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Is there any chance my straight best friend will fall for me, a teen gay?
Q. I know this question has been asked by many a gay guy, but i was hoping for a more specific answer. My friendship with this guy started rather oddly (he is the same age as me and we have actually been at school together for the past 5 years). He was ...
A. 22 August 2010: OK... Here's the scoop. You have a REALLY REALLY REALLY GOOD _BEST_ FRIEND. He's told you that he knows everything and STILL hangs out with you and sort of encourages you to crush on him. That part's a little unhealthy - for you mainly - but at ... (read in full...)
Can my parents stop me moving at 15?
Q. if my girlfriend is pregnant and moving can my parents stop me from moving with her?...
A. 20 August 2010:
Depends on local laws... but... in the US... YES! If you're under 18 yer stuck at home... unless you run away (HIGHLY RECOMMEND _AGAINST_ this!!!)
Why do you feel that you want to move out?
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Can my parents stop me moving at 15?
Q. if my girlfriend is pregnant and moving can my parents stop me from moving with her?...
A. 20 August 2010:
Depends on local laws... but... in the US... YES! If you're under 18 yer stuck at home... unless you run away (HIGHLY RECOMMEND _AGAINST_ this!!!)
Why do you feel that you want to move out?
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Does he like me?
Q. im a guy and met this guy.. we kissed three times and had sex once.. its love at first sight should i expect something from him? does he like me? thnx...
A. 19 August 2010: dirtball has it right. If he was/is in it for more than just sex... he'll be back. Do you have his number/email? Have you gotten a hold of him again?... (read in full...)
Operation left scarring on my genitals
Q. Attention All Gay Men! I'm starting to worry recently about an operation I had when I was young on my privates that basically removed my foreskin and I have scars underneath my penis and also a weird really small bunch of skin the thing is would t...
A. 19 August 2010: This is actually fairly common. I'm gay, and I've seen quite a few of these. The doctor just did a poor job on your circumcision. You could... if you're really worried about it... get it corrected... but I wouldn't worry too much about it.... (read in full...)
Married with 2 kids but interested in men
Q. I am a married man with two kids, but I think I'm atleast bi curious. I have strong urges to find out what it's like to be with another man....
A. 13 August 2010: I would venture to guess... that you've had these 'urges' for quite a while and now they are just becoming far more pervasive than you're comfortable with.
Basically, two things can happen. You can experiment and find out whether you're truly bi... (read in full...)
Did he like me? What should I do?
Q. Dear aunts, I'll try and be as brief as possible (unfortunately this will be very longwinded), but I am looking for some advice and I really didn't know where to turn to, so here I am. Well I am a gay male, and a few months ago I was not scouting...
A. 13 August 2010: One - I'll BET your friend is gay. TWO - I'll bet he likes you! No one spends as much time with you being as nice as he is/was with as much eye contact as I imagine... and not liking you. I hate to say this... but you really blew it, so to speak, ... (read in full...)
I just need some tips and advice to keep the guy I care about?
Q. I have a question. I have this guy I have met back in january. His name is gary. he lives in beaumont tx. I really like him a lot. It's like we've been going through some things and I m doing the best i can. but all I get is nothing but negative ...
A. 11 August 2010: Um... he gives you nothing but negative feedback... and yet you wanna be with him??? Why? Isn't that kind of like torturing yourself? I mean why do you want to be HIS punching bag? It sounds like he's just taking HIS frustrations out on you? Or ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher interested in me? And will he still be thinking of me even though its been a few months?
Q. im 16 years old and ive always been into older men. i hope that i dont sound crazy. i was in acting class and my acting teacher stared at me and gave me this sexy smile like he wanted me. when he told us told do an certain exercise he put his arms ...
A. 11 August 2010: It's OK... to like someone older. BUT you just have to realize that at your age (until you turn 18)... you can't really 'be' with anyone older than 18. It's just plain illegal. Wait until you're legal... and then find someone older (if you're ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hurts me, but I enjoy it? oh gosh..
Q. [Moderator's Note: Original Poster's own title] My boyfriend and I were having intense, crazy sex the other night. and It hurt, but kinda felt good. I was moaning and screaming, louder then ever. and he had to stick his hand in my mouth and everythi...
A. 7 August 2010: Actually... there's a FINE LINE between pain and sex. In fact, SOME people get off experiencing pain before or during sex. It makes the experience much more intense (see also S & M ).
Sounds like you might have hit the sweet spot... at least fo... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him feel he dosen't need to lie about his porn and masturbation?
Q. I'm a gay male 25 been in a gay relationship for the past 6 years, he is also 25. he is addicted to porn and always wants other men he hasn't yet cheated in the flesh. my question i guess is what can i do to make him feel he dosen't need to lie ...
