Condomless threesome and now I'm worried I'm pregnant!
Q. i know this is going to make me sound really bad, and i am really upset about this which is why this is the only confidential thing i could think of for advice, well a month ago i had a threesome with 2 guys, i was really drunk and i know there...
A. 1 December 2009: Get yourself to a doctor as soon as you can. They won't judge you.... (read in full...)
25 year old virgin 6 years out of previous relationship
Q. Hi. I'm a twenty-five year old virgin man with Asperger's Syndrome. Back in middle school, something happened that left me very self-conscious. a girl had walked up to me during class and asked me to to the movies, but when she walked back to her ...
A. 1 December 2009: If you have a very close platonic female friend then ask her for help. Ask her what you should be wearing and doing and saying. Throw yourself on her mercy. I'd bet that she'd be happy to help.... (read in full...)
Is it silly to be upset that my husband of 27 years puts his brother as next of kin on his passport?
Q. Recently my hubby got his renewed passport and when I went with him to get his travellers cheques I picked up his passport [while we were waiting for his stuff] and noticed that on the page that asks for next of kin that he had filled in his ...
A. 1 December 2009: I always put one of my sisters as next of kin when I'm travelling or on travel documents because my wife is often with me when I travel and my sisters almost never are. This is not a popularity contest merely a practical issue of finding a ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my girlfriend now she wants to video us having sex...
Q. My Girlfriend has been insisting on to video tape us having sex....I refused. She is kind of mad now. Yeah I asked her why....she said just for memory. I didnt buy that idea. After a couple of months or years I might be on porn sites. pls if u have ...
A. 28 November 2009: It would seem that this would be more of a concern for girls than boys.
You could always make it a condition that you edit the file first and give it back to her. That way you can make sure that your face doesn't appear.... (read in full...)
Will my feelings for my boyfriend change after an FFM threesome?
Q. So I was WONDERING, if my boyfriend and I end up having a threesome, with another woman, whats the likely it'll bring us closer? Or I wont feel the same about him?...
A. 28 November 2009: Don't do this. Please don't misunderstand me, threesome are great, I try to have one most weeks and as it happens I had one on Friday and it was a lot of fun HOWEVER threesomes are the ultimate in "sport sex" I.e. Sex just for the sex and the fun ... (read in full...)
I'm tormented by the fact that she's had a 'bigger' man than I
Q. My girlfriend has just recently told me (because my dum ass ask) that she was with a guy so thick she felt pain and once had to see the doctor. to me is like (lucky bastard) i guess i think that's like every man's dream to be able to just do that to ...
A. 28 November 2009: You dumbass! You think it would be nice to cause girls pain with an oversized dick?! There is a small percentage of women to whom a big dick really matters - maybe 10-15% although with a substantial variation from country to country - but for the ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof
Q. Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...
A. 28 November 2009: No don't contact them again. What you have done already is truely awful and frankly qualifies you as a "bunny boiler". When you started this affair you knew that he was married, that he was 30 years older than you and that he was a man that loves ... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and he wants to have sex with me even although he has a girlfriend. Am I being played?
Q. I am fourteen years old and last year I had this "thing" with this guy. He has had a girlfriend for the past six months but now he wants to have sex with me. I really do want to have sex with him and have him be my first but I don't know because he ...
A. 28 November 2009: Bad idea. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
She has the proof that he is cheating yet she is still with him!
Q. I told my ex husbands girlfriend that he was cheating on her and gave her a CD of him and I talking about getting back together! They live together and he wants his cake and eat it to! I told her everything and she is still with him! Why does she ...
A. 28 November 2009: You sound more than a little bit mean. When you met with your ex husband were you actually interested in getting back together with him or was it just a set up to break them up?... (read in full...)
My teacher told me he loves me too much to have a relationship with me.
Q. Hi. My teacher told me that he loves me too much to do anything about it. I'm 14 and he is 30. He has taught me for the past 2 years. It started just basic flirting really, he stares and smiles at me, touches my shoulders, hands etc. He asks my ...
A. 28 November 2009: If you love this guy then you have to try very hard to stay away otherwise you could ruin his life.... (read in full...)
His "joke" was NOT funny!
Q. My husband jokingly said, "I love this woman... Jennifer", she is always so satisfied with my work... I totally lost it. I felt it was an insult. And he said, oh no it was just a joke, I was just making a funny joke.. Do you think is this really f...
A. 28 November 2009: You DO sound quite judgemental. Are you sure THAT is not part of the problem with his impotence.... (read in full...)
Will I ever learn to live alone?
Q. I'm 18 years old, never been kissed, not pretty, very chubby and I'm asking: Will I ever learn to live alone? Because of my appearance probably no one will ever want something more than be friend with me....
A. 28 November 2009: The fact is that any young (that's you) female can put herself into the top 50% in terms of attractiveness and therefore desirable to a majority of men by force of will within a year or so. That is not to say that it is easy but then neither is ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend poor? Or just cheap?
Q. My boyfriend is fairly poor. He lives with four other people but his rent is still around $350 a month. He makes a little more than minimum wage at a dead-end job and generally has little spending money that he uses for money and gas. Now let m...
