At what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why?
Q. Hey Guys: Just for curiosity's sake, at what age do you figure you will want to be married at and why? And for those of you married already, at what age did you tie the not? What made you want to get married and was it more about the person or about ...
A. 8 July 2010: Married at 29.
The only good reason to get married is if the idea of not being married to this specific person seems unbearable. ... (read in full...)
Questions about the honeymoon period, and what are other couples sleeping arrangements?
Q. I have a couple of quick and easy questions: How long has the 'honeymoon period' typically lasted in your relationships? How do you normally sleep with your partners? Most of my relationships I'd go home to sleep but my current partner lik...
A. 8 July 2010: My wife and I are quite cuddly but: I sleep about 4 hours a night less than she does; my ideal sleeping temperature is about 5 degrees lower than hers and I weigh 280lbs whilst she weighs 110lbs. What has always worked well for us over the last ... (read in full...)
Does it bother guys if you havent been kissed yet?
Q. im just wondering but do guys get repulsed when girls havent been kissed before??...
A. 8 July 2010: Of course not!... (read in full...)
Sooo... I don't go facebook like everyone else
Q. so i'm 16 and i dont go on facebook like at all. i have one but i just don't go on it at all.i honestly just don't c the obsession and ppl kind of freak out like "omg wat" when i tell them i don't go on it.i mean i know that everyone loves it but ...
A. 7 July 2010: Enormous waste of time you are better off without it. Would never touch it myself.... (read in full...)
Would you (as a guy) turn a girl away over something like this?
Q. Bonjour, I just wanted guys opinions because even though I know it's normal, as in it's not unhealthy, I don't like it. On my left side I have always had one long inner labia. I feel like it will freak guys out and/or get in the way!! Argh I hate ...
A. 6 July 2010: Really, no guy is going to mind in the slightest about this.
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Will it destroy a relationship if I tell a woman that I once was with a prostitute?
Q. I have a friend who is disgusted that I have been with prostitutes before. She cried when i told her about it. And said that if I ever met a nice lady, and I told her, she would run. Is this true? Are most women disgusted with the idea of a guy ha...
A. 6 July 2010: There is just really no good reason to bring it up in conversation. No lover or potential lover is going to be thrilled. Best left unsaid.
There are a lot of misconceptions about prostitution. The sex for money business covers a vast spectrum... (read in full...)
Opinions on what you consider to be acceptable behaviour from a couple living together
Q. (OP's own title) OK I have been living with my gf for 8 months now. The relationship is sometimes rocky but quite serious. Only one thing is really ticking me off!! When I come home from work, there's no sign of my gf. She's off with friends o...
A. 4 July 2010: Same advice as always. She has no respect for you. She is walking all over you. You need to call this relationship to a close and leave with as much dignity as you can. Find a new girl next week and start again learning from the mistakes that ... (read in full...)
Why is my father cheating on my mother?
Q. I'm devastated at my father. I'm 26 yrs old and stay with my parents. My parents r both physicians and married almost 28 yrs. My father has been known to cheat with countless women but stiLl takes care Of home. I don't know why my mother stays in ...
A. 4 July 2010: There are really two distinct issues here, one is the cheating and one is the making of unwelcome sexual advances to a young girl over whom he may be in some position of authority.
I don't really have any understanding of the second of these is... (read in full...)
I want to donate a kidney so my mother can have another couple of years
Q. hi..ok i know this isnt about relationships but im desperate. my mum is currently on the waiting list for a kidney, both of hers are failing and we are running out of time, we've been told she won't get one in time so we need to consider being ...
A. 4 July 2010: I really don't think that you should do this. I don't think that your mother would want you to.
My own father, who I adored, died of complications of Kidney failure about 6 years ago. He refused to even be put on the list for a Kidney as he fe... (read in full...)
Any advice on what to do in the bedroom on our wedding night? I'm still a virgin and have no idea what to do!
Q. Hey guys, I'm 18, a second year student... and getting married in a week! But lately I've been stressing over something... I'm still a virgin, and I mean text book definition "virgin", and I have no clue what to do when it comes time to head to ...
A. 2 July 2010: Sadly Gracie you are going to have to get over that attitude otherwise it IS going to be bland and boring.
You've been a good girl so far. In the context of your marriage there is nothing wrong with getting a little wild. No one is going to... (read in full...)