A. 5 August 2010: Participate with him... That'll certainly make him feel less 'guilty' (which is probably why he lies) about it. ... (read in full...)
Confusion lead me to look at her phone while she was sleeping.....
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years. About a year ago we started fighting a lot. Since then we have had sex only six times and we havn't had sex at all in months. She doesn't even want to kiss me or cuddle with me when we ...
A. 4 August 2010: If she has a hormonal imbalance, she should see a doctor. Otherwise, she you BOTH need to sit down with a therapist to talk out whatever is bothering her (and you).
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Wife wants an open relationship so that I will stray and she can walk away
Q. My wife proposed that we have an open marriage because she refuses to meet my sexual needs and expectations. She wants me to find a "whore" who is willing to attach herself to my crotch and she can find someone who will meet her emotional needs. ...
A. 4 August 2010: I whole heartedly agree with NightAngel. Don't fall for it. If SHE wants a divorce/annulment ... then make her file for it. Otherwise, go to counseling.... (read in full...)
Stuck in a LDR. Is it ok to look for a FWB?
Q. i am a 23 year old lady who is in a stable relationship.however my boyfriend and i are miles away we see each other once in a while like once a month or once in two weeks.when we see each other we make love and we both get contented however the rest ...
A. 4 August 2010: If masturbation doesn't work... then this is something that you'll either have to suffer through... OR work it out with your partner what is acceptable with him (if he's even open to letting you have fun on the side).... (read in full...)
Descison about sexual experimentation!
Q. I have a big choice to make. I really do love girls but I only like to masturbate to gay porn. Now the opportunity for me to try and experiment with another guy has arisen, and I need to know if you guys think I should explore my sexuality and ...
A. 13 July 2010: I'll bet it's not so much the fact that the porn you are watching is gay... as the fact that you're just watching porn... at all... that's making you feel guilty.
I for one say, if you have the opportunity, and can safely/confidentially experime... (read in full...)
Recently discovered I'm bi and afraid of my parents' reaction
Q. I am 15. I have recently discovered I'm bi. No not bi-curious. And I don't know what to do I'm afraid of what my parents might do....
A. 13 July 2010: s/he wanted to know whether s/he should tell their parent(s)... not whether or not s/he is actually bi... so all this other discussion is really just academic.
LLindy87 does state correctly though. I'm gay, and EVERY gay person - without ... (read in full...)
I have found a really great guy but I still have feelings for my engaged friend
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 10 July 2010: Is your friend straight? It sounds as though he is - since he's engaged - and has no idea you like him. I know it's hard to do... but I think you need to move on the guy#2, especially if he's mutually interested in you. Guy #1 is getting marri... (read in full...)
I have found a really great guy but I still have feelings for my engaged friend
Q. The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung ...
A. 9 July 2010: Is your friend straight? It sounds as though he is - since he's engaged - and has no idea you like him.
I know it's hard to do... but I think you need to move on the guy#2, especially if he's mutually interested in you. Guy #1 is getting ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex with him
Q. i am 14 and he is 16. i fell in love with him from the first time i talked to him .. he was going out with my best friend and she slept with another guy and they broke up. he almost killed himself so many times. having to go to the hospital for ...
A. 8 July 2010: BOTH of the previous responses are excellent advice. I don't entirely agree with Fatherly_Advice though. Just because someone has some emotional problems doesn't mean you should go running in the opposite direction.
Just realize, even though y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had too much fun without me...
Q. Hi aunts. I have a little problem and I don't know where to go at this point. Well as we all know...yesterday was the 4th of July. So me, my boyfriend and a couple of friends and family went to see fireworks and stuff. It was a fun ...
A. 7 July 2010: Um... Well, first you did give him permission to go. That being said, he didn't have permission to be sucking face with and groping everyone with a pulse. However, alcohol has a dis-inhibition affect and it's obvious that he lost control - mainly ... (read in full...)
Any thoughts on what I am?
Q. Hi, I'm 17, male, i've been going out with this girl for about 9 months now, and we're are having sex. its great. Getting to my point, as much as i enjoy to look at her naked, i think i'm weird, and worry about what i like. For instance, i...
A. 7 July 2010: Yer Bi. Just accept it... and then maybe work on not being so paranoid about it. I know that society 'teaches' us it's WRONG and DISGUSTING to be attracted to someone of the same sex but you know... it's not really. You just have to UN-LEARN what ... (read in full...)
I am straight and attracted to women, but with this one guy it is different
Q. I'm 18 years old and I think I'm in love with my friend and he's a guy. His name is Max. But the thing is, I have been a straight guy and even now I'm turned on by women. I am not attracted to any other guy apart from Max and the thought of being ...
