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writes:I am considering to lose my virginity seeing a prostitute. Now I would like to hear some people's advice who have been in a similar situation.I am male, 23 years old and suffer from a quite bad case of virginity - so to say. I have never even held hands or kissed a girl. So far, I have been in love a couple of times, I have only been the "nice guy", but it left me with nothing but depression. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound bittered, but for me love was equal with pain und humiliation.So, I was wondering whether it would be nice to see if sex without love works for me. I do not want advice on dating (like "go clubbing, smile a lot and find a nice girl" - does not work), moral issues or STDs. I just want to know from experienced people:1.) Does it devalue sex (forever) or is the first time you have sex "with love" still as magical as if it was the first time ever?2.) Does it make you feel good? Would you go through it again?3.) Was it helpful getting a relationship or did you encounter people who dismissed you for what you did?4.) Did you tell anybody at all? What was the reaction?5.) Was it helpful to gain sexual experience?Of course, any good advice is also appreciated ;)...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): i congratulate you, its a good way to break the ice and they are more apt to use condoms then some casua flings at a bar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): Good for you, I'm glad that professional lady made your first experience a pleasant one.
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reader, Jester +, writes (28 December 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick update - I did it, and I don't regret it. It was a wonderful experience and I would highly recommend it to anyone in my situation...
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reader, thisisnotanexit  +, writes (25 October 2008):
No! Don't do it. Think about it this way, if in the future you find someone you absolutely love and want to marry, do you want to tell them you lost your virginity to a prostitute? I doubt it. Imagine the effect this could have. You may be lonely now, but think about the future. You won't be a virgin forever. Trust me.Seriously, don't do it!!!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Jester I'm assuming that you have a decent education and that you're basically fit and healthy? If that's so come to China and put your worries behind you. Not only is China the land of opportunity but you'll find many beautiful, sweet and lovely girls who will be keen to spend time with you.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 All right. In direct answer to your questions.
1. No, and no.
2. Yes, and no, but only because I have no need or desire to.
3. No. Yes.
4. Yes. Varied.
5. No.
I think that covers it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Well I'm sorry I for one ignored the other questions. I guess the title did throw most of us off, but thats no excuse.
1. Since you wouldn't be ashamed by it, no I don't think it would devalue sex. You just want sex, and you are going to desperate measures. When else would you consider having it with a prostitute. If you thought you would fall in love soon you wouldn't do it.
When you do have sex with love, just by the impression I get from your character, I don't think it'll devalue something. I think you'll think it was fantastic.
2. I wouldn't feel happy about it, as you can probably tell. But then you might. You might think what if you waited, but you really want to do this. You might feel a bit relieved. I can't really guess anymore.
3. Well you have said that you wouldn't tell anyone about it who you would walk into a relationship. With you I think you'll be more confident, but the majority I think would be slightly ashamed.
4. Well you've spoken to us about it and you can see the reaction. Mostly not if all negative.
5. I think you will.
Remember, prostitutes don't love you. They love your money. It may seem hollow. Again I wouldn't call this virginity thing a 'bad case'.
People are frowned upon by using them. People who use them mostly aren't ashamed of it until people find out. This is usually what happens if husbands use them (when they are married). People who use them are after the sex. Thats fact. Thats also why I call you desperate for it.
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reader, Jester +, writes (6 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I would not be ashamed of it. But the previous answers show pretty clear that most people can't cope with the fact that someone has a sexual past.
What I learned so far from this discussion is to shut up about anything sexual which happens outside of the romantic ideal of a mutual loving, long lasting relationship between man and woman.
And I don't think I am desperate, as I said I feel curious. I KNOW there is no chance for me to have "sex with love" anytime soon. So I was wondering about five issues (in my question on the left), but so far only few people really adressed these questions... I guess I chose the wrong title for my question :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Thats the thing.
You don't want to mention the word prostitution to your future wife - because you'll be ashamed of it. Why be ashamed of something?! You may as well be happy with it.
Obviously most of us can't understand the agony that you appear to be going through. But at the same time our answers are the same. I'd at least give yourself time.
Your pretty desperate actually - I don't mean that in a insult directly to you, but you are desperate for sex. Which isn't totally healthy...
