A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello.I have some sort of phobia or fear or disgust of giving oral to a women. Now I've been with my girlfriend for a year and she is very relaxed in giving me oral and demands none because she knows how I feel which I really appreciate of her, but i really really need to get over this to give her oral is there anything that can help me apart from alcohol since I do not drink?Thank you.
View related questions:
oral sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, baddogbj  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 It's important that you do get over this because a) it's one of life's great pleasures and b) you are never really going to sexually satisfy a woman if you don't pay attention down there.
Is she nicely shaven? It can be pretty off putting going down there if there is too much dense undergrowth.
Assuming that is not the problem perhaps try to get yourself used to the idea by licking and sucking and kissing other parts of her body. Kiss her all over then slip in the occasional lick or kiss somewhere that you might not care for so much like her armpit or her toes. Work up the leg towards the target zone but don't obsess about it, a quick kiss or brush of the lips and then move on. I would think that if you do this enough times you will build up your taste for it and if you don't well she is probably still enjoying what you're doing and appreciating that you're trying to solve your problem.
A
male
reader, oldfool  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Oh dear! I couldn't imagine not going down on my woman!
The thing is, it's such a treasurehouse of delights. Those labia are just fabulous to run my tongue over and feel gently between my lips. That little hole is fabulous for a little gentle tongue work. And of course there's the little fellow up the top known as the clit.
But most of all, it's so great to feel her reaction as you gently caress the area with the tongue, to feel her getting glisteningly wet (it has no taste), and finally to feel her muscle spasm as she orgasms. Or before you get to that point, to hear her begging for it because can't stand cunnilingus any more and she wants it!
How could you forgo such lush pleasures?
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): I know you requested advice on getting over your phobia but perhaps you don't relly need to.
I personally enjoy giving oral to my girlfriend but I can understand it for guys that dont. It's not a necessary part of life that you HAVE to overcome - it's something you choose to do if it appeals. A loving sexual relationship does not require giving oral anymore then eating a chocolate biscuit requires licking all the chocolate off first.
My advice? If your girlfriend enjoys giving oral (and the majority of girls do get turned on by it) then just enjoy it with her and don't worry about doing it to her - there are plenty of alternatives anyway!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): i know how u feel, im a female but im like that with guys.
At least gf understands. My ex didn't respect that and so i dumped him.
If u want to get use to the looks or sumthin. there is a toy kind of thing u can order online 4 only $20 or sumthin.
Look up Fleshlight it is an adult toy mostky for men, I comes as the shape and size of a virgina, anus or mouth.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Thank you all.. Just a ques or statement for malecupid. When i go down there which i have done a few times to figure out i have this. I nearly almost always want to throw up that is literally my problem its not to do with smell or taste coz thats fine its just the thought of it for some reason..
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Your lucky your g/f dosen't care and is very accepting. Is this more due to the fact, you may not be good at it? It all takes practise
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Thank you Midge but i was looking more for a solution to what is going on in my head rather than just put something over it that dampens the taste i don't mind the taste all that much its just the thought of it that gets to me.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): What is it fear or disgust? I do find it a little unusual that you don't like it simply because every guy I have been with loves giving oral. So I thought all men love it.
Not sure why you would find it disgusting...are you afraid your tongue's gonna fall off? I just don't understand your phobia. There are probably more germs in your mouth than there are in her clit area.
Why don't you start off by spreading her legs and put your head close to her vagina and watch yourself finger her. That should get you aroused. I don't know any man who isn't highly turned on by that. Maybe once you are super turned on then you can go for it.
Do you even like vagina's?
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): right take a little advice from a lesbian. Firstly take a shower together and wash her between her legs, this will make sure you dont get any 'horrible' taste. The taste of a women, although it varys between each one, is NOT horrible. theres a few pointers to consider 1) Dont head straight for the clit, 2) DO NOT use the tip of your tounge on her clit unless she ASKS you to 3) remember how you lick an ice cream cone and you'll be licking her right. 4)open your mouth and suck on her clit whilst licking with your tounge is a good move that never failed me. 5) TALK to her and ask her to tell you when your doing it right then stick to it, you'll blow her away. And finally IGNORE EVERY SCENE from a porno where the man sticks his toungue out and waggles his head from side to side this is not how you give a woman oral. There, thats my contribution to the straight guys. Good luck
...............................
A
female
reader, Midge  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Actually you are not alone on this one. I have to admit that I used to feel EXACTLY the same. My boyfriends loved oral and I just felt like it was a chore because I felt sick doing it. I felt like I had to go wash my mouth out as soon as it was over.
Then I overheard a conversation between two other woman I knew. Dont get me wrong, I dont agree with listening to other peoples conversation but I just couldnt believe what I was hearing, so I kinda tuned into it.
They mentioned a hot oil that you can get from one of these adult gift shops. I cant remember what its called and I dont have any at the moment, but you just rub a little on the genetalia and the around around it. You get a variety of flavours and my favourite is strawberry. It totally takes the horrible taste out of your mouth, which I think is what was putting me off so much. The firs time you use it, just use it on the nipples etc just to make sure that she doesnt have any allergic reactions or anything like that.
She may also want to try it.
Just speak to the counter assistant at the shop. I have always found that the bulk of them are VERY happy to help and will recommend products.
...............................
|
