Can you really alter a polygraph?
Q. Ok, my question is I want to give my husband a polygraph test and I want to know that he cant alter the test. The reason I want him to take one is because well lets just say his work takes him to different places over seas for a year to a yea...
A. 30 December 2010: Honestly if he is a 30 something guy with a normal sex drive and he is overseas and away from you for more than a couple of months a time then he's having sex with someone. It's human nature. That doesn't mean that it's something to stress about or ... (read in full...)
We had sex and he told everyone! What should I do?
Q. Im 15 and about a month ago i had sex (i was a virgen) with my 17yr old bf bc i thought i loved him. He promised me tht no 1 would know no matter what but less than a week later he broke up with me bc he didnt want attachments bc hes goin to the ...
A. 30 December 2010: Say something along the lines of "Oh, he's saying we had "sex" is he? I wouldn't really call it that. It was over so fast, I hardly noticed." Make it a bit funny so that people will want to repeat it and spread the story. Don't say he had a ... (read in full...)
Wife's past still hurts me 25 years later
Q. Please Help Me it hurts Till Today from 25 Years ago. Back in my Twenty's I was Friends with a Group of Guys We did all kinds of things together. But mostly Party And Look for Girls. I met a very nice Girl who was a Virgin We dated few Months I ...
A. 28 December 2010: Good God man. Pull yourself together. Never heard anything so silly.... (read in full...)
Websites being accessed when I'm not home..what to make of it?
Q. if you logged onto the PC and the browser came up with a dating site on it and you looked at the history which showed a cookie that said 'contact' and another one that said 'wink' as well as one for the aforementioned website and all the properties ...
A. 28 December 2010: If I lived on my own I'd find it pretty creepy.
You need to give us more information.... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want my mistress back in my life.
Q. My girlfriend/mistress just(september)ended our 4 year relationship because I'm married. I'm 20 years older than my mistress. She has known this all along . We both admit the past 4 years were fabulous in every way for both of us. Danc...
A. 27 December 2010: The thing that can make an affair truly beautiful is the way that it ends.
You have to be fair to her. It would be wrong to condemn her to a multi decade widowhood by keeping her hanging on until its too late for her to find another man.
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Is my Fetish too Weird?
Q. this may seem weird but i'm 20 and a virgin. When i masturbate i like to wear girls panties. Is this a really weird thing to do? should i be really embarrased by this and learn to stop doing it?...
A. 27 December 2010: This is a fetish which will disappear the moment that you get a girl naked. Trust me, they look a lot better in their underwear than you do. Its not that unusual but I wouldn't go mentioning it to people.... (read in full...)
I have doubts about my partner
Q. I have doubts about my partner. When i met her she told me that she had booked a holiday to mexico with friends for xmas. As xmas came around i found that she is sharing a room with a male friend. Last night as we were making love for the last time ...
A. 26 December 2010: it is not a good situation. don't be a doormat.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 26 December 2010: Stay.... (read in full...)
What is the price to pay for an affair when there are children involved?
Q. I have been married for 20 years. A month ago i found out that my husband is having an affair with my best friend. My friend stood there and let me confide in her while she was having an affair with my husband, in fact she was treated like family by ...
A. 18 December 2010: I genuinely don't understand why you HAVE to leave him and have your 8 year old grow up the child of divorced parents. Sometimes it seems almost as if there is a rule in the International Union of Women (English Speaking Chapter) that states that ... (read in full...)
I'm a big strong guy but have overwhelming urges to cuddle. What's wrong with me?
Q. How do I start this? Let's see, I'm a masculine guy I guess you could say. I think people interpret me as being that way. I'm 6 foot 1, 250, broad shoulders drive a truck, play rugby, have tatoos, and own more than a few firearms. I wear overalls to ...
A. 17 December 2010: ???!! There is nothing wrong with cuddles.
I'm nearly 300 pounds, the wrong side of 40 and it's been a while since I've played rugby or had to face someone down but I think I still have more than my fair share of testosterone. Nothing better t... (read in full...)
What is the price to pay for an affair when there are children involved?
Q. I have been married for 20 years. A month ago i found out that my husband is having an affair with my best friend. My friend stood there and let me confide in her while she was having an affair with my husband, in fact she was treated like family by ...
