Do all men picture women they fancy naked in their minds eye?
Q. Okay so here is something I have come across that I'm quite perplexed about. My ex claims that all men picture women naked at the least the one's that are attractive anyway. What happens when it's a co-worker? and the guy is in a relationship tha...
A. 17 November 2008: No not all men are like this. Some are gay, old and tired or just have a low sex drive but as for the rest of us yup we are pretty much "interested" in sex with any good looking girl in the vicinity. Generally we have been socialised not to act on ... (read in full...)
Am I just a sexual pervert or am I bi or gay?
Q. I don't think I have a problem, I just need to understand myself. I'm middle aged and as straight as they come. However, I have recently started a sexual relationship with an oriental 'ladyboy' She still has a penis, but boobs, long hair, pretty ...
A. 17 November 2008: Yup, you're a bit of a perv but if you and she are happy then good for you. Seriously that is all that matters isn't it? ... (read in full...)
I had to shave my legs before we... you know. Is this a turn off to guys?
Q. So ive gone out tonight for a drink, expecting it to just be a drink in the local pub as usual I normally go to. Didn't shave my legs! Ended up going home with a guy, have known him a while, we both like being single. But we had a good giggle. But ...
A. 16 November 2008: It seems that it didn't turn him off. On the contrary it probably gave him the feeling that you were making an effort for him which is always a turn on.
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Do I leave him and risk losing custody of my child?
Q. I need some help in choosing whether or not to be with my fiance anymore. I'm 20 and he's 23, we have a baby together and we've been together for 2 years now. Before anyone judges me on having a baby, she was no accident. It was a decision that was ...
A. 14 November 2008: Get out now. It will not get better.... (read in full...)
Does the areola size really matter?
Q. ok so heres the thing, im happy with my body and i like how things are portioned overall but theres one problem. My breasts are a 36C and i like the size but my areola [the part around my nipple] on them are like 2 inches and kinda dark sometimes ...
A. 14 November 2008: No it doesnt matter at all. Variety is what makes life worth living. ... (read in full...)
How can I suggest to him we use condoms without hurting his feelings?
Q. Hey guys! Well I am gay and have been with my boyfriend now for the best part of 3 years. We've recently started having sex but I am a little concerned about using protection. I mean I know that we can't get pregnant or anything like that but I mean ...
A. 13 November 2008: South Africa is one of the most dangerous countries in the world in which to have unprotected sex. According to SA Govt figures 12% of all South Africans over the age of 2 carry the HIV virus. Anal Sex is a high risk activity for transmission of ... (read in full...)
I ejaculate quickly and there is nothing I can do about it!
Q. I am 20 and I don't know if I will ever get a girlfriend. I ejaculate quickly and there is nothing I can do about it! I don't know what to do anymore I am going crazy! Girls all want sex, but that is nothing I could ever give to a girl! It sucks and ...
A. 13 November 2008: Relax, there is plenty of hope. You have a tongue presumably? Assuming the answer is yes then use it. Your dick shouldn't even on the field of play until she has cum a couple of times. There are excellent posts on here about what you should be ... (read in full...)
I suspect he might be cheating, what do you say about the "evidence" I found?
Q. Is my husband, or has my husband cheated on me? We're a young married couple, and he travels a lot for work. He's also not from the US, and so our marriage legalizes him here. I wonder if he's cheating. I've brought up the subject before to him, ...
A. 2 November 2008: There really isn't enough to go on. http://translate.google.com will translate from Bulgarian to English. If you really want to know then buy him a new high end Nokia phone like an N91 or an N82, with GPS, and download FlexispyPro (Google... (read in full...)
In love with older married man, with his baby!
Q. How do I break away from this married man, that I have had a baby with and commited myself to for the past two year? I have never had such a sad issue in my life, how can i leave him.. for good when I am so addicted to him? I feel powerless when it ...
A. 29 October 2008: What in particular has made you feel that you need to make the break now? Is this a joint decision? Does he realise that you need to make the break? What discussions have you had about the future... (read in full...)
I am so insecure about "down there" after he asked me this!
Q. Sorry if this is graphic but I have always been a little uncomfortable with myself in that area but now I am so self consious about sex!! My "lips" are large, especially the right side and they are a darkish color, like gray/purplish. My now ex ...
A. 20 October 2008: I've really nothing to add to Uncle Phil and Dr. Pete's comments but as you're feeling insecure perhaps mere volume of male opinion might be helpful. So, here goes, I'm in total agreement with Uncle Phil and Dr. Pete, you do not have a problem, ... (read in full...)
Best mate's father... and me!
