What do women mean when they say they only want to be friends cause they are not ready for a relationship?
Q. I've recently started talking to someone, she knows i have strong feelings for her, but she just had her heart broke by a guy and says shes not ready just yet and this is an email she sent to my ex gf who both get on well and are actually talking ...
A. 7 January 2010: If a girl is attracted to you she will act on it. If she doesn't feel it then everything else is just a rationalisation of the way that she feels. The fact that she may be a sweet and lovely girl doesn't really change the fundamental dynamics of ... (read in full...)
What do women mean when they say they only want to be friends cause they are not ready for a relationship?
Q. I've recently started talking to someone, she knows i have strong feelings for her, but she just had her heart broke by a guy and says shes not ready just yet and this is an email she sent to my ex gf who both get on well and are actually talking ...
A. 6 January 2010: She feels that you are a nice guy but she doesn't feel any gut level attraction for you.... (read in full...)
Why can I only get turned on by my girlfriend? Porn does nothing for me and I'm starting to worry!
Q. Ok this may not seem urgent or even useful but at the moment I am in a very strange predicament, not serious or bad in anyway I do not think but never the less it is quite how should I put, well bugger it it is pure strangeness for me. My girlfriend ...
A. 6 January 2010: That's very cute. You should let her know.... (read in full...)
The physical element of our relationship is lacking so does he have the right to be with another woman?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm interested to hear from anyone whose been cheated on by their someone they love.. HAS cheated on someone they love.. or feels patient enough to read my story and give me their honest opinion... So I'm 27 and have been with m...
A. 6 January 2010: I don't intend to be mean or crude here but there is plenty of good sex that you can have even if one major option is taken off the table for medical reasons.
It is extremely unlikely that a normally functioning youngish man is going to forgo se... (read in full...)
What is the most common reason for a man losing interest in sex?
Q. What is the most common reason for a man losing interest in sex? And how common is that? My husband has no sexual interest in me. Well, I don't think he cares about anybody else, totally no interest in sex.. NOW, is it possible that he just shot ...
A. 6 January 2010: Could be indicative of other health problems so worth having a general check up. Otherwise, tiredness and stress are major passion killers. You don't mention whether or not you have children but children make everyone tired and there is the ... (read in full...)
Advice needed. How can I get him to last longer?
Q. my boyfriend and I are sexually active and he'll only "hold up" for less than 5 mins.. I get "wetter" than normal and we're not using any protection.. he'll pull out when he starts to cum though.. how do we prevent this and make him last longer.?...
A. 6 January 2010: He'll last longer with a condom on. You should be using a condom anyway unless you actually want to get pregnant. Maybe suggest that he has a little "practice" session earlier in the day - that should help. Of course, if he had been down on you ... (read in full...)
Text Message Communication Problem - Opinions Needed
Q. Hi, I wonder if someone can read through this series of text messages and just give your unbiased opinion along the way of who is right and who is wrong or if we're both wrong (I know there is no right or wrong, but we just need someone to media...
A. 4 January 2010: Wow, Person 2 seems much too much like hard work to have to deal with on the morning of new years day. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is abusive and on steroids. I'm so confused about what to do!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year. When we first started dating he was taking steroids and it became unbearable and I ended it after a few months. Three months later he sent me an email and apologized..so we ended up getting back ...
A. 4 January 2010: Really he sounds like a loser that you should run from now. Remember that steroids are cheating and that by taking them he's admitting that he can't cut it any other way. You don't want to spend your life with this guy.... (read in full...)
I suspect my partner of cheating. What do I do next?
Q. Is it a good way to Confront my partner if I suspect her of Cheating ? I am not sure. Trust Level is sliding... Asking her on those lines would be like giving up Trust and Confidence, that took years to build. (Denial is expected) Not...
A. 4 January 2010: Remember that generally speaking women can out manipulate men - that bit of their brain is just better developed than ours - so if you confront her based on your gut feel or suspicions YOU are the one who is going to come out of it looking bad. ... (read in full...)
Horny around my 17 year old sister!
Q. I am a 15 year old male. And I have started to get horny when I am around my 17 year old sister. I don't know if I should keep hanging out with her or if I should stop until these feelings pass. Please help....
A. 3 January 2010: At 15 anyone female looks attractive to you. Go out and find some other targets for your lust.... (read in full...)
Help... am I gay?