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reader, Jester +, writes (5 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are missing the point... of course it could be that I'm happily married in 2028. But the question is: Is there a reason why I should wait 2/5/10 more years to have sex just to lose my virginity with "the right one"? Could be the wrong decision if it takes such a long time or if I, once again, get turned down because of my inexperience.
And, as I mentioned below, I already learned the lesson to never even mention the topic "prostitution" to a girl, so my future wife would not know (or she would if I knew she was really easy about it...)
And a final word about STDs. I may quote Daniellepew:
"Jester, if you don't want to run the risk of getting a STD, I can give you but one advice: don't have sex, ever. There's no other sure way."
That is 100% true. With a condom you can protect yourself quite well. It does not matter if it's a solid girl or a prostitute! Only abstinence works better, which is not an option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): Why are people so frustrated about losing their virginity? All we do in this day and age is fuck around and then go to psychiatrists because we 'can't take it'. You know that in the likes of the First World War I'd say a quarter, maybe more, of every army had men who had never had sexual intercourse with a woman....
Prostitutes, or whatever you want to call them, will fuck you and then you take a piss the next morning and you've got syphillis (has not happened to me LOL).
So what if you haven't kissed (or held hands with? - That's irrelevant) a girl. You do know in like 20 years you'll have a wife and kids and your wife will ask you "So how did YOU lose your virginity?" and you say "I fucked a hooker in my car"...
Your life dude!
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reader, Jester +, writes (4 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAt the moment, I am not looking for a girlfriend, which has two reasons. First, I am still coping with my last effort and though quite some time has passed, I find myself still thinking about her, missing her... and it's incredibly difficult to find somebody when you are still blinded by love. Second, I am going to spend half a year (Sep.) in the US to study and I guess I would be pretty annoyed to finally have a girlfriend and not be able to see her at all, if you know what I mean. ;)
So basically I am not going to try this year. But to answer some of the questions of a previous post:
"Now why is it, do you think, that no woman has ever shown interest in you?" - There could be a bunch of reasons, but none of them is really convincing...
"Have you ever asked your friends or the women who turned you down?" - "You know I really like you, but..." They all seem to say "You're alright, we don't know, keep on trying".
"So not one woman or girl has ever flirted with you or been interested in you?" - No.
"Nobody ever encouraged your advances?" - Yes, but only to play games. When I was younger I did not realize it, I though they would need time to decide about a possible relationship - but all they wanted was to be adored.
"Not even girls that you found unattractive?" - No, I don't think so. But then again, I don't know unattractive women at all ;)
"Haven't you even tried 6 minute dating or online matching services?" - Would be the next thing to try, but what irritates me about these things is that I am sure I would not even have noticed the girls I fell in love with when I imagine their dating profile... weird.
And finallly, @Gecko12:
The deadline idea is nice. However, two deadlnes have already passed... :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Its easier said then done...I know that.But how low would you sink yourself?! At least you have some dignity and pride. Your only 23. Its not like your 40 - that would be...incredible.People have difficulty attracting people. Your one of them. Nothing to be ashamed of, I'm the same. But I guarantee one day you will. How about set a deadline?! By the time you reach 25, do it. But try everything to find someone you love before hand. Only then will you have known that you would've tried.Keeping your mind occupied on that may work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Its easier said then done...I know that.
But how low would you sink yourself?! At least you have some dignity and pride. Your only 23. Its not like your 40 - that would be...incredible.
People have difficulty attracting people. Your one of them. Nothing to be ashamed of, I'm the same. But I guarantee one day you will.
How about set a deadline?! By the time you reach 25, do it. But try everything to find someone you love before hand. Only then will you have known that you would've tried.
Keeping your mind occupied on that may work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Now why is it, do you think, that no woman has ever shown interest in you? Have you ever asked your friends or the women who turned you down? So not one woman or girl has ever flirted with you or been interested in you? Nobody ever encouraged your advances? Not even girls that you found unattractive?This seems like a more important issue that you should be working on, since losing your virginity without being in a relationship won't automatically solve your problems with women at all. I would agree that a one night stand is still better than a prostitute because at least you would have been working on the skills you need to attract a woman enough to seduce her. Whereas with paid help you just get assisted wanking. Haven't you even tried 6 minute dating or online matching services?
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reader, Jester +, writes (4 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Gecko12
"It just depends if you have the energy or patience to wait for something you obviously feel you might not get...because I think thats part of your fear."
