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I'm thinking of becoming an "escort". Any advice?

Q.   hi im 16 years old and i have no qualifications as i got kicked out of school, i am considering becoming a protitute or joining a escort agency but i was just wondering can i even become an escort if i am only 16 nearly 17, i have no other income ...

A.   31 July 2010: Daffy, I'm pretty open minded about this sort of thing. Someone I love was an escort for a while and I have another friend who still is. For the right person at the right stage in your life being an escort can work very well BUT at your age and ... (read in full...)

He said he needs sex to feel commitment!

Q.   I asked a question awhile ago and the answers I got were not the ones I was looking for, so I am going to add more detail and ask the question a little different. I have known my boyfriend for 2 years, We have been dating now for 7 months. His o...

A.   31 July 2010: All 16/17 year old boys want sex and will say whatever they think will achieve that objective. It isn't their fault. It doesn't mean they are bad it is just what they are designed to do.... (read in full...)

Do I tell him... or keep my loyalty with the club?

Q.   We have a social club that hires a gentleman to entertain weekly. I am currently involved romantically with him. Unfortunately, I just found out that the club is going to discontinue him next year. Do I tell him or keep my loyalty to the club. I ...

A.   31 July 2010: Tell him but ask him to respect the confidentiality of the information.... (read in full...)

We've had sex and he gave me a key to his apartment, but I'm not sure where our relationship stands!

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm nineteen dating a thirty-four year old guy. We started seeing each other thinking that we would just hang out and be good friends but, things changed. He drove six hours to come "rescue" me from a bad situation once and after that, ...

A.   29 July 2010: He loves you but he's worried that he'll look silly if he makes mushy protestations of love. ... (read in full...)

Are guys just automatically wired to like women smaller?

Q.   Can someone please explain to me why before you lose weight you are told the infamous line of "you look good just the way you are" by your signifacant other..but as soon as you drop 20 lbs they are all over you and the sexy,hot compliments are never ...

A.   29 July 2010: This one is, yes. ... (read in full...)

Why do guys want a virgin?

Q.   Why do guys say that sex with a virgin girl is better/more pleasurable than with a non-virgin? and why do guys want and like to be the one to take a girls virginity?...

A.   29 July 2010: Simply not so. I for one have zero interest in virgins - I'd much rather someone who knows what they are doing. All the best sex I've had has been with girls in their 30s.... (read in full...)

Can infatuation lead to love? Beautiful experience with a prostitute.

Q.   I had sex with a really gorgeous prostitute.There was a sexual connection of some sort that I never felt before with any other girl or prostitute. I had slept with a reasonable amount of them. It was almost a divine experience. She had 3 orgasm with ...

A.   23 July 2010: Yes of course "girls like her" can fall in love, they are people too, but it just isn't often with someone that that they meet as a client. I have a couple of friends, including one of my favourite people in the world who have been prostitutes in ... (read in full...)

I'm an antisocial teen and need help talking to people!

Q.   I need some help here!!! I am a very shy person, there are a few people I talk to at school but I wouldnt call them friends there more like lets say "Aquantices" because I dont talk to anyone on the phone or anything or hang out w/ anyone I just ...

A.   23 July 2010: In my experience most teenagers don't have much worth saying. You're not missing much by not talking to anyone. Save it for later.... (read in full...)

I'm freaked out! Girlfriend came home poured water on me at 3am! Why ???

Q.   I don't know what to do. It's 3am, I was woken up by my girlfriend who dumped water on me to wake me up. What if I didn't wake up and drowned, there's a fan next to me and could have caught hypothermia and she's a nurse she would know about that....

A.   23 July 2010: Honestly man you sound a bit wet.... (read in full...)

I find this strange but also erotic what should I do?

Q.   my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I ...

A.   19 July 2010: Make a lot of noise as you open the front door.... (read in full...)

He wants to have sex in the bathroom??

Q.   ok so me and my bofriend want to have sex.......but the thing is hes not a virgin and i am.......he wants to do it in the bathroom and idk if i could do it in the bathroom.........and idk if i want to do it with him or not.......how would we do it ...