A. 27 November 2009: He is looking kind of cheap to me. He should really pay off that loan to your Mum as soon as possible if he has any self-respect.... (read in full...)
I was so angry with my married lover that I sent a letter to his son revealing all about our relationship!
Q. Dear Cupid, Can love be so true when he is with other women at the same time he is with me? I am 38 yrs old and separated. I met a 68 yrs old married man through internet chatting. I fell intensely in love with him and we shared feelings onlin...
A. 27 November 2009: Affairs such as this can be among the most beautiful human interactions that there are or they can be sordid. Beautiful affairs are those which do not become weighed down by obligations, guilt and expectations but rather 2 people who come together ... (read in full...)
Is that considered sex? Am I still a virgin?
Q. if a guy stuck his penis all the way in my vagina but he just stayed there and didn't move. like there were no thrusting or humping motions, is that considered sex? or sexual intercourse? am i still a virgin?...
A. 25 November 2009: That's sex. Doesn't sound like very good sex but it is sex and no, technically, your not a virgin - but why would that matter?... (read in full...)
For the men out there: Does seeing images of half naked men make you feel insecure? How does it affect your self-esteem?
Q. For the guys only: A lot of women write on this site that thier significant other views porn and it makes them feel insecure as the porn stars are well endowed with fake boobs. In addition, the women write they are inundated by the media with i...
A. 24 November 2009: Strangely not. Most men are socialised to have a fair degree of contempt for pretty boy models. Although they may look muscly in close up photographs most of them are actually pretty skinny and weak. Few men admire or are intimidated by a... (read in full...)
Not attracted to obese boyfriend.
Q. I have been with the same guy for three years, we are both in our 40s. When I met him he had just lost 140 lbs through diet and exercise and was running marathons. A big part of my attraction to him was admiration for having lost all that weight and ...
A. 23 November 2009: You are under no obligation at all to stay in the relationship. Gaining 140 pounds is a material change in the conditions of the relationship.
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The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 23 November 2009: There seems to be a view prevailing in western culture that a wife can dish out any kind of abuse to her husband and he is obliged to smile and take it because he should be grateful for the huge sacrifices that she has
made in sleeping with him and ... (read in full...)
How can I be more interesting?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over 1 year now and I love him to bits. But today, he hit me with a bombshell: "Youre so f***ing boring." I understand where hes coming from: I dont know what to talk about and basically, I crumble in social ...
A. 22 November 2009: One simple solution is to read the newspapers either the real news or all the celebrity gossip rubbish. There is always something in there that can form the basis of a conversation. The newspapers will even give you an opinion if you don't have ... (read in full...)
Now I feel like my body is ugly, how do I deal with his comments about my body?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were watching TV. There was this movie where a guy was watching porn, and they showed the porn star a lot, with her huge boobs all over the place. I kind of got upset, but said nothing, yet my boyfriend picked up on it ...
A. 22 November 2009: Frankly I CAN understand a little bit where he us coming from as regards porn and your over reaction to it. Right or wrong porn is a fact of life now more than ever before, there is no avoiding it and you need to find a way to come to terms with ... (read in full...)
I've been hunting for a boyfriend for years, why haven't I found one?
Q. I always feel lonely perhaps it's because I've never had a boyfriend or even a date. I am too embarrassed to divulge this information to my friends but since we all met in college and are very close they've definitely noticed I've never been on one ...
A. 22 November 2009: Boys are very put off by a girl who is "out to find a boy friend" because it raises the stakes too high too soon. Not many men want to hurt a girls feelings and so the moment that they sense that what might be a casual date for them has greater ... (read in full...)
Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: Don't spend too much time in the showers looking at other guys' dicks. People don't appreciate it.... (read in full...)
Why is she confused and doubting her feelings for me? I have done nothing wrong
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating since April, although we were having casual sex for about a month prior. We got engaged in August, just as she moved to China for a year. We had spent almost all of that time prior to her moving away in each ...
A. 1 November 2009: I went through this for more than 5 years when I was young and it really left me a mess. At the end of that time I vowed that I would never again get involved with a girl who needed me less than I needed her. If she tells you that you are "to... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: Seriously, how difficult is it to set up multiple e.mail accounts? It takes, what, maybe 4 minutes to set up a new account. Different e.mail accounts for different purposes. Some you are happy to disclose and some she doesn't even know the ... (read in full...)
She's given up money and material things for love, to be with me.
Q. Just looking for some input from women or men, anyone who has been with a lot of money and passed it by for true love. My fiance has dated several very wealthy OLDER men, and I mean very wealthy and I mean very older, like 30 years older. But...
A. 22 October 2009: Why will you "never" be rich?... (read in full...)
I just keep asking myself if I'm gay
Q. hi 26 and ive been attracted to females all my life,im in a serious relationship but latley ive been asking myself am i gay,i cant get it out of my head.when im around other males i get an uneasy feeling and my thoughtss run wild,not in a sexual way ...
A. 8 October 2009: You are not gay. Sometimes we just get a thought in our heads that becomes like an itch and it won't go away as long as we think about it. You have to give yourself a break and not worry about it.... (read in full...)
