Bewildered...
Q. I suspect that my height has stopped me from getting a girlfriend, I'm 5ft9 and girls have told me that I'm good looking quite a few times when I show them a picture or in conversation. I also have a good personality judging by what lots of people ...
A. 19 December 2008: Being 5'9 is not your problem. It's a perfectly decent height.... (read in full...)
Guys, what body...?
Q. What body type do guys prefer? Short? Tall? Long torso? Long legs? Thighs? Chest? What's your ideal type? Just curous. ;0...
A. 19 December 2008: One of the beautiful things about the way that world works is everybody is looking for something different and almost everyone is beautiful to someone.
... (read in full...)
How do I go about meeting her?
Q. This girl i've never met, but we text/email often, seen pics of her, etc. I want to meet her but dunno how to say it. It'll be so awkward. How do i go about it? And what can we do? She does live an hour away so goin for coffee isn't worth it. Lol...
A. 16 December 2008: If she is happy to spend time e.mailing and texting you then she will be happy to spend time talking to you face to face.
If you don't think that she's worth the investment of a couple of hours of travel time then perhaps you should forget i... (read in full...)
I want sex with my cousin but she says no.... what to do???
Q. Hi my name is jaan, iwant to have sex with my cousine sister.whenever i tried to seduce her she refuses. i am very cofused and frustrated. please help me. Thanks...
A. 15 December 2008: What is to be confused about? "No" - it is pretty clear cut.... (read in full...)
Parents married 36 years, caught dad in bed with another woman!
Q. I caught my dad in bed with another women, he is 60 and been married to my mum for 36 years, should I tell my mum?...
A. 15 December 2008: No. Absolutely don't tell her. It is simply not your business to tell your Mum or to be issuing an ultimatum to your father. Your father knows what you saw and he'll find a way to deal with it. ... (read in full...)
Can a married man/married woman be best friends?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 16 years. He works with a female and they have become friends over the last 8 years. I found an email that they wrote to each other that really scared me. They were discussing a holiday party that they were at ...
A. 15 December 2008: Yes, I know that it is possible for a married man and a married woman who work together to have a close friendship without that friendship having sexual undertones. In the past I've had that kind of friendship with 2 women with whom I worked and it ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm straight or bi?
Q. The thing is, I am straight, but I often catch myself looking at girls and noticing how pretty they are. I never fantasize over kissing them, or having sex, or anything like that. As i read, some one says we are naturally attracted to one sex or ...
A. 13 December 2008: Our sexual orientations are on a spectrum there is no hard and fast line at which you are bi rather than straight. It does sound however as if you are much more straight than bi. It is perfectly normal for straight girls to look at other girls and ... (read in full...)
My mom places restrictions on me!
Q. im 16 and my mother wont let me live my life. im nearly 17 she wont let me sleep at my boyfriends flat and he's 22 she gives me times when to be in she really does my head in i have tried talking to her but she just doesnt listen i really need help. ...
A. 13 December 2008: Do you depend on your parents financially for food and shelter? If so then generally they get to call the shots.
I'm kind of old fashioned but I certainly wouldn't be happy about my daughters sleeping at their boyfriend's place when they are... (read in full...)
Weird lump! What is it?
Q. Ok I'm thirteen and I have this really weird umm...let's say....lump. It goes like in between the two labias and at the end there's a big brownish looking lump. I could pull like 10 cm down without it hurting. It gets uncomfortable sometimes and ...
A. 13 December 2008: You need to go and see a doctor. ... (read in full...)
Do others find oral sex gross?
Q. I find oral sex totally disgusting! Yes, call me weird. My Bf tries to make me give him a blow job, but i refuse. Am i alone on this? Am i like the only girl who thinks that's totaly gross? I just dont like the fact that stuff gets into my mouth, ...
A. 13 December 2008: There is a cartoon floating around somewhere on the internet of a couple walking down the aisle after getting married, thought bubbles coming from each head. The guy is thinking "Ah! Blowjobs EVERY night :-) " whereas the new bride is thinking "Ah! ... (read in full...)
How can I fix the erections that he's NOT getting?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for over three years. in the beginning of our relationship we had sex about 5 times a week and know its about 5 times a month. the last time we tried having sex he couldnt get hard. i was wondering if this is ...
A. 13 December 2008: If your boyfriend is the same age as you then he is rather young to be having ED. It is possible that it is a sign of some other health problem so it is worth having a check up. Of course, no young man wants to go in and see a doctor and say t... (read in full...)
What do you Scottish/English guys think of us American gals?