A.   19 July 2010: Really not the place for the first time. Unless you have a huge bath, bathrooms are for surprise quickies when she's having a shower or cleaning her teeth. It would be very hard to get comfy for nice sensitive, gentle, first time sex.... (read in full...)

Her stories about her "male friends" keep changing!

Q.   Been with my mate for nearly a year now. She's a wonderful woman, we are both middle age, I am divorced, she has not been...no kids. She says she's been with 4 partners sexually before me, with a few instances of oral sex through her 20's. She ...

A.   19 July 2010: I'm always amazed at the level of detail that people on DC have on their lovers / spouses sexual histories. How does this work? Is it that the fourth or fifth date people head down to the lawyers office to take a deposition? I've been married ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried about her sexual past

Q.   I've recently found out some things from my girlfriend of nearly a year's sexual history which have made me think. I'm 23 and she's 30. We met and she was married, we started out having an affair and very quickly she separated from her husband and ...

A.   19 July 2010: ?????? For 30 years old she seems as pure as freshly fallen snow! I'd bet that the Queen has had more casual sex than that.... (read in full...)

Is it possible to win someone's love by showing your love for them?

Q.   I'm in a love with a woman who is not in love with me. She doesn't even like me enough to date me. We are only friends. Is it possible that a woman's heart can change for a man if she continually sees that he genuinely loves her and is there for...

A.   19 July 2010: If she's not attracted to you then she won't become attracted to you BUT if she can't find a guy that pushes all her buttons and she decides to "settle" then you might just be in pole position for that role.... (read in full...)

It it strange to want to see a picture of his mistress?

Q.   Is is abnormal or strange to want to see a picture of the woman my husband had an affair with?...

A.   19 July 2010: No, not abnormal or strange. In fact it's healthy for women to take an interest in their husband's hobbies. ... (read in full...)

Girl question but guys can respond too!

Q.   I have a scar that was caused from a bullies incident and I'm wondering if girls find any scar attractive or is it something they don't like?...

A.   18 July 2010: One of the many wonderful things about girls is that they all have different things that they are looking for in a guy. Some like the metrosexual pretty-boy look, some like a man with a face that looks well used. Don't worry there will be someone ... (read in full...)

Can I be sued?

Q.   I am dating a married woman. Can her husband sue me? ...

A.   18 July 2010: It's called "alienation of affection". I believe that there is no "allienation of affection" tort available in Canadian law. ... (read in full...)

What does "its nice" mean?

Q.   OK, so when I'm out among (good) friends, and the women talk, and they happen to talk about lovers, the phrase "he has a nice cock" often pops up. Never "he has a big cock" or "he has a wide one"or whatever. So what the hell is a "nice" cock, ...

A.   18 July 2010: I'm going to echo quiet-echo and say that I'd be pretty put off girls that talk that way. It's just not very feminine. ... (read in full...)

Did I sexually assault someone?

Q.   Hey Everyone. Sorry that this is so long, but it’s been bothering me and I have to get it off my chest, and see what people’s opinions are so hopefully I can put my mind to rest. Here is my story as I best remember it and as truthfully as possible. ...

A.   18 July 2010: I think that you are hugely over reacting. You were a stupid drunk and that evening probably wasn't a highlight in your life or hers but I'd bet that she was over it in a day or so. She was 18+, she was in a bar, she didn't leave after you tried ... (read in full...)

I love my husband but I believe I'm in love with the other guy. What is a girl to do please help.

Q.   I need some serious advice, I met my husband when I was twenty years old. We married when I was twenty three, I am now twenty eight years of age. He always had a problem keeping a job or quitting one. As his girlfriend I offer my opinion, as his ...

A.   18 July 2010: You may love your husband but particularly at the stage in your life when you are about to start having children it would be normal for you to be looking for a man able to take care of you and your future family. If your husband has a long record ... (read in full...)

My wife keeps lying to me!

Q.   wow, it's been almost a month since my wife told me she had sex with a coworker. At first i belived her guilt. she had not got caught, and i believed all of her lies up till she told me. she seems very sorry, and whants to [be what she knows we can ...