A. 7 July 2010: Given your last response... I would avoid telling him. I guess, this is just something you're going to have to work through. The only way you could even remotely broach the subject with him would be something like this:
U: Hey, you ever have any... (read in full...)
An ex has started to give me a kiss!?!
Q. My ex has started to kiss me on the lips when saying bye after not doing anything so personal since our divorce 2 years ago when i've really stayed very much out of his way. Recently we bumped into each other several times and he made a deliberate ...
A. 7 July 2010: It sounds as though HE might have moved on and is just showing affection in ways that he previously recognizes as acceptable. On the other hand, if he is single he might still have feelings for you and might be interested in getting back together ... (read in full...)
I'm straight but I think I'm gay!
Q. im straight but i think im gay. i like talking to my mates about my cock and theirs, whos seen whos and how big they are. I get a boner everytime i get naked even if im alone and i always hope for innocent gay things to happen when i'm with mates. ...
A. 2 July 2010: My guess is... you're probably bi. But... at your age, there's no real telling... unless you already 'know'. I knew when I was very young (9)... that I was 'different' but it wasn't until much later that I actually accepted the fact that I was ga... (read in full...)
I'm gay, and I don't want to be!
Q. Hey Everbody, i really need help with this problem i have....im gay , but don't want to be...i feel that being gay was not meant for me...nobody knows im gay and itz killing me to keep this secret...itz taking a toll on my life and ruining whats ...
A. 2 July 2010: If you really are indeed gay... there's no amount of anything that's gonna turn you straight. You can suppress your feelings and desires... but in the long run that will probably only make you even more miserable. There are relationships w... (read in full...)
I am straight and attracted to women, but with this one guy it is different
Q. I'm 18 years old and I think I'm in love with my friend and he's a guy. His name is Max. But the thing is, I have been a straight guy and even now I'm turned on by women. I am not attracted to any other guy apart from Max and the thought of being ...
A. 2 July 2010:
Ditto what the anonymous reader wrote. You need to find out whether Max is straight... and then find out how he feels about you. Remember there's really no such thing as just gay or straight. People just have varying levels of both. I woul... (read in full...)
They say girls don't care about penis size, but what about boys?
Q. Okay so I've read all the questions and answers about penis size. And people say it's what you can do that matters and the girl won't care what size you are. I know that but I still feel insecure. And also..I'm a bisexual 15 year old and people ...
A. 2 July 2010: I am mostly... a top (meaning I'm usually doing the penetration, rather than being penetrated). On the occasion that I want to be penetrated... I do NOT want some baseball bat sized thing coming at me. For me I like a nice long THIN one than a FAT ... (read in full...)
Gay friend wants to be straight!
Q. My friend is gay and we have had intercourse in the past with no problems (I am Bi). But the last time we had sex he cried afterwards and said he no longer wanted to be gay. Since then he has shut me out of his life and I no longer get to see him. ...
A. 30 June 2010: You need to followup with your friend... and as followtheblackrabbit has stated... be a FRIEND first... and a lover later. He needs your support to get through whatever it is that is causing this issue. ... (read in full...)
How do I come out?
Q. Hi, im 17 years old and im gay. i really want to tell my parents but im absolutely terrified, i really dont know what to do, i cant feel my self around them and im allways watching what i say and do. what makes it worse is that my parents dont have ...
A. 30 June 2010: Coming out... is a VERY difficult and PERSONAL issue. There's no one right way to do it.
Rejection is the biggest obstacle when coming out. We're afraid to lose the trust/affection of those we most love and that's usually what prevents... (read in full...)
Facing the consequence or live normally with this strange thought in my head?
Q. I have a problem. I am a 18 year old male an have a crush on another male. But here is where the problem comes in, I am definitely NOT gay! For one, I am a Christian, two I have better values than that. And three, I do not want to even think ...
A. 30 June 2010:
This is how it all started out with me too... and I'm gay. I had one crush after another... on guys. Girls... never. I eventually came to the self-acceptance stage that I was gay. I too, was VERY religious. And, just because you think you have... (read in full...)
Radical Right-Wing Romeo Drives Juliet Crazy! Help!
Q. My boyfriend is a Christian. We've been together 1 and 1/2 years. I consider myself a lapsed-catholic. He feels very strongly about his beliefs, namely he's totally against abortion and homosexuality. My sister is transgendered and in the process of ...
A. 24 June 2010: They say that opposites attract... and this may have been what attracted you to him in the first place. However, such diametrically opposing opinions as you describe will eventually lead to an all out war. On top of his being overbearing and ... (read in full...)
He's gay, doesn't know I'm gay, but I'm afraid to tell him how I feel!