A. 17 December 2010: There doesn't have to be a price. Yes he has been selfish and reckless but you get to decide how much damage gets done. Life is very complex and we should all beware knee-jerk responses. Why not just let the situation run for a while. Is it ... (read in full...)
My husband and best friend had sex and blame it on the drink!
Q. SO, in need of some advice- my husband, who've I've been for 6 years and have a son with, has slept with my best friend. After a long night of partying she stayed over at our house. My husband, who was totally drunk, decided to go into her bedroom ...
A. 12 December 2010: People do really stupid stuff when they are drunk. If you are looking for a reason to get out of your relationship then this would be a great reason, everyone would understand, if not and you want to keep the relationship going then you could be a ... (read in full...)
Is it too late for me? To have a boyfriend?
Q. I`ve been feeling really sad lately and could use some advice. I can accept an honest answer, although I really had to get my courage up to ask this. I would like to have a boyfriend, but I`m really scared that at my age it`s too late. I`m worrie...
A. 10 December 2010: Don't worry about your age, you are are just now hitting what should be your most attractive age. 30 - 35 is just about the sexiest most attractive age for women (so long as they take care of their body obviously).
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Husband's comment "I don't support no bitches" has made me want to leave
Q. hello i been maried to my husband for 2 years now. I meet him on aol..though come to find out we had meet in the pass but I was married at that time..I have been a full time working mother just up until the thanksgiving holiday and got laid off. I ...
A. 9 December 2010: Sounds like a pathetic little man. Get rid of him asap.... (read in full...)
She's leaving for Thailand in 1 month for 3 months, should I wait??
Q. hi ... so ive met this girl on the internet about 3 months ago, we have met up about 5 times as she lives 2hours drive away. weve had sex which was amazing and like each others company very much. but theres one problem.... shes going a...
A. 6 December 2010: On the plus side, it is quite tough for western girls to get laid in Thailand. There is a hell of a lot of competition.... (read in full...)
When I don't give b/f money for drugs he tells me I don't belong in this country
Q. Iam Chinese but I grew up here! I have a American boyfriend. who iam datinG for one year! I love him. He doesn't work since I met him. He uses drugs and drinks every night and when I tell him to stop using drugs and drinking he tells me you have no ...
A. 4 December 2010: The guy is a loser. Get rid of him as soon as possible.... (read in full...)
Two men say they love me. What should I do?
Q. I have been friends with this guy for about a year, lets call him Tom. I first met him when he was going out with one of my friends. We instantly got on very well and this caused my friend to become suspicious and start rumors about us to gain ...
A. 4 December 2010: Does no one read any more? It should be obvious that you need to have them fight a duel. The old ways are the best.... (read in full...)
My b/f wants to have a threesome with me and my best friend
Q. Oh gosh im in love with my boyfriend were both 16 and im bisexual. He wants too try a threesome and im not sure if I should cause it might mess up our relationship. Hes cheated on me before and I know he dont desrve me. Im not sure if I should ...
A. 29 November 2010: Threesomes are fun but there is a right time and place and the time is not when you are 16.
Please take it from a bad old dog, DON'T do this. A 16 year old boy who is already cheating on you and then manipulating you in to staying is not goin... (read in full...)
Am I gay? or os it just a phase in my life?
Q. Am i gay? or os it just a phase in my life? I have not had a girlfriend, But i had no interest in boys untill i had gay sex with my friend. When i see a girl naked now i dont get turned on but when i see a guy naked i get a full on erection. I have ...
A. 28 November 2010: Yes, Gay.
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Short affair, and only oral sex
Q. Back in Sept. My husband had a month and a half affair. I didnt find out till the friday before Thanksgiving. The woman's husband called me to let me know what has happened. I told the guy there was no way. Thats not him. We have been together for ...
A. 27 November 2010: Seems to me to be a pretty small mistake over which to end 18 years together. Sure, if there are other things that are making you want to split and this is the last straw then that would be understandable but if everything was sweetness and light ... (read in full...)
Was what I did as bad as what she did?
Q. Ok, So I am struggling with my emotions on this issue. So me and my girlfriend are both Christians and we have been dating in an exclusive committed relationship for 3 years. About about a 1 year ago or so I went to an Asian massage parlor and g...