A.   17 July 2010: Do you want out? If not, forgive her with all the dignity you can muster and you have a get out of jail free card for the rest of your life. ... (read in full...)

Is it really love if he gets angry because I'm too ill to want sex?

Q.   He tells me he loves me. I have been unwell for a week now. He wants sex and i said no to him cause im not feeling well. He get really mad and pissed off with me. Is that love?...

A.   17 July 2010: I'd say that, assuming he's more than 20, he is being pretty immature. He could still love you but do you want to spend your time with a baby?... (read in full...)

Why would he send me nude pictures of himself?

Q.   This guy i like knows i like him and he likes me and wants me to be his gf, i have told him i am ok with being his friend soi giess he is ok with it since we still text, but just recently he ignored more for a week and i texted but no response, then ...

A.   17 July 2010: Why? Simple, some guys make very bad decisions sometimes. Maybe forward them on to a few of your friends?... (read in full...)

Women are psycho???

Q.   Men are all the time saying that women are crazy and psycho, but are they unaware that their behavior or certain acts on their part often times is what stimulates women to act irrationally? ...

A.   17 July 2010: I don't think that men are "all the time" saying that at all. Maybe just men that know you, perhaps??... (read in full...)

Should I have a circumcision?

Q.   I'm in a little dilemma. I'm 15 years old and uncircumcised. I'm embarrassed about it. I don't know if I should get circumcised. If I decide to do it, what would be the right age to have the procedure done? ...

A.   17 July 2010: Why embarrassed?... (read in full...)

I want to give myself and my virginity as a gift for my boyfriends birthday, good idea?

Q.   Ok so im 19, never had a boyfriend before, recently met the most amazing guy, he's 30. its a large age difference but we get along amazingly! we haven't had sex yet, although we have touched each other intimately during kissing sessions. he is ...

A.   17 July 2010: Sounds like a lovely idea. ... (read in full...)

Am I right to be mad at my boyfriend because he commented on another girl's picture saying she is sexy?

Q.   quick question. My bf of 3 months commented on a girls picture saying that she's sexy. We went over what we expected of each other at the begining of our relationship. So my question is, am a right to be mad about it? He's been posting things for a ...

A.   14 July 2010: Was he factually correct? Was she sexy? There is a difference between saying that and saying that he'd like to have sex with her. Seems like an over reaction to me.... (read in full...)

My husband keeps texting sex lines!

Q.   my husband keeps texting sex lines. i have asked him to stop several times and told him i will leave him if it happens again but i have just seen his phone bill and once again he's been doing it! We have 2 small sons who are 18 months and 7 wee...

A.   14 July 2010: Text sex with some annoymous bored women is a pretty desperate way to try to get off, I'd imagine. He must be pretty desperate. I do understand that babies are exhausting and you may not really feel up for proper sex - heck it's 2 AM where I am ... (read in full...)

Ex girlfriends panties in my boyfriends drawer. I am shocked! What to do?

Q.   Panties of ex gf in the drawer... Hey all, I found penties of ex girlfriend at my boyfriends drower...and I don't know what to do... The problem is that I found it in his bag, which was closed and contained other memorabilia from his ex girlfrien...

A.   13 July 2010: Lotsalove has it exactly right. Keep it casual and stress free and the odds are he'll casually tell you that you can bin it.... (read in full...)

Why does my boyfriend take pictures with other women and hides them from me?

Q.   I just moved in permanetly with my fiance and one day my fiance was showing me some photos he had in his phone, but wouldnt let me hold his phone, so i insisted and basically fought him for it n took his phone away from him and discovered that he ...

A.   11 July 2010: Sweetheart, this is a big red flag at this stage in your relationship. He enjoys and feels entitled to the company of other women. He may love you but feels a little superior to you for whatever reason, maybe he is more attractive or has a better ... (read in full...)

Is 160 pounds a healthy weight for my height?

Q.   Im 16 and i weigh 205 im around 5"7 ish and i want to be around 160 lbs i dont want to be super skinny so is that a good weight? Im not asking for any dieting or exercising help cause i have that part handled..... I also have a big lower back hump ...