Q. Hello I'm moving to Scotland... Just wandering about you scottish/english guys out there... what do you think of American girls? How do American and Scottish women differ? and... is there anything I should know about Scottish/English ...
A. 13 December 2008: One general piece of advice on moving in to a new country / new environment is not to talk too much about "the way we do things back home / in America". Don't constantly be talking about where you have come from unless people ask you otherwise you ... (read in full...)
Does a German woman/woman marriage "count" in the US?
Q. hey every one out there!!! got a question i 'm still married to a woman back in germany but i live here since 2006 and i'm also married to a man !!! does the marriage count here i mean between woman a woman?? cuz i here it don't!!! everyb...
A. 13 December 2008: There is a good article on wikipedia. It seems to suggest that foreign same sex marriages are only recognised in the states of New Mexico, New York and Rhode Island. ... (read in full...)
Tired of my lazy fiance!
Q. I am really tired of my fiance's bullshit. I just asked him to go to the store for us cuz we needed food for the house--boy did he have a fit. he kept laggin about goin, he still layed on the bed n didnt move, i wan on the computer doing my online ...
A. 13 December 2008: Generally people don't change their patterns of behavior once they are established so don't expect him to change much. Having said that no one likes responding to orders. I know that even if I appear to be doing nothing much and my wife were to ... (read in full...)
Question about cheating...
Q. This question may sound really silly to some but something I would like everyone's opinion on. Do you think that if a man cheated on his girlfriend for the entire length of their relationship of nearly three years, broke up and then strung her along ...
A. 12 December 2008: For Twilight1. You are right. My answer might have been a half decent answer to a different question. Certainly this man does not seem like a attractive specimen.
... (read in full...)
I'm suddenly insecure about my size!
Q. I have a penis size of about 4.8" in length and 4.5" in girth. I'm a very malnutritioned guy at 19 years, really skinny. I'm wondering if exercise would have any effect on my size? I'm pretty much new to this 'penis envy' thing, I never really eve...
A. 12 December 2008: Nothing that can be done about it other than coming to terms with it. Fact is that it will matter to some women and not to others. It's a big world and there are hundreds of millions of lovely girls who will be perfectly happy with what you've ... (read in full...)
The married guy I'm saying has a cheek to say I'm cheating on HIM!!!???
Q. Hey guys I am single but in love with a married man. We have sex once in a month. I am not sure about his feelings. Sometimes he says he has feelings for me and sometimes says he don't have. He has one other girlfriend also which I came to know ...
A. 12 December 2008: I am pretty much the same as your married guy although perhaps marginally less stupid and I hope a little nicer. My advice, find a nice single guy. If your married man has any real love for you he should be happy to see you getting in to a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends promise to stop watching beastiality porn is broken and I can't stand it.
Q. Hey there. I'm sure that you got many emails including weird sex questions. Here it is mine: My bf and i are together for a year and live together for 8 months. We had a great relationship until the time i found out that he is watching beastia...
A. 11 December 2008: It is a bit weird frankly. Also, seems perhaps that he is not too bright if he can't cover his tracks better than that ...... (read in full...)
May be wrong, but I think I am falling, what can I do?
Q. I am thirty years old and married with two young children. I have, however, been having very strong feelings for a young lady that works for me. She is eighteen, and very beautiful. Most of all, I believe she has feelings for me as well. I f...
A. 10 December 2008: Someone that works for you is a very high risk place to go looking for an affair. You probably have a lot of eyes on you at work and people notice far more than you would think.
18 is also a dangerous age for an affair
I am not in a positio... (read in full...)
Do I accept my husband's wandering eye?
Q. This may sound like a silly question but here goes....Im a 40yr old married woman and mother. My husband and I have been married 20yrs and have 5 great kids. The issue is that everytime we go out my husband is constantly eyeballing women half my ...
A. 10 December 2008: Uncle Phil is right, we all do it, we can't help it, it is primarily aesthetics BUT he should try to make it less obvious both for your comfort and theirs.
However as soon as you start "laying down the law" and telling him what he can and can't do... (read in full...)
Married for 5 years and he's cheated on me twice...
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 5 years, we have 3 young kids, he's cheated on me already and produced a child with the other person and I decided to stay. Now I found out he has cheated again on both occasions I knew in my heart he was. ...
A. 10 December 2008: Only you know whether you should stay or go but his behavior is very unlikely to improve.
... (read in full...)
My husband is lying isn't he?
Q. My husband works abroad and when I went to visit I found condoms in my make up draw which I don't use, he said he didn't know how they got there and hadn't seen them before... he is lying isn't he?...