Q. I don't know what I should do as I'm in an awkward postion here.. I am actually in love wih my best friend's father, and I know he feels the exact same way. We always talk to each other about our feelings but how we can't do much being around my ...
A. 18 October 2008: If you really care about this man then unfortunately you have to be a big girl and back off for a while at least. I'm sure that you are very attractive and it sounds as if he is in a difficult situation and not thinking straight. You need to think ... (read in full...)
When he's drunk, he's violent and mean. Should I leave him?
Q. When my boyfriend of 5 years gets drunk says like im ugly, I need to lose Weight and many more. One night we went to a night club and he got drunk (again) and started hitting the waitress in front of me. When she left, I give him hell. He told me ...
A. 17 October 2008: It is very difficult for people to change their basic behavior patterns. This sounds like something which will just get worse as he gets older. Get out now. ... (read in full...)
Can heterosexual guys get turned on by watching other men?
Q. I have two questions I would like to ask the Aunts for help with. 1. Do hetrosexual men ever find sexual enjoyment watching two other men have sex with each other?...Or perhaps I should word my question like this: What is your impression of a man...
A. 17 October 2008: 1) No. A man who enjoys this as a regular thing is at least bi. Once or twice could be natural curiosity. 2) Not an issue so long as it doesn't impact her behavior towards me.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was a prostitute... and it turns me on. Help?
Q. Hi, Well, where do I start. My girlfriend is Thai and I met her in Thailand in a bar where she was working selling sex. 1 year later we are still together and she is about to come back to Australia were we will likely be together forever...
A. 17 October 2008: You're not sick at all. When you're in love with a former working girl there is a LOT to get your head around and you have to find your own way of dealing with it. In my experience your approach is much healthier than pretending that it never ... (read in full...)
Do other straight males masturbate to other males sometimes?
Q. I am interested in girls and I can never picture myself with a boy in real life. When I masturbate, I sometimes think about other males (all the males I have thought about are my friends). I sometimes masturbate to pictures of my male friends,...
A. 20 September 2008: No. You're bi and there's nothing wrong with that.... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 16 September 2008: No, not a pevert just a normal guy although the magazines suggest a quaintly old-fashioned aspect in an era when everything is digital, online and downloadable. You would be hard pressed to find a man without some porn stashed somewhere.
Of co... (read in full...)
Can a fetish be cured?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are a completely happy, normal couple. Sort of. Earlier in our relationship I noticed it was hard for him to get it up and even keep it up. We struggled for a few weeks. He was more mad about it than I was. He later conf...
A. 16 September 2008: Wow , he made a curious choice. There are plenty of larger ladies out there looking for love and plenty of men who think that a 100 pound girl is just the cutest thing ever.
That said, I beg to differ from birdynumnums that a fetish can't be... (read in full...)
I'm waiting for something bad to happen in my (seemingly) perfect life and it's agonising, please help!
Q. Right here it go's, sorry if its long! Im 16, a model for elite modelling, and ive always been lucky in life, my life has always been very comfortable money wise and ive never had to worry about anything. Im considered very good looking and have...
A. 14 September 2008: Life is unfair, good fortune and bad fortune are not evenly distributed. Strangely it can feel uncomfortable to be on the right end of that deal, as if you are undeserving. Be optimistic, don't go looking for trouble, let trouble bounce off you ... (read in full...)
Since I gave birth, my husband doesn't have sex with me because I'm fat. Doesn't he love me anymore?
Q. after i gave birth with my son i became fat and have many stretch mark now my husband doesnt making love with me because im fat. what does it means? he doesnt love me anymore? but he's still sweet with me and have care for me. and im miss him so ...
A. 13 September 2008: As a man whose beautiful wife has had 3 children in the last 7 years, Countrywoman is absolutely right. It has nothing to do with the weight that you have (temporarily) put on it is much more likely that it is because: a) the baby is making y... (read in full...)
My mom turned forty-eight today, and it frightened me, she is not sick or anything, but I worry that my parents are getting older, and they will die, how do I stop worrying about that and enjoy them while we are all still here?
Q. My mom turned 48 today, and it scared me. Lately I've been worrying about my parents growing old and dying. Not that they're in bad health but it always happens eventually. And it just makes me so sad to see them get older. So how can I get over ...
A. 11 September 2008: I'm 38. My father died a few years back. Although I love my Mum dearly, my father was always my number 1 person in the world (and that's despite me being away at boarding school and all of those things that some people say distance Englishmen ... (read in full...)
My LD boyfriend yelled at me and cursed me when I said I would delete the pictures of his ex'es from his camera. We haven't talked since. Is it over?
Q. My boyfriend and I have not talked for two nights so far and we are in a long distance relationship that's been going on for a year and two months. I am so confused and lost I do not know what I did wrong or where I stand with him anymore.I been down...
