 14 and I know I'm kind of young, but I look more like I'm 18 apparently and I've done everything but have sex, and I've been asked many times to have sex and I've always turned people down, but I kind of want to have sex, but I partly also ...
A. 8 July 2009: Keep turning them down sweetheart. 14 is too young. You are most unlikely to have a good experience as 14, 15 and 16 year old boys are just not, as a rule, that good at sex. Frankly the most likely outcome is an uncomfortable fumble followed by a ... (read in full...)
44 year old virgin and not sure what to do
Q. I think that to be honest I may have more than one question in this subject but my main one is how to make love. I am a 44 yr old virgin and a girl of 28 (woman) has come into my life it was love on first sight sort of thing. But im very inexperi...
A. 8 July 2009: With the greatest of respect to you there is a serious danger that the fact of you being a virgin at 44 is going to freak her out a little bit unless she too is a virgin. I think that you should seriously consider investing in a little bit of time ... (read in full...)
Do men gossip about their girls?
Q. Do men talk to their friends about women they like or are interested in? I was seeing this guy for a little bit a few months ago and we just kind of started talking again. After going out, he took me to his place since he had just moved and wanted ...
A. 8 July 2009: No. Generally speaking men do not talk to other men about specifics of girls that they are serious about. If he is talking about you in that way to his mates then he is not seeing you as a potential long term lover. ... (read in full...)
Does this make me a slut even though I'm drunk?
Q. Heyy So I have this problem where when I get drunk I'll hook up with random guys and most of the time are alot older than me. Does it make me a slut to hook up with random people even though I'm drunk?? ...
A. 8 July 2009: Slut is an awfully judgemental term - I hate it. Having said that you know that what you are doing isn't clever.... (read in full...)
Do all mothers care for their children no matter how old they are?
Q. Introduction: I'm in my early thirties and unemployed. I live with my parents adn because of lack of money and friends. I almost never go out except to church and to buy things for my family or do them favors. I'm not a kid person and my mother ...
A. 8 July 2009: No, not all by any means but many do and in this case by appearing to make yourself dependent on your parents you are strengthening the parent - child dynamic. I just arrived yesterday with my family to stay with my mother in England. I'm 39... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm not attracted to him...he has hygiene issues!
Q. Hello Reader's My boyfriend and I been together for 4 1/2 years when I meet him I was only 18 and he told me that he was 26. After a year into our relationship he started looking older then he said he was. After snooping through his wallet I...
A. 5 July 2009: You say that you love him and want to have his children. Why? It just isn't at all clear from your letter why on earth you would want to do that.... (read in full...)
I'm so confident in everything except the bedroom!
Q. Hi, I’m really shy when it comes to sex, I usually have to know someone for quite a while before I’m comfortable sleeping with them. Only…I haven’t been with anyone in almost 5years now! – I haven’t so much as kissed a girl! I’m a fairly attractiv...
A. 5 July 2009: Asking for a phone number at the end of an evening can be a bit daunting because it comes with so much cultural baggage attached. It is much easier to ask for an e.mail address. ... (read in full...)
Husband has gym addiction!
Q. My husband told me I should get a sex buddy on the side because he's not into sex for now. He insisted sex would affect his ability to do well in the gym. I asked him why, and he said there's no-one else, he's just become TOO addicted to the gym,...
A. 4 July 2009: He's just wrong. If he is looking to get stronger then going to the gym everyday is wholly counter-productive unless of course he is taking steroids and training like a 1980s East-German weightlifter.
When I was young I used to compete at a nat... (read in full...)
He says I've cheated because "it doesn't fit right anymore"!
Q. I have a sex question. Me and my boyfriend have been together 6 years, he is the only person I've ever slept with- about 6 months ago when he have sex my vagina started making a "farting" noise- used to it would only do this in doggie style. For ...
A. 4 July 2009: Your boyfriend is an imbecile and a fairly insecure one at that.... (read in full...)
He lied about going to a strip club & getting a dance
Q. My husband went on a stag weekend and promised he would not be unfaithful or go to a lap dancer. He came home looked me in the eye and swore to me he did not do either, a few weeks later he slipped up and i got the truthe he had been to a club but ...