That's exactly the point.
If I knew for sure I will meet the right person in, let's say, five years from now - I would not have a problem to wait for her at all. But I don't see this coming. At the moment, I remind myself of a little child who is about to find out that Santa Claus is not really true: When I was younger, everybody told me that he exists "for sure", but then I grew older and found for myself there is virtually no evidence for him at all.
And that is the crucial point. I haven't seen any evidence that anybody would be interested in me. I can only repeat it: nobody ever showed any kind of interest in me.
What scares me now is the thought that in a few years I might find myself in the same situation as now, feeling I at least could have used to years "to have some fun". I feel like waiting for something that is not going to come along is quite naive.
And that's the reason why I wonder if it is a good idea to have (the first) sex with a person that does not mean that much to you... and perhaps I like it? If it is a one-night-stand or a prostitute does not really matter to me, that's rather a question of money and time I am willing to invest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): You could always stay home and masturbatge with pornography. It´s cheaper and will bring you the same orgasm. I agree with the crazy "hunting guy". The pleasure in sex is in knowing that she want you and we´re giving them the pleasure they need. Self pleasure can be done alone. I´d hate to sleep with someone that´s waiting to be paid for it. Organized sex is just sick. I don´t want to pay extra for a blow job, I want her to suck it because she likes it. It would really drop my self-esteem if I had to ask or pay. I agrre with everyone telling you to wait. Knowing that you seduced a girl the first time you did it is something to look back and be proud of. On the other hand 1st time with a prostitute will just be regretful. Go for the girl that wants you not the girl that wants your money. Instead of paying for a prostitue, pay for a make over and some nice clothes or use the money to take a girl to somewhere romantic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): You seem pretty set upon doing it, and we're not here to change your mind, or MAKE you do anything. Merely advise.
And advise we have. We have told you what we think. And yes it probably is easier said than done. I'm too young to even be allowed to have it, and most people have it younger.
But your still not old old. Yeah so what. Your waiting for the right person. I agree with Uncle Sneaker, you will regret it.
It just depends if you have the energy or patience to wait for something you obviously feel you might not get...because I think thats part of your fear.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (3 July 2008):
You're going round in circles with this and not getting anywhere.
One point that I don't think anyone has made yet: there are millions of girls out there. In your whole life you will probably only meet a few hundred of them at the most, and that's all that most people ever meet. And yet millions of long-term relationships and marriages work. So don't think for one moment that there's "only one girl for you". There isn't. There are hundreds, thousands, that you could happily form a life-long relationship with.
You're in Germany, I think? Prostitution is well regulated in Germany, and is an almost respectable industry. It doesn't have the stigma that it has in the UK. Go for it. Why? Because you've made up your mind and we're not having any success talking you out of it. Go to one of the properly-run brothels that almost every large town has, and pick the girl you like the look of. Or find any taxi driver and two words will do it: "eros center".
Enjoy. And don't blame us if you regret it later. You've been warned!
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reader, Jester +, writes (3 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'd like to quote one of the last answers:
"Doing it with the girl of your dreams is like winning the lottary."
I think this is really true. But for me, the odds seem quite the same. And honestly, would you wait for your hole life to win in the lottery? If it happens, great - but waiting for it?
"Sex is like hunting"
I can understand what you mean, but I am definitly not a hunter. I neither have the abilities nor the will to go "hunting for a girl". Either she wants it, too, or she does not - but I don't see the point in hunting.
And, referring to the last post: I have tried to get in touch with older girls. I fell in love with a girl who was five years older in me, but still, the games she played were the worst I have ever experienced. But the thought that inexperienced girls are not attracted by a male virgin makes sense to me. But I guess if you really like someone, you don't give a **** about his experience, do you? ;)
And to answer to xcharlottex's post:
Yes, it is likely that somewhere my soulmate exists. And it is quite likely that there are girls who like male virgins. But so far, I have not seen a shred of evidence for both of them. Of course it is more difficult: she has to be at my age, somewhere around the place I live, I have to meet her at a certain point in life and - worst of all - she has to be single. If she is a relationship, it's no use. So considering this, what are the odds of meeting your soulmate or just a girl who likes male virgins? I would not bet on either of them, to be honest... How could I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Maybe the problem is that you're trying to pick up "girls", that is, inexperienced women. My opinion is that younger women are less attracted to virgin men because they subconsciously feel that they won't be learning so much from them, both sexually and psychologically. Even if a girl is sexually experienced, she still hasn't had much time to learn from life, and will be looking for a partner who will have something to teach her.