Q. im 17 year old male. i perfer watching gay porn thinking of boys and penis and using anal toys. i think that this makes me gay so i decided to watch straight porn and i didnt get erect or feel anything, but when i watch gay porn it really turns me ...
A. 3 January 2010: Absolutely Gay but then you seem to know that already. No need to tell anyone until you find a nice boy that you like.
Dr. Merryweather, if you put on your reading glasses I think that you find that its "collage" rather than college. The poor... (read in full...)
Why do some guys squirt when they cum and some dont?
Q. Um, I'm 39, a healthy bloke and I've always wondered why it is that some guys squirt when they cum and some (me) don't. (:o/ I have sex every day in my relationship. I really like the idea of squirtin on someone, but it happens rarely. Either w...
A. 2 January 2010: I've always found it to be connected with the build up. If I'm tired or its all a bit of an effort or it's "a quicky then it might only go a few inches but other times particularly if its a long session and I've come up to the brink a few times ... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate in front of my sister
Q. My sister walked in on me when I was in the middle of masturbating. Since then I have wanted to masturbate in front of her. I am afraid to ask her so I secretly masturbate in front of her while she is sleeping. Should I ask her if I can do it in ...
A. 2 January 2010: Honestly this really doesn't sound a good idea. It isn't headed anywhere good.... (read in full...)
Was this rape? Or consensual?
Q. About a year ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who was 21. I was 16 at the time. We had sex, and I consented (well, I couldn't legally give consent, but I said yes). Now that the relationship's been over for a few months, I'm feeling more ...
A. 2 January 2010: Maybe in the US you were technically below the age of consent BUT do you really want to start a pattern of going through your life blaming others for bad choices that you make? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend appeard to throw up after I told him about my past! Why??
Q. ok so last night i was on the phone with my boyfriend and we were talking about something, and he asked for a pic of me in a new shirt i had told him about wearing it and a thong only, i told him maybe then asked for one of him in boxers and asked ...
A. 1 January 2010: That's very immature and a good sign that you should leave him.... (read in full...)
Insecure about my Vagina's appearance! Help!!
Q. okay big time help needed! i have really really really low self esteem when it comes to men. Not about meeting them, but 'otherwise'. Whenever i am getting intimate i never allow a man to go near my bottom half because i have a vagina that has ...
A. 1 January 2010: I'm a bad dog but I hope that my perspective may help you. I love vaginas. I've had the good fortune to spend a lot of time in careful study of well over 100 vaginas. Please believe me that the arrangement of the lips does not matter one bit. In ... (read in full...)
My gf lied and cheat on me back in hometown
Q. Hi Cupid, I've been going out with my philippine gf for 6 months now and we have lots of great time together. lemme introduce herself first. as i did before in my previous post, i will do it again here. she have a kid in philippine when she was...
A. 29 December 2009: Get out of the situation. It isn't going to get better - just more pain.... (read in full...)
I suspect her of cheating, because her sex drive has diminished and she has been spending lots of time away.
Q. Ok, new here and looking for advice. First a question for the ladies. In general, when grooming, if a woman shaves down below, is that usually something they do for themselves, or something they do to make someone else happy? The reason I ask ...
A. 29 December 2009: I'd say that she is or has been cheating.
Confronting her without hard evidence is just going to lead to a huge fight. Keep quiet and accumulate evidence until you have her nailed. Use the time to sort out your finances.
You may wish ... (read in full...)
Creepy Cousin
Q. Well when I was about 5 or 6, my teenage cousin raped me, not molested. He actually penetrated me. Anyways 2day is my 16th bday and my cousin and I have the same bday. So his mom called and told me happy bday then she gave the phone to him. As he ...
A. 29 December 2009: It is too late to make a charge stick but you should let him now that you remember what he did and that you don't want him anywhere near you and that if there is ever any suspicion of him molesting someone else you will go public with what he did to ... (read in full...)
5 months later we find out she's pregnant after cheating
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me and got pregnant.......she didn't know she was pregnant until five months later..........if u were in my shoes would u forgive her or leave. We tryn to work it out going to counseling and all. Am I'm a bigger man by tryn ...
A. 29 December 2009: Very tough situation. Bear in mind that any child is a huge undertaking requiring huge reserves of patience, love and energy - sleepless nights and changing diapers. I have friends who have phenomenal relationships with children from their wive's ... (read in full...)
Do girls like having sex as much as guys do?