Does this make me a racist?
Q. dear cupid, me and my girlfriend were talking and i said asian people (like japanese, chinese) have stupid names/stupid-sounding names. she then called me a racist and was extremely upset and hootin' and hollerin'. i kept on telling ...
A. 2 July 2010: She's over reacting. It's all contextual.
A world in which you wouldn't be able to mention that something seems funny to you during a private conversation with your girlfriend would be a terrible place to live.
That said, if you start saying... (read in full...)
Could he have given me an orgasm without my knowing?
Q. Heey. so me and my ex boyfriend are friends and we were talking about our relationship last night and the subject went to sex. he said "Did you know I've made you come before?" and i just laughed because i dont think he did... was he lying or did he ...
A. 2 July 2010: you would know.... (read in full...)
I am only 15 but what do I have to lose if I have a baby?
Q. Help!! My boyfriend and I have been wanting a baby were emotionaly prepared for one i dont go out cuz i dont get along with people especially girls i dont drink and smoke anymore cause i hate it and i no pretty much everything on how to raise a baby ...
A. 29 June 2010: You have absolutely everything to lose. This would be a very very poor choice to make at this stage in your life.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend needing some space?
Q. I'm at the end of my wits. I love my gf a lot but my patience is really running out :( Everything seemed fine about a week ago. She was getting close to me. We would hug close in bed and it all seemed to be going well. But things fell apart the n...
A. 29 June 2010: This crap, as you put it, will go on for as long as you allow it to go on or until she finds someone else which she will sooner rather than later. She has lost respect for you and once a Chinese woman's respect for a man is gone it isn't coming ... (read in full...)
How can I love my small breasts?
Q. I've only had one boyfriend and he told me he liked big breasts better, that most guys do because of fertility and I don't what crap. I can't get over this, not even after having broken up (other reasons). I notice how most men drool over large ...
A. 29 June 2010: Simple answer is that small breasts are not "worse" and there are many of us out here that are just as happy with smaller breasts, especially if you are a smaller girl.
Maybe, maybe larger breasts look better on screen or in a magazine but that... (read in full...)
What should I do? in a relationship with a foreign guy, much older than me
Q. I am a girl who is not confident about LOVE in a relationship. Now I meet a problem.It's really hard for me to write everything down here. I just need help! I've been in a relationship with a man for nearly a year. He's from other country and much...
A. 29 June 2010: Sweetcat
Isn't it funny that your name is the mirror image of mine?
A relationship such as yours where there is love and care but no possibility of long term marriage can be a very beautiful thing but like a butterfly it is fragile and has ... (read in full...)
What should I do? in a relationship with a foreign guy, much older than me
Q. I am a girl who is not confident about LOVE in a relationship. Now I meet a problem.It's really hard for me to write everything down here. I just need help! I've been in a relationship with a man for nearly a year. He's from other country and much...
A. 28 June 2010: Sweetcat
Why does he do these things? He does these thing because he thinks you are lovely, because he enjoys having sex with you, because he genuinely cares about you and wants to help you improve your life but he has NO intention and NO possi... (read in full...)
Question to all those who workout regularly
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 23 year old guy and weigh 62Kg (136lb). I have been going to the gym for the past 2 months. I follow the following routine: (1) Cardio on elliptical for 30 mins every alternate day. In this, I take the interval traini...
A. 28 June 2010: I can't tell you much about losing stomach fat but I can tell you about getting stronger.
You haven't told us much about what you do when you do your strength training so I can't comment in detail.
A few generalisations:
- it is hard to... (read in full...)
Am I the only guy who prefers petite women?
Q. I'm just wondering why it is that most men prefere big breasts as oppossed to small breasts, the women in porn and magazines reflects that men are more sexually aroused by big breasts and i'm just curious why that is? I'm more sexually attracted to ...
A. 27 June 2010: No, you are most certainly not the only one.
I think perhaps bigger breasts look better on film but in the flesh I'd go for petite every time.... (read in full...)
Are all guys superficial?
Q. I'm 17 this year; I'm fat but not disgustingly obese, don't have a pretty face and very self-conscious deep down. The thing is, I'm very confident and most people look at me as the hyper and bubbly one who brightens up everyone's day but inside, I ...