A. 10 December 2008: Unfortunately, I think so, yes. Which country is he in?... (read in full...)
Is this also a form of abuse?
Q. I was wondering if throwing someone on the floor, or pulling them by the hair, or putting your hand over their mouth so they can't breathe, or even pushing your head against theirs so it feels like their nose will break is as bad as slapping or ...
A. 10 December 2008: Yes. Maybe worse as the actions you describe require more sustained malevolence than a slap which might come out of no where and be regretted immediately.
... (read in full...)
I am perfectly satisfied being the mistriss and don't want to take him away from his wife.
Q. I am madli in love with a man. But he has family. He is a very responsible husband and a father. He also loves me very much. We have a great sex life.But he told me before starting that he is not powerfull to spoil his wife's life. I also feel the ...
A. 8 December 2008: Sweetheart, you are surely going to receive quite a number of negative posts telling you to leave this man alone etc. "Dear Cupid" as a collective is not keen on adultery. However I'm going to try to get in first as a man who is on the other side ... (read in full...)
My daughter is ill and I am afraid I will lose my new job if I take care of her! What do I do?
Q. There's a very strong possibilty my 11 yr old daughter is going to be too ill to go to school on monday, might have to take her to the docs, we have been up since 3am, i think she has this chest infection, temperature, fluey type thing going round. ...
A. 7 December 2008: I have around 120 people that work for me in my business. Any decent employer (and parent) would sympathise with your situation however not everyone is decent. I have to say that if someone starts calling in sick during the first few weeks of work ... (read in full...)
Is it terribly wrong to plan to vanish from my family?
Q. Is it terribly wrong to plan to vanish from my family? I can't see anything getting better with my husband, I don't know what is wrong, but he is depressed, he is not wanting any intimacy, he became a totally miserable asshole. He is like that lon...
A. 7 December 2008: I think you should do it. Take the time to plan first and pull together as much money as you can before you go - this is not an easy time to be finding a casual job.
Is your house worth a lot? Do you have a lot of marital assets? Be careful ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to be getting non-sexual affection from him if I WANT it?
Q. I am in a rather unconventional situation. I am at a comparatively young age [look upwards], and recently I have become kind of physical with a man who is around 50. Nothing sexual really, I have known him for a bit over a year, and a month ago ...
A. 7 December 2008: Yes it is Ok so long as you are comfortable with it. Find the right moment to set some clear boundaries - "I really enjoy this close relationship that we have but please understand that I would be very uncomfortable if you thought it would ever go ... (read in full...)
He's below average in the looks department....
Q. Me and my bestfriend have been friends for many years. Over these years, he's always loved me in a way more than friends and has asked me on several occasions to be together with him. Over the years, he's really grown and matured and I find myself ...
A. 7 December 2008: It is certainly not stupid of you to consider it. You pretty much have to feel some kind of attraction to him.
As an ugly guy who has been lucky enough to be involved with some really special looking girls, I'm glad to say that some girls ha... (read in full...)
Question about cheating...
Q. This question may sound really silly to some but something I would like everyone's opinion on. Do you think that if a man cheated on his girlfriend for the entire length of their relationship of nearly three years, broke up and then strung her along ...
A. 3 December 2008: I beg to differ with the first two aunties. Of course cheating is wrong, it is a bad thing but it is not impossible that he had love for you. Sounds as if this guy behaved badly and for all I know he may be a complete waste of space however there ... (read in full...)
How can I restore my relationship after an affair?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for 7 years, we have a two year old daughter, I also have a son from a previous relationship. I recently discovered my partner has been cheating. I'm unsure of the full extent and when confronted he ab...
A. 2 December 2008: I'm very sorry to hear that this has happened to you however, if you take some of the earlier advice and use this as a way to get one up on him, to hold power over him, to force him to constantly be the guilty party or to emasculate himself with ... (read in full...)
Is my husband a serial cheater? Or just a man who made a mistake?
Q. Just two weeks ago, my husband of 16 years told me that he received oral sex from a woman he worked with at a Christmas party 8 years ago- in her car. This woman apparently only worked there for a period of a month or two before getting transfer...
A. 2 December 2008: Honestly if, after 16 years of marriage, your husband's worst indiscretion is a one-off blowjob 8 years ago then he is darn close to being a saint. If marriages were ended over this kind of thing then there would be very few people left married ... (read in full...)
I'm getting more and more paranoid and it is getting out of control! What can I do to stop feeling like this?
Q. ive been with my bf for 6 months and never had any problems with him before. last week while we were outside our flat a couple walked past us and i saw him look briefly in their direction and for no reason i instantly got paranoid and thought he was ...