Q. hello everyone; i am a male, 25.. and i am still a virgin... and i always wonder if girls like having sex as much as guys do...; talking of asian girls they are very shy and find it immoral to talk about sex..; it doesn't seem that they enjoy doing ...
A. 29 December 2009: Please also see the question posted today from a girl "Too obsessed with the desire to have sex." There is part of your answer.... (read in full...)
Do girls like having sex as much as guys do?
Q. hello everyone; i am a male, 25.. and i am still a virgin... and i always wonder if girls like having sex as much as guys do...; talking of asian girls they are very shy and find it immoral to talk about sex..; it doesn't seem that they enjoy doing ...
A. 29 December 2009: I don't know about Indian girls but Chinese and Thai and Mongolian girls certainly do and I'm sure that Indian girls are no different.
Be caring.
Be confident.
Be clean and have a clean and comfy environment.
Have condoms available and know h... (read in full...)
Raped and having difficulty coping with the what ifs...
Q. On December 2nd 2009 I was grabbed on my way home and raped by a man I'd never seen before. I went to A and E and got given PEP. They said that if he was positive the chance that I will get it considering I'm taking PEP is less than 5%. I remote ...
A. 28 December 2009: Sweetheart - I almost never say this on this site but I think that you need to go and see a professional counsellor unless there is some other appropriate adult figure who can look after you.
The likelihood of male to female transmission of HIV i... (read in full...)
Porn - how is it fair to the mother of your children
Q. So often I seem to see questions posted by women hurt by their partners use if porn. So many men seem to feel justified in using it even when in committed relationshis. The question I have is how it can possibly be fair to women? So often a couple ...
A. 27 December 2009: Come on, if you think about this for a few seconds you must see how ridiculous the argument is. Our fantasies are our fantasies they are not politically correct and they are not reasonable.
Are you saying that you would be ok with porn so long ... (read in full...)
Still a virgin at 25, considering the use of a prostitute, please help?
Q. There have been many posts like this I'm sure, but I'll share with you my story anyway. It's Christmas, and I had promised myself that by this time, I would have lost my virginity, well, I haven't. My entire life, from my earliest childhood...
A. 25 December 2009: Cerberus' advice is good. Don't do this on the cheap and try to spend 45 minutes with someone who advertises in the back of your local paper. That will leave you feeling worse than before. If time and budget allow then consider the option of ... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife will cheat again?
Q. My wife has been cheating on me for so many times and i still forgive her.I know its stupid of me but i don't want our family to be torn apart.shes a good liar and a really selfish bitch.One time,she said shes going to throw the trash and i was ...
A. 25 December 2009: Yes, she will cheat again unless you do something different from what you are doing now.
How is your sex life? What is your wife not getting from you?
You need to stake your turf. A little old fashioned intimidation of the guy who is messi... (read in full...)
Professor giving us dating and courtship suggestions
Q. Hello,Guys~~ one of my professors is always telling us not to touch g girl even though she probably is you girl friend to protect her and make sure she is clean. Telling this, he also aften do some disgusting actions... The problem is that I ...
A. 17 December 2009: In what context is this professor telling you this? It doesn't sound like anything that would fit in to any university curriculum.
You should base your decision as to whether or not to register for his class based on the quality of his teaching... (read in full...)
Are all guys this selfish in bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about eleven months now, and I really can't help but notice he can really be a selfish guy when he feels like it. Namely, I'm talking about our sex life. When we met I was a virgin. Before we started having ...
A. 16 December 2009: Get rid right away.... (read in full...)
17 and a 40 year old having sex?
Q. Hello. I was just wondering if it's ok for a seventeen year old girl to have sex with a forty year old man? I've known him for a few months and we've been talking a lot. I really like him and want him. I know that it is a significant age difference, ...
A. 15 December 2009: Sex? Heck yes of course its OK. Older guy, younger girl sex is great. I've been 17 and I've been 40 and you'd have a better time with 40 year old me. Just don't go doing anything silly like trying to build a lasting exclusive relationship because ... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: I'd just add to some of the comments here that link this kind of concern to watching too much porn. It is really not all about porn. As a young guy you see a lot of other guys' dicks, it can't be helped, we have communal showers after rugby or ... (read in full...)