A. 27 June 2010: At 17 you are still very young. You are NOT a loser because you haven't had a boyfriend at 17.
I'm not sure that it is fair to dismiss boys as superficial because they tend to prefer slimmer more attractive girls. There is a lot of social a... (read in full...)
Does cheating count when your a kid still?
Q. So, I'm 16 and I've had a boyfriend for quite a while now. Things are good we care about each other and everything but here's the thing, I recently got a job about 3 months ago and since then I've made good friends with a boy who works there. We ...
A. 27 June 2010: I tend to disagree with the other aunts. You are just a kid and you are very unlikely to end up spending your life together and so "cheating" in this kind of relationship is qualitatively different from cheating in a marriage or a committed adult ... (read in full...)
I am starved of romance in my marriage
Q. I've dated my hubby for a really long time and got married last year.he,s perfect. Does everything a husband should do. Provides for me, helps me out as best as he can with everything and anything, he genuinely loves me I know, The problem is he is...
A. 26 June 2010: Well, in that case, he DOESN'T do everything a husband should do.... (read in full...)
She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.
Q. My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...
A. 26 June 2010: Wow, I'm rather surprised that everyone has come down against you on this one because clearly, especially when young, weight and looks generally are an important factor in the commencement of relationships. It may be shallow but the billions and ... (read in full...)
He doesn't ejaculate often. Is it me or him?
Q. Hi everyone ive been sleeping with this guy on and off for a couple of months now and only once has cum and that was from a blow job, Anyway sorry to sound disgusting but last nite when having sex, he kept saying he wanted to cum inside me,...
A. 24 June 2010: its him.... (read in full...)
The long and the short of it...
Q. so i am 14 and my boyfriend is 17, he is 6'5 and i'm 5'1... i love him so much but when we hug i have to put my hands around his waist... i love being with him but it is so hard... i want to put my arms around his neck when we hug and kiss but it is ...
A. 22 June 2010: Have him pick you up... (read in full...)
Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.
Q. Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...
A. 22 June 2010: Yes you are within your rights. You'll only be on this earth for a short span of time and you SHOULD enjoy it. ... (read in full...)
My husband has moved in with an ex friend of mine, is it possible that they are really in love??
Q. I just found out that my husband, who moved out a couple of months ago, has just moved in with a woman who used to be a friend of mine. I ended my friendship with her about a year ago because I felt she was behaving inappropriately ...
A. 22 June 2010: Some women with self esteem issues have a thing about taking a man away from another woman. It is a way of proving to themselves that they are somehow worth more. The other poster is right that their relationship is unlikely to last because once ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 22 June 2010: You don't imagine that most teenaged boys at some point think that they would like to get paid to have sex with hot looking girls?
You are going to have to wait a few years. Even if you are legally OK at 18 you don't see many 18 year old male por... (read in full...)
If he won't agree to a threesome with a guy, then why should I agree to one with a girl?
Q. okay so ive been with my boyfriend for a year so far and were very sexually active. on a regular basis we have sex about 3-5 times a week. and were open enough to talk about our fantasies in life n stuff, but i believe theres a HUGE problem. ...
A. 22 June 2010: You shouldn't agree to or be pressured into anything that you don't think is fun and safe. Simple.
However in defence of your boyfriend, for most men there is an absolutely fundamental difference between MFF and MMF threesomes. I've had quit... (read in full...)
We broke up two years ago, but I'm miserable and still miss him!
Q. i feel pretty miserable..my ex and i broke up about two years ago and ever since then i am just not happy. I still miss him dearly. We have been talking for almost a year now on the phone. I am 25 and still live at home..i'm sure there are alot o...
A. 21 June 2010: Prion is absolutely right. Listen to her.... (read in full...)
Are double standards ever fair?
Q. Here's one I think people might actually have strong opinions on.... Recently an old friend came back into my life. My boyfriend was thrilled for me when I told him, and was just as excited for me as I was since I REALLY enjoy their company. Y...
A. 19 June 2010: I think clearly the same standard has to apply to him as to you.
I wouldn't say that it is impossible for a man to have a genuinely platonic friendship with a woman - one of my oldest and best friends is gay woman and there are others - and of c... (read in full...)
Are double standards ever fair?
Q. Here's one I think people might actually have strong opinions on.... Recently an old friend came back into my life. My boyfriend was thrilled for me when I told him, and was just as excited for me as I was since I REALLY enjoy their company. Y...