A. 24 November 2010: Sorry but WHY did you tell her?
It is hardly dignified having someone give you a handjob on a massage table but it is one of those things that just happens sometimes. The one saving grace of a happy ending massage, especially with an Asian gi... (read in full...)
My best friend of 15 years is an escort!
Q. i met her 15yrs ago and we have had most difficult friendship ever. I'm not kidding,we met through her brother and from that first day have been friends, she was a single mother raising her son and i was so impressed by the way she cared for him she ...
A. 23 November 2010: No. Don't do it that way.... (read in full...)
Do I come clean about cheating?
Q. i've been going out with this guy for 2 years now, he's a great guy sweet and carring but our relationship became dull and we lost the spark...so i began talking to other ppl behind his back... it was innocent at first but it went too far...i ...
A. 23 November 2010: If you really love him and you want to be with him for a long time then don't tell him. ... (read in full...)
My clitoris is bigger than other parts. Is this normal?
Q. Hey guys this is abit embarrasing hence annon, but is it natural for my clitoris to be larger than the other parts of my private parts? Is it bad and do men find it unattractive?...
A. 22 November 2010: You're fine. Easier to find!
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Cumshots! Outrageous???
Q. I have heard that one of the latest things in porn is to have multiple oral cumshots. I've heard that some of the women have had up to 20 or more men cum in their mouth and pretty much mad to swallow all of it. How can any woman like that? Do any ...
A. 21 November 2010: Sad to say that that sort of thing has been around for a long time and even sadder as Cerberus says that is no where near the most extreme end of the spectrum.
Relatively few men would particularly want to be involved in such a thing in real lif... (read in full...)
My sister wants us to have group sex
Q. Has anyone had sex in the same room as another couple, and if so why? My sister wants me to do this in her room while she makes love to her boyfriend on a separate bed. She won't say why she wants it like that....
A. 20 November 2010: Doesn't sound like a good idea.
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My girlfriend lives with another guy
Q. My Eastern European Girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We used to live together but because my job means I am now away for a lot of time time she has moved in to a flat with 3 of her freinds - two girls and a guy. She has addmit...
A. 20 November 2010: It's not a good situation.
Once a man has had sex with a women his way of thinking about her has been changed for ever. It's a line which once crossed cannot be uncrossed. Women sometimes don't get this but they don't understand how we think.... (read in full...)
Are they being bad parents?
Q. I have a friend who is 23 and lives in south USA. She is married and has two kids; a girl who is almost 2 and a bog who is 1. She is a stay at home mum and her ex druggie husband works full time in mcdonalds. However she often sends the kids ove...
A. 20 November 2010: Yes, they are being bad parents.
But, if you try to tell them what to do they will hate you.
If you lived close by then you could help by occassionally volunteering to look after the children, making sure that they get properly fed and... (read in full...)
He says it is due to my "lack of sexual desire" that I don't feel anything during sex. Is that true??
Q. My husband and myself have been having sex for the past one year. During this time I never experienced an orgasm. I want him to enjoy sex for which I take the initiative in doing things which he likes. Our sex usually lasts 5 mins. He starts ...
A. 20 November 2010: Oh dear.
Can you explain to us WHY you "love him so much" when he clearly doesn't care particularly about you?
Either get a divorce or get a lover because it is not going to get any better.... (read in full...)
I want to be a porn star does anyone have any advice regarding this matter?
Q. Hello, I am a 17 year old make and I would like to be a male porn star. Does anyone have any advice regarding this matter? ...
A. 20 November 2010: OK, well, you are going to have to wait a few years anyway because although porn producers love 18 year old girls they like men to look like men.
Presumably you are already confident that you have a substantially above average endowmen... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 20 November 2010: He is being selfish. It's a huge red flag. You should think about getting out sooner rather than later.
I've been in a cross cultural marriage for 14 years and whatever you may think you have to suck it up and enjoy each other's traditio... (read in full...)
Trying to cope with retroactive jealousy!
Q. I suffer from Retrospective Jealousy, I'd love to hear from anyone that has a similar condition that has "come to terms with it??" Rather than tell a story here are some points that hit the mark for me My partner and I lack of balance or...