We put on gay porn and had sex am I gay
Q. Ok i have a problem, A few weeks ago I bunch of my buddies and I went out to a bar we got really drunk and one of my buddies decided to crash at my house. We were bored and put on porn, we weere just talking when we looked up and didnt ever realize ...
A. 8 October 2009: Looks like it. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
He is calling me chubby and it hurts
Q. My boyfriend who I have not been dating for very long tells me I'm a little fat around the midsection and rear section. This really hurt my feelings when he said this. We had just made love and he told me I was not fat just a little chubby an...
A. 8 October 2009: Out of interest, which country is he from?... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: I really don't think he's going to mind.
Keep up the good work.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to sit with a bunch of guys I don't know and watch porn? Who's in the wrong here?
Q. Last night my bf started yelling at me heaps because when I met his friends I was quiet and shy. However, I do feel I had good reasons for acting the way I did. Here is why: 1. I didnt even technically "meet them". I mean, he didn't introduc...
A. 7 October 2009: Get out now. He sounds very weak and easily influenced by his friends. It demonstrates very low self esteem on his behalf for him to allow you to be treated that way.... (read in full...)
When will it grow
Q. Im 14, 15 in a month and i am very insecure about the size of my penis. Im not as endowed as some of the other guys at school. and it kinda brings me down. It kinda makes me feel bad about myself when i cant fill my pants up properly. Yeah, im ...
A. 7 October 2009: Honestly, it's unlikely to get any bigger. You are going feel self conscious about it and it will take time to have confidence in yourself. I'm pretty much the same as you. I was very self conscious about it in my teens and early 20s. Despite ... (read in full...)
He has the urge to try other girls?
Q. I need advice... I asked my boyfriend (we've been on bad terms since he left for some reason) if he has the urge to try out other girls (since I'm his first, trying not to count the girl he got drunk/cheated with) He said 'eh kinda, but it's ...
A. 7 October 2009: Well, he is likely being truthful. Most young men have the "urge" to have sex with almost ANY reasonably attractive young woman. But at the same time his reply was churlish. It is one of those relationship "set pieces" where the girl asks one of ... (read in full...)
Are there stereotypes about cowboy boots I am unaware of?
Q. I am a 26-year old young professional and I have been dating a 30-year old man for almost two years. I recently mentioned that I wanted a pair of cowboy boots to wear over jeans just to go around the town with him because I liked the look. He pr...
A. 5 October 2009: Yes it's out of line. Not a good sign.... (read in full...)
I need words of wisdom. I'm a girl in a dark place...
Q. I think all my problems start with the vivid memories of my childhood. I remember I must of been only four, I was pounding on the door, screaming for my mother and when the door opened, another woman was standing there - naked. It must of took us ...
A. 5 October 2009: There isn't much helpful that I can say about your situation but, as a reasonably successful guy, I would take issue with your suggestion that your future isn't bright. I know next to nothing about you but I can see that you write clearly and well ... (read in full...)
Do men have more partners than women?
Q. how many people have you had sex with-I heard hugh hefner has been with 4000 women How unusual is that kind of behavior-is anyone here in quadrouple figures? I'm just curious-I heard men have more partners than women-is this true?...
A. 3 October 2009: How would that work, assuming a standard one man - one woman arrangement? On average woman have about as many sexual partners as men.
Very few non-professionals will ever see quadruple figures. It is certainly not something that you should a... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 1 October 2009: Dear French Woman
You say that you have three beautiful children (as do I). When you had your second child did you love the first one any less? When you had the third was your love for the first two diminished in any way? I think not.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 1 October 2009: Obviously you didn't do anything wrong and neither did your girlfriend but, psychologically this sick w@nker that raped your girlfriend has diminished your manhood by putting you in a position in which you couldn't protect the woman that you love. ... (read in full...)
Its all about him getting off and he never takes the time to pleasure me!
Q. why do men think it's okay for them to just raise up their woman gown and go in? the men get ready easy they can get horny just by looking at you or by kissing or just by rubbing your breast but yet they think that just because they are ready we ...
A. 30 September 2009: Tell your man that he needs to learn how to operate your machinery properly or you'll find someone else that can. He's just being selfish and stupid. ... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 30 September 2009: You say that he "had a very well calculated plan to cheat on me". I don't think that was the case. He had a plan and yes, that plan involved him breaking his promises to you but I'm sure that what was in his mind at the time he began this and ... (read in full...)
My husband's 3rd affair and I feel nothing
Q. I am at a cross roads, I confirmed on Friday, what I knew in my mind for a couple of months, that my husband is having another affair. This will be the third affair I know of, and in the very early days he had a few one night stands. We have been ...
A. 27 September 2009: I'm not dissimilar to your husband. Those of us that have multiple affairs despite loving our wives have a flaw in our psychological make up and it is very unlikely to change until our sex drive goes or the opportunities disappear. Your husband ... (read in full...)
I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?
Q. This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...
A. 25 September 2009: Do you honestly think that you should spend the rest of your life with a man you don't love just because he had a breakdown last time and because his family might be upset? How many lives do you expect to have? Having children with a man you don't ... (read in full...)
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