A. 19 June 2010: Very few men will put much effort into a friendship with a girl that they don't find sexually attractive at some level.... (read in full...)
Everyone is laughing at me because I was set upon totally unawares...
Q. Me and two girls were playing strip poker in the basement of a party and we were getting down to no clothes. The two of them lost their bras and then they decided I should lose my shorts, cause that is all I had left. So they tackled me and one sat ...
A. 19 June 2010: Seriously, DON'T go to the police and don't claim that you were raped. If you think people are laughing at you now they would really be laughing at you then.
Generally it isn't right for a guy to say any bad thing about a girl but these girls ha... (read in full...)
My long-distance partner just told me he is going to get an escort to deal with his sexual frustration!
Q. In LDR for six months, together years. Boyfriend lost his job had to move for a new job. I make special trips to see him 5 days a month. He wants me to join him where he is but I can't leave my job to go with him because he makes no promises of any ...
A. 18 June 2010: He couldn't just take care of himself with some porn?... (read in full...)
Nervous about first-time sex!
Q. Ok, so this is a question to guys and girls. I am 18, and still a virgin. I have this fear when I am going to get to the moment of having sex, I'll be too excited and cum too quick (maybe even before sex starts?) idk, help me out, does that happen? ...
A. 18 June 2010: As the aunts have said already you should have a little warm up round before hand to make you less sensitive. Also:
- go in with your tongue first and keep your dick off the field of play for as long as you can. Tbis will make you seem more exp... (read in full...)
Why does she essentially require that I have an erection during oral sex?
Q. My fiance and I have a pretty good sex life but it's not without some quirks. I've always enjoyed giving her oral sex. She claims that I'm the first who has been able to bring her to orgasm this way. The problem is that she essentially requ...
A. 18 June 2010: Once again Carrot is absolutely right. I love giving oral sex, absolutely love it but a) no I don't keep an erection the whole time - just seems like a lot of wasted energy, I'm 40 and an extra 20 odd minutes of erection is going to take its toll ... (read in full...)
My b oyfriend has anger towards me for my past.
Q. "OPs Own Title"My boyfriend has anger towards me for my past. Most days are wonderful - we have a great time together, enjoy doing the same things, and want the same things out of life - marriage and children. But, the anger builds up (he says that ...
A. 18 June 2010: Marriage is tough and having children is tough. There will be stresses and strains on your relationship that you can't even imagine now. I would say that his over the top reaction to a relatively minor incident in your past is a huge red flag. Do ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with his ex, but says he didn't come!
Q. hello. my partner of 3 years had just recently cheated on me with his ex gf. they never had sex but did other foreplay type things. he reakons he didnt come when she gave him head could this happen? and also i need advice on what i should do... t...
A. 18 June 2010: He "reckons" he didn't cum? It is generally something that we guys are pretty clear about whether it happens or doesn't happen. Not many shades of grey here.
I think that some of the other aunts are being a little harsh. He was surely just try... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with his ex, but says he didn't come!
Q. hello. my partner of 3 years had just recently cheated on me with his ex gf. they never had sex but did other foreplay type things. he reakons he didnt come when she gave him head could this happen? and also i need advice on what i should do... t...
A. 18 June 2010: He "reckons" he didn't cum? It is generally something that we guys are pretty clear about whether it happens or doesn't happen. Not many shades of grey here.
I think that some of the other aunts are being a little harsh. He was surely just try... (read in full...)
Have I blown my chances with her?
Q. So i work with a girl, we've been very good friends for a long time and we had been growing close but i hesitated to make a move before i was more sure so after a night out she offered me the chance to crash at hers. I said no thinking it mean...
A. 18 June 2010: Not completely. Ask her out to do something interesting, have a good time and then have her crash at yours.... (read in full...)
Are all cheaters the same?
Q. hi just after a few opinions pls 1.how do you tell the difference between a man who is in a relationship genuinely unhappy but confused and cheats. and a man who is using you because he can and cares nothing for you. because i dont believe all chea...
A. 18 June 2010: No not all cheaters are the same. Men cheat for all kinds of reasons and in different ways and in different contexts. It certainly isn't always because they are unhappy although that is a convenient myth. It is of course almost always a selfish ... (read in full...)
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