Q. Im really need you guys opinion on this ok. Well, i Have this friend we'll call "Marco", who I've known for 5 years. We have alot of things and common and basically get along really well. Im gay (but not openly) and I think he's cute. i think i ...
A. 22 June 2010: Well... you could try sleeping over night again one night. He'll probably put the moves on you again. At which time... you reciprocate. Pretend to roll over or something... and then cuddle up to him and reach around and touch him.
OR
You cou... (read in full...)
Unmarried break up law in state of Indiana??
Q. I dated a guy for 1 year and 6 months the lease was in my name and he moved in with me. He ended up abusing me and hit my son only once it took and I called the law and he was put in jail. I had bruses and so did my child. He is looking at prison ...
A. 22 June 2010: I hate to say this... but this is probably NOT the kind of place to find this information/advice. Use google and lookup: Indiana common law marriage. Should be a good starting point for you.... (read in full...)
What is the average height for a 14 year old female?
Q. hello i was wondering what the average height for a 14 year old is nearly 15 i am currently 5'5 and wanted to know how much more i have to grow as well my goal height is at least 6'1 i have being going through pubirty for about 2 years now and have ...
A. 18 June 2010:
Um if you mom is 5'4 and your dad is only 5'6, the probability of you being much taller than them is SLIM. I seriously doubt that you'll make it to 6'1... and unfortunately, there's nothing that you can really do about it... unless you take horm... (read in full...)
He's my first boyfriend, how do I go about becoming more intimate with him?
Q. So I'm 16 and have been denying my true feelings my whole life. I'm bi-sexual but I mostly like guys. so about 8 months ago I got sick of hiding everything so I came out to my close friends..I didn't tell my parents because I didn't feel that it's ...
A. 18 June 2010: WOW, It sounds like you both have the makings of a REALLY good relationship.
One things for sure DON'T FORCE yourself upon him. That'll totally ruin things. Additionally, HE might be thinking the same thing about you.
So, Talk to him.
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Everyone is laughing at me because I was set upon totally unawares...
Q. Me and two girls were playing strip poker in the basement of a party and we were getting down to no clothes. The two of them lost their bras and then they decided I should lose my shorts, cause that is all I had left. So they tackled me and one sat ...
A. 18 June 2010: YouWish nailed it. You were essentially RAPED!
And of course you're not going to get excited. MOST guys DON'T get excited in a fight or flight situationl. Why would you? Follow YouWish's recommendations and tell the beotches that if they don... (read in full...)
Second date flake or genuine reason?
Q. So I met this guy online, we went out for a date, I was totally into him and I reckon he was into me. We went back to his had a bit of fun (nothing too serious). I was smitten. I texted him the following day telling him it was great to meet him, he ...
A. 16 June 2010: Loops has it nailed. You can't really tell either way. Only time really can tell. If he's into you, he should get a hold of you at least within the next week or so. If he doesn't just chalk it up to a good time... and move on to someone more ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm attracted to men!
Q. im 24 and last year i started to have feelings for men its been over a year now and i have done nothing about it cuz i dont know what to do plus what makes it worse i think is the fact that i have never had sex with anyone. can anyone help me...
A. 15 June 2010: I started realizing that I was gay LONG before I actually DID anything about it. In fact I, initially, didn't WANT to be so I tried dating girls for the longest time. I just never worked out. Then when I got to college, I started having crushes ... (read in full...)
Is my cousin a lesbian because of me?
Q. I am 25 years old male and my cousin is 24 years old female. When we were younger, (she was 9 years old and I was 10 years old), we started playing doctor that got out of hand. We started having different types of sexual intercourse (Vaginal ...
A. 15 June 2010: Um... she's not gay... because of you! Period. In fact, if anything you probably helped her realize it more 'efficiently/smoothly' rather than her having to struggle through the whole issue.
If _SHE_ wants to talk to you about it, fine but I wo... (read in full...)
In love with my online friend, but don't know if he is gay too!
Q. I currently play an online game and here I met someone. he is one of my best friends. We talk almost everyday on skype, and i started to feel incredibly attracted to him that I can get him out of my mind. i do not know if he is gay, but he has ...
A. 15 June 2010: Just out of curiosity. How far away is this person? I mean if he's beyond your geographical region and neither of you are able to travel and meet each other... then it doesn't really make any sense to either divulge that you are gay, or to express ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my cousin!
Q. ok I met my cousin for the first time last weekend, and the moment i saw him i have been obsesed with him. i think its wrong by law but i cannot help it. he was so nice when i met him and has been everseen (on facebook) but he lives miles away and ...
A. 15 June 2010:
If it were me, infatuated with a cousin I just met, and I thought he MIGHT be at least BI I would foster a good friendship with him first. Even if he's straight and I really like him... I might befriend him.
Really you should get to know him ... (read in full...)
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