A. 3 July 2009: He was going on a stag weekend and the purpose is to be a bit naughty and do stuff that you wouldn't do every weekend. You put him in a tough position. If the whole crowd was going to a lap-dancing place then was he meant to alienate himself by ... (read in full...)
I've had 4 sexual partners, is that a lot for a woman my age?
Q. I'm 23 and have had 4 sexual partners. Is that a lot for a woman my age? My last ex told me during our break up that guys will think I'm really slutty now that I've been with 4 different men, but he might've been trying to make me feel bad. ...
A. 3 July 2009: No. In fact it is the Goldilocks number for your age: not too big and not too small - just right.... (read in full...)
I think I deserve to be treated much better. Your opinions, please!
Q. just need opinions! Heres what its about. Well i have a boyfriend and ive been going out with him for ten months now, but the big problem is that he treats me like his little B**ch. See he sais its all because his ex girlfriend cheate...
A. 3 July 2009: The fact that you are staying with him and putting up with it is simply going to confirm him in the opinion that treating you badly is the right strategy ...... (read in full...)
If a guy loses erection during sex, is it the woman's fault?
Q. Guys and ladies please I need your pespective! My ex bragged that it was my fault he lost his erections while we had sex. Lets keep in mind that all this time he teased me by saying that I am a saint to others and a horny bit*ch in bed. Guys, can a ...
A. 3 July 2009: It doesn't seem like a thing that he should be bragging about. ... (read in full...)
He seems to be selfish and spoiled but still I like him
Q. Hello, I am writing because i need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 14 months now and love him but his mum and dad (mum in particular) are quite old fashioned and 1950s in the way that his mum is a housewife and dotes on him. She ...
A. 2 July 2009: "Aubergine" ... is a good word. Also perhaps "Sushi".
If you haven't had sex in 10 months then you need to invest £50 in a cheap hotel room this weekend. Really, life is too short.... (read in full...)
29 year old male virgin, still approaching women with zero luck. Any tips appreciated!
Q. im a 29 year old male going to turn 30 next month. i am indian american born and raised in NJ. i have never kissed, dated,..still a virgin. i am not shy when it comes to approaching. i have been approaching women since the age of 18. i have ...
A. 1 July 2009: Wow. Whatever you're doing stop doing it. 0/600 is quite a streak. My guess is that subconsciously you are projecting to these ladies that you expect them to reject you and so they will.
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Any advice for a 16yr old dating a 37yr old married man?
Q. I am 16 years old.. and my boyfriends is around 37 years old and he has 2 kids and he is also married.... He is my coach in table tennis when i was in high school, we bond together, we go out together as friends.... yet unfortunately, as the yime...
A. 30 June 2009: As a 38 year married man with kids I can say without any doubt - DON'T DO IT - it will not end well.
You may be beautiful, mature for your age and fascinating person but for a 38 year old guy to be that interested in a 16 year old there is a ser... (read in full...)
How can I get my wife to have more sex with me?
Q. how can i get my wife to have more sex with me? I do stuff around the house i make dinner for her. I even take her out. I have createdn problems in my balls wich i was worried about and went do the doc. He sent me for xrays and they found 4 cysts in ...
A. 29 June 2009: I think that your problem is that you "do anything she asks for." She hasn't got a lover or a man that she respects, she has a butler. Many women find it hard to feel sexually attracted to men who are a pushover.... (read in full...)
He was feeling a bit "nostalgic" indeed!
Q. I had dated a guy about five years ago - Our relationship lasted about 1 year. We were very passionate and I felt like we got along well and had a lot in common. Well we broke up eventually and he met someone new about 4 years ago. I told him I ...
A. 28 June 2009: I can't help feeling that the earlier responses are a little harsh towards this guy. The run up to getting married can be a pretty difficult time. It's normal that a man would be thinking things through, trying to put his life so far in context ... (read in full...)
I worry about how I taste!