A. 30 November 2008: Try to come to terms with the fact that he IS looking at other girls. Almost all men do. Some are better at hiding it than others. It is normal, we can't really help it but it has nothing to do with your relationship. It is just aesthetics. All ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to have sex with him if I don't really want to, but he also complains if he doesn't get any at all! I can't win! What am I supposed to do?
Q. My question is whether you should have sex (in a relationship) when you don't really want to? In all my relationships, after the first few months my sex drive has gone down quite a bit (I hear this is fairly common), but my partner's hasn't. ...
A. 30 November 2008: Unfortunately that is the way that it goes. We like to have sex a lot but we feel hurt / wounded if you're not in to it. Most guys I'm sure have had girls faking it on them, I certainly have and it gets kind of insulting. Sex is important. If y... (read in full...)
Is it a pipe dream that I have trying to make my marriage work?
Q. I am so confused. I am 37. Have a 5 year old daughter and a 17 year old step son. My wife has bounced from job to job and I have held my professional management position for 15 years. I make almost 100,000 a year and her spending habits have ...
A. 30 November 2008: You have one life and you're coming up for 1/2 way through it. It would be a terrible thing to spend the remaining years of the 1 life that you have, in a marriage with a woman who takes you for granted and with whom you're not in love. ... (read in full...)
After taking birth control pills, would I be able to have children later in life?
Q. ok. I want to go on birth control because i have long periods, bad cramps and i'm sexually active. I've had sex before and i'm close to having sex again with a new boyfriend. Does birth control (after taking it for a year or more) really keep you ...
A. 27 November 2008: No. Many hundreds of millions of women have taken birth control pills for extended periods of time and have gone on to have children after they have discontinued use. ... (read in full...)
I feel my husband is lying to me, but have no proof, what should I do?
Q. What can you do ,if you think ,your husband is not telling the truth, but you can't find a way to prove it? I feel very strange, because I think he is not telling to me what he does, but it's just an intuition, without any evidence. How can I not ...
A. 27 November 2008: I don't want to sound like a shill for this product but if you really want to know one way or the other then buy him a new high end Nokia phone with GPS and download a product called FlexiSpy Pro. It will cost you some money but you will know where ... (read in full...)
My bf gets turned on by asphyxia and domination fantasies!..and it scares me!
Q. My boyfriend gets turned on by asphyxia and domination fantasies. I am aware that fantasies are harmless and did not worry unduly about this but he has recently incorporated putting plastic bags over my face when we are having sex. I know that he ...
A. 27 November 2008: Many fantasies are harmless but trying to get you to pass out by putting plastic bags over your head is not harmless. These kind of games only work if there is absolute trust and he has broken that trust.
Generally speaking men get more adventur... (read in full...)
Can a married man have 'butterflies in his stomach?'
Q. There is the man about 40, a married one- married with 2 children. The couple are not well matched but they have been together for about 14 years now. I have always fancied him but I never suspected he may be in love with me. Recently he has told ...
A. 18 November 2008: My apologies "beginning to" rather than "begging to" in the previous post. ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 17 and want to have a baby, but I'm worried what my Mom will say.
Q. Hi. Im 16, nearly 17 years old and i want a baby. Im in a very stable relationship with my boyfriend who i have been with for almost two years, and i just feel i am ready. at the moment i am living with my boyfriend and his parents as me and my mum ...
A. 17 November 2008: Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Babies are wonderful but they will be just as wonderful in 10 years time.... (read in full...)
Can a married man have 'butterflies in his stomach?'
Q. There is the man about 40, a married one- married with 2 children. The couple are not well matched but they have been together for about 14 years now. I have always fancied him but I never suspected he may be in love with me. Recently he has told ...
A. 17 November 2008: As a man of about 40, happily married, with 3 beautiful children and 2 current affairs with young women in the same age range as you, I have to tell you either to stay away from him altogether or at most to have a BRIEF glorious affair that is over ... (read in full...)
Do all men picture women they fancy naked in their minds eye?
Q. Okay so here is something I have come across that I'm quite perplexed about. My ex claims that all men picture women naked at the least the one's that are attractive anyway. What happens when it's a co-worker? and the guy is in a relationship tha...
A. 17 November 2008: No not all men are like this. Some are gay, old and tired or just have a low sex drive but as for the rest of us yup we are pretty much "interested" in sex with any good looking girl in the vicinity. Generally we have been socialised not to act on ... (read in full...)
| *addogbj's friends
These are mutual friends, so *addogbj has
added them and they have added *addogbj!
|