I think two staff members at my school are having an affair
Q. I think that 2 people at my high school are having an affair. The thing is, their not students. I think he knows I know as well. Lets call my principal 'Street' and my vice principal 'Watson'. Street is the macho principal. Watson, is the woman who ...
A. 13 December 2009: And, this would be your business to "do" anything about because .....?... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: You have to somehow get this idea out of your head otherwise it will wreck your life. I'm a big guy - 280 pounds, sporty (when younger), big shoulders but my dick is on the smaller side of average and when resting it pretty much disappears. On ... (read in full...)
I hate my life
Q. pleasee hellppppppp me..im an 18 year old male that hates his life and everything in it..i think i am veryy uglyy. fat people tell me im ugly all the time and when they do it brakes my heart because i should be used to it by now. i was always t...
A. 10 December 2009: The Great News is that you are 18 which is the perfect age to reinvent yourself. You will soon be heading off to university or leaving home and you can go somewhere where none of these people who have been dragging you down are and you can start ... (read in full...)
He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...
A. 8 December 2009: No male (I wouldn't use the term "man" here) who could strike a woman in the face is worth another minute of your time. Saying that he hit you in self defence is the wetest most pathetic thing that I've heard. For so long as you have any kind of ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to realize that I'm the right guy who can treat her the right way?
Q. Ok so here it is... I work with this girl... I've really begun to like her... she and I tend to work one double a week... And on lunch break I take her out to eat every time... We talk on lunch break about ourself and things of that nature... But we ...
A. 7 December 2009: Sadly you have already become her girlfriend and it is near impossible to make the transition from girlfriend to boyfriend. Best to hold on to this one as a friend and seek a lover elsewhere.... (read in full...)
Why is my dad acting so protective?
Q. I graduate this month and I turn 18 in July. I don't plan on staying in town when I go to college and my boyfriend doesn't want me to be alone (good thing too). So I told my father and he flipped saying "not while he [my father] is still around." ...
A. 5 December 2009: How long have you had his boyfriend? Has your father shown other signs of not approving of him?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he thinks other girls are pretty!
Q. My boyfriend told me he thinks other girls are pretty. I know this is probably over reacting but i got very upset by this, he always told me he never even looks at girls and i can't stand that he would look at a girl and think about how pretty she ...
A. 5 December 2009: Hard to say because so much depends on context. Some girls just are very pretty and for a husband or boyfriend to deny it if asked would be insincere however of course no man should be doing anything which plays up the insecurities of a woman he ... (read in full...)
My girlfirend admitted to cheating and I don't know what to do.
Q. My girlfriend Cheated on me and i seeing the circumstances I don't know if I should take her back. We are both in love and have talked about getting married and had some details planned out. we talked about our kids and how we would want to raise th...
A. 5 December 2009: For heavens sake man take her back. You are both young, she loves you, she did something foolish when drunk, she regrets it. Take her back and don't over stress the issue and don't play the victim - in other words be a big boy. I think you will ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is it them?
Q. I am currently not speaking with a freind who was offended about the fact that i am not used to mingling with the rough side of neighborhoods, or with people who are rough around the edges. She is a little that way, but i never allowed that to keep ...
A. 5 December 2009: Your friends are your friends. If you don't feel comfortable with an individual or group then you don't have to be friends. It would be worse for you to pretend a friendship with someone in order to demonstrate your openmindedness, you are not ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend still a virgin?
Q. Is my girlfriend still a virgin? my girlfriend and I (she is 18, i am 20) are wondering if she is still considered a virgin if her ex boyfriend just got the head of his penis inside her. The way she explains it is he tried to penetrate her but she ...
A. 3 December 2009: Sounds to me as if she just about is :-)... (read in full...)
I don't like Granny's new husband
Q. Ok, i am 18 years old now, i am really getting annoyed with my gran and her "new husband" who thinks that he is the head of the family when nobody likes either of them because of there marage!. i am a full-time student and have had enough of li...
A. 1 December 2009: I would imagine that they are none too thrilled either about having you living with them and impinging on their privacy... What about your student loans? Aren't those meant to cover tour living costs whilst at university?... (read in full...)
Condomless threesome and now I'm worried I'm pregnant!
Q. i know this is going to make me sound really bad, and i am really upset about this which is why this is the only confidential thing i could think of for advice, well a month ago i had a threesome with 2 guys, i was really drunk and i know there...
A. 1 December 2009: Get yourself to a doctor as soon as you can. They won't judge you.... (read in full...)
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