Q. Okay this may sound weird but here goes: My boyfriend likes to go down on me but a lot of times I don't let him because I can't stop thinking whether or not I taste okay down there. It makes me feel really weird. I shower every day and clean my...
A. 27 June 2009: I bet you taste great. Seriously if he wants to go down on you then let him. I hear that there are some guys that don't like it but for the rest of us it's one of the best things going especially if you make suitably appreciative noises and ... (read in full...)
Should I really move on? Everyone is telling me I'm in denial.
Q. I'm so confused cuz I love a man who has been abusive with me and the last incident was yesterday when he tried grabbing me by my hair for trying to get out of his car. I broke this relationship off cuz I'm so tired of his bullshit and excuses on ...
A. 27 June 2009: Move on. If a man has it in him to slap a woman and grab her by the hair he is broken and he isn't going to get better.... (read in full...)
It sucks to feel like an outsider wherever you go, and to feel like you don't truly belong anywhere...
Q. This is going to sound a bit bizarre if you can't relate to it, but I can't help it. I posted something similar, but perhaps I didn't word it very well, and it didn't come out the way I meant it to. There are people who are transgender, who...
A. 22 June 2009: You're a grown up girl in your 30s so the simple answer is go to Expedia and buy a ticket. You could be in Buenos Aires this weekend. As an American citizen you don't need a visa for up to 90 days. Just go there and see what comes ...... (read in full...)
Handjob question...What do I do when IT happens?
Q. My girlfriend has agreed to give me a handjob. The only problem is, as everyone knows, guys ejaculate. Do I tell her to stop when that happens cause I feal like its rude making her have to clean up herself. I know its a weird question, but felt like ...
A. 22 June 2009: Honestly most girls aren't too bothered about this. Keep clear of their clothes, their eyes, their hair and their furniture and you're likely fine. ... (read in full...)
Why is it yellow?
Q. hai,how r u ? my sperm colour is looking a little yellow shad!(not looking pure white) y its like that and, is it problem for my marriage life?i am bothering about it, please answer me?...
A. 21 June 2009: It's not a problem. It is related to what you eat, what you drink and how often you cum.... (read in full...)
I am stuck in a routine of Solitude because of my financial difficulties!
Q. I was in an unhappy marriage from which I got divorced over a year ago. It was a decision that took a lot of thinking about at the time but i knew that it was the right thing to do in the long run in order to one day find some happiness. I held no ...
A. 21 June 2009: Have a complete change of environment. Rent your house out, move to another country, do a job that you've never done before. Complete personal re-invention.... (read in full...)
How can I make a player change?
Q. I met a guy off the enternet,i know he is a player! i have really fallen for this guy. Everone tells me you cant change a player, i want to know how and if he could everchange? What can i do to not be a player anymore andonly want me? Thanks...
A. 21 June 2009: You have to be the biggest challenge of his life. You have to out play him.
Play very hard to get. Be unpredictable. Keep a lot of things about you secret and mysterious and only let them slip out slowly. Be sweet and lovely when you are toge... (read in full...)
Why is dating so hard when you're a plus size woman?
Q. Well I hope someone can relate! Ok I'm a plus size woman. I'm 5 ft 7 inches tall and weight around 290. I'm on the plan with my dr to lose weight before I have weight loss surgery.I'm having the lapband done at the end of the year. I've found dating ...
A. 21 June 2009: I'm sorry to say that you're probably going to have to wait until the weight loss has kicked in. Men in general and young men even more so are pretty shallow about these things. Weight matters in and of itself but also in as much as young guys ... (read in full...)
At my sleepover my friends trashed me as soon as I was out of the room and then left in the middle of the night!
Q. I've known for a while that something hasn't been right with me and my friends, but I thought it was something small that we could sort out. But then at my sleepover for my birthday I went upstairs and as soon as I had they started bitching really ...
A. 21 June 2009: Wow, you poor girl. That sounds really really unpleasant for them to accept an invitation to come to your house and do that. Unfortunately teenage girls in groups can do cruelty very effectively. At least some of those girls know that they have ... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible to be in love with 2 men at the same time?
