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writes:i am a 23 year old lady who is in a stable relationship.however my boyfriend and i are miles away we see each other once in a while like once a month or once in two weeks.when we see each other we make love and we both get contented however the rest of the days that i am not with him i get a strong desire for having sex.am i ok? and is it ok if i get a f**k buddy this side where i am because i really miss sex on a daily basis. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 In a long distance relationship, it is perfectly reasonable to ask your boyfriend if you can find a sex friend for company.. If the boyfriend says no, then respect him, but with him so far away, he will realise you may be lonely and may be glad you gave him the chance to talk about it honestly..
For all you know, he may have a FWB already and be feeling guilty.. Get it out into the open and talk to each other honestly.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 That's cheating!! You know it's wrong... it's just that doing the right thing is hard. But, it's still the right thing to do. Ask yourself, "Do I love this person enough to be true to them?"
Long distance relationships are hard, period. They suck... I've been there. If you can make it work, bully for you... but I'm through having them.
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reader, Accountable +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Only if you both discuss it, and he's fine with it, and you'd be fine with him having one too.
I'm in a long distance relationship, have been for a year and a half, and would never dream of having a FWB "on the side". Whatever you want to call it, its cheating. If you can't handle the lack of sex for 2 weeks, you're not cut out for a long distance relationship, and you should end it. Its not fair to your boyfriend to cheat on him and its not really fair to yourself to deprive yourself if you feel you are really missing out.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 August 2010):
You're either in a relationship exclusively with your boyfriend, or you're not. If you go out looking for a FWB, then you're a cheat. So not, it's not okay at all. I'd suggest to you that you're not really suited to an LDR. Think carefully about whether you can commit or not. Don't cheat.
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 dirtball is on point. no way you're in a "stable" relationship if you wanna have sex with someone else. if you really need somebody else.. forget about you guy and get with someone closer
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): Your desires are normal but it is not ok to do this.
Part of the LDR arrangement is that you don't have sex all the time. Sadly it comes as part of the territory.
If you want daily sex then you need to end your relationship and find someone closer to home.
Getting a FWB is cheating on your bf. Decide what is most important to you and make a decision, but DON'T cheat as that is unfair.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Are you ok? Yes. It is natural to want sex regularly.
Is it ok for you to have a fuck buddy on the side? Absolutely not. He will interpret this as cheating, which it is. If you love your boyfriend and are committed to him, this will destroy your relationship. How would you feel if he had a FWB on the side? My guess is that you wouldn't like it. There shouldn't be a double standard.
And here is why long distance relationships hardly work. It is natural that ultimately one or both people want more. That's actually healthy. When you can't be together, you start to resent the other person for not fulfilling your relationship desires. That's the beginning of the end.
If you love your BF, drop the notion of cheating on him immediately and never think of it again. If you can't drop the idea, then this relationship isn't for you and you should end it before finding someone else who can better satisfy your sexual needs.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 If masturbation doesn't work... then this is something that you'll either have to suffer through... OR work it out with your partner what is acceptable with him (if he's even open to letting you have fun on the side).
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