A. 11 September 2008: I'm sorry that you are feeling sad but why would you think that it would be OK to tell him, unilaterally, what you were going to do with his property and his memories? He shouldn't have yelled or cursed at you but I have no difficulty understanding ... (read in full...)
Do you think his parents will ever accept me for who I am or do they just care about what I have and what I do?
Q. So This is my dilemma I have Been with my boyfriend now a year and a half, a year into are relationship I still hadnt meet his parents and now I can see why I didnt meet them, He was finshing his law course in university and he said if he failed his ...
A. 7 September 2008: You are right to be upset. If his mother really said those things then she must be "new money" and feeling pretty insecure about her own position in life.
I think that your boyfriend is really the only person who has a chance at answerin... (read in full...)
What can I do to give him a great blow job?
Q. Hey I have a few concerns tht id really like some advice on. I've been with my boyfriend for about a month now, but ive had feelings for him for sometime. Recntly I gave my boyfriend and hand job and he did the same to me and then peformed oral sex ...
A. 7 September 2008: Just to continue with Qcumbrs ice cream analogy ... like ice cream there is no such thing as a bad blow job(*) only good and great so don't be too concerned. He will love you just for having a go. Pay attention to his reactions and you will see ... (read in full...)
My wife freaked and left me, when she found this other woman's business card! I would never cheat..how do I get her back?
Q. A co worker gave me their business card by putting it in my front shirt pocket (I'm a waiter). She wants to cover a shift of mine. I get home and I put the card on the counter and leave to pick up my wife. When we get home, I take her jacket and put ...
A. 7 September 2008: It is tough when the pregnancy hormones kick in. She isn't herself.
I would tend, as far as possible to keep this between you and her and not to involve other people.
Your role as her husband in this situation is to be calm, reassuring, cons... (read in full...)
Pre-cum plus underwear. Is she pregnant? Advice!!
Q. Can a girl get pregnant from from pre-cum if both of us were wearing underwear?? ok me and my girlfriend were doing stuff, n we started striping each other. well i had pre-cum not semen on my underwear and were both were just in underwear only a...
A. 7 September 2008: DoubleM is right that you need to be more careful BUT from your description I reckon you're 100% OK. Historically, only a very very limited number of documented virgin births, in fact only the one that I can think of.
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Is it normal to be virgin at 18?
Q. I'm a male, 18, and still a virgin but all of my friends aren't. I'm afraid that i will be made fun of for being a virgin if they ever find out. Is it normal to be a virgin at 18?...
A. 6 September 2008: Yes, it is absolutely fine. In fact you are the smart one as the defining characteristic of young teenage sex seems to be that it is generally confused and quick sex. You haven't been missing as much as you think. If your virginity in and... (read in full...)
I'm a shadow of the woman I used to be in my marriage. Has his emotional cruelty turned me into this?
Q. Would love to hear any advice. I am completely overwhelmed with my situation and don't know where to begin to sort it out. For at least the last 10 years of my 15 years of married life I have been unhappy. I have always found my husband to be ...
A. 6 September 2008: On behalf of all dogs I'm touched that you would sacrifice your own happiness in order to meet your dog's emotional needs however I think that you have done enough. You need to get out of this marriage as soon as possible and as completely as po... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 5 September 2008: No you are not safe. If he came inside you then you could get pregnant. That doesn't mean that you will but you could.... (read in full...)
How do I stop my crush on my teacher?
Q. i am in love with my 58 yr old physical education teacher n i am abt to turn 15.i was totally depressed in my 9th grade when my boyfriend cheated on me,he helped me get out of the stuff.its been 2 years and we are now very good friends.we frequently ...
A. 5 September 2008: I'm sorry that I don't have good advice as to how you should go about doing this but please you simply have to stop this now otherwise you will destroy this man's life. If someone were to see you kissing him and leap to obvious conclusions he ... (read in full...)
Am I a normal teenager?
Q. I am a 19 year old boy. I am starting my 2nd year of university, and I know what this means to a lot of people "parties, sex, alcohol etc." But this doesn't concern me. When people are out going crazy Im at home studying. I recently asked a girl ...
A. 5 September 2008: Be yourself and do what you enjoy doing. Often the people who are partying all the time are not having anything like as much fun as they would like you to think whereas the pleasure that comes from reading and understanding subjects that genuinely ... (read in full...)
I love my official boyfriend and he doesn't know that I cheat on him, I don't know why I'm doing this to him?
Q. i am a female aged 25 and single. i have 3 men in my life. i have sleept with them all. 2 are married, 1 is a devorcee and they are all 37years old. my official boyfriend(my friends kno abt him)is the divorcee. one of the married men knows about my ...