Q. is it possible to be truly in love with two men at the same time or am i just nuts..... i met a man 2 1/2 years ago and was totally crazy over him even though we only went out a few times, needless to say he had commitment issues and i just figured ...
A. 20 June 2009: Yes. It is certainly awkward but of course it is possible. Few people have any difficulty accepting that it is possible to be genuinely in love with 2 different men at different times and if you happen to meet both those men at the same time why ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks down on "housewives" and it really bothers me!
Q. My bf looks down upon 'housewives'. This really upsets me because my mum is a 'housewife', as she doesnt work, she chose to give up a career and stay at home and dedicate herself 100% to our family and our house. I cant explain how much I appreciate ...
A. 20 June 2009: You're best off without a man who feels that he can look down on any entire category of people. It shows bad judgement and lack of maturity.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cannot go to sleep with me at night!
Q. My boyfriend cannot go to sleep with me at night. We went through a phase where we finally managed to get it right then I came back late one night and through out the pattern. Now he is back in the spare room listening to boring fm all night. I...
A. 18 June 2009: Don't let this be a problem. Being together in the same bed is great for sex, for snuggling and chatting and all kinds of things but for some of us its just not a great arrangement for sleeping. My wife likes to sleep about 3 hours a night more ... (read in full...)
Should I terminate this pregnancy?
Q. right so im pregnant and I want to keep it as i belive that we have been stupid enough to get ourselves into this mess no will we have to live with the consiquences, however my boyfriend says that were are too young (were 20)) that hes in army and ...
A. 17 June 2009: Your choice - so long as you do it really quickly - don't wait.
All that I would say is that about 11 years ago the girl who is now my wife got pregnant. It was too soon. I was on the other side of the world. She went to stay with her sister a... (read in full...)
What do you call a cheater?
Q. A few years ago I caught my wife having an affair with a co worker of hers. When I caught her I called her a slut. She became very angry I said that and has not to this day let go of me using that word. Why? Isn't a cheater a slut?...
A. 16 June 2009: If, "a few years" later you are still dwelling on this and if you believe that she is a "slut" then why on earth are you still married to her?... (read in full...)
I think she cheated, she won't admit to it..just leave her?
Q. I have been with the same girl for 3 years. This is the longest relationship I ve ever been in. The main reason why I got with her because at the time I knew for A fact she could be faitahfull and so could I. All my other relationships ended either ...
A. 15 June 2009: She's through with you. You are best off to get our quick with some dignity intact.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he last that long?
Q. Ok me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about 5 months and well he doesnt last that long. Sometimes he doesnt even last a mintue and i cant go that fast cause the faster i go, the faster he cums. I have told my friends about it and they said ...
A. 11 June 2009: You poor thing! Take it as a complement but at the same time, without making him feel insecure about it a) encourage him to get a little "practice" in earlier in the day so that he isn't on a hair trigger and b) he should be making sure that you are ... (read in full...)
How can I change my abusive hubbie without involving the police?
Q. I'm 21 y/o and I have been with john for 5 years we got married 3 mos ago and we have 2 daughters (1yr and almost 2 1/2 y/o) but we had an abusive incident about a year ago he hit me, when i was pregnant he was arrested in jail for 4 days and ...
A. 8 June 2009: Get out. People don't change. If a man is capable of hitting a woman it is never going to get better.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not cum every time yet can keep an erection?
Q. Why does my boyfriend not come every time but keep an erection? ...
A. 8 June 2009: Is he late 30s early 40s?
This goes by the medical term "ejaculatory incompetence" which, personally I find a rather judgemental term!
It's not that uncommon in men of our age group. My understanding is that it is a little bit physical and a b... (read in full...)
Beast or lover?
Q. Hi, guys, i need your advice. I've recently been dating a guy and im not sure of his character. He victimised a previous ex girlfriend by hacking into her mobile phone and monitored her messages. He shared intimate details of her to his friends and ...
A. 8 June 2009: Get away as fast as you can. Basically people don't change. ... (read in full...)
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