A. 18 November 2010: Its just a question of perspective.
There's a young girl, say 23, who I've had a thing going on with for the last 3 or 4 months. I know that she has had, shall we say a "difficult" past, and so the other day I asked her how many men she had had ... (read in full...)
Hand job pointers?
Q. Hey, iv just got a boyfriend who is really experienced and wants me to give him a hand job. Iv never given one before and was wondering if anyone has any tips please?!...
A. 18 November 2010: Enthusiasm.
Look as if you are enjoying it and not as if it is a terrible chore (even after you've been going at it 25 minutes!).
Lots of eye contact.
2 hands, variety, cup the balls.
Do be careful not to accidentally bash his balls - th... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cheating husband or stay for the sake of the kids?
Q. I often caught my husband cheating. We are married for 8 years and has 2 children. 5 and 2 respectively. In 8 years of our marriage, he always cheats. But I always forgive him as I don't want to have a broken family. I am trying to save our ...
A. 18 November 2010: Switch.
Your husband isn't going to change.
Your children don't see a lot of your husband and it sounds as if this new guy will be a better father to them.... (read in full...)
Cheating: are some actions more unethical than others?
Q. It's unethical to get involved in an affair but many people do and then some typical outcomes may happen from there. Some questions on these outcomes and which of them are considered more or less ethical/moral: (note: I'm referring to lon...
A. 16 November 2010: I think perhaps we are stretching a point here to talk of honour and ethics but the only proper way to conduct an affair is for any married parties involved to make it 100% clear on day one, at the very outset, that there is no possibility of them ... (read in full...)
I agreed that my boyfriend can have a stripper at his birthday party, now I regret my decision!
Q. Should I allow this? My boyfriend turns 18 in 2 weeks' time, and he's having a party at a local pub. all sounds great, all his friends and family will be there. HOWEVER, there's one small hitch, I'v just got an e-mail from one of his friends ...
A. 16 November 2010: If you are watching and his mum is watching he is going to be pretty darn careful. If he isn't well then you have just acquired a very pertinent data point which you wouldn't otherwise have got.
Go and sit with his mum.
If you "forbid" it then... (read in full...)
Cheating husband won't ask for a divorce! Why?
Q. My husband has been cheating for 1 year in Nov. We have been married 20 years. Why won't he ask for a divorce. He has come into an inheritance as of late and I was sure he would take the money and run! I took care of his father during his last ...
A. 16 November 2010: I know few of the facts here but the fact that he is having sex with someone else does not mean that you have to divorce him. Life is more complex than "IF CHEAT THEN DIVORCE". You need to do whatever you feel creates the greatest amount of ... (read in full...)
We can't date anymore because I'm so amazingly, dependable, caring, and kind?
Q. Asking for help is hard to do... but I've found my way here, where it seems good advice is all around. A little about me: I'm a solid guy, no emotional baggage or other major life issues hanging around me - been there, done that, learned my lesso...
A. 14 November 2010: She found you boring. Not necessarily in a conversational sense but in terms of the relationship dynamics. You were too predicable, you were waiting for her approval instead of letting her earn yours.
DON'T go the friend route. There is no fu... (read in full...)
Disastrous first attempt at sex
Q. I had sex for the first time today and it was kindof a disaster. We were both really nervous, and he kept loosing his erection for a while, and then he finally was able to keep it and he clumsily put on the condom. It was really hard to get it i...
A. 14 November 2010: THIS is why it is a bad idea for two people to lose their virginity together. At least one person in the cockpit should know how to fly the plane.... (read in full...)
Cheating husband won't ask for a divorce! Why?
Q. My husband has been cheating for 1 year in Nov. We have been married 20 years. Why won't he ask for a divorce. He has come into an inheritance as of late and I was sure he would take the money and run! I took care of his father during his last ...
A. 12 November 2010: Why would he ask for a divorce. The fact that he's having an affair doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. She's just a hobby.... (read in full...)
Am I shallow for my worries due to his hair colour?
Q. i have a problem, a man reaaly likes me and would do anything for me but because he is ginger im scared what people will say! what do i do?...
A. 10 November 2010: Wow, thank you on behalf the ginger boys of the world for that vote of confidence!
I don't know whether I've just led an exceptionally sheltered existence but I've got to my forties without, as far as I'm aware, ever having received a negative... (read in full...)
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