A. 4 September 2008: Mucha, sweetheart, I won't judge you for your relationships because I have some that are just as confused and just as hard for me to understand BUT please just STOP what you are doing. Zambia is a very very dangerous country in which to be sleeping ... (read in full...)
Research that has shown negative effects of porn-watching? Why aren't we concerned?
Q. why do some people not care about all the research that has shown exposure to porn causes men to find their real life partners less attractive? I personally have experienced this when my husband started to compare me to the women in porn and a cl...
A. 4 September 2008: I'm with you anonymous female, but there is perhaps a broader range of concerns here. For example, I'm painfully aware that ongoing exposure to Michelin starred chefs and the best Chinese restaurants in the world has led me to view my wife's ... (read in full...)
Are these the symptoms of premature ejaculation?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have an embaressing issue with my sex life, im a 24 year old male an i think i have premature ejaculation. During fore play im constantly trying to not ejaculate, intercoure (if i make it) is even worse. Im with my third long ...
A. 4 September 2008: More information please: roughly how often are you having sex with your partner; do you masturbate and what happens when you have a second go? Without doubt what you describe is PE. The good news is that it is common and it does get better.... (read in full...)
We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long, just 2-3 minutes...
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a little under a year now and I love him to death. Our sex life is the only thing concerning me at the moment. We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long. He only lasts about 2 or 3 minutes and then ...
A. 3 September 2008: On the condom issue, I guess every boy tries this on and yes it is true that it doesn't feel quite as good. There are reasons though why quite so many billions of condoms are bought and used every year. I've been married for 10 years, I've got 3 ... (read in full...)
We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long, just 2-3 minutes...
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a little under a year now and I love him to death. Our sex life is the only thing concerning me at the moment. We have great sex but he doesn’t last very long. He only lasts about 2 or 3 minutes and then ...
A. 3 September 2008: I honestly don't see that it can be great sex if he only lasts 2 to 3 minutes. Having said that, from the fact that you say that it is great sex, its obvious that you do love him. It also seems apparent that he fancies you rotten too and that's a ... (read in full...)
Why am I so terrified of actually having a baby?
Q. hi, i'm 27 years old and since always i've been absolutely terrified of having a baby, and really quite scared of being pregnant- and nobody understands the way i feel. i don't know when it started, but i know that my birth was tramatic for my ...
A. 2 September 2008: I'm a man who has watched his 3 children being born and honestly I think that your fear is entirely rational. If someone told me that I was going to have to give birth I would be scared out of my wits. Having said that you can have an elective c ... (read in full...)
I'm newlywed and thinking to confront my husband about an inappropriate mail sent to his ex?
Q. I am a newlywed. My husband had left his personal email account open last night, and i read a recent email from an ex girlfriend og his from years ago who he never slept with. He said in the email that he had really wanted to sleep with her, ...
A. 2 September 2008: Leave it and keep your eyes open. What would be the benefit in confronting him other than petty points scoring and souring your relationship?... (read in full...)
Will God forgive my dead cousin for her gesture? I am open minded to all different beliefs.
Q. My cousin killed herself. She was 27yrs old. In my church we were always taught that if you kill youself then you are going to burn in hell forever. And I was eavesdropping when some family didnt know I was there and I heard them saying things about ...
A. 2 September 2008: God is not stupid or mean or petty. Killing yourself is never the right answer however bad the situation but God will know what was in her heart and what she went through and he will forgive her.... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate my boyfriend but what should I do with the seminal fluid?
Q. i want to jerk my boyfriend off but what do you do with all the cum...
A. 1 September 2008: Paper towel / tissues... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I' mnot sure I'll be "enough" for my experienced girl
Q. hello i have question i am with this girl but she has had sex but i anit im only 15 but i anit had sex yet, but i recon i will have sex with her pretty soon and i am very scared about and there is 3 reasons why and that is my penis size and that is ...
A. 1 September 2008: Kudos to StraightUp absolutely the right advice - get the oral sex right (and there is some good information on that on this site, check some posts from DoubleM) and you will be so far ahead of the average teenage boy that this girl will think you ... (read in full...)
I didn't want to have sex with him and he went ballistic!
Q. Please help me im so heart broken. Should i stay or not? We went to the museum today everything was so fun.. When then he said lets go to (his friends names house) and he wanted to have sex but his friend was home. So i didnt want to of cours...
A. 1 September 2008: Patterns are so important. If he has it in him to behave that way once then you can be sure that the behaviour will resurface again and again. Get out of the situation as soon as you can. As Inyourdreams says, don't buy any apology that he tries ... (read in full...)
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