A.   11 July 2010: Congratulations on making progress with your weight. It isn't easy so you should be proud of yourself for getting things moving in the right direction. As a guy I'd say aim lower. Say 140. 160 is still a little heavy for 5'7. At 5'7 you don'... (read in full...)

Can my parents take my phone?

Q.   I know this is not a relationship help request but I would like to know... Can my parents take away my phone if they didn't pay or it and I did with my own money...

A.   11 July 2010: They may have been over reacting to the situation it isn't possible for us to tell from this distance however I have a suggestion. Print out your question and keep it somewhere safe. Take it out and take a look in 10 years time when your s... (read in full...)

Are growth enhancers safe?

Q.   Well according to my friends im a little on the short side. 15 and about 5'2..they joke about it and all that and tell me i should get those growth enhancers? i was just wondering if they're safe? if they work and are reliable? and what are some of ...

A.   10 July 2010: Actually, not only is there nothing wrong with 5'2 it is a particularly nice height.... (read in full...)

Should I keep my weird sexual fantasy to myself?

Q.   I have a really wierd sexual fantasy and I'm pretty sure any guy who ever heard it would run a mile! So should I just keep it to myself unless someone who I judge to be open minded enough comes along? If you're thinking what could be so wierd I ha...

A.   10 July 2010: Fantasies are good but this may not be one to throw on the table on the second date. Or maybe you should go looking for love in a fetish club.... (read in full...)

Are growth enhancers safe?

Q.   Well according to my friends im a little on the short side. 15 and about 5'2..they joke about it and all that and tell me i should get those growth enhancers? i was just wondering if they're safe? if they work and are reliable? and what are some of ...

A.   10 July 2010: There's nothing wrong with 5'2.... (read in full...)

Is there anything romantic about having sex with a prostitute?

Q.   I'm not going to lie. I have made love to prostitutes before. I have tried to be gentle with them (women of course). But I want to know...is there anything romantic or beautiful about making love to prostitutes? I need to get it off my conscience. I ...

A.   10 July 2010: I wouldn't ever say that it's "romantic", that strikes me as the wrong word but it can be very nice. In the same way that you can have a good human relationship within the context of a functional interaction with your lawyer or accountant you can ... (read in full...)

Can my parents take my phone?

Q.   I know this is not a relationship help request but I would like to know... Can my parents take away my phone if they didn't pay or it and I did with my own money...

A.   10 July 2010: Yes they can. But out of interest what do you mean by your "own" money? This would be money that you have earned yourself? ... (read in full...)

What is the proper etiquette for meeting my boyfriend's ex?

Q.   We are now married with my boyfriend, since he has a good friendship with his ex girlfriend he wanted me to introduce to her. I feel so hesitated and not comfortable to see her hence thinking that they have a past and long relationship together. ...

A.   10 July 2010: In this situation he will resent it if you try to stop him from seeing his friend / ex but you are naturally going to feel insecure. I think that the approach is to be warm and friendly and actually try and get closer to her than he is. He will be ... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but HATE his lifestyle choices!!!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about three years this time. We dated before from our senior year of high school into college for about three to four years then took about two to three years off due to cheating, lying, and needing to grow up. ...

A.   9 July 2010: As we grow older we increasingly become the result of the choices that we have made. If you don't like the choices that he makes then you will not like the person he becomes. ... (read in full...)

I am only 24 and have 5 young children, should I abort the child I am currently pregnant with?

Q.   i am pregnant but i already have 5 young children and im only young. I thought about an abortion but dont think i can do it, what should i do my man isnt much help ...

A.   9 July 2010: If your man isn't much help then where are they going to live, what are they going to eat? Children are really expensive.... (read in full...)

At what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why?

Q.   Hey Guys: Just for curiosity's sake, at what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why? And for those of you married already, at what age did you tie the not? What made you want to get married and was it more about the person or about ...

A.   8 July 2010: Married at 29. The only good reason to get married is if the idea of not being married to this specific person seems unbearable. ... (read in full...)

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