On the other hand, if you will raise your eyes to women older than you, in their late 20s to 30s, you will probably find that they will be both flattered and pleased to help instruct a young man without baggage. An older woman may be more attractive, sophisticated, and able to teach you about love and sex, than any of your peers (let alone a prostitute). Mature women are more likely to know what they want from life and less likely to play games than immature women. Be respectful, admiring, and frank and you may get a chance... nor will your experience devalue you in the eyes of later partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): No you shouldn´t lose it to a hooker. Hookers are for losers. What makes sex great is the fact that its hard to get. Doing it with the girl of your dreams is like winning the lottary. Post her panties up on your wall. It´s an achievement. Sex is like hunting, the excitement is in the chase and it tastes better when you catch it yourself. There´s no fun buying meat at the supermarket. Out in the wild lies the most beautiful creatures you can imagine and with a taste so good that even the best gravy would spoil it. That´s why men save themselves for marriage, it´s a lifelong hunt for the perfect dinner. Now turn off your computer, get out there and be a man (there isn´t any real women on your screen).
PS. don´t kid yourself on STDs, condoms are like raincoats, you can still get wet.
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reader, xcharlottex +, writes (3 July 2008):
People believe in "soulmates" for the same reason they believe in true happiness, because the pursuit of it makes life, well life. Although there are over 6 billion other people in the world I am sure that atleast one of those will love you for you. And although you shouldn't really judge, I would be put off by a guy who had hired a prostitute simply because 1. it screams "desperate" 2. it's quite dirty and 3. because of the whole imoralising and objectifying aspect of it...it's quite offensive, you'd be paying a woman for the right to use her body. There are girls who actually like virgins believe it or not.
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reader, Jester +, writes (3 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the new answers, I would like to add a few things...
It might sound a little harsh what I say next, but just let me put it this way. It seems most male writers argue that it is not the best option, but at least it would do no serious harm as long as you don't tell anybody.
And it seems as if the female writers just want to prove that point. It is hard to describe what I feel about it; it's kind of "I get what they are saying but I just don't understand it". If my future girlfriend had sex with a male prostitute, I would be surprised (Why would a girl have to hire an escort???), but this does not mean I like her less, does it? It does not turn a person into a monster.
So, basically, by visiting a prostitute you have a certain risk to get turned down by solid women who don't like the idea. I personally got turned down because I was inexperienced; I talked to quite a few friends (girls) about it - and they all admitted that they would not like a male virgin at my age or would not even consider dating one. So it seems to be a choice between two evils?
Apart from the decision to see a prostitute or not, the discussion (so far) has clearly shown me one very important fact. Don't get me wrong on this, I don't want to be nasty... It just seems that the best thing I can do when it comes down to talking about my sexual past is what almost everybody does when it comes down to talking about their sexual past: I should lie.
@Danielepew
I should mention that I am not shy at all... I don't have any problems at all to get in contact with girls I like. The problem seems to be that they don't like me / find me attractive enough. And, I don't fall in love quickly, it takes some time for me...
@all
I was just wondering: How can you be so sure about the special person that's going to come along? Honestly, just believing it does not make it true - and I don't believe there is the "right partner for anyone"... (or it might be too difficult to find her)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Jester, if you don't want to run the risk of getting a STD, I can give you but one advice: don't have sex, ever. There's no other sure way.
There are not bad cases of virginity. That is a funny way to put it. You're a shy guy who doesn't have a clue how to get a girl. It happens to many guys around the world.
Just for the sake of clarity, "sex with a prostitute" is not the same as "sex without love". First, prostitutes have feelings, too, and I bet they have all slept with someone they loved, who, in his turn, loved them back. Then, you can have "sex without love" sleeping with someone who is not a prostitute.
You're understandably pissed off that you never get to be with a girl, and, like millions of guys before you, are wondering whether you can solve that problem simply by paying some money. It seems so easy that you wonder why you should not try.
The questions you ask are proof that you feel unsure about sleeping with a prostitute. Don't beat around the bush, man: if you sleep with a prostitute, you will finally make it, will gain some sexual experience (though not necessarily good) and will run the risk of catching an STD. Your shyness problem will remain the same.
Whatever you do, please take due note that your real problem is that you're too shy to get a girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I just want to add this; for what it might be worth; if I had to date a guy and had to find out or hear that he was involved with a prostitute before, I will not take the relationship any further; no matter what or why, it will always trouble me; I do believe I am not the only women feeling this way; I do believe lots of women, if the will be honest with themselves will admit, that they will not feel comfortable with the idea.
You are wise and intelligent; don't spoil it all because of curiosity; trust me, it is worth waiting, and will be so much more special with the right person; You will NEVER regret waiting;
Keep smiling, get out there, the right girl is waiting for you; she will value and respect you and togehter you will make unforgetable "memories".
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I can give you some reasons why I wouldn't want a man that's been with a prostitute.
I would be very afraid he was exposed to an STD.
I would believe he is amoral.
I would be repulsed by the idea that he thought so little of himself as to allow a prostitute to touch HIS precious body.
I would think he has a little mind.
I would think it would be easy for him to do it again.
I can think of more, but suffice it to say, most self-respecting women would not want a man that has been with a prostitute.......let me ask you this.....would you want your wife to have been a prostitute before you met her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): 1. If I were you, go on to the search function of this site and put in the word "prostitute". You'll get a good sense of other people's experiences, including those of other young men whose only sexual experiences have been with a prostitute.2. 23 is not old to be an unkissed virgin (male or female). 3. I doubt you'll learn to be a good sexual partner through prostitutes. When the "customer is always right", you'll just learn to be selfish in your pleasures. These bad habits may lead to problems later if you do fall in love.4. If you just want to be in a sexual relationship, why not try a personal ad or an online dating service? Be honest, and I'm sure that some women will be very happy to relieve you of your virginity, or at least teach you how to kiss. To an experienced woman, your virginity is not a minus or anything to be ashamed of, rather an asset. I assure you that virgin men are a lot of fun to teach as they have huge reserves of energy and are willing to learn. 5. I agree with previous posters that I wouldn't want to touch a guy who had been with paid ladies. Call me fastidious, but... yuck!
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (2 July 2008):
I think it would be a great pity if your first time was with a prostitute.
Not because it "devalues" sex. It doesn't.
Not because of any morality. That's a matter of personal values and/or religion if you have one.
Not because you won't gain sexual experience or learn anything. You will, assuming you go to a proper professional and not to some girl on a street corner who is only in it to feed a drug habit.
You will always remember your first, and I believe that you want to remember the love as well as the physical experience. You won't get that with a prostitute. I think it's worth waiting.
I don't think you would regret it, as long as you don't start telling everyone. It's something that a lot of people would be very shocked about, and start looking at you as someone who is a bit odd or who has some sort of problem. You know that's not the case, but you'll never convince some people of that. More importantly, I really do think you would miss out on something very special if your first time wasn't with someone you love deeply and who loves you in the same way.
And, for what it's worth, however experienced and expert a prostitute might be, it will never be as good as it is with someone you truly love. You might learn different techniques, but in the end they're nothing you can't either work out for yourself or pick up from the smuttier side of the Internet. AND it's nothing that a good right hand and an active imagination can't do as well or better - it only gets better with that real, special lover who's just waiting for you to find her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Love isn't a timed thing. It happens when you least expect. You can't decide it. You can't refute it. It just happens.
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reader, Jester +, writes (2 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers! But I feel I should clarify my situation...
Of course sex with love is better than without, no need to discuss. But it is also clear that I won't be in love anytime soon (next two years, maybe) - it might even be that I grow old waiting for someone who loves me back. So far not a single person has shown any kind of "emotional" interest in me.
I am not needy, I am just curious. I want to know what sex feels like, if it is worth the efforts even without any emotional attachments. That's all.
And to all of those who mention the risks of an STD - I am well aware of this risk. But every sexual contact is risky. If you perform safer sex, the risk of catching and STD is equally zero - it simply does not matter if she is a solid girl or a prostitute. Being abstintent forever is not an option for me...
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reader, ChicaBlusera +, writes (2 July 2008):
Wait!!! There is a time and a place for sex, but sex without love doesn't mean anything. I know what it's like to suffer from tension, I'm a little older than you and I've waited for so long but if I were to find someone I love, and I've had all this sex... then what new thing can I experience or feel with that special person? What's more, think about your health!!! You can easily catch HIV or an STD from sex, and having sex with a prostitute is extremely dangerous! If you're going to risk it all for someone, wait until you find someone you truly care about, and have a monogamous relationship (then you wouldn't be risking it all, but this person would mean everything to you). Your health comes first!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): In reply to soulcal's answer, I'll give you my own experience. I still remember her name - Rosemary - and her surname AND her address although she no longer lives there, and it was 43 years ago now.
To cut a very long story short she followed me around the town for quite some time so I asked her if she was following me or if I was imagining it. She was indeed following me, and invited me to a secluded spot that she knew of where we had a very brief (on my part) sexual encounter. It was a sunny Sunday afternoon. I was confirmed into the Methodist Church that same morning, which is why I remember that bit. Afterwards I said a little prayer that went something like "Thank you God".
She decided she'd like to write to me when I went away to sea. The letters were quite graphic and were enjoyed by many of the lads on the messdeck when I passed them around for their titillation. The only disappointment was that I discovered that at least three of the other lads had been there before me, and the last time anyone saw her she was getting into the back of a taxi with three Dutch sailors.
The only difference between her and a prostitute was that she didn't charge. It would have been no different if she had - except that it would have been an expensive 20 seconds.
Oh, and I DO remember her eyes - one looked to the left and the other upwards. I well remember her other body parts too - very pert and perfectly formed. I got the 'I'm no longer a virgin' stamp that Gecko12 refers to and have no regrets about it. I walked a little taller from that day onwards.
So basically it's up to you - it has to be said that a 'decent' prostitute would show you the best time ever if she was aware of your virgin status and may take a little extra care with you, and may even give you a second go for free if the same happens to you as happened to me. I say go for it if you're fed up waiting - it didn't do me any harm anyway!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Sex is a big thing and to lose your virginity to someone
you hardly know is sort of,uhh,what's the words for it,oh,I
got it,pathetic and pitiful.You're wanting to lose your virginity so bad that you're willing to get an STD or STI
and have a one night stand with a whore.That's pathetic.
Save yourself for sosmeone you love and care about instead of giving yourself away like that.
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reader, cutiemax09 +, writes (2 July 2008):
 of course not you have way more common sense then that. IF you lose your virginity to someone let it be a special loving moment with someone your in love with. A prostitute's plan is to have sex with you then keep on moving and im sure you would not want that. Take care!!!
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reader, goingcrazy3388 +, writes (2 July 2008):
 If you are 23 years old and you have waited this long,you should continue to wait until you find the right person for you. You will know when that person comes along. I wouldn't risk catching something from a prostitute and there aren't too many women these days who will wanna be with you if they find out you were with a prostitute. I give you big kudos for still being a virgin at 23,especially being a guy. It proves you are not pigheaded and all about sex or you would have found a way to get it by now. Stick to your ways and wait until you find that special someone. Good Luck.
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reader, Jester +, writes (2 July 2008):
Jester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan you tell me what these reasons are? I am curious why someone would dismiss a person just because he has paid for sex.
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reader, mustaine6 +, writes (2 July 2008):
Well...I woudlnt go round telling people i lost my v's to a prostitute....but at least youll be able to say your experienced. just dont mention who it was with/when it was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Personally, although sex for your first time isn't all that "Wow-ooo-WOWW!!" experience - apprantley - but waiting for that one person definatley makes it rewarding. Loosing your virginity to a prostitue wouldn't be rewarding. It wouldn't make you feel good. Yeah it did give you sexual experience, but your less off and the only thing it gives you is a "I am not longer a virgin," stamp. People do dismiss prostitutes. People have their own lil things against them, and people who 'use' them.Trust me waiting would be far better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): From a female's perspective, for a myriad of reasons there's no way in hell I would ever involve myself with a guy who'd ever had sex with a hooker. Just something you may want to keep in mind.
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reader, soulcal +, writes (2 July 2008):
 hii think you shouldnt have sex with a prostitute because they say you never forget the first time and never forget there eyes i think you should do it with someone you love and never regret iti